I just need to vent a bit as i can’t say this in front of them. My Great Grandad was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer back in January 2021 and for around 7 months he was doing great you wouldn’t even be able to tell he had cancer then he took a turn for the worst after my grandad told him he had cancer.

so my family had tried to spend as much time as we could with him (me and my mum) then the rest of the family started to organise days out to make and create long lasting memories but didn’t invite us

(i’m not saying they should feel forced to, but when the reason there all going out was to spend time w my granda it’s understandable to be pissed)

but they continued doing this depriving me and my mother from spending time with him as when he got back he would nap as he was exhausted.

When he got even worse my granny put him into hospital a few days and we all had allocated slots to visit him, So me my mum and my granny went up to only run into my aunt and cousin they mentioned they’d been there for six hours and by the time we went in there he was exhausted even for his own wife(only allowed to visit before meals)

and don’t get wrong i completely understand visiting him but when he’s too tired for his own wife because of them it’s a bit far.

They went up to their house every single day exhausting him.

When he passed in September they stopped visiting as much. it just makes me feel bad for my granny it just made it look like their only there for granda. there so selfish and i just can’t stand them.

I (33) think my current husband (33) thinks it was my fault my ex husband was aggressive to me
The first time he told me this, it was before we got married. he said he didn’t mean it. So I forgave him.

Now I found out he told his Mom recently (2 weeks ago) that he still thinks that the reason why my ex hit me is because I had too much personality.

This hurts so bad. It took me a long time to convince myself that it was not my fault my ex hit me. The police who helped me in the past once said, there is no excuse for someone to hit a woman. It was one of the things that convinced me to leave my ex.

Now I am back to zero mentally. I am doubting myself again.

I’m not sure if I should confront him as he might just say whatever he thinks that will appease me. Of course he will tell me again that he does not think It was my fault. But does not really mean it.

What should I do?

We cant afford counseling.

Netizens’ comments

That’s victim blaming and it’s really messed up. Unless you are putting someone in true danger, there is never a good reason to get physical with someone. That’s why it’s a crime to do so.

People who say and think things like this are often not worth the air they breathe. It’s unfortunate that you have such bad luck with partners.

My MIL and FIL are over right now and won’t stop dropping hints about my weighT

My husband’s parents are here for the day and honestly idk how I’ll get through it. They’ve all body shamed me in the past and now today they keep dropping constant hints about their new diets and suggesting I try their low cal protein shakes.

I know it might not seem like a big deal but they’ve both mocked me for my weight gain due to a medical issue.

Honestly the dieting and calorie restriction is all they’ve talked about for the past two hours and I still have the whole day left to deal.

Encouragement or advice would be great.

Netizens’ comments

• “Yes, you’ve mentioned your latest fad diet already. I was raised not to be passive-aggressive about hinting that others need to lose weight, but I know it’s hard to resist such temptations when you’re spending so much money on a scam plan and feeling insecure yourself.
  Rest assured that I work with my medical team and that I won’t be discussing my health or weight loss plans with either of you, because I was raised to know better.
  I’m sure you’d agree that it’s healthier for everyone if we find a different topic now.”

• Just… hugs to you. I hope they get gone soon – and keep gone for a long while.

• Does your SO know it’s upsetting you? What have they done to help?

My husband has always been very health conscious. He exercises religiously and is careful about the things he eats. When we first got married (5 years ago) and moved in together it was hard for me to adjust to his lifestyle but I slowly adopted his habits so it was fine.

However, I’m currently 5 months pregnant and all I want to do is eat junk. We already have a toddler and if I eat something, our toddler wants it too. My husband wants our toddler to eat only healthy foods, which was never realistic in my opinion as to when he’s around other children he will naturally want to try some of the not so healthy food they’re eating.

So, if I’m having a snack and my son asks for some I usually give it to him. My husband was already upset I was eating junk food myself, he would make remarks about how what I was eating wasn’t good for me or the baby, but he absolutely freaked out when he saw our son eating it.

He took all of the food I bought that he deemed “bad for me” and got rid of it and won’t let me buy replacements. Pregnancy cravings aren’t fun so not being able to eat what I’m craving has put me in an awful mood and we keep arguing now, which we never did before.

Here are what netizens think:

• Have you looked up orthorexia? Throwing out your food and refusing to allow you to purchase more is abhorrent and controlling behaviour and my husband and I would be in an emergency session with our counsellor if he did that.

• I would sit him down with your doctor, but have a 1 on 1 with your doctor first and tell them how your cravings are due to lack of that item in your diet. Craving fatty foods? Lacking fats. Craving a hamburger? Usually lacking protein. It’s important that you reasonably indulge in your pregnancy cravings, because those cravings are signals that your baby needs that food item.

• My sister allows my niece to have junk food, in moderation. She buys individually-packaged snacks so it’s easier to keep to the moderation (EX: mini chip bags instead of one big bag). She taught my niece to enjoy junk food, with healthy food. My niece currently loves blueberry pancakes with organic peanut butter instead of syrup.

So this event happened a few years ago and I was for some reason obsessed with the paranormal, and one of the things did consistently for “fun” was play with a homemade Ouija Board.

For the most part, nothing too serious happened, there would be the occasional bang / thud etc etc but other than that, nothing really happened.

One night though that all changed, one of my friends were sleeping over at my house, and I told him about my paranormal obsession, and he found it really cool and I suggested to him that we should play the Oujia Board, he was hesitant, but after a while he agreed to it.

It started out normally, asking the usual questions such as “Is there anyone there?” etc etc, as time went i had a feeling that something was watching me, so I decided to ask “If there’s anything there, give us a sign.”

5 seconds later, I feel something pull the back of my shirt, and after that I remember nothing. My friend recalls me screaming something which he couldn’t make out and making a growling noise of some sort.

After around 5 minutes, my friend said I woke up and I came to my senses, still not remembering what had happened beforehand. All I remember after this point is me and my friend saying goodbye to the spirit and then immediately my friend burnt the board.

I haven’t played a Oujia Board since, but what I will say, is that I still have nightmares of this event to this day.

In a harrowing tale that exposes the dark underbelly of online spaces, a 17-year-old teenager recently pleaded guilty to six charges, including violations under the Women’s Charter and Prevention of Human Trafficking Act. This shocking incident revolves around the exploitation of two underage girls, identified as V1 and V2, who, unfortunately, became victims of a sinister online scheme. Let’s delve into the disconcerting details of this case, revealing the manipulation, exploitation, and legal consequences that unfolded.

Genesis of Exploitation

According to Straits Times, The disquieting narrative begins with the teen’s acquaintance with V1, a 16-year-old girl grappling with financial burdens while caring for her child. The teen, having learned of her predicament, introduced her to a dubious Telegram chat group promising lucrative job opportunities for quick cash.

Lure into a Web of Deception

Joining the chat group in July 2022, the teen posted advertisements offering V1 a seemingly high-paying job. However, the catch was alarming – she had to provide sexual services to earn money. Desperate for financial support, V1 reluctantly agreed to the arrangement, unaware of the legal and moral implications that lay ahead.

Manipulation Unveiled

The teen, aware of V1’s age, proceeded to falsely advertise her as a 17-year-old social escort, exploiting her vulnerability for personal gain. The advertisements attracted at least five customers, some engaging in paid sexual activities with the underage victim.

The Introduction of a Second Victim

As the sinister plot unfolded, the teen encountered V2, introduced by V1. V2, too, expressed an interest in providing sexual services to alleviate financial struggles. By this time, the teen had assumed the role of the chat group’s administrator, expanding his exploitative operations.

Escalation of Exploitation

The teen requested explicit photos and personal details from V2 to create advertisements, ultimately securing at least four customers for her services. One customer, identified as Muhamad Reduan, reported feeling scammed after engaging V2 for sexual services. The legal age for such activities in Singapore is 18, making this entire operation illegal.

The Unraveling of Deceit

Upon police intervention, Muhamad Reduan admitted to being aware of V2’s age but claimed ignorance about the legal age for such services. This led to a separate investigation, revealing the teen’s attempts to obstruct justice by altering the chat group’s title and deleting conversations with customers.

Justice and its Pursuit

Deputy Public Prosecutor Tay Jia En highlighted the vulnerability of the victims and the teen’s blatant exploitation. Calls for a reformative training suitability report underscored the need for a severe rehabilitative sentence, considering the sustained pattern of criminal conduct exhibited by the accused.

Judicial Deliberations

Deputy Principal District Judge Kessler Soh, acknowledging the teen’s youth and it being his first offence, called for both reformative training and probation suitability reports. The pending sentence, to be delivered in December, holds significant implications for the teen’s future and serves as a critical moment in the pursuit of justice.

Conclusion

This distressing incident serves as a stark reminder of the dangers that lurk in the digital realm, especially for vulnerable individuals. The exploitation of underage victims demands a comprehensive examination of our societal safeguards and a collective effort to protect those most vulnerable