I just missed out on a hook up because of my belly
When my ex dumped me.. it ended rough and she ended up telling me that my belly disgusted her and got in the way in the bedroom.
I’ve tried a lot of dieting since, but never had the discipline. I’m finally getting somewhere now and am down 6 kg, but I’m still very fat (122 kg)
Anyways I’ve been seeing this girl for the past 2 months and she was over at my place.. we were making out and things go heated.
She asked me if I wanted to f and I did, but my insecurities got the best of me and now I’m scared to get intimate with women..
I came up with a dumb lie and said that I couldn’t due to some medicine I was taking at the moment (sounds like complete bs, I know) and now I’m pretty sure I f-ed everything up..
my ex really messed my self esteem up
Netizens’ comments
She’s sees you. She knows your size. And she still wants to sleep with you!! Take her out again and go for it!!!
Look, you aren’t hiding your weight which means she knew full well what she was doing and what she wanted, and she wanted you, belly and all. Tell her the truth, anyone who actually gives a damn about you won’t judge you for it, and if she does then she isn’t worth it.
Be honest with her. You know what really turns girls on? That’s right, honesty.
Bro. The belly has powers unlike any I have ever seen. The dad bod is so in. Whether it’s giant sweatshirts for a girl to steal. Or it’s the feeling of a big warm safe body to snuggle with at night. Idk but women flirt with me more than ever now that I have a dad bod. My wife loves it absolutely. but don’t give up . The belly will win.
Had an interview for an upper management position in a large retailer today. I scheduled the interview with the district manager last week for 12:30pm today.
I arrive at 12:20 and check in at customer service. The team member there said she notified them and they said they would be “right down”.
20 minutes later, nobody has come down, that team member walks past me again and said she notified them a second time but they must be in a meeting.
Another 25 minutes goes by and nobody has come. I get up and notify that same team member that I’m leaving and if the district manager does eventually come down to let them know that.
As I’m walking out the district manager finally comes. She said she’s sorry and that she got caught up. I said that’s fine but I have other things I have to do and it was extremely unprofessional to leave me waiting for 45 minutes and continued to walk out.
I’d also like to say I’m an extremely patient person and have never done anything like this before. I have a ton of experience and multiple job offers on the table but the one today was the one I was Gung ho for. Owell.
Netizens’ comments
Respect goes all ways, you respected them, they didn’t respect you.
5 minutes I understand. 10 minutes I can forgive. 15 minutes better be a good offer. 20+ and they’re either incompetent or testing you, and either one isn’t worth it.
I understand that’s how many people do things, they might be a little late. It’s funny that a manager doesn’t have any time management skills. You prioritize tasks, estimate how long they’ll take, and the big one, something urgent comes up, you can delegate. I’m practically never late, unless it’s something out of my control, like a blown tyre or so. But that’s why phones were invented. I believe in leading by example, that’s why the manager should always be held to a higher standard. Don’t have to run a tight ship, but a healthy one. Not nitpicking if it’s a friend running late. But in a professional setting, I expect better.
Found out my Girlfriend of 10 years cheated on me on the day my grandma died
I (M28) found out that my girlfriend of 10 years cheated on me with several people.
I found out about it through a friend who found her profile on tinder. I was at his place because i lost my grandma that day and I needed a friend. first he didnt wanna show it to me on that day but he came to the conclusion that I have to know it right now.
It felt like my world collapsed and I had a breakdown.
I waited for her in our Apartment to confront her with a screenshot. First she denied everything but then she admitted that she cheated on me with several different dudes over the last year because she needed the attention and the last time she cheated was on my birthday, thats why she was running late for my Party.
Of course I broke up with her I packed some things and drove to my friends house.
But thats not even the worst, my best friend of 20 years called me a few days later and asked me if I wanna grab a few cold ones and ofc I said yes, I really needed him and besides that, he was acting strange the last weeks and I wanted to ask him if everything is alright.
Long story short after some beer he told me that he is sleeping with my now ex for a few month now and he was the one she slept with on my birthday.
Then he showed me some Screenshots my ex sent him from at least 15 different dudes saying the she was great in bed.
He started crying and said he is sorry and that he feels like shit. I was frozen like I had no idea what I should say now. I got angry and smashed a bottle on his wall.
3 minutes after I started screaming at him, my ex called him and he kicked me out because she needed him at the Apartment.
I broke up with my then bf 3 months ago because I thought he had stolen 846 dollars from me. I just found the money.
I can’t say this on my main account and I need to write this out but oh my God, I messed up. I messed up badly.
I just found the money. It was in the chest of drawers i put it in but the drawer I put it in had a small opening in the back (I didn’t know it was there) and the envelope of money fell down there.
I would never have discovered it but the drawers broke so I was taking the chest apart and there was the envelope. It’s the same envelope because it has my handwriting on it and the receipt from the bank.
I have to apologize but this is going to be so bad. I told my friends and family about this, about how I suspected that he had stolen from me since he was the only one in my house that day. No one else had a key and I haven’t left that room or my house with the money.
God, he lost mutual friends because of me. I ended a 2 year relationship over this. I just didn’t believe him when he said he didn’t take it.
I hurt him for no reason and then I blocked him. A apology won’t be enough. I’m going to contact him tomorrow and then I’ll tell everyone else. Wow, I messed up.
Netizens’ comments
You have to defend him as loud as you slandered him.
Over 30 years ago I lived with a guy that I really, really loved. His sister came to visit and lost a couple hundred dollars. I got blamed for taking it. It was ugly. I cried so hard and just couldn’t understand how anybody would think I would steal from them, especially him. We split up. She found it not long after I left. Even this many years later I think about that every now and then and it still hurts that I was called a thief when they were the ones that lost their own money. I lost some friends during all that. It sucks.
After you apologize to him you need to make sure you tell everyone. I doubt he will want to speak to anyone who didn’t believe him but they still should know the truth.
The Elections Department earlier announced that they had received 6 applications for the Certificate of Eligibility (CEO) to run for the presidential election 2023, and issued 3 COEs to Ng Kok Song, Tharman Shanmugaratnam and Tan Kin Lian.
Following the announcement, presidential hopeful George Goh issued a statement lamenting the rejection of his application for the COE.
He said that he is “very disappointed” at his rejection, and highlighted how he had “submitted a very strong case detailing my experience and performance managing five companies”.
He said that he is “saddened” and described the decision as having “deprived Singaporeans of a wider choice to select who the next President will be,” and that “It is a setback not just for me but for Singapore.”
George Goh’s press statement
From the Desk of George Goh Ching Wah Date: 18 August 2023
Press Statement
I am very disappointed at the decision of the PEC to reject my application for a certificate of eligibility.
My legal and financial team submitted a very strong case detailing my experience and performance managing five companies which met the shareholders’ equity and profitability criteria. I was the most senior executive in each of these companies.
The PEC rejected our argument that my experience in these companies was equivalent to that of a CEO running a single company, and took a very narrow interpretation of the requirements without explaining the rationale behind its decision.
This decision has deprived Singaporeans of a wider choice to select who the next President will be.
It is a setback not just for me but for Singapore.
I am saddened, but I am heartened by the support shown to me by many Singaporeans over the past few weeks and I would like to thank all of them for their support.
MAN ARRESTED FOR LOANSHARK HARASSMENT WITHIN 24 HOURS
The Police have arrested a 30-year-old man for his suspected involvement in a case of loanshark harassment.
On 15 August 2023, the Police were alerted to a case of loanshark harassment at a residential unit along Bedok North Street 3, where the front door and a pair of slippers were set on fire. The walls beside the unit were also scribbled with loanshark-related graffiti.
Through follow-up investigations and with the aid of images from Police cameras, officers from Bedok Police Division, Ang Mo Kio Police Division and Criminal Investigation Department (CID) established the identity of the man and arrested him on the same day of the incident. Preliminary investigations revealed that the man is also allegedly involved in two other cases of loanshark harassments. Two bottles containing kerosene and thinner, four markers and one lighter were seized as case exhibits.
The man will be charged in court on 17 August 2023 under the Moneylenders Act 2008. For first-time offenders, the offence of loanshark harassment carries a fine of not less than $5,000, and not more than $50,000, with imprisonmen of up to five years, and caning of up to six strokes.
The Police have zero tolerance for loanshark harassment activities. Those who deliberately vandalise properties, cause annoyance and disruption to public safety and security, will be dealt with severely in accordance with the law.
Members of the public are advised to stay away from loansharks and not to work with or assist them in any way. The public can call the Police at ‘999’ or the X-Ah Long hotline at 1800-924-5664 if they suspect or know of anyone who could be involved in illegal loansharking activities.
Case exhibits
PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE 16 August 2023 @ 9:05 PM
THREE MEMBERS OF THE PUBLIC PRESENTED WITH PUBLIC SPIRITEDNESS AWARD, TWO ORGANISATIONS AND TWO STAFF PRESENTED WITH COMMUNITY PARTNERSHIP AWARD
On 17 August 2023, Assistant Commissioner of Police (AC) Serene Chiu, Commander of Clementi Police Division, presented the Public Spiritedness Award to three members of the public for assisting the Police in three separate cases. Two organisations and two staff were also commended for their strong community partnership with the Police.
Cases Commended for Public Spiritedness Award
On 12 May 2023, Mr Muhammad Shalehin Bin Ali was at home when he heard noises coming from his corridor. Sensing that something was amiss, Mr Muhammad Shalehin made a check at the corridor. He observed a man sawing his neighbour’s window panel and attempting to unlock the wooden door. Knowing that his neighbour was not at home, Mr Muhammad Shalehin immediately confronted the man who subsequently fled. He called the Police for assistance and provided crucial information including the man’s appearance and clothing as well as the direction in which he fled. His actions led to the swift arrest of the man for attempted housebreaking.
On 26 May 2023, the victim and her friend spotted a man following them into an outlet at JEM shopping mall. The victim’s friend noticed that the man was hiding something in his shoe and shouted at him, prompting the man to flee. Mr Muhammad Sufie Rashid was shopping nearby when he overheard the commotion. He quickly chased after the man and managed to detain him. A handphone was found hidden in the man’s shoe, with its lens exposed through an opening of the tip of the shoe. The man was subsequently arrested for voyeurism.
On 13 June 2023, Mr Chua Eng Keong, a Senior Service Associate with SMRT, had just ended his night shift and was heading home when he noticed a man recording an upskirt video using his handphone on the escalator of Jurong East MRT station. He immediately confronted the man and alerted the female victim. The man admitted to taking the video and deleted the video in front of Mr Chua and the victim. Although the victim needed to rush off, Mr Chua brought the man to the service counter and sought for the Police’s assistance. The man was subsequently arrested for voyeurism.
Individuals Commended for Community Partnership Award (Individual)
Two staff were presented with the Community Partnership Award (Individual) in recognition of their commitment and contribution towards detecting and preventing crimes.
On 11 May 2023, Mr Patrick Lim, Security Manager of Tanglin Trust School, was informed by a female staff of the school about an indecent act that she witnessed at One-North Park. He advised the staff to lodge a police report and provided crucial information including clear descriptions of the man and the exact location to the Police. His swift actions led to the arrest of the man for making gestures intended to insult the modesty of a person.
In June 2023, Mr B Murali, a taxi driver with ComfortDelgro Corporation Limited, provided vital information to the Police about a man carrying three gunny sacks of copper wire onboard his taxi. The information allowed the Police to solve a case of Theft in Dwelling and arrest the culprit swiftly.
Organisations Commended for Community Partnership Award
The following two organisations were commended for their close collaboration with Clementi Police Division in enhancing crime prevention measures to prevent, deter and detect crime. In recognition of their significant contributions, the following organisations were presented with the Community Partnership Award (Organisation).
• Ng Teng Fong General Hospital • Albirex Niigata Singapore FC
AC Serene Chiu expressed her heartfelt appreciation to the award recipients for their unwavering commitment to keep our community safe and secure. She said, “Fighting crime is a community effort. The award recipients have demonstrated commitment and took action to prevent, deter and detect crime. We thank them for their community mindedness and vigilance in keeping Singapore safe and secure. We hope their stories will inspire others.”
Group photo of award recipients awarded by AC Serene Chiu ▼
PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE 17 August 2023 @ 6:00 PM
POLICE ADVISORY ON NEW VARIANT OF SCAMS INVOLVING MALICIOUS DATING APPLICATIONS
The Police have observed a new variant of scams involving malicious dating applications (apps). Since July 2023, at least 19 victims have fallen prey, with total losses amounting to at least $13,000.
In these cases, victims would receive in-app messages from female subjects on TikTok or over dating apps like MI Chat or Tagged. The victims would be asked to continue the engagement on WhatsApp. The scammers would then entice the victims by asking if they would like to continue chatting via a one-to-one video call while being undressed or date the girl of their choice, or to access obscene videos/ photographs of the female subjects. The scammers would send victims a uniform resource locator (URL) link over WhatsApp, requiring the victims to download an Android Package Kit (APK) file, an app created for Android’s operating system. After downloading and installing the APK file, the scammers would be able to retrieve the victims’ banking credentials once they log in to their internet banking accounts. Subsequently, victims discovered unauthorised transactions from their banking accounts.
The Police would like to remind members of the public of the dangers of downloading apps from third-party or dubious sites. Members of the public are advised to adopt the following precautionary measures:
ADD – anti-virus/anti-malware apps available on official Play Store or App Store to your device. Update your devices’ operating systems and applications regularly to be protected by the latest security patches. Disable “Install Unknown App” or “Unknown Sources” in your phone settings. Do not grant permission to persistent pop-ups that request for access to your device’s hardware or data.
CHECK – for scam signs with official sources (e.g., visit www.scamalert.sg or call the Anti-Scam Helpline on 1800-722-6688). When asked to download unknown apps, check the developer information on the app listing as well as the number of downloads and user reviews to ensure it is a reputable and legitimate application.
TELL – authorities, family, and friends about scams. Report the number to WhatsApp to initiate in-app blocking and report any fraudulent transactions to your bank immediately.
If you have already downloaded and installed the app or suspect that your phone is infected with malware, please take the following steps:
Turn your phone to “flight mode”.
Run an anti-virus scan on your phone.
Check your bank/Singpass/CPF accounts etc for any unauthorised transaction(s) using other device(s).
If there are unauthorised transaction(s), report to the bank, relevant authorities, and lodge a Police report.
After completing steps a-c, if you believe that your phone has not been infected with malware, you may resume usage of your phone. As a further precaution, you may consider doing a “factory reset” of your phone and changing important passwords.
If you have any information relating to such crimes or if you are in doubt, please call the Police Hotline at 1800-255-0000, or submit it online at www.police.gov.sg/iwitness. All information will be kept strictly confidential. If you require urgent Police assistance, please dial ‘999’.
For more information on scams, members of the public can visit www.scamalert.sg or call the Anti-Scam Helpline at 1800-722-6688. Fighting scams is a community effort. Together, we can ACT Against Scams to safeguard our community!
Annex
Example of a conversation over WhatsApp ▼
Example of the malicious dating app that victims were asked to download ▼
PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE 17 August 2023 @ 7:30 PM
Presidential candidate Tan Kin Lian took to Facebook to share how he feels the allowance for NSFs should be increased to $1,500.
In his Facebook post, where he referred to himself in the third person, he said that Singapore soldiers should be taken seriously and agreed with a “Chiniwa Chiniwa” on increasing the allowances for NSFs.
He also added that some countries have national service terms of less than 12 months and are doing fine, and opined for similar lengths of NS servitudes in Singapore, suggesting NS to be cut to 8 or 12 months.
Tan Kin Lian’s Facebook post
Chiniwa Chiniwa said.
Help to Raise NS Fulltime Salary, Under $1,000 per month is too Little. The Government needs to take its Soldiers Seriously, it needs to take National Security Seriously
Tan Kin Lian replied.
I agree. The NS allowance should be $1,500. If the government finds this to be too costly, they should cut down the full time NS to 8 or 12 months. Some countries have NS for less than 12 months. They are doing fine.
Current NS allowances
According to Central Manpower Base (CMPB)
“You will be given a rank allowance in recognition of your contributions. Those in higher ranks are given a higher quantum in recognition of their heavier responsibilities. You will also be given vocation allowance in recognition of the different vocational demands placed on you. Your total NS allowance comprise both the rank allowance and vocation allowance. (Note: Since 1 Mar 2020, combat allowance has been replaced by vocation allowance.)“
Monthly rank allowance
Enlistees
Specialists
Officers
Rank
Starting rank allowance
Rank
Starting rank allowance
Rank
Starting rank allowance
Recruit or Private
$680
Specialist Cadet
$770
Officer Cadet
$960
Lance Corporal
$700
Third Sergeant
$1000
Second Lieutenant
$1200
Corporal
$750
Second Sergeant
$1100
Lieutenant
$1380
Corporal First Class
$790
First Sergeant
$1170
Vocation Allowance
S/N
Vocations
Monthly vocation allowance
1
Service and Technical vocations
$75
2
All combatants except those under S/N 3 and 4
$225
3
AircrewArmour, Guards, InfantryCombat Medics, Specialists or Officers in the Medical Response Force or deployed on the Singapore Civil Defence Force ambulancesSeagoing
$300
4
Chemical, Biological, Radiological Defence or Explosive Ordinance DisposalCommandoNaval Diver
In a world intertwined with technology, where connections are often formed through the virtual realm, a heart-wrenching story has emerged that serves as a stark reminder of the risks that come with online relationships.
A woman, who had dreams of love and companionship, found herself ensnared in the web of a love scam that would cost her dearly – both emotionally and financially.
Blinded by love, she had transferred $400,000 via multiple transactions to a man that she met on a dating app for “investment opportunities” and promising her good returns for her money.
The man then became uncontactable after that receiving the money, and the woman realised that she had been scammed.
Love in the Digital Era: A Blossoming but Deceptive Bond
According to a press release from the Singapore Police Force, the woman first met the man on a dating app, where they soon developed a “relationship” with each other.
However, the path of this relationship took a sudden and treacherous turn. The man, a seemingly charming 29-year-old, introduced the woman to what appeared to be a golden investment opportunity.
He painted a vivid picture of substantial returns, enticing her with promises of good returns. Blinded by love and the allure of wealth, the woman agreed and transferred $400,000 to him.
As trust flourished, the man capitalized on the vulnerability of the woman’s heart. Under the guise of investments, he requested funds from the woman, who make multiple transactions to him amounting to about $400,000, before the man became uncontactable.
On August 15, she lodged a police report against him after realising that she had been scammed. Officers from the Central Police Division began investigating and established his identity, before arrested him yesterday (17 August).
At the time of writing, police investigations into the incident are currently underway, and if found guilty of cheating, the man faces a jail term of up to 10 years and a fine.
