Extension of ORD date due to multiple MC’s being rejected.

does anyone know, to what extent the safety hotline can help? Or who is in power that i can contact to help?

Currently facing extension of ORD due to multiple MC’s being rejected. Its fucking bullshit as i said it was due to injury and surgery being done, and we all know covid, a few of them are due to URTI symptoms or close contact and me not wanting to be inconsiderate and spreading to the whole office.

The amount of MC’s is ALOT, but its all within reason and of truth, f-ing had to get MO to endorse but fucker did not believe me and sent a few MC’s to medical board to reject. Resulting in the extension of at least a month.

Netizens’ comments

1. Chao Keng gone wrong
2. Bloody chaokeng kia. Have fun serving.
3. if his mc were rejected by the medical board, no matter how much op parents shoot mindef or smc, the medical board still has the final say
4. LOL. I think you should be extended further
5. Serve lah, already keng for so long
6. hi OP, i will comment this before the incoming flood of comments which say ‘but your ORD cannot be changed unless you go DB / disruption’.
   the truth is that because MCs & HLs over 7 days have to be endorsed, if the MO does not want to endorse them it can be brought up to the medical board for rejection. if the medical board indeed deem’s that your MCs are not valid for the reasons you have given, unfortunately you will be made to pay back the duration of your MCs; resulting in your ord date being extended.
   as for what you can do about this, honestly not much. as those who work in HR unit’s will know, it’s extremely hard to change the medical boards decision once they have rejected your MCs. truth be told, it is extremely rare for the medical board to reject your MCs in the first place. i have seen a handful of cases (<10) and i have not seen a single case get back their original ORD date.
   my advice would be to try to get an extremely strong memo from your doctor stating that the MCs were essential to your recovery and bringing it back to the MO to appeal and review it with the medical board. other than that, there is nothing much you can do unfortunately, calling the safety hotline will yield you no results as this the medical board has the right to reject MCs & HLs unfortunately.

Does anyone have traditional parents that still think that daughters are useless?

My father just said to my face that even if I have a child after getting married, he does not consider it his grandchild since daughters do not carry on the surname.

Honestly I’ve never really cared much about him but I don’t understand what’s his problem.

My brother is estranged from the family and does not talk to any of us. Hence my father says that he does not have a “heir” and that my children will not be considered his grandchildren.

My mother used to be the same, but since my brother has stopped talking to them; she’s pressuring me to hurry up and get pregnant lmao.

I’ve done everything for my parents when I lived with them, their laundry, grocery shopping, cooking for them, making sure everything in the house is clean. Yet they’ve always cared or placed more importance on my brother because he’s a son.

So my father has always said that cleaning and cooking is the woman’s job, so he’s never done it and doesn’t intend to. I don’t know he’s kinda sexist and annoying.

When I was younger, I asked him to buy sanitary pads for me since he was going to the grocery store and he flipped out at me. Going on about a huge rant about how he’s a MAN and how I’m trying to embarrass him by buying “disgusting products”.

It’s 2023, he still thinks like that, I frankly think it’s quite lame. I’ve asked all of my friends, they said their fathers are different and they don’t have this mindset.

Sometimes I feel jealous of them because I’ve seen how nice their fathers are

Netizens’ comments

Parents who still have a mindset from the dinosaur age should just go extinct lol. Tbh, if I have that kind of parents, I’ll lose contact asap. No point arguing those types since they will always want to win one.

One day if they have major illness or whatever, don’t come crawling to you and ask for forgiveness or whatever.

Your brother stopped talking with your parents due to this shit? Or something else?

I let my boyfriend slap me in the face when we get intimate, even though it’s triggering.

I had to tell someone. I had to write this one down or something. It feels messed up for me to enjoy it because it’s literally so so degrading and just reminds me of all the times in life that my parents physically hit me as a child.

It’s so messed up why do I like it??? I love calling him daddy and letting him slap me in the face.

The first time he did it I almost cried because it was so triggering but something came over me later on down the road in our relationship and now I just want him to do it all the time.

This is so weird imma just leave this one here. Feel free to roast.

I also feel like I need to put this out there, but my boyfriend is not in any way shape or form mistreating me. I have given him permission to do this and he also likes being slapped as well lol.

I worked through a lot of my daddy issues but feel okay with calling my bf daddy because I don’t really make that connection I just think it’s hot af and he likes it so why not?

If anything the physical trauma I experienced all came from mom. She would shame me for the clothes I wore and would always tell me to “cover myself” because there are grown men around.

She called me names many many times and I’m sure there are plenty of women who can relate to this kind of treatment from their mother. She would get physical with me ALL THE TIME.

Netizens’ comments

• I was kind of that same way, but I was getting too mentally confused by it so during intimacy I’d tell him where to slap me and that gave me the control of it and the pleasure of it but without it being my face. Something about it not being the specific place that triggers (the face) made it feel better.

• It’s a trauma response like someone in the comments said. As a child, I was repeatedly whipped whenever I stepped out of line. Slapped, whipped, etc. It’s traumatic and I feel so weird because I really like when my boyfriend slaps and grabs me. I don’t like pain or anything but feeling like he’s in control is kinda nice sometimes.

• A lot of people develop kinks as a result of trauma. It’s a way for our brain to process what happened to us and help us experience similar things while having control, since it’s consensual. 

I scare she will “eat” me in my house. My chio bu insurance agent recently sent me a message and I was immediately suspicious. I was thinking “Is she trying to eff me?” The message read “Hi, long time no contact. Should we meet to catch up?” My first thought was that she was trying to sell me something, but then I realized that she was probably just offering to meet up for a social visit.

At first, I was hesitant to meet with her because times are tough and I don’t have any money to buy insurance. I told her that we could just talk on the phone or Whatsapp, but she insisted that she wanted to meet up in person. I was a bit worried because I wasn’t sure what she wanted and I was scared that she was trying to “eat” me in my own home.

After thinking it over for a while, I decided to go ahead and meet with her. I figured that it was better to find out what she wanted in a public place, rather than in the privacy of my own home. I was still a bit worried, but I was also curious to find out what she wanted.

Here is what the netizen said:

My chio bu insurance agent recently message me.

She: hi. Long time never contact. Should we meet to catch up.

Me: times are bad. I got no money to buy insurance.

She: its ok. We can chit about life. Don’t need to buy insurance.

Me: we can whatsapp or talk on the phone. Don’t need to meet.

She: i prefer to meet. If you want i can go to your house to meet you.

Is she a folk spirit?

I scare she will eat me in my house.

COVID made me realize I was horrible to my husband. I thought I ‘settled’ when I married him. I was a bad girlfriend and wife. I’m going to be different from now on.

My husband didn’t excite me when we were together. There were never big ups or downs. He wasn’t mysterious, he didn’t seem indifferent and he didn’t play games. Other boyfriends were investors who racked up credit card charges on credit cards for impromptu getaways to the islands or Europe.

My husband is a nurse, saved his money and planned. I was so bored, but I hated being alone. So I married him. My mom told me it was a mistake. My father told me it was the best decision.

My friends figured we’d get divorced after 12 months. He had debt from his doctoral program. We weren’t living the high life. I was 28 and wanted to be young and free. He was talking about health insurance. I liked him, but I didn’t think I loved him.

I got annoyed with him all the time. I was quick to snap at him. He would go out of his way to be kind and while I was appreciative, I didn’t realize how kind he was. I took for granted that I was ‘owed’ that experience and he was just fulfilling his obligations. I really

Then COVID hit.

I was obsessively worried about him. I couldn’t calm down and I couldn’t figure out why I was so amped. He works in surgery and the ICU and has really technical skills, so he was being deployed to help with the influx. When I couldn’t reach him one day I got so stressed out that I threw up and passed out. For much of 2020 I missed my period, I couldn’t sleep and eventually my hair was falling out. The only time I was “okay” was when I could physically see him. I realized then how shitty I had been. I got into therapy.

I realized that every guy who had been flashy, a big spender and cool and mysterious were scam artists/a man child looking for attention or a leech. They were throwing around money they didn’t have. None of those couples are still together.

The couples that threw around money and spent without care are destitute and no longer together.

The couples with the big ups and big downs are broken up. None of them could make it work.

The only couple going strong is the one I was certain was destined to fail.

The big ups and downs take an emotional toll on you. They weaken the bonds of your relationship. Volatility is bad. My mom is like that. Extreme swings, constant need for excitement in a relationship or its “boring.” Stability is bad, so she’s always looking for instability. It’s something I thought was normal.

I like “boring.” I like that we save for vacations and I am on his health insurance. I like that he is sweet and emotionally available. The “boring” guy does laundry, cooks, cleans and is a full-fledged adult with interests and goals and ambitions and passion. We have a marriage where we are together. We support each other and I have never felt as free to be vulnerable ever.

I was horrid. I was cold. I looked down on him. I can’t believe how unhappy I was. Hopefully he never finds out about the things I said. It would be cosmic justice if he left me. Now I worry about that. I just hope he doesn.t

My husband died and I’m so angry right now

People keep asking me if I’m sad. No, I’m angry, he was 25 and he died in a low risk surgery that he underwent for me. He died for no reason, there is no “greater plan” and no god isn’t watching over me. He died, he’s gone for no good reason at all.

We were trying to have kids, we have a house, dogs, we had a life together that we’d both worked so hard to build and it’s gone for nothing. It’s my fault and I hate that he died to keep me alive so I’m just stuck with this anger.

This isn’t fair, it doesn’t feel real. Why was he taken out of all the people who could have died. He was good, he died trying to be good.

He was very wealthy and I’ve had multiple people reach out to me saying at least I have his money now. No, screw you. I don’t want his money, I just want my husband back.

I hate people so much right now. Constant empty platitudes, strangers on Facebook telling me how they’re sorry for my loss when I last spoke to them a decade ago.

You barely know me Sandra you cow, how can you be sorry, you just want Facebook likes for faux sympathy.

Screw this. Screw being a widow. Screw it all.

Rant over. I’m going to bite my pillow now. Screw you pillow, you don’t even support me properly and that’s all you’re supposed to do.

Netizens’ comments

• If you don’t mind answering, what was the surgery for? Racking my brain trying to think of dangerous surgeries that aren’t preventative
  • Partial liver transplant.
    • Excuse me. That is NOT a low-risk surgery. That surgery can come with a major risk of bleeding. What exactly happened? Note – I am a doctor

Is it normal to feel sad when you aren’t included by people whom you think are your friends?

I am an introvert and i have never opened myself up to anyone. I used to have a group of friends who i hung out with in school but in that group, i would only interact with them once in awhile.

I used to be awkward as well but most of the time i could vibe with them and sometimes they would try to include me into conversatioms by diverting attention to me.

Occasionally went out with them (which was a huge thing as an introvert) but i would never be the life of the party and i think i was kind of just there, absorbing the energy from the party.

Which is why, after the 2 times i was invited to hang out, i was never asked again. I would still hang out with them in school and nobody else.

For many years since, they would celebrate each other’s birthdays, plan events and etc and i had just been forgotten.

I would see it on social media and feel really sad about it. There isnt really much i can do other than just let it be but i never found another group of friends to hang out with since as i am very introverted.

So seeing them all still together even after so many years since graduating still hurts me alot. I have tried reaching out to them personally to talk about things and tried to invite them to hang out but i would get short uninterested replies.

I think i am supposed to move on but i am not sure of how to do it, i deleted my social media accounts for about 3 years and recently came back to see those posts again which again reignited the pain.

I dont know what to do honestly.

I recently found out that my bf was cheating on me.

When I had found out I was HYSTERICAL. I was a sobbing mess and the only thing I could think of was to find one of my friends to show her the screenshots I was sent of him cheating.

I had told her that they made me too upset to look at and asked if I could log into my Instagram account on her phone so she could help me figure out if they were real or not. She agreed, so I logged in and went back to class. Once class was over, I went to go find her and she revealed to me that she had actually messaged the girl that he cheated on me with.

I wasn’t upset even though she had done it without my permission. This whole situation has put me in a bad place mentally for the past few days and my friend knew this. When I told her that I didn’t know what to do, she told me to leave him.

I understand why she told me to leave him but I also know that she has never liked my bf. Fast forward to last night when she and I were talking to each other over text. She was telling me how she hated me bf and I brought up that she had “harassed” him for a while in the beginning of our relationship. She WENT OFF at me.

She told me that she had never harassed him. I brought up the fact that she would edit pictures of him and send them to him, and I know that this made him uncomfortable because he took all of his posts on Instagram down.

She told me that I don’t know what harassment is because if I did I wouldn’t be accusing her. I told her to “cool it” because she went from talking crap to my bf to just being rude to me. I explained to her that I wasn’t in a good enough place mentally to handle this and that she was making things worse.

She just replied that she hoped that she was being rude and that my feelings were hurt.

A few years ago, I was working at a corporate job, making a decent living and climbing the corporate ladder and my investment portfolio has help me pay off my condominium, car and a good amount if i decided not to work anymore.

But I wasn’t truly happy. I was in my late twenties and I felt like I was already living a boring and unfulfilled life. So I decided to take a leap of faith and retire at 30.

Most people thought I was crazy and asked me what I was going to do with my life. But I knew what I wanted to do. I was going to travel and explore the world. I wanted to see different cultures and experience new things.

I was able to fund my travels by living off my savings. But eventually, I found myself running out of things to do. That’s when I decided to start driving for Grab.

It was quite an eye-opening experience. I met a lot of people, from all walks of life. I heard their stories and got to explore different parts of the city that I’d never seen before. Most of the time, I just enjoyed the ride and the conversations. But there were also times when I had to deal with difficult customers.

I was thinking to get married and tried dating

So i met a girl through a mutual friend and we had a good time during our date.

Then the question came, what I work as bla bla bla.

So I told her I am driving Grab but i did not tell her that i was already retired. about 10-15mins after I told her that I was working as a Grab driver she seemed to start trying to cut short on our conversations and the date ended fairly quick after.

I did not realizes then and I tried to text her a week later to ask her out again. Her replied was cold and she said “I am looking for someone to build a career together and she said that I am not compatible with her.”

I immediately knew what she meant. My job as a Grab driver.

I replied: “I agree, as I am retired and driving Grab for fun. It seems like you are still very early in your career and we are in very different stages in life. Good luck”.

About another week later she tried to asked me out I declined and told her I was going for a solo holiday.

She tried to ask me out again a few weeks later but I continued to decline.

It was clear at this stage that she regretted sending me the message and it became evidently more clear that she is nothing but a gold digger.