I recently found out that my bf was cheating on me.

When I had found out I was HYSTERICAL. I was a sobbing mess and the only thing I could think of was to find one of my friends to show her the screenshots I was sent of him cheating.

I had told her that they made me too upset to look at and asked if I could log into my Instagram account on her phone so she could help me figure out if they were real or not. She agreed, so I logged in and went back to class. Once class was over, I went to go find her and she revealed to me that she had actually messaged the girl that he cheated on me with.

I wasn’t upset even though she had done it without my permission. This whole situation has put me in a bad place mentally for the past few days and my friend knew this. When I told her that I didn’t know what to do, she told me to leave him.

I understand why she told me to leave him but I also know that she has never liked my bf. Fast forward to last night when she and I were talking to each other over text. She was telling me how she hated me bf and I brought up that she had “harassed” him for a while in the beginning of our relationship. She WENT OFF at me.

She told me that she had never harassed him. I brought up the fact that she would edit pictures of him and send them to him, and I know that this made him uncomfortable because he took all of his posts on Instagram down.

She told me that I don’t know what harassment is because if I did I wouldn’t be accusing her. I told her to “cool it” because she went from talking crap to my bf to just being rude to me. I explained to her that I wasn’t in a good enough place mentally to handle this and that she was making things worse.

She just replied that she hoped that she was being rude and that my feelings were hurt.

A few years ago, I was working at a corporate job, making a decent living and climbing the corporate ladder and my investment portfolio has help me pay off my condominium, car and a good amount if i decided not to work anymore.

But I wasn’t truly happy. I was in my late twenties and I felt like I was already living a boring and unfulfilled life. So I decided to take a leap of faith and retire at 30.

Most people thought I was crazy and asked me what I was going to do with my life. But I knew what I wanted to do. I was going to travel and explore the world. I wanted to see different cultures and experience new things.

I was able to fund my travels by living off my savings. But eventually, I found myself running out of things to do. That’s when I decided to start driving for Grab.

It was quite an eye-opening experience. I met a lot of people, from all walks of life. I heard their stories and got to explore different parts of the city that I’d never seen before. Most of the time, I just enjoyed the ride and the conversations. But there were also times when I had to deal with difficult customers.

I was thinking to get married and tried dating

So i met a girl through a mutual friend and we had a good time during our date.

Then the question came, what I work as bla bla bla.

So I told her I am driving Grab but i did not tell her that i was already retired. about 10-15mins after I told her that I was working as a Grab driver she seemed to start trying to cut short on our conversations and the date ended fairly quick after.

I did not realizes then and I tried to text her a week later to ask her out again. Her replied was cold and she said “I am looking for someone to build a career together and she said that I am not compatible with her.”

I immediately knew what she meant. My job as a Grab driver.

I replied: “I agree, as I am retired and driving Grab for fun. It seems like you are still very early in your career and we are in very different stages in life. Good luck”.

About another week later she tried to asked me out I declined and told her I was going for a solo holiday.

She tried to ask me out again a few weeks later but I continued to decline.

It was clear at this stage that she regretted sending me the message and it became evidently more clear that she is nothing but a gold digger.

Yesterday I (31F) received a mail from the clinic after I had a check up for my health and found out that I’ve contracted an STD. I showed my boyfriend (32M) and immediately asked him if he’s done anything.

This is not the first time he’s given me something and said the reason for the first time was he went down on a girl when we were on a break.

I believed him and we got treated. We moved on from it and two years later. He fully denied it this time and even tried to question me if I did anything and I know for a fact that I didn’t and I tested negative for results just about a year ago.

I’ve only been with him since then. We live together now so I was confused and mad that this happened to me again especially as I thought we were planning for a family and a future together and this disease can mess with my fertility.

After some time he said it’s possible to contract the STD from foreplay with another girl. He told me that it was a dare and that’s why he did it and that perhaps that’s were he got it from.

I asked him to call that friend and confirm that in fact he really did dare him to do that. And he said he didn’t want to get embarrassed in front of his friend.

Im unsettled because since he’s already given me an STD twice and both times he’s saying there was no penetration?!? But what are the chances that the only two times he’s ever did anything unfaithful he contracted and infected me with it?

It’s hard to believe what he did and didn’t do. I feel like he’s done more and it upsets me that I have to pay for it every time and I only find out from health records.

I still love him but totally see him in a different light and I don’t know if I can trust him again. I feel stupid if I try to work it out with him again.

What if this happens again?! What should I do? How should I approach this situation?

This happened a few years ago.

Single dude at the time, hanging out in a nightclub. The place was pretty crowded when suddenly a group of girls surrounded us. We all acted cool and started dancing with each other, having a good time.

One of the girls approached me and we start having a little chat. At the end of the night, she gave me her number.

We texted for two days, things were going well and we agreed to meet for a drink on a weekday. We go out, have a couple of drinks, get to know each other and stuff and the date was going smoothly. She was a kindergarten teacher (or something like that) and she recently became single too!

It was getting late and we decided to leave so I escort her back to her car. We talk a little more and she asks me to jump in the car – which I did. We make out and eventually we get a little touchy-feely… As the heat was turning up she leans back a bit, gives me a seductive look and asks “Can you talk dirty to me?”.

…Now prepare yourselves for the f up. I think to myself “I must be a considerate and responsible person and I shall not be a bad influence to that girl”. So without freaking hesitation, I reply “No, you must leave, cause you got work early in the morning!” At the time I didn’t even comprehend what I’ve just said or even consider what she was suggesting.

Naturally texting between us died down and eventually we lost contact; and I kept wondering what went wrong. Until one day, a couple of years later my brain started functioning properly and realized my major blunder.

Should I have done it?

GF’s international family have said that they’ll never accept our relationship, even though they’ve never met me. Looking for advice

My partner and I met in Feb 2020, right as the pandemic was kicking off. We instantly clicked – we had so much in common, it just felt natural. We spent our lockdown pretty much living together, in a new relationship, and everything was perfect. We knew it was meant to be really quick.

Partner had to return to her home country in August 2020 for a wedding, and the border closed behind her. We have been trying to get her back ever since while continuing our relationship long distance. Not even distance could get in the way – we are still completely obsessed with each other and are absolutely adamant that we want to spend our lives together. It’s been 506 days and counting long distances.

Last week, we finally got her flight booked to return. However, today I randomly got a message from her brother (I’ve never really spoken directly to her family due to the language barrier) saying that they will never accept our relationship and that they will never accept a relationship where the partner isn’t from their home country.

GF and I are absolutely adamant that we want to spend our lives together – her family’s approval is obviously incredibly important, but it’s not more important to me than our relationship, and her happiness.

How do I approach this? I’ve made it clear that I’m willing to earn their approval, but they won’t even come to the table. Any and all advice is appreciated.

Here are what netizens think:

• Right now work on your own relationship and being together. Make that your focus for now since you have been apart from each other. You have time to deal with her family. Just work right now getting together and going forward.

• Hey. I grew up in a family where this was the case. My dad’s mother gave him an ultimatum and he went to spend his life w/ his wife (my mom) instead of prioritizing his mother and her wishes. As a result I’ve never met my dad’s side of the family.

• Your best response to this is living well. Become successful and take great care of your partner, and leave them behind you.