Im 22 and my boyfriend is 4 years older than me and we have been daring for 6 months now. We met through an app during lockdown, he moved to my home during this time as my mom is practically always not home and now he’s away from family and friends. He only really has me. As you can imagine, this makes my heart heavy with anxiety.

Recently, he’s having some serious problems in his family and I’m here to support him but when I’m already thinking about ending things because it’s no longer an enjoyable relationship for me, I can’t bring myself to give him the love and affection he needs right now.

Due to this I was so nervous and lost on what to do that I broke up (without success) with him during this bad time.

He kept saying that we have a really good relationship and kept trying to convince me that I was only focusing on the bad stuff, he was crying a lot then he wouldnt eat because if he did he would throw up. He told me in the past that he struggled a lot with mental illness and even thoughts of self harm. I asked, please promise me you are going to be ok, and you won’t do anything stupid, he said he couldn’t promise me that. With all this in mind, and him being here alone, it gets impossible for me to do it.

This is not my first try. I really don’t know what to do. I think he is addicted to me.

Then I found out that he has been taking a long time in the toilet, I climb the toilet’s window from the laundry area and I saw a pink app which looks kind of like Tinder.

Is he really finding an excuse to find other girls.

A girl posted on social media after she was rejected by a tall guy, the tall guy told her that he can get any girl he wants because of his height and the girl started complaining online

Here is the story:

I just rejected a desperate guy because we are not compatible nad his totally. He then accuse me that I rejected him because he was short and curse and swear at me “I’m not good enough for him.” bla bla bla.

Men under 183cm tall need to shut up. Seriously. If you were taller than 183cm, I would guarantee you, you would come up with some other excuse for why you are not getting women. Seriously. The amount of times I have heard “you are a waste of 183cm ” is ridiculous.

Women are not going to “do it” with you just because you are over 183cm. Let me reiterate, women are NOT going to do it with you, just because you are tall.

Stop complaining and stop comparing. Thank you.

Here is what netizens say:

• It’s not long but it’s also very thin. They call me linguine for a reason.

• What it lacks in length it makes up for in skinniness.

• I’m 183cm and I suspect there are several women who don’t want to do it with me.
  
• A buddy I work with is 170cm and not much to look at, and his wife is at least 178cm or 180cm and smoking hot. This guy is the nicest, funniest, most confident man I’ve ever met in my life. Personality supersedes everything.
  
• Dont get me wrong but … women are usually more mature when it comes to choosing a partner that has a great personality vs a good looking 10/10 partner. Men never give normal looking women the same treatment, even if you look decent and dont wear make up or whatever your chances are lower in comparision with with the others. Personality doesnt always supersede everything.

I M32 am the sole income earner in our household and my wife is a housewife (she had a job but could no longer keep it due to health problems). We have a year daughter at home as well.

Ever since I started working from home my wife started treating me as if I was available to do whatever she needed me to do like fix this fix that, do laundry and etc. But I work long hours from home and I need to be committed and professional otherwise I’d risk losing my position.

She interrupted my work several times already. I had a conversation with her about it and asked that she stop asking me to do things until I’m done working and she said okay but it happened again days ago when she barged into my office with our daughter all of a sudden telling me to keep an eye on her while she visits the clinic.

I paused my work session because I was caught off guard she didn’t tell me beforehand. She said that she suddenly started feeling pain in her belly and needed to see the doctor asap. I explained that I had important work and could not stay with our daughter or keep her in the office while working. She said she won’t be long but I urged her to call her sister and let her come stay with our daughter. In my opinion, this seemed to be the one reasonable solution for both of us but she lashed out at me saying no because this was an emergency while my work could wait. She said she had no time to wait till her sister come over but I said I’d call her myself and tell her to come. I even suggested I pay here and all my wife had to do was wait a few minutes till her sister arrived.

She stormed out of the office with our daughter after calling me a selfish jerk with no empathy to keep her waiting longer before visiting the doctor. My sister-in-law came some 20 minutes later and my wife left then. I tried calling her to check on her but she purposely hung up on me a few times and when she got home she was still pretty pissed at me which I don’t get because I think that I provided a solution that allowed her to go to her dr appointment and allowed me to resume my work session but no.

She kept talking about what a horrible partner and father I was to refuse to provide help when she needed it and refused to sympathize with her difficult situation and making her wait for her sister when she needed to see the doctor asap. She’s now refusing to speak to me altogether. I think my compromise was reasonable, I don’t really get why she got so mad over it.

Here is what netizens think:

• If her stomach pain was so serious, how the F she got the energy to argue with you. Sounds more like she is making a scene and being dramatic.

• The problem is wife has been crying wolf. The end result is that when she may have really needed him, he thought it was more of the same.

• I agree, providing it genuinely was an emergency. If that were the case, he ought to step up even if he wasn’t working at home.

• Good luck for the rest of your marriage, you got a drama queen as a wife.

Is it alright for me to skip the holidays with my parents because they are against my marriage?

To be more specific, I’m talking Christmas, Chinese New Years’ Eve/Day. I’m 23 and in September, I married a girl I met in March while on school holiday. We just hit it off and we stayed in touch, which led to lots of calls, face timing, texting, a few meet-ups halfway between each other. We decided that we were ” The One” for each other.

I took the marriage idea to my parents, she took it to hers, we went 0/4 with parents. We ended up eloping. Everyone was very upset and, we tried once again to help everyone see what we saw, tried to explain our feelings, but, we couldn’t get through to them.

I tried to treat things like ” Yup, I got married, its done, its in the books” with my parents. I tried discussing other topics with them but they always brought it back to her, and how they’re against her and against our marriage.

They fully expected me home for those holidays and were shocked when I told them I wasn’t coming home for any of it. They feel like I’m being bull-headed and avoiding the conversation. I feel like I tried the conversation, but, got nowhere.

Here are what netizens think:

• I got married at 20 and it has lasted 49 years so far. Sometimes you get lucky very young. More concerning is that they only knew each other for six months, but even that is not an automatic deal-breaker.

• Yes exactly. Boomer here who married at nineteen. Husband was 22 and a programmer. I worked after I got my degree but we saved my salary and lived on his. We were married for thirty happy years until he got sick and died. We were the last generation who expected to do better than our parents.

• I got married at 19 and the marriage lasted 8 months. The relationship was 3 years total, all told. I’ve been divorced for almost 10yrs and only just thinking about the possibility of a second marriage one day.

My husband asked me why I lock the car door when I’m sitting in the car.

My first instinct was to respond with ‘you wouldn’t understand.’ Instead I tried to explain to him that as a woman, we are taught to always lock the door behind us.

My husband has a problem with locking doors. It’s been a constant issue. He forgets to lock the front door, the car door, windows, etc.

It has contributed a huge part to my anxiety. Luckily I made him buy an electronic door lock that automatically locks our front door and I just shoulder the extra work to double check if the porch door is locked.

I’ve given up on the car. If someone breaks in then maybe he’ll learn or maybe not, but either way I’ve decided to preemptively and radically accept it, if that were to ever happen. Let’s hope not.

In the end, I explained to him that he was never taught to be wary or cautious because he was a boy. I told him that a big part of my anxiety is caused by his lack of caution.

That it’s the reason why I constantly used to ask him if the doors and windows were locked, even though it annoyed him. To him it was me overreacting, but to me it was just common sense.

He’s a wonderful partner and has been taking great strides to be more receptive. Hopefully now he’ll understand why I feel safer with the door locked.

Netizens’ comments

• I thought it was common sense to lock your car door regardless of gender.

One time I had a prostitute try to get into my car.