One of my best guy friends sent me some really shocking messages. It wasn’t even some normal nonsense. It was really really weird… And in one of the messages he even said he loved me (I’m pretty sure that’s what he tried to write) God I’m feeling disgusted. I don’t know what to do.

He basically text something along: He wants to spread the butter and use his tongue to taste every aspect of my body. (the text he send was more adult and disgusting than my description)

How to react. I’m so freaking shocked. That’s what he thinks of me? How can I even look at him again?

I confronted him

We talked. He swears he didn’t do it on purpose and it was all because our chat was open. I don’t know still. He said some really hurtful things… I said I wanted to end the friendship cauise I can’t trust him anymore. And he begged me (literally begged me) not to. His voice even cracked and I thought he was gonna cry.

And for one reason or another, that made me feel more sick and disgusted.

I think many of you guys would be thinking that he started talking dirty when I rejected him. No, it wasn’t like that. I just didn’t say anything. He kinda sent all of his messages at the same time.

Wasn’t waiting for me to say anything. And suddenly got off the phone

Here are what netizens think:

• Drunk or not he has changed the dynamic of the friendship. If you decide to get back to a format of normalcy, first you have to set strict boundaries. Also you should inform your partner of the situation which might push you to end 1 or the other due too her possibly feeling uncomfortable. In the end it will be upsetting but he is the one who changed it. Doesn’t make him right or wrong in itself but how he respects your decisions afterwards.

• If he had just been slightly flirty, or just revealed that he was crushing on you, I wouldn’t blame him for that or hold it against him. But he obviously was intentionally making you uncomfortable by being disgustingly dirty  because he knows you don’t want him back. I don’t care that he was drunk, that’s a shitty thing to do to someone. I don’t see how you can be friends with him after this and I don’t think you should try either. He’s shown what kind of person he is.

Can anyone tell me how AITA in this situation?

Basically, in a whatsapp group, one of my friend sent a photo of his backyard, and it’s at night. All he said was “guys, I can’t believe that thing is there”, implying that there’s a supernatural being in the photo.

Then everyone in the group was like “Omg that’s so scary”, or “That’s insane knowing the ghost is right there”. Thing is…. There’s absolutely nothing I asked where, and everyone gave me a different answer, then all proceeded to go like “Oh there’s actually more than one that’s scary”.

So what I did was, I took the photo, put it in Lightroom and just a touch of Photoshop to brighten up the photo enough. And there’s still…. Nothing I sent to them and they say I need to look carefully. I even changed different filter to make it clearer, and still nothing. I asked them where are the ghosts at all?

And they kicked me out of the group

I showed the photo to my family and other friends, all of them say they can see it and when I showed the brighten up photo edit, all of them hates me for pointing out there’s nothing.

I learned that people just want to have the attention of “Oooh look at meeeee I can see supernatural stuff ooooooh I’m cool you’re not ooooh”

So how AITA for calling it out?

Look, I believe supernatural being exist. Just, stop pretending to see it when there’s obviously nothing. This is real life. Not some anime weeb shit where you have special powers to save the universe.

Please, grow up already sheeeeeeesssshhhh.

Here are what netizens think:

• there are people like you, many things in life, they can see but you cannot see, even if they pointed out you, still you cannot see. In olden days, we called such people ‘square headed’ because cannot see never mind the square heads will keep on dwelling on the issue until everybody became very ‘pek chek’

• You are taking jokes too seriously. So seriously it becomes annoying for others to try explaining the ‘joke’ to you, until they decided its more cost effective to ‘kick you out’.On a serious note – if really got ghost also so what?

• A.H. or not is not the issue here. The question is how badly do you want to be accepted by said circles. We’re social creatures, and we’ve evolved to hate isolation. But thanks to population saturation, at least you have choices to pick from. If you can’t put up with the social norm of that circle, then find new ones. If you can’t leave (like your family), you can choose to try and convert them at the risk of disrupting the peace, or just go along and live a harmonious life.

I think I have come to the point of giving up being a man.

It is depressing when I can’t find a job and some recruitment events are locked in for females only. If I were to switch gender maybe I will have better luck.

It is depressing when you look at the tuition assignments page and you see most of them using for “female tutor”. I find that there is virtually no value in being a male.

Then women treat you like you are a sicko just because you are male. I experimented with crossdressing. I went out and about. I noticed women did not treat me the same way. They had close proximity and did not keep much distance. That same day I dressed out, I went to a restaurant and the waiter pulled out a seat for me. When the day was done I made my way home tired. A man offered me his seat. Now I realise that my life is miserable because I am male.

Sometimes now I just feel like telling my wife that I want to switch over to being a female because being a male is not that attractive anymore to me. It is depressing. You can say hi to a kid and people will think you have a motive. When I was dressed out I remember saying hi and the parent asked the kid to say hi to “jie jie”. What a difference.

I thought about why men are the ones committing crimes.

Maybe I understand. You just feel that you are a sicko just because you are branded at the birth male. Men are not engaged by society much. They are given jobs. The good ones are reserved for women. The law also view a man as a prospective S criminal if he is accused. When I am on the train and a female moves her butt towards me without seeing or sensing if anyone is behind her, I am the one who has to jump out of her way so that I don’t get accused.

Being a man I have to be sensitive to my surroundings. It adds extra stress to the brain. I remember how easy it was when I dressed out. Men gave me the way! I didn’t have to care much!

Every day of how women slam men in a lot of situations. I have no more strength. Might as well give up and join them and be a woman. If you can’t win them then join them is a phrase right?

Maybe one day my wife wakes up she won’t see me at home. I will be in Thailand in an operating theatre – ready to be processed into a man-made female according to customised specifications.

Sorry if this post sounds depressing. I have given up being male. I am now waiting to just execute my final plans to transform. I obtained approval letters from two online dud psychiatrists in the US and the surgeon in Pattaya has already agreed to perform the surgery for THB350,000.

We are very traditional and my mom and dad both spent at least part of their childhood in Malaysia. My dad was raised to believe that you marry a woman who will make a good mom and who fits some social requirements, and you can sleep with anyone you want on the side. I get that is something he was raised with, but he was in the SG at the time of his marriage and wasn’t totally unaware of how most people view marriage.

He married my mom because she was very nurturing and he knew she would make a great mom, but he had girlfriends on the side throughout their marriage. When I was 12 he met “Anna” at a party and he literally had my mom take the car and talk to her for 8 hours. She became his best friend which was greatly upsetting to my mom.

My dad and Anna definitely had an emotional affair, which became physical at some point. From 12-18 she was always around, hanging on him, making inappropriate jokes in front of my mom, sleeping over our house sometimes when she fought with her husband (Anna comes from a similar culture and married for money/status) Needless to say I hate Anna.

Soon after, he divorced my mom and immediately proposed to Anna. My mom has never gotten over this. She has zero idea how to date or move on and hates him to the point she hardly wants to be in the same room as him.

I’m getting married soon and decided to have my mom walk me down the aisle. When I told my dad he was clearly upset and ended our visit abruptly. Anna sent me a long long message about how I’m a privileged girl and I have no idea what it was like growing up in the kampong days and the things that shaped my dad, and that I am hurting him with my ignorance and righteousness. She said she hates that he is still paying for my wedding because I don’t deserve a thing.

At this point I want to uninvite Anna but probably won’t, but AITA for not having my dad walk me down the aisle. I love him. He was a great dad, but I feel that actions have consequences, and my mom is more deserving.

A girl who is joining the workforce posted online and asked if make-up is mandatory at a workspace.

Here is what she said:

Is it common to wear makeup when in the workforce? I’m joining the workforce soon, it’s an office job. All the while through school I’ve never worn makeup before.

My mother always tells me only those loose women wear makeup to attract guys, and forbid me to wear makeup. So I don’t really know anything about makeup at all, I’ve watched some youtube videos but it seems very overwhelming to me. Will I be judged for not wearing makeup and is it more polite to wear makeup?

I’m very lost and anxious.

Here are what netizens told her:

• What kind of office jobs? Do you need to face clients? I have colleagues coming to office without makeup too! Anyway now need to wear mask you put lipstick also no use.

• Makeup is showing respect to yourself & others ( by being presentable ).Dun have to be very heavy full makeup. Just loose powder with lipgloss will be sufficient. Looking good will leave a better impression for others on u too.Good luck to your new job.

• To look presentable loh, just like guys comb their hair and shave.

• its up to your own preference.I hated makeup when I go to work. Plus now you need to wear mask,who gives a shit if you have make up beneath. As long as you have self confidence. There’s no need for makeup. That being said, some companies have a dress code which includes make up. If there isn’t then don’t bother. Some make up contains lots of junk ingredients like lead in lipsticks. Reduce such exposures is better. Some say its a form of respect to others, but I would say,learn to respect yourself,love yourself, before you think about that. Such sayings are commercial talks to make women buy makeup.After all,which company doesn’t want to cash in on women’s insecurities?

• my mother also told me hold hands will get pregnant. i think i fathered quite few already.

• Dolling yourself up can also be for yourself, your own mental well being. Your mother’s opinion was for a young girl/teenager in hopes to reduce your chance of having bgr problems, no longer applicable to a young working female adult. Personally I feel better if I put a bit of make up when I go out. Which girl wouldn’t want to look nice?Now everyone wear mask, already cover half the face. First day of work just put a bit at the area that the mask didn’t cover and access if the other ladies at the office put any. See if you want to blend in or you want to do what you want. Personally I find women who make an effort to look presentable will make a good impression at work. No need wayang make up. A little blush if you usually look pale. Make sure no chapped lips in case you have lunch with colleagues. Nice defined brows etc.

My brother who is 27 is currently engaged to his 25 y.o fiancèe.

He bought her a new phone for valentine’s and asked my boyfriend who’s trained in computer and software to install a hidden tracking app on the phone so his fianceè won’t see it or notice.

I overheard them talking and when I entered the room they went silent. I waited till my brother left then talked to my boyfriend, he denied having this conversation with my brother first then, admitted to installing the app on the phone.

I told him he and my brother were in the wrong because this is a huge breach of privacy. he said he has nothing to do with it and advised me to stay out of it as well. but I said I want to tell my brother’s fiancèe.

My boyfriend argued with me about being nosy and intrusive and told me to stay out of it and let them deal with their own issues. But I thought that was unfair to my future sister in law since she’s the one working, paying bills and installments and this is how she is treated?

My boyfriend told me gtfo with this attitude and again, said I should stay of it because it does not in any way concern me. I don’t know I feel horrible after hearing about what my brother did and since I have a good relationship with his fiancee I can’t help but feel guilty and want to tell her.

I did told her and it was a nightmare, the wedding might be off. I’m feeling guilty

Here are what netizens think:

Tell her. But also have your phone checked out, cos your BF is throwing out CRAZY red flags.

wow, this actually never occured to me. also seeing several comments saying the same thing I’ll definately be checking my phone. My boyfriend tends to do things that cause me to side eye him sometimes. this one is definately nit okay.

Your boyfriend really said you were being intrusive, after helping put a tracking device on her phone?!!?

The irony of him calling her intrusive when he’s putting a tracker on someone else’s phone is just too much.