The guy I am dating is a lot wealthier than me. I feel insecure about it and I am pretending to be rich too. I don’t know if he will leave after knowing the truth.

I met really amazing man, I had a crush on him after our second date. He seems to really like me too. We went on 6 dates only but things are getting more serious between us. Also he is mindblowing in bed.

The problem is he earns much more than me. I have a ok job but my earnings are average. He must think I am rich too because I told him I have a good job and I avoid talking about money generally.

He invited me twice to a really expensive restaurant, I didn’t want to pay so much so when the bill arrived I let him pay without saying anything.

I invited him for drinks and cooked for him at home twice, I try to be generous without spending much. But he wants to go to expensive restaurants again or on trips and sleep in really expensive hotels.

I guess it’s time I should tell him the truth I can’t afford it? I will be really sad to lose him. His ex gf was rich too so he probably prefers it.

I was thinking of looking for a better paid job or a way to make more money somehow but it is too stressful for me right now.

Netizens’ comments

1. don’t pretend to be something you’re not, tell him asap and see how he reacts ^{^}
2. You never told him that you were rich, but there could be a chance that he already knows.
   He usually pays for you anyways, maybe he just wants to spoil you but since all these luxuries are making you uncomfortable, ask him to slow down/take it easy.
3. I grew up in upper-upper middle class.
   I had a thing where I was horrible with my emotions and expressing them. My love language was spending money on women.
   But even past that, I didn’t mind spending the money bc I liked them so much I just wanted them to experience cool stuff.
   But I NEVER, not even once, cared about how much money they had or came from.
   There’s a good chance he doesn’t either. But there’s also a slim chance he is ignorant and thinks you make more and is that shallow. But I’m not seeing that second option from your post but TONS of context missing so I’m only going off what I have.
   Tell the truth .

There’s a bunch of young men, about 18, 19 or 20, always working out at my gym and I am having thoughts of letting them have their way with me.

I’m 31. I’m not sure why I’ve been getting these thoughts lately, but every Monday and Wednesday this group of what looks to be 18-20 year old students always come in to work around the same time I do. There’s 4 of them.

Im assuming they’re around that age group because they look young, and my gym is near a their campus and I always see students wearing their tight shirts come in and out all the time

They’re really cute and always helping each other with their reps and exercises, and I find it adorable.

I have caught them staring a couple of time in my direction and do the whole male group giggle thing, and I usually just laugh it off.

It’s beginning to become a reoccurring thing, and as I get older and more lonely the idea of messing around with younger males seems more and more exciting.

Out of all the young girls at the gym around their age, they still find someone older like me decently attractive enough to draw their attention and I think it’s adorable

I really want to ask for their ages, and see if they ever wanted to get lunch at one of the restaurants/fast food places in the same complex, and from there see if they’d ever be interested in anything with me, but I’m not sure how on earth that would go down, what I would ask, and how I would gauge to see if their interests are aligned with mine.

The other part of me feels incredibly perverted and messed up, so I just don’t know what to do.

My marriage proposal was interrupted by a singer… idk how to feel

Alright so, I 25M proposed to my gf 29F last night at a restaurant/bar last night. So… as I kneeled down and opened the ring box, as soon as she said yes…

One singer/emcee ran to us and took the ring box and took us to the stage, and made an announcement… and then around 2 minutes later, she finally gave me the ring box and I proceeded to kneel to her again and she said yes, everyone was applauding.

it was a happy moment yea, but somehow our memory is forever with the singer interrupting us to make my proposal more public?

I don’t know how to feel lol, I somehow feel angry for her interrupting and making us remember that interruption forever… honestly my feelings are all mixed right now.

Any thoughts and advices anyone please? I love you all I need external perspective to make me feel better or something.

Netizens’ comments

1. Your feelings are valid. There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do.
   When you propose in public, you run the risk of being interrupted, having strangers involve themselves, being drowned out by the noise around you, and etc.
   It was a thing. It happened. The important thing is she said “Yes”. TWICE! And you had done your best to make it romantic, so good on you.
   I’ve had four marriage proposals in my life and not a single one of them was romantic. No man went down on his knee for me. So… it could have been worse! lol
2. Give it time and it will be a funny story that you can share with other people, because it’s less boring than ‘I kneeled in a restaurant and she said yes’. You can’t turn it back anyways. Congratulations btw!
3. I mean that’s the risk you run when you decide to make a private proposal in a public setting. To be blunt, if you wanted a private uninterrupted moment with your fiance, then do it somewhere private. If you’re in a bar that also has live music. Someone is going to take notice and make it more public.
   It’s not like the singer ruined the moment, she said yes, that is ALL that should matter to you. Now you have a story to tell everyone about your proposal. There is nothing you should be upset about at all.

My husband said he is disgusted to kiss me becsuse yesterday I gave him a bj with finale in my mouth for the 1st time.

10 years marriage, on a rocky road for the past few months and intimacy was basically non existent, up to 5 times per month, as we argued much.

Yesterday I asked him to take a shower, I dressed up nicely and when he showed up I asked if he’s up for something new.

He hesitantly said yes, and I said we can’t have intercourse (due to health reasons) but can I have him in my mouth till the end.

He said yes and I could see he enjoyed it. During the last couple of seconds he hesitated again but I was so focused on what I’m doing I said ‘please let me’ and he did.

Then I just got off by myself on his eyes cuz I just saw he was so not into this that I couldn’t bring myself to ask him to do it for me even though it crossed my mind for a sec.

I was also embarrassed of my state as I have a frequent infection I am battling with and he could see it. He knew I had it but I didn’t want it to be so obvious.

I already spoke to him numerous times it’s a fantasy of mine, I mean the bj finale where he finishes in my mouth. Now he said what he said. He always liked my mouth and he was getting very turned on when I gagged on his D.

Wondering if it will pass. Is it maybe the fact that he wasn’t prepared…and I pushed too much? He also said he misses me so much after all those fights that ‘that’ kind of closeness wasn’t doing it for him…

Thanks for all honest opinions.

I found maggots in my underwear.

I’ve never been the cleanest person, and I’ve always struggled with keeping my room tidy. After this absolutely life-altering event, however, I feel like scrubbing my entire room, the walls, the floors, the ceiling, my pillows all down.

So like any other female, I do have private parts, and it’s pretty normal to get discharge just randomly and it soils your underwear pretty bad.

That stuff doesn’t really come off in the wash, so I personally hand wash my underwear when I’m taking my showers.

However, because I have such a habit of throwing my clothes all over the floor, sometimes those soiled underwear ends up buried in the mess and I never really thought anything of it.

I sat down today to finally clean my room, and while I was picking clothes off the floor to put in the wash, I noticed one of the soiled panties had some weird dust on it.

I thought it was weird, but I just wiped it off and tossed it in the basket. Maybe about an hour later, I’m handling another pair and when I pick it up I notice something moving on it…

Of course I’m freaked out and I throw it across the room! Looking closer it’s got like two little white worm things on it and I guess they were born from/are feeding on my bodily fluids???

I don’t know what they are for certain but I do know I bleached both those panties before throwing them away.

I’m pretty sure I’m traumatized, I keep feeling the need to wash my hands and suddenly the mess I’ve lived in all my life is unbearable. I’m thinking about it and maybe this is what I needed to turn my life around…

Anyway there’s no way I’m telling anyone in my life about this so I came here to get it off my chest. Call me nasty or whatever, after this incident I can’t even argue.

I fainted when I was getting physical with my boyfriend in bed, should I be worried?

My partner and I have been getting physical for some time. We made some agreements here and there, you know the usual.

Today he asked if he could be rough and I said it would be okay only if he would check up on me now and then, which he agreed upon.

While doing it I fainted 4 times, 3 times for a few seconds and 1 time for like 15 seconds. My partner stopped when he realized that I had fainted for longer than 10 seconds.

He didn’t know what to do so he waited until I “woke up” again. He seemed clearly worried about it but he didn’t want to talk about it. But this made me quite worried as well.

So hereby my question: is it okay if you faint while doing it?

Netizens’ comments

1. Choking play? Or just overwhelmed intensity resulted in fainting?
   • (OP) Overwhelmed intensity, we’re both not into choking play
2. I’d talk to a doctor about it but it’s likely from something like hyperventilation. However, it could also be something like a heart issue that isn’t diagnosed.
3. Some people can faint during or after vigorous activity. Whether or not you need to worry depends the underlying cause. The internet cannot diagnose you, so you should really ask your doctor, even if for nothing more than a good reassurance.
4. I’ve fainted before a few times! Not sure if it’s normal, but its probably just from rapid heart rate and breathing. Oxygen in your brain and whatnot. If it keeps happening or you notice some strange things about your body, mention it to your doctor and take it easy
5. How good is your cardio? Are you in positions that affect blood flow to your head? Are you doing any kind of pain play? If the answer to all 3 is no, then talk to a doctor immediately, there is potentially something more serious going on that is worth having checked out.

Will not disclose the name of this company publicly, only that they are newly established in sg, not local and they’re an education center offering only online classes.

Was in a HR managerial role there, but was made to teach, translate and work OT without additional pay. I’ve zero experience as a teacher but they dropped me into a class without notice after working hours and I had to attend as it was a requirement to answer my phone after work hours.

As such, I didn’t have time to even eat. I was not notified of the syllabus and requirements to teach. There was no structure at work, salary fraud is apparently the norm.

They would attempt to hire people and promise 5-8k, but when signing the contract, you’ll realize that the basic reflects less than 2k because during a 3 month probation, they will deduct 20% of your pay. I was made to do the same and lie to candidates, which I did not, hence many candidates were unwilling to join.

The boss is Chinese, uncouth and lacks integrity. I was also made to do his assignments and personal work during office hours.

He studies in a local institution as a Masters student. All his assignments were outsourced as he doesn’t speak nor understand English. He is fond of insulting people and cursing them to just ‘go die, go to hell, you useless idiot’.

Despite studying business management, his KPI and expectations were terrible, and he expects to hire experienced candidates with a 1k-2k salary, claiming that his Chinese workers get the same, and that many were begging him for jobs in China.

He was unwilling to pay tuition teachers at the basic market rate, and would only offer less than 50 for a 2hr class for an experienced teacher.

At that moment, I realized that one day such behavior would be directed at me, hence I refuted his statements, saying that he shouldn’t have insulted anyone, and he immediately turned on me with claims that I am new and that I am a graduate that is full of herself and expects the best pay and minimal workload.

He said that Singaporeans are incapable, and he would bring over his Chinese workers, and claimed that fresh grads and graduates are incompetent, lazy and full of talk.

He then said that Singaporeans are like frogs in a well that know nothing apart from getting a salary, on the other hand, China is a big world and he has seen it all.

He even claimed that he has a psychology background, and that he could read anyone, but he failed to understand the statistics I gave him on benchmarking and market trends, claiming that he only wants to know 1 figure.

For an education center that just newly landed in Singapore, is this really the standard we are supposed to endure and accept?

I am honestly glad that I quit the job, as they were fraudulent and refused to be held accountable for their promises. I last heard from my excolleague that they claimed that I was fired as I was unable to speak in Mandarin. And well, I am Chinese, and it’s the first time I’ve ever heard of that.