A netizen recently shared a story online about his relationship with a female friend that appears can’t be bothered about him.

Here is the story

So who is the toxic friend here?

Me: (Female)

– I make the plan to get her nice and rather expensive birthday gift (anyway my birthday is before her), Nonetheless, I gave the birthday present to her first. If I don’t get her the present, I guess she will not get for me either.

– I am usually the one who initiates the meet-up and adjusted to her timing.

– sometimes I get rather unhappy with her as she can post on her social media thanking her other relatives/friends for the gifts she received but she don’t really wanna post about mine? She told me she has forgotten. Am I not being appreciated?

– When I get angry and stopped talking to her. She don’t even bother to talk to me either. But keep saying she care?

– I just wanted her to make the effort, but I don’t see any from her. She told me being my friend is very tired.

Her:

– She gave me expired gifts on my birthday explaining that she never notice it. She just find it nice and want to gift me as a birthday present. While I make so much effort in planning her gift the other way round

– She told me her work is busy and her family is her priority. To me I understand that. But no one is ever too busy for a friend? Like what I said. She seldom initiate and plan for the meet up.

– I explain my concern to her feeling unhappy that I am not being appreciated because she seldom mention about me in socia media but she can do it for other people. I was being called childish by her.

– She get annoyed saying that I always pick up things and quarrel with her over small little things? That’s because I care for her so much? But what did she do? I felt I am not being appreciated. I guess she don’t even care and make the effort as a friend, perhaps to me?

– She felt tired and stressful being my friend.

Here is what netizens think

• Part ways lah. Why you focus so much on this friend? To the extend “Wah u never mention me on social media”. Geesh. This is not your husband or bf right? If someone don’t appreciate you and treat you like donkey, you still want to post online and ask ppl to comment if you really are a donkey? Okay you are, pls move on. 

• The reason why you initiate the meetup is because you want to gain something from her!You are so materialistic loh! Why must you give her something and expect her to give you something in return?? Somemore need her to post on social media. Need to be so ego about it anot? I agree with her, you are childish and need to grow up.

• Why do you validate ur friendship based on the cost n condition of gifts? isnt it what you give is from ur heart & dont expect anything back? Maybe what ur friend feel is that youre expecting the same value of gifts in return too much that she slowly feels its pressuring her thats why she says its tiring to be friends with you. If you value your friend without expectation, you will see a different light. Think about it.

I’ve been with my GF for 2 years and long-distance. Overall we have a happy and loving relationship but there’s been a few instances where I’ve broken it off but it never lasts more than a day or two. Again we’re very happy and love each other and worked through a lot together. But about a week into our relationship she told me she was sick. It didn’t affect much during the week, we still texted and sent pics and videos regularly. It wasn’t until the weekend that things got weird to me.

She pretty much went dark for the whole weekend aside from maybe 5 messages. It would take her at least 4 hrs to reply, if at all, but I know she had her phone nearby. We had a streak on Instagram sending pics and videos every day. I was working during the day and overnight so I almost let the streak die when she saved it literally last minute. She’d also leave me on “read” for hours too so I know she saw my messages. I didn’t think anything of it, just that maybe she got worse and couldn’t reply? I did tell myself that if the weekend ended and she magically got better that would be a red flag.

Surprise! Around the middle of the night on Sunday she sends me a barrage of texts. Like 5-10 messages back to back saying that she missed me and she’s feeling better and if I wanted to talk she was down. I didn’t respond until I was getting ready to head home in the morning and it was a breakup text. It just seemed too weird to me that she’d pretty much ignore me all weekend and then send all those messages in the middle of the night. When I asked what she was doing all weekend she just said sleeping, but I know she was opening my messages minutes after I’d send them and just not responding.

Eventually, I decided I don’t have proof she cheated so we ended up getting back together but…I still wonder what happened that weekend from time to time.

Just wanted to put the story out there and see if anyone had advice or a similar experience?

Here are what netizens think:

If you think she’s cheating then she probably is. Suspicions like these don’t rise out of anywhere. All you want is proof because there’s this small sliver of hope inside of you that she didn’t..

It’s one of those trust things tbh. Unless you have any sort of proof its all trust

I have a rental that my brother has lived in since 2016 and currently pays $1200/month rent (I know its low but oh well). He has 3 children (18, 24, & 24). The oldest 2 live on their own and the 18 y/o is in poly.

He got married in December and moved his new wife and her 3 kids in. So basically the house becomes a kampong.

The issue is my niece does not like or get along with her step-siblings or stepmom. WW3 broke out when her stepmom tried to take her room from her. But my sister in law wanted it for her son.

My brother had not made a final decision and I really don’t know which way he was leaning. My niece called me in tears and told me her stepmom told her that she would be giving up her room.

I called my brother and told him I found it unacceptable that his wife was trying to take his daughters room away and put her good for nothing son in there. He told me to mind my own god damn business and hung up on me.

I proceeded to email him and tell him that I was considering 2 options. I would raise his rent to $3000 a month if my niece moved out and I would mind my own god damn business. Option #2 I evict all of them and niece stays put and I mind my own god damn business. I also told him I did not want his stepson living there at all period. If he was there 30 days from now I would start eviction proceedings.

This got his attention and he backed down completely. He was angry with me, his daughter, and angry with his wife to never mention it again and told his stepson to find his own place.

Problem solved told my niece to call me if her stepmom caused her any trouble.

My brother has gone and told other family members how I interfered and if I just let him handle it he would have resolved it himself. He says his marriage is now in the ditch and no one is talking to each other now. Somehow that is my fault?

Did I involve myself when I shouldn’t of? The only place where I think I might be an A-hole is when I told him to kick his stepson out because this made issues worse with his wife.

I lost my husband 8 weeks ago, he had cancer and it got treated then it came back. It was and still is so devastating, I’m trying to stay collected and welcoming to all the supportive family members who come to offer help despite my constant change in mood due to grief.

My sister is the most supportive one, although her husband would act inappropriately sometimes, especially after he told me after the funeral that now I’m “burden” free and can “live my life” given I was my husband’s sole carer. I try to let go of those comments thinking he didn’t know better.

He, my sister, and my family came to visit last week. They cooked dinner for me and kept me company for a bit. After dinner, my brother in law asked for a minute with me inside the kitchen. He started telling about a coworker of his who’s single then went on to list everything good about him.

I was confused as to why he was telling me all that. he then reached out for his pant pocket and pulled a piece of paper with his co worker’s phone number on it telling me to give him a call sometime. I was floored I couldn’t really tell if he was joking or what but he looked serious and kept insisting I take the number. I lost it, I just started yelling at him that my husband just died and he was out of his mind to try to hook me up with a coworker of his. He tried to explain that it wasn’t like that and that he was just offering me something helpful but I didn’t know what he meant. I called him disrespectful then yelled at him to get out of my house. My sister and the others ran into the kitchen not knowing what was going on, I told them then pressured him to leave my house but my sister asked that I calm down but I couldn’t.

He left then my sister left quietly.

After I’d calmed down I sat with my family and they said I was right in that what he did was not okay, but I needed to keep in mind that he and my sister helped so much by cooking for me, comforting me and doing so much for me in these difficult times so, I shouldn’t have reacted like that and could’ve been a little more considerate and graceful. They said kicking him out was too much and I should call him later and talk things out so I won’t ruin my relationship with him and possibly my sister.

It’s been days and I haven’t called and my sister hasn’t visited or called which means she is upset with me and now I’m beginning to think they’re most likely hurt because I acted ungrateful after everything they’ve done for me.

I’m 22 years old. I have been struggling with credit card debt since I got it. I have racked up more than $17,000 in credit card debt and I am feeling overwhelmed.

I remember when I first got my first credit card. I was so excited. I thought I was finally an adult, and I could do whatever I wanted.

I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I started making small purchases here and there and before I knew it, I had accumulated a few thousand dollars in debt.

At first, I was able to make the minimum payments with ease. But as I got older and started taking on more responsibility, I had to pay for things like rent, food, and other necessities. I found myself unable to make my payments on time, and the late fees and interest started piling up.

The debt started to feel like a mountain that I could never climb out of. I started to feel like I was in a never-ending cycle of debt and I was powerless to do anything about it. I was so embarrassed and ashamed of my situation that I didn’t want to tell anyone about it.

I started to research ways to get out of debt and I realized that if I wanted to get out of debt, I would need to make some changes. I started by cutting back on unnecessary expenses. I stopped buying things I didn’t need, like luxury items and expensive meals. I also stopped using my credit cards and started using cash to pay for things.

I also created a budget and started tracking my spending. Instead of spending recklessly, I started to plan ahead and make sure I had enough money for the things I needed. I also started to look for ways to make extra money, like taking on freelance jobs or getting a part-time job.

I also started to look into debt consolidation and other debt relief options. I found a reputable debt relief company who was willing to help me. They negotiated with my creditors to lower my interest rates and reduce my monthly payments. This allowed me to make more progress in paying off my debt.

After a few months of hard work and dedication, I was finally able to pay off my debt. I was so relieved and proud of myself for taking control of my finances and getting out of debt. I learned a valuable lesson from my experience and I want to share it with others.

No matter your age, it is never too late to get control of your finances. It takes hard work and dedication, but it is possible. Don’t be ashamed of your debt, instead, take control of the situation and find a solution that works for you.

I hope my story inspires others to take control of their finances and get out of debt. It can be done and it is possible.