Kicked out/willingly left home,what to do?

Hello,16M here. I have been having many arguments with parents recently over topics I won’t go into detail with unless requested, but had one of these arguments recently which resulted in a fight.

Today wanted to go out for lunch and studying alone but was stopped by mom as she didn’t give me permission to leave since everyone is still in bad mood from previous argument.

We had a fight and I left but she told me to not come back.

Currently unsure what to do but am debating contacting school as I have met the counsellor before but I am not sure if that will solve anything.

Only thing I have to note is that currently parents have used physical violence against me before and I fought back in self defense but today is the first time I have actively started the fight when trying to leave the house.

Am willing to expand on things that have happened if it will help.

Netizens’ comments

1. If you have no friends/relatives to rely on, hate to say this, but suck it up, go home and apologise. Today is public holiday, not a lot of helping services are open. You can share this incident with your counsellor on Monday to explore the next steps.
   Unless there is on-going ill treament, then call the National Anti Violence Hotline for assistance. But if it happens in the past with no incidences recently, authorities will push for a more therapeutic approach such as family therapy/parenting.
   • I thought they have official homeless shelters for this?
     • Yes and no. Yes, there are homeless shelters.
       But these shelters require referrals after social workers run their assessment, and they are usually for people without family support, which is not the case unless the family truly doesnt want to take OP back. Plus OP is underaged, he will be going to a Children Home if say there is horrific ill treament at home.
2. Go home and apologize… nothing you can do
3. it’s not butterflies and fairies outside. 1. You’re underage, even if you got money to rent, you’re underage. 2. Rental is insane at like $1000 a month for a bedroom. 3. No way you can sustain with daily basis necessities and without a roof over your head.
   Go home, just apologise and then move on. Families fight, you’re in your teenage years, it’s a rebellious time. Been there as well, fought with my parents and all that drama but now that I’m working adult, I understand. BUT I DONT TELL THEM LOL. Things will get better when you show you’re responsible in your decision, you have a plan, you have a goal you’re working towards to.

I just got fired today 5 mins before the end of my shift on a Thursday. This really came out of nowhere. I was hired in May and was doing a fine job, no complaints. Was just admin so it was mostly emails and distributions. Nothing you could really do badly at.

I have a degree and would consider myself quite competent, I’ve never been late or anything. They told me I was a pleasure to work with, I’ll do great in any job I go for and they’d give me a good reference. I’m just so confused. When I said I wasn’t expecting this and I wasn’t aware I had been doing anything wrong they said that I didn’t, just wasn’t going to work.

I was still in my 6 month probation period so it doesn’t require a cause but another woman with the same job in the company went away in March/April on maternity leave and is coming back in a few weeks. Just wonder if it has anything to do with it, as my workload is already very light.

Feel like crap now I’ve to go find another job and I’m supposed to be going on holidays in two weeks 🙁

Netizens’ comments

1. Welcome to the dark side of the corporate world.
2. Yeah, it sounds like you were a temp without being told.
3. They hired you to fill a maternity leave without admitting they did so. Nasty AF
4. I was gunna say they probably hired one of the bosses wives or daughters. But yea you were a temp you just didn’t know it.
5. Ugh, sorry about what happened. Alright….pep talk…You Got This. You have skills, you are needed somewhere. Open up job search and find that job you will be content with. Good luck.
6. Yep. You hit the nail on the head. You were hired to cover while she was away.
7. Don’t take this personally. They had 6 months of money, and didn’t tell you because they knew you probably wouldn’t have taken the job. It’s common. People lie. It sucks, but now you know how the game is played. I’m sorry…definitely have been there. You’ll find something better!

I confessed to my boyfriend about my cheating because he’s too weak in bed, and he finally f-ed me the way that I want it.

So I went over to my BFs last night and got in a bit of an argument. Things escalated and it became a bit of a screaming match, where I told him I’ve been f-ing different guys behind his back.

I actually got very personal tbh about how he’s too gentle and tbh a bit of a wet flannel when it comes to our bedroom activities and how these other guys treated me like a cheap little sl-t and f-ed me properly.

Tbh I thought it would break him, but instead he grabbed my hair, pushed me down over the bed with my face buried into the mattress and f-ed me hard and deep.

Full disclosure he is not the most well hung guy but it was incredible. I asked him what made him do that and he told me that he doesn’t know, but suddenly he was overcome with rage and was either gonna hit me or f me. (He would never hit me btw, even though I deserve it.)

He now wants some space to think things over, but all I want is for him to throw me down like that again!!

Netizens’ comments

1. Communication at its finest, I see… First cheat, then only talk. Wtf is this… And even after that he tries his best and changes for you ? You don’t deserve him.
2. I honestly hope he breaks up with you, he couldn’t control his anger and did it, probably he is traumatized about your cheating, honestly speaking you should not be in a relationship at all.
3. poop i do hope that someday you are able to overcome yourself and see this situation for how it is,, sending love for you and your ex (little for you lots for him)
4. It’s great you came clean and this happened, but I think if there is a next step, it’s going to be giving him details about your infidelity and letting him process all of that.

I slept with my sister in law and I don’t know what I’m going to do.

I’m constantly thinking about what I’m going to do. I became part of her support system after my brother’s death. Not just for her, but for my nephew as well.

I’ll admit that I did grow feelings for her as well. I still have strong feelings for her. She admitted it to me first. My marriage wasn’t/ isn’t in the best place either.

I liked the fact that I was needed. That I had someone tell me that they appreciate me. I haven’t heard that from my wife in a while. We eventually slept together.

The worst part is that we have to pretend that nothing ever happened. We still see each other considering our kids play with each other. I failed my brother, my wife, and her as well.

Netizens’ comments

Any betrayal is devastating, but when the betrayal comes from in-house; meaning home, family, and close friend(s), it hits differently.

That’s a pain that harbors and festers that can cause utter devastation and destruction. An affair is wrong, you know this, but often, for the couples that work towards surviving infidelity, those scenarios typically don’t involve an affair with a family member or relative.

If it ever comes to the surface, your wife will never be the woman you once knew her to be. She’ll never love you the same, and a piece of her will perish.

I don’t have personal experience, but i watched my bff go through this scenario with her soon-to-be-ex-husband and her brothers wife, and she became bitter, angry, and revenge filled. Their family is a shell of its former happy close self, and they all struggle trying to move beyond the affairs and remain in each other’s lives.

The saddest part is that the relationship between sister and brother is tarnished as they are both blaming each others spouses for their spouses betraying them. Their kids (close in age) don’t get to be cousins or remain close…its just an awful dynamic to witness now given their history.

If you’re remorseful, tell your wife and give her the power of choice to decide if she wants to forgive or not. But I’m saying to you, if she discovers it on her own, she will unleash wrath and fury upon you and SIL.

My husband cheated on me and now I don’t want my child. Am I wrong for this?

I 27F am married to my husband 32M. We met when I was still studying and started dating. We got married around two years ago and have been talking about starting a family ever since we began dating, but had fertility and pregnancy issues involving miscarriages.

I finally got pregnant a while ago and me and him weren’t expecting me to make it past the first trimester but I did and we were overjoyed.

In the past year and a half he’s been coming home to work late or after I even fall asleep, but he told me it’s because of his upcoming possibility of a promotion (for context he works at his uncle’s startup and is getting a pretty hefty promotion on top of his already important role)

I didn’t ever really think about it since we basically told eachother everything and had free roam on our devices, but a few weeks ago I visited his work to give him a belated birthday gift but I was told he had already left hours before.

I decided to put an AirTag I owned for my AirPods in his car and it turns out he was visiting a fellow colleague.

She had known about me and him AND our pregnancy, since I had visited her house and she was invited by my husband to our baby shower.

I immediately knew that he was cheating on me and I checked his phone the next day and he had inappropriate messages with her.

I filed for divorce as fast as I could and got a divorce lawyer. When I gave him the papers and told him I had caught him he begged me to not divorce and said he didn’t care about her.

I packed a bag and slept at my friend’s home for a few nights, but I quickly realized I don’t want his child or to be stuck with joint custody.

I want a kid with someone I love and I grew to hate the baby in my belly. I told him a couple days ago that I will be putting our baby up to adoption.

He began crying and saying I don’t have to do that and we can get marriage counseling together or do split custody. Am I disgusting for doing this?

Why I always make sure I throw away my condom

The post from the guy about a girl saving his condom to show to her roommate caught my eye.

I’ll tell you the story of why I always make sure I throw away the empty condom in a place far from where I hooked up with someone I don’t have a stable relationship with.

A few years ago, a woman who had rejected me the first time I asked her out, reappeared and asked me out on a date. we went out, we had fun and she called me to her house.

we went wild and f-ed like rabbits. then, she said she was going to the bathroom and asked for the condom, because she said she would throw it in the trash can for me. I delivered without distrust.

Later, we f-ed again, we talked a little, I got ready to go home, and while she was in the bathroom a second time, I went to the fridge to get some water.

it was a single-door refrigerator, with a built-in freezer, which, when I opened it, the freezer door dislodged and bang! there was my condom being stored. I took it and put it in my pocket.

When she left the bathroom, I asked her to use it. I took the second condom that I had thrown in the trash, and left with both.

Months later I learned that she was pregnant. By chance of life, it was not my son.

Although I understand that this is a crazy and unusual story, as I lived it, since then I simply do not lose sight of my condom until I manage to make it disappear.

Netizens’ comments

1. You would’ve think thought it would be easier if she hooked up with some guy and just asked to go raw. The way it looks here there’s a large percentage of men who don’t even question it and just go if Offered.
2. Instead of carrying it around with you wouldn’t it be easier to just rinse it out in the sink and then throw it out?
3. Didn’t some famous guy put hot sauce in his used condoms to prevent this

Plastic surgery advice.

Hi fellow Singaporeans, I’m a 24 year old woman and as the title suggests, I’m considering to get my bewbs done. i am currently an A cup. Friends, family and my ex have been joking about my small chest since I was in secondary school.

My mum recently went for her enhancement surgery and even told me to consider going for it while I’m still young since it’s so common nowadays, she regret not going for hers earlier and i would look better with bigger bewbs.

Honestly i feel happy with my looks in general but whenever people comment about my small chest, (quite often) i feel super ugly, unattractive and insecure. I have a few questions to ask and hopefully get the opinions of both man, woman and people who have undergone the procedure.

1. Do men prefer bigger bewbs? Will it make a woman more attractive to you? (Just be honest)
2. To similar small-chested ladies, do you feel insecure? How do you accept your body and overcome your insecurities?
3. To people who have done the surgery, would you mind sharing your experience? Did you do it in SG or overseas? How much was it? Implants or fat transfer?

I would really appreciate everyone’s honest opinions. Don’t worry about being morally right or polite with your answers. Thank you in advance.

Netizen’s comments

My mum is also very preoccupied with the same thing, and frequently made comments about mine. I am very uncomfortable dressing up around her, she always have something to say. My dad frequently made comments about her body (too small, too big, too loose, too whatever). Growing up, I was very insecure about myself.

A few years back I considered implants, but reading up on potential health consequences (e.g. long-term low-grade inflammation, people not knowing their implants was making them sick until they took it out) I decided that if I want to have a more voluptuous look for a certain outfit then I’ll just wear push-up bra with lots of padding.

When I met my current partner, he made it very clear to me that he loves my body because it’s mine and not because of any specific characteristics. after seeing that my partner consistently treat me with a lot of love and care even though I am quite flat, I lost interest in them.

I guess I wasn’t into that, I just thought that it was the prerequisite for me to be lovable.

The company you keep around you is very important. I was able to meet my current partner because of luck, and because I believe my partner should build me up and not tear me down. Telling me my body type is not their preference just means that I’m not the right girl for them.

does anyone feel the same?

recently met up with friends and the topics are the same again, money money money money money. new condo, job, new this new that.

and as i get older, i feel i cant really relate to my old friends that much anymore, the things they do, their life goals is all about money, stress and pushing themselves to the max. biggest condo, bla bla.

am i the odd one out for not placing money at the forefront of everything?

Netizens’ comments

1. once they start getting married and have kids, the topic changes again… suddenly all the talk is about kids
2. i think it’s because money is a common topic that young working adults can relate to.
   esp after graduation and when ppl start working in different industries, their day-to-day experiences are no longer shared, so when they meet and talk about money, can click. when they get older and kids arrive, topic will change to kids.
   also, money is one way to low-key flex (or high-key flex for some), helps boost ego, repairs emotional damage.
   i have a group of friends who just talks about houses. another just talks about watches. another just talks about politics. another just talks about economics/world affairs.
   so just choose which group you wanna join, if dun like just make your excuses and don’t join.
   you’re not alone, i don’t think money is the be all end all, but hey what are my opinions worth? i’m just a nobody.
3. forgive me i don’t mean to be confrontational
   but looking at OP’s previous posts and comments made me realize that a lot of it is related to money and finance and housing and retirement and financial freedom and all that.
   i don’t know you as a person, but if we assume your reddit profile to be an extension of your person in real life, then it seems that you do value money greatly. maybe not at the absolute forefront of everything, as per your original question, but definitely to a large extent.
   therein lies the answer to your question.
   if you surround yourself with money related things, and bury yourself with money-related content, then you will naturally mix with money-related friends.
   are you certain you can’t relate to your friends anymore? are you certain you’re no longer interested in their chase for more money, bigger condo etc? because your actions seem to demonstrate a longing to attain material wealth, as well as resentment when you are unable to.
   if you truly have the desire to move away from money as per your original question, then you should take proper steps to purge this from your psyche. stop immersing yourself in wealth and related topics both online and offline. pursue other interests that you have, eg sports, music, art, etc. if you exercise, continue. if not, start exercising. boosts your mood. volunteer at a charity – makes you appreciate what you already have. give yourself time. as you spend more time on non-money-related activities, you will naturally start attracting more non-money-related friends.
4. yeah while everyone’s placating you, just take a look at your posts and appreciate the irony

I [22F] found out my boyfriend [22M] slept with his dying friend

TLDR; My boyfriend didn’t tell me that he slept with his dying friend. We were together when it happened. He’s still sad about her death. I feel jealous and I don’t know what to do.

I wouldn’t have found out if one of our mutual friends didn’t slip. My boyfriend and the girl did it when they were on vacation with other friends. She had a terminal illness and is dead now.

I’m confident that he was never attracted to her. They never had a relationship beyond that. She did have a secret crush on him though. She was the little sister of their friend group.

He was visiting the hospital when she died. He’s never had a death in his life before so it really shook him. For the past year, his mental health has been very unwell.

It’s not solely because of her death but it was the catalyst. He rarely, if ever, talks about his feelings except with me. I hate myself because I get angry inside whenever he mentions her. I can’t express my jealousy because she’s dead anyway.

This jealousy is eating me up. I just know that it wasn’t just f-ing. They totally made love because of her condition. I don’t even know who initiated it. It was probably something like how she didn’t want to die a virgin.

My boyfriend and I had never even slept together all the way then. To clarify, he didn’t lose his virginity to her but she did lose her virginity to him.

We have an otherwise perfect relationship. He’s always been a good boyfriend even when he’s at his lowest now. I had bad episodes before and the lowest of low points. He was the first who stood by me. My family is strict and didn’t approve of us but he tried hard to win even my extended family over.

We’ve been together for more than 3 years and have known each other since school. No history of infidelity from both parties.

I don’t know if I can talk to him about this. I don’t want to push him to the brink. But I’m also afraid that he might be dismissive of my feelings. What to do?

In the age of social media, where personal lives are often put on display for the world to see, a recent Facebook post by a Thai girl has ignited a debate about modern dating dynamics and the influence of social platforms. The post, in which the girl boldly states her requirement of being paid $200 for a dinner date, has stirred both curiosity and criticism.

She arrogantly said that if she go “work” meaning in a disco she would get even more

The Audacious Facebook Post

Roughly translates to:

“Whoever wants to eat with you has to be prepared to pay. I don’t eat for free when all I have is money because when I go to work I probably get more than that.”

The controversy began when the Thai girl took to Facebook to express her unique take on dating expectations. In her post, she unabashedly declared that anyone interested in having a meal with her would need to pay a hefty sum of $200. She went on to explain her rationale, stating that she does not believe in going out to eat for free and values her time and company.

Embracing Financial Independence

The girl’s perspective, although unconventional, sheds light on the changing dynamics of relationships in today’s world. Her assertion that she values her time and expects financial compensation for her company emphasizes a sense of financial independence and self-worth. This viewpoint prompts a discussion about the evolving roles of individuals in relationships and their expectations from each other.

Unveiling the Modern Dating Landscape

The Thai girl’s post brings to the forefront the concept of transactional dating, where individuals place a monetary value on their time and companionship. While traditional notions of courtship were rooted in mutual feelings and emotional connections, the digital age has introduced new dimensions to dating. The rise of dating apps, social media, and online interactions has led to diverse perspectives on what constitutes a successful and meaningful date.

The Influence of Social Media

Social media platforms like Facebook have become powerful tools for self-expression, allowing individuals to share their thoughts, opinions, and personal experiences with a global audience. In the case of the Thai girl, her unfiltered and direct approach to expressing her dating expectations highlights the extent to which social media can amplify individual voices and create viral conversations.