So I’m thinking of getting myself an adult toy.

I’m a V, never really fingered myself (typing these things feels so taboo right now) but I want to start having fun with myself, to like, practise for the real thing, I guess.

I have looked up the type of lube I want to use, and now I’m onto looking at penetrative toys…. but they’re all really long and really thick.

I’m too scared to start with a really thick, long one. I know it will be painful and won’t fit, I’m really super terrified of getting hurt or hurting myself.

Can any of you ladies recommend me a small, thin toy that is safe and not hurtful for beginners?

Netizens comments

1. whatever you do, don’t force it! i bought one without doing much research and it didn’t fit.
   i was so frustrated. then i looked it up and there were suggestions to relax, take your time, and don’t force it. after a couple days it went in fine.
2. make sure to look at the dimensions for girth. If it is longer than you want/need, you don’t have to use all of the insertable length, but if it’s too wide then you can’t do much about that.
   Look at the material too, since many toys (often ones that are really cheap) are not body safe.
3. Don’t make yourself crazy about “getting ready” for the first time. Explore yourself and find out what feels good where. Also don’t set a high bar for yourself.
   
   What a dumb F, losing your V to a piece of plastic

So my aunt is going on a trip in a couple of weeks.

She has 3 dogs, a lab, a chocolate lab and a poodle. She asked me to dog sit at her house for a week. The problem is all her dogs are one year old so they’re pretty much puppies.

I don’t have the best experience with dogs, i have one but she’s always been a very calm dog her whole life.

All my aunt’s dogs are super hyper and not very well trained. They’re so much work as i’ve heard and i just don’t think i can handle it.

I told her that and she asked me to reconsider. She said she’d pay me $400. I strongly reconsidered after that but once again i just don’t think i could handle it.

I told her sorry but no again. She called my mom afterward and tried to make my mom make me dog sit.

My mom told me that she called again and said she was desperate. I told her to just find someone else and she said she can’t find someone in such short notice.

My mom told me i was being a little selfish for telling my own aunt no. We left it at that.

Last night my aunt called me again and said that she’s reconsidering me as a dog sitter but she’s lowering the price to 300.

I told her that i said no was my final answer and she said that she’s going to have to cancel her trip because of me and my “irresponsibility”.

Usually i wouldn’t feel bad but she was looking toward to this trip apparently

I’ve been dating “A” for 7 1/2 months, and we’ve been exclusive since the beginning. Everything was going well, and it’s the healthiest relationship that I’ve ever been in. We never fought and always treated each other with respect. Sex was great too.

I was more than a year out of a very long relationship when we got together, and I’ve moved on. My ex and I are on friendly terms, but there are no feelings there, at least on my side. But A ended his most serious relationship only 2 months before we met. It sounded like it was toxic and they broke up and got together many times before parting ways. I had a feeling that he wasn’t over her, but it didn’t seem to be a problem for our relationship. I fell in love with him and felt safe and cared for with him.

We met up on Sunday to celebrate Valentine’s Day since I had to work on Monday, and when I walked in I could tell something was off. He said he was really depressed, which I suspected he had been for a while. But he also said that his ex contacted him over the weekend and that it really hit him that he’s not over her. And it made him realize that there is something missing in our relationship. At the same time, he said he cares about me a lot, and does have feelings for me – but they are not the same as his feelings toward her.

I asked if he wants to get back with her and he said he doesn’t know. I asked if he wanted to see me again or to end our relationship that night, and he said he wanted to see me again. I thought we could both use time apart and suggested we meet up this weekend to talk about it.

But I don’t know what to do, and my thoughts are all over the place. I can’t sleep and I can’t eat. I’ve given him nothing but love and treated him well. It hurts so much that he can’t realize what a great thing we have together because he’s still in love with someone who never treated him well (per his own words). At the same time, I know that he didn’t give himself time to get over her when we started dating, and that this is why we’re in this situation now.

I know I probably need to walk away from him for my sanity and let him figure out his life. I feel like if I do walk away, or if he wants to end it, I need to close the door on this relationship permanently and move on, so I don’t end up obsessing over him like he’s doing with his ex.

But I still find myself wanting to try to see if he can somehow work on getting over her while still being with me, if I give him space to feel his feelings for her without judgment or anger, and time to heal. Is that just doomed to fail?

A woman shared how her sister is “engaged” to her ex-boyfriend as encouraged by their father to spite her and her mother.

Here is the story

Hi everyone this is a little complicated. I’m 24f. My parents (44f and 51m) divorced when I was 14. My dad was having an affair, I caught him with the other woman and told my mom about it. He’s hated my mom and me ever since.

My sister (18 now) was seven at the time of the divorce and he started using her as a pawn. He’d tell her lies about me and my mom so she wouldn’t want to live with my mom (he told my sister me and my mom were going to throw away all of her toys, he got her a dog and told her if she stayed over my mom’s house nobody would feed the dog and it would starve) so because of this my sister has wanted to live with my dad since they divorced, and her relationship with me and my mom is pretty strained.

When I was 16 I started dating a guy who was 24. I was with him for three years, I finally left him after he put me in the emergency room for the third time. I just left with my car and the clothes I had on in the ER, I left everything else and drove back to my moms house.

Now my sister announced on social media she’s engaged to him. My mom called my sister furious. She said she’s been dating him for over a year now and my father new about the relationship and encouraged it. She told my mom she was 18 now, (she just turned 18 two weeks ago) it was too late and she couldn’t do anything about it.

My mother talked to my father who basically said for me and my mom to eff off, that he doesn’t blame Alexander for putting me in the hospital and “hopes he does it again if I don’t shut up”. My dad admitted to purposely not telling my mom about my sister dating him, to keeping in contact with him and letting him stay over the house with my sister alone for years, he’s allowing all of this just to spite me and my mom.

Is there any talking sense into either of them?

So my wife’s twin sister moved in with us 6 months ago after leaving her husband. Initially, it was weird because they’re identical, but my wife’s sister (I’ll refer to her as Jenny) tried to make it easier for me to tell them apart by wearing a red ribbon on her hair but sometimes they mess around dress alike and be silly.

So we were having drinks at home and all of us got super drunk and both my wife and her sister did not have a ribbon on her head and things started getting confused.

I went to the toilet and came back and noticed that the twin sister is gone from her seat. I assumed that she had gone to sleep.

I sat with my “wife” on the couch and we started making out and we did it in the living room. After we were done I went back to my room and I was horrified. I saw my wife sleeping on the bed and that means that I did it with the twin sister.

I got sober immediately but the mental stress made me so tired I went to sleep.

The next morning, I woke up and everything was normal. My wife’s twin sister put on the ribbon and look at me and place a finger over her lips.

While my wife was washing the plates she came to my ear and whispered: “This is our secret and it’s one off”.

I was confused, excited and afraid at the same time. I whisper back “How bout next time with the both of you”. She pushed my head and said, “dream on”.

It’s an honest mistake, I did not know and I was too drunk to tell. The fault is with my wife’s sister right?

What should I do? Should I tell my wife about it?

So…this all started after an amazing day. My bff came over to hang out and meet my boyfriend. A few other friends were over, but they eventually left and it was just us 3 left. This is not an uncommon scenario…this friend and I have known each other for most of our lives, but we got super close 10 years ago when we both were pregnant at the same time.

During part of our friendship, we were both married and would hang out at times almost every day at one of our houses (She is still married. I’m divorced). We also do a lot of joint sleepovers with our kids and have for years because we both have girls of similar ages. Nothing has ever happened with either of us and the other person’s husband or boyfriend. Ever.

This time was different.

We all started drinking. My bf is not a big drinker. My friend is, but she stopped drinking for January and has only drunk a handful of times. I don’t know if that contributed because their tolerance was lower…I don’t know. All I know is we drank a TON of wine.

I woke up on the couch and had a pillow and blanket. I went to my room and my door was locked. I had to kind of break the door handle a bit to open it (luckily it is an older house). When I came in, both my bf and my friend were in the bed together, but on opposite ends, not touching or anything. I thought it was weird that they were both in the bed together and the door was locked, and I wasn’t really sure why it wasn’t both us girls or me and my bf up there. I woke up my bf and asked why I was left on the couch and he said that I had passed out and there was nowhere else for them to sleep, so they both slept in my bed and passed out. He told me to get in the bed with them and I did between them. My friend was still asleep. So I get in between them and then I realize he is in his underwear. I’m like wtf and asked him why he was in his underwear with my friend. He said he always sleeps in his underwear and he was drunk and not thinking.

So, then I kind of lift the covers and see my friend is in her thong. This girl and I have slept together many a time after drinking and she has never slept in a thong. So, I ask him about it and he confesses that they may have fooled around some. So, after about 24 hours of talking about this, processing it, etc, this is what I have been told by my bf:

He says we were all just talking and having a great time when I suggested a threesome. My friend was rubbing on my leg and he said I looked like I was going to make out with her. He said we all started talking about it, and then I got tired and went to sleep. He went and got me a pillow.

He was going to go he said, but my friend told him to go stay in the bed and she would stay on the floor. He told her not to do that, that she should sleep in the bed. He said he had every intention of her sleeping in the bed, and him leaving, but she said she wasn’t ready to go to bed yet, and wanted to drink more wine, so they drank wine and talked.

I don’t know how to continue…

For some context, my 84 y.o grandfather is from my father’s side so my mother isn’t biologically related to him.

My father passed away several years ago, and my grandmother (grandfather’s wife) also passed away about 2 years ago. My mom and I have never really been close to my grandfather but since my dad’s and grandma’s passing we’ve tried to reach out more and provide more support since he’s really struggling and grief-stricken on his own.

My mom has this routine of dropping off this specific brand of bread to my grandpa’s place whenever he’s low on bread even though he goes grocery shopping with my uncle every Sunday and can easily get the bread himself.

My mom has also been acting very visibly uncomfortable when my grandfather greets us all with hugs which I never understood. She just recently revealed to me that she’s been acting uncomfortable because when she goes to drop off bread and asks my grandpa if he needs anything else, he has said multiple times that he “does need something more but she never gives it to him”, and also makes a lot of comments about how young she looks.

So she suspects he only wants her to drop off bread so he has the chance to see her alone.

He also has winked at her after making these types of comments, and she said he’s even slapped her butt before. He’s never done or said anything inappropriate to me but after learning this it’s changed my perception of my grandfather completely and I kind of want nothing to do with him anymore, or to at least confront him about it, because he has kept questioning me about why my mom acts so distant and uncomfortable around him.

My mom won’t go to visit him by herself anymore and will sometimes get me and my brother to drop off the bread. I don’t really know what to do or believe since it’s very hard to envision my grandfather in this way, especially since he’s still in so much pain from losing my grandma, but my mom would never lie about something like this.

We plan to have dinner with him on his birthday since no one else is visiting him but I don’t know if I’ll be able to face him. Should I bring this up with him? Question him? Tell other family members about it? Cut off all contact with him?

I got a friend who likes to buy 2nd hand branded items from second hand shops or pawnshop, even though he may not really like it or the products don’t really suit him (eg ladies items)

He keeps a microsoft word document which he records amount gained and amount loss

Eg. He recently bought a chopard ladies watch from pawnshop for 7.5k. Before buying it, he took a picture of the watch and check with chopard boutique on the price. He was told it cost $27 100 and it had stop production. He quickly bought it from the pawnshop even though its a ladies watch and record in his word document that he gained $27 100 – buy at $7.5k = $19 600.

Eg. He will use his coporate insurance which gives him unlimited visits to the panel of clinics. He will go to the clinics to take free medicine. Than he will check with guardian how much it cost. He will than add on in the word document eg add on that he gained $100 today from the free medicines that he gets.

Eg when he go for surgery as a subsided patient. He pay $5k for the surgery. He will try to call private specialist in mouth elizabeth, glenaneagles hopsital etc to check how much they charge for this surgery. They tell him it will cost 20k. He will record in his word document that he gained $15k from the surgery.

Eg. He needs to pay for term life insurance and shield plan. He will deduct this amount in his word document. Eg deduct $900 for term plan insurance premium and deduct $400 for shield plan for year 2022.

Eg. Some items he buy already don’t like and he sell it. Eg he buy a $400 LV wallet and record in the word document he gained $300 as he check with LV boutique who told him the original price is $700. Later he sell the LV wallet to second hand shop for $100. He will record in the word document to deduct $300 for loss in selling LV wallet abd deduct the previous $300 that he recorded as gain.

Do you know of anybody who is like this?

Do you think he is a siao lang?