My hubby has a bad habit of always being very touchy in the middle of the night during sleep. Fondling or putting his heavy arm over my body the entire night.
Over the years, I have developed very bad sleeping because of him and became very grouchy in the day. I get startled easily in the night and I need to wake up at 4am+ for work.
When Hubby didn’t sleep well, he simply MC all the way and he don’t care. Seriously he can clock beyond the MC quota per year and has been changing 22 jobs for the past 18 years.
I have been thinking of separating room with him and I rather sleep with my boys. But this is not a long-term solution due to room layout also.
I need help or else I will feel my productivity very low and I’m seriously sick of my hubby’s irresponsible habits all these years.
All the scolding and divorce threats on him don’t work.
Netizens’ comments
He may touch you unconsciously when he’s sleeping. Maybe cannot be controlled since he is not conscious. However, bad / insufficient sleep is very detrimental for the body and mind. Get another bed or split the queen to two single, etc. Don’t sacrifice your health.(To keep your marriage or not is a separate issue)
Fonding is one of the love languages between couple. This is one of it that your hubby do it to you. How about yours expectation or love language to your hubby?
I am more concerned about the 22 jobs in 18 years.
A netizen by the name of Jessie, took to STOMP to complain about other people complaining about delivery drivers sorting parcels on the ground at void decks.
She highlighted that because of the incessant complaints, now the delivery drivers are resorting to sorting parcels right on the parking lot of an open carpark at an unspecified housing estate.
The netizen said in her post: “Please stop complaining about them sorting packages on the ground at void decks. Now they have to sort packages in the parking lot so the packages you receive are probably even more unhygienic.”
In the accompanying video, a couple of delivery men were seen sorting and wafting through a bunch of delivery parcels sitting on a vacant parking lot, with some of the other parcels sitting on the grass and some on the pavement.
The response online by netizens have been largely critical of the netizen and defending the delivery men, citing how “difficult” their life must be, having people complain about everything they do.
However, there were also a select few siding with the netizen and saying that the parcels should have been sorted at the warehouse first instead.
Netizens’ comments
People working so hard also get complained .. if its doesnt hurt others why must make someone life more difficult
The question here is “Are you going to keep the box or packaging? Frame it up and hang on the wall as deco?” If we are going to discharge it (recycling if possible), do see any issue at all so long as the items received are in good condition. They are just doing their job. Where to find a big space to sort out all the parcels? If you order online, be prepared mentally that it is like that and not “clean”. Even if you buy from malls or boutiques, you think they don’t put the stuffs on the floor on the storeroom etc. No offend but let’s show more empathy and humanity.
Get the root of the problem. The operator of these delivery need to do the sort out in their warehouse before their vendor start collecting it.
Sigh it’s just the wrapping bag and boxes that is dirty not your ITEMS stop whining
the warehouse floor isnt any better. and its in a cardboard box that u’re probably gna throw away, so whats the issue?
A video emerged online showing a couple of “ghost hunters” conducting an unorthodox “paranormal investigation” at an unspecified HDB block that has been abandoned and deemed haunted.
The video begins with an Indian guy wearing a beige hat and sporting enlarged earlobes, introducing their itinerary for the evening, as he holds on to a stack of hell bank notes.
He says that they are at an abandoned HDB block, where they are “about to do some sales for hell notes,” before the videos cuts to another Chinese guy sporting a black hat and “armed” with a cane, an Electromagnetic Field (EMF) detector and a flashlight, knocking on the door of a vacant unit.
One of them then starts shouting into the unit, “OWE MONEY PAY MONEY OI!” before “explaining” to the ghosts that they have “hell notes” that they are trying to sell to them for $2.
He said that for the price of $2, the ghosts can buy a few million dollars worth of hell bank notes, that the spirits can take to hell.
Addressing one of the spirits as “auntie”, the Indian guy screams at the ghosts “AUNTIE YOU COME HERE NOW!” as the EMF detector detects a spike in reading.
He then goes on to shout at the “auntie”, telling her to “come back ah!” as he starts caning the air, before the other guy points out that the ghost “scared already”.
He then “threatens” the ghosts and says “you lucky we cannot go in,” before he continues screaming “COME OUT NOW LAH!”
Netizens’ comments
Bro was beating a ghost with rotan
Even after death you cannot run away from ah long… Haiz
he not scared of ghost, ghost scared of him
If I ghost also I scared of yall sia swing cane lidat at my door HAHAHA
Bro use different type of hell note.. the one you holding is for burning
You cannot run away from ahlong, even when you’re dead.
I just need to vent a bit as i can’t say this in front of them. My Great Grandad was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer back in January 2021 and for around 7 months he was doing great you wouldn’t even be able to tell he had cancer then he took a turn for the worst after my grandad told him he had cancer.
so my family had tried to spend as much time as we could with him (me and my mum) then the rest of the family started to organise days out to make and create long lasting memories but didn’t invite us
(i’m not saying they should feel forced to, but when the reason there all going out was to spend time w my granda it’s understandable to be pissed)
but they continued doing this depriving me and my mother from spending time with him as when he got back he would nap as he was exhausted.
When he got even worse my granny put him into hospital a few days and we all had allocated slots to visit him, So me my mum and my granny went up to only run into my aunt and cousin they mentioned they’d been there for six hours and by the time we went in there he was exhausted even for his own wife(only allowed to visit before meals)
and don’t get wrong i completely understand visiting him but when he’s too tired for his own wife because of them it’s a bit far.
They went up to their house every single day exhausting him.
When he passed in September they stopped visiting as much. it just makes me feel bad for my granny it just made it look like their only there for granda. there so selfish and i just can’t stand them.
I (33) think my current husband (33) thinks it was my fault my ex husband was aggressive to me The first time he told me this, it was before we got married. he said he didn’t mean it. So I forgave him.
Now I found out he told his Mom recently (2 weeks ago) that he still thinks that the reason why my ex hit me is because I had too much personality.
This hurts so bad. It took me a long time to convince myself that it was not my fault my ex hit me. The police who helped me in the past once said, there is no excuse for someone to hit a woman. It was one of the things that convinced me to leave my ex.
Now I am back to zero mentally. I am doubting myself again.
I’m not sure if I should confront him as he might just say whatever he thinks that will appease me. Of course he will tell me again that he does not think It was my fault. But does not really mean it.
What should I do?
We cant afford counseling.
Netizens’ comments
That’s victim blaming and it’s really messed up. Unless you are putting someone in true danger, there is never a good reason to get physical with someone. That’s why it’s a crime to do so.
People who say and think things like this are often not worth the air they breathe. It’s unfortunate that you have such bad luck with partners.
Singaporean online “influencer”, Kurt Tay Foo Wei, who has been in the news recently for his legal troubles where he was charged with disseminating obscene content of a woman to a Telegram group without her consent, is back at it again.
This time, a video emerged online featuring a question and answer segment between Tay and some online netizens.
He was asked if his daughter grew up and became a “mistress” or “dominatrix”, would he become her “dog slave?”
Tay emphatically answered “YES! YES! YES! YES!”
He explained that if his daughter were to do that and if she approaches him to be her “dog slave”, he thinks it “should be okay” (him agreeing to it) because “she’s doing this as a full time job, why not? It can be fun also.”
He goes on to add that if she “enjoys punishing and humiliating men” and “he enjoys being punished and humiliated by a female,” he thinks “it should be okay what, i think it can be quite fun also.”
He then goes on to add some theoretical, hypothetical details, adding that if she leashes him like a dog, then he will bark like a dog. If she canes him or asks him to lick her feet and suck her toe, he thinks that “this is actually quite fun”.
For the 1st time Kurt, this is not ok. And you need to know that. It is not ok even if there’s no x involved.
I’ve always wanted to grow up to become a full-time dormitory.
This is just too sick to even think about it. Can the authority take his children away from him!
this guy lol …. no words can describe it already
this is really disgusting! woman are not born just to do such things or be an object for guys to play!
Existing legal troubles
Self-proclaimed “superstar celebrity” online personality, Kurt Tay Foo Wei, was earlier this week charged with distributing an obscene video of a woman without her consent, to a Telegram chat group.
Following his court appearance, he has since taken to social media to appeal for donations from the public, so that he can hire a lawyer for his court case.
He also shed light on his situation, saying that he needs the money urgently and had been “sabotaged” by some “cb kia, some pubor kia”.
He says that the money raised will be used by him to hire a “professional lawyer” for his court case as well as to “sue someone and not for other purpose.”
He said that “this someone want to destroy my life” as he reiterated his need for money, adding that “it’s not easy to go strike 4D 1st prize”.
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Recap on his court case
Tay, a 41-year-old Singaporean, first encountered legal trouble on November 1, when initial charges were filed against him. These charges pertain to the distribution of an intimate photo and video without the woman’s consent, marking the beginning of a legal saga.
The focus of the charges lies in an incident that occurred on October 27, where Tay is accused of sending a video of a woman performing an obscene act to a Telegram chat group. The gravity of the situation is compounded by the fact that this action was taken without the woman’s consent and with the awareness that it could cause her humiliation, alarm, and distress.
Returning to court on November 16, Tay faced the legal consequences of his actions. A gag order is in place to safeguard the identity of the victim, extending its protection to the name of the chat group involved. The court session drew public attention, with individuals sharing updates through separate Telegram chat groups.
During the court appearance, the police prosecutor requested additional time to fulfill the directions given by the Attorney-General’s Chambers.
Tay’s Response
Tay expressed his intention to apply to the Public Defender’s Office (PDO), a move that adds a layer of legal strategy to his defense. The judge instructed him to make the PDO application within a week and to ensure his bailor’s presence at the next hearing for potential fresh charges.
Potential Consequences
If convicted of distributing intimate material without a woman’s consent, Tay could face significant penalties, including imprisonment for up to five years, fines, caning, or a combination of these punishments. There is also the possibility of additional charges under the Protection from Harassment Act.
The legal saga will continue with Tay scheduled to return to court on December 11. This upcoming hearing holds the potential for new developments and additional charges, adding further complexity to the case.
A video emerged online showing a group of young punks bringing one of their friends into a photo booth shop in Singapore to beat him up.
The video, a snippet of a CCTV recording, was shared on social media by the shop, Solace Studios SG, detailing the whole incident, which resulted in their shop suffering physical damages.
In the video, the group of youths were seen dragging one of their friends into a vacant photo booth, throwing punches at him before they proceeded to punch and slap the walls.
The “attack” on the wall was so great that there was even a hole on the wall.
Following that, the group then fled the scene, but not before the staff members managed to track them down and detain one of them, calling the police along the way.
Solace Studios SG also added that when they detained one of the perpetrators, his friends all left him alone to bear with the consequences.
They also added that they had just opened for business only a week ago, and now their shop is damaged.
The social media post
Solace Studios SG said in their video:
“Here’s what happened.
These bunch of teenagers, thinking it was funny to have a fight in our room, punching one of their friend and our wall too.
They left the shop asap and went down the lane. Luckily we were quick enough to find them and we called the police.
Only one of them admitted to it and stayed with us until the police came, his other friends left him alone to bear all the consequences. I hope you know who are your true brothers now.
So upset that this happened when we just opened for business last week.”
Netizens’ comments
Nowadays why younger generation all like that one….
My MIL and FIL are over right now and won’t stop dropping hints about my weighT
My husband’s parents are here for the day and honestly idk how I’ll get through it. They’ve all body shamed me in the past and now today they keep dropping constant hints about their new diets and suggesting I try their low cal protein shakes.
I know it might not seem like a big deal but they’ve both mocked me for my weight gain due to a medical issue.
Honestly the dieting and calorie restriction is all they’ve talked about for the past two hours and I still have the whole day left to deal.
Encouragement or advice would be great.
Netizens’ comments
“Yes, you’ve mentioned your latest fad diet already. I was raised not to be passive-aggressive about hinting that others need to lose weight, but I know it’s hard to resist such temptations when you’re spending so much money on a scam plan and feeling insecure yourself. Rest assured that I work with my medical team and that I won’t be discussing my health or weight loss plans with either of you, because I was raised to know better. I’m sure you’d agree that it’s healthier for everyone if we find a different topic now.”
Just… hugs to you. I hope they get gone soon – and keep gone for a long while.
Does your SO know it’s upsetting you? What have they done to help?
In the early hours of Wednesday, 29th November, a startling incident unfolded on the Pan-Island Expressway (PIE) in Singapore.
A man stumbled upon an apparently abandoned motorcycle in the middle of the road, with its rider mysteriously absent from the scene.
Overview of the Incident
In the dark of the night, a mysterious sight confronted a passerby—a motorcycle left unattended on the PIE. With its rider nowhere to be found, a sequence of events was set in motion that would reveal the grim reality of a road traffic incident.
The fateful encounter occurred on the night of November 29 at about 3.30am, adding a somber note to what started as an ordinary Wednesday.
The incident unfolded on an unspecified highway stretch of the PIE, specifically after the exit at Bedok North towards Changi.
Initial Observations by the Witness
The witness, identified as Mr. Hidayat Nordin, shared his account of finding the motorcycle and the subsequent efforts to comprehend the situation.
Upon spotting the abandoned motorcycle, Mr. Hidayat Nordin and his friend took immediate action. With a sense of responsibility, they approached the scene to investigate.
Realizing the potential danger of the situation, the witness and his friend, along with another motorist, took on the responsibility of directing traffic away from the abandoned vehicle.
In a display of communal solidarity, additional drivers stopped to assist in managing the traffic, highlighting the importance of collective responsibility on the road.
The witness, Mr. Hidayat Nordin, took to TikTok to document the unfolding events. His video captured the eeriness of the abandoned motorcycle and the community’s response.
Contacting the Police
Realizing the severity of the situation, Mr. Hidayat’s friend promptly called the police at 2:33 am, initiating the involvement of law enforcement.
Approximately 30 minutes later, the Singapore Civil Defence Force (SCDF) and police arrived at the scene, signaling the beginning of a thorough investigation.
As the investigation progressed, the somber truth unfolded—the body of the missing rider was discovered along the road divider.
The SCDF paramedic, present at the scene, confirmed the rider’s unfortunate fate, pronouncing them dead on-site.
An early morning experience with @agentaerulsri controlling the traffic from the middle of the highway on a bend was super scary, with alot of speeding drivers, all simply inconsiderate. fortunately for us, we are safe. And several good drivers were also around to help manoeuvre the traffic from such a dangerous situation, “an abandoned motorcycle” in the middle of a highway. Unfortunately, the rider of the motorcycle was eventually found unconscious after 30minutes plus of searching. RIP. Stay safe Everyone! Drive and ride safe!
My husband has always been very health conscious. He exercises religiously and is careful about the things he eats. When we first got married (5 years ago) and moved in together it was hard for me to adjust to his lifestyle but I slowly adopted his habits so it was fine.
However, I’m currently 5 months pregnant and all I want to do is eat junk. We already have a toddler and if I eat something, our toddler wants it too. My husband wants our toddler to eat only healthy foods, which was never realistic in my opinion as to when he’s around other children he will naturally want to try some of the not so healthy food they’re eating.
So, if I’m having a snack and my son asks for some I usually give it to him. My husband was already upset I was eating junk food myself, he would make remarks about how what I was eating wasn’t good for me or the baby, but he absolutely freaked out when he saw our son eating it.
He took all of the food I bought that he deemed “bad for me” and got rid of it and won’t let me buy replacements. Pregnancy cravings aren’t fun so not being able to eat what I’m craving has put me in an awful mood and we keep arguing now, which we never did before.
Here are what netizens think:
Have you looked up orthorexia? Throwing out your food and refusing to allow you to purchase more is abhorrent and controlling behaviour and my husband and I would be in an emergency session with our counsellor if he did that.
I would sit him down with your doctor, but have a 1 on 1 with your doctor first and tell them how your cravings are due to lack of that item in your diet. Craving fatty foods? Lacking fats. Craving a hamburger? Usually lacking protein. It’s important that you reasonably indulge in your pregnancy cravings, because those cravings are signals that your baby needs that food item.
My sister allows my niece to have junk food, in moderation. She buys individually-packaged snacks so it’s easier to keep to the moderation (EX: mini chip bags instead of one big bag). She taught my niece to enjoy junk food, with healthy food. My niece currently loves blueberry pancakes with organic peanut butter instead of syrup.
