People are just freaking weird and hard to please!
I admit that I am a negative person, not always and 100% negative but not bubbly and naively positive.
I don’t always give motivations but worst case scenarios. I sometimes forget to sugarcoat. So now, a few of my close ones are telling me that I should learn to be positive and always speak positive.
Fine, so I fake myself by hiding my worst honest opinions and only giving that few “socially correct” response with some of my not so pleasing opinions. I don’t just sugarcoat but drown them in sugar or silence.
They seems to love hate it. Often thinking I am not genuine and trying to brush them off. Hmm, how can I be genuine when I am not allow part of my opinions because they’re negative?
Sometimes I could feel they’re intentionally cutting me off when they THINK the conversation is going to turn negative. But fact is I am just sharing a video/article I saw.
I don’t know why communication have turn into something so tiring. It’s either they talk about the shit they care about and cut me when I tried to share what I care about OR I just listen but not actually listening to their boring stories because I know my opinions doesn’t matter. I don’t see the to and fro because it’s cut.
I have been thinking hard because this is happening with my family and a close friend. So is it really that I am so irksome when I talk?
I was introduced to this lady. She’s a single mom but she has someone else taking care of her kid so she still live as though she has no commitments. She travels for weekend short vacations whenever she likes and play games all the time. I was kind of attracted to her because she is really good in bed and she knows how to talk even though she isn’t very well educated. Recently she asked me about us and I got tongue tied because I didn’t know what to say. I mean, I’m just enjoying the moment now and I don’t even know if she is serious about me.
We play games together and she would get so angry with other players almost every match. I don’t get it. I would have forgotten about it a few hours later but she would bring what happened earlier and get angry again.
Should I be concerned? She doesn’t even mention much when I ask but she kept wanting me to give her assurance. 2 months of seeing her and she has argued with me so many times. But the make up S is awesome. I don’t really pay attention to her rants and disputes that she have with other people but she seems to have a lot of angry rants about people almost everyday.
Is this a red flag? I mean the S is really good though.
Here are what netizens think:
Dear OP, you have two heads. Please use the one with a brain attached, to think and assess the situation you are in.
One: you dont get attached with someone just for S. Two: if u r serious about her, talk to her about her issues and work things out. Three: single mom is not a red flag. The red flags are those who ditch her after using her, like my point no.1 which currently is you.
If u going to spend with someone for the rest of ur life, which one more important? Good S or good life, means less argue and more positive. Ur choice
27M here. I am thinking seriously to get a partner and get married via a paid dating agency, whether govt or private. My life goal is to get married and form a family by 30/31.
However, throughout my life, I have no chances with girls. I have confessed to 5 girls and have all been rejected. Tbh I am not the typical tall, fit and handsome guy that you see on kdrama. On the contrary, I have an obviously pot belly though I am of healthy bmi and I suffer from acne with obvious scars on my face. I believe many girls will be put off by these alone.
I also can’t speak and express myself well verbally. The only saving grace is that I earn above the average of my peers and I can provide for a family if I have one. I really want to form a family and have kids when I am still young and energetic and have time to enjoy family life before my energy levels drop by late 30s/40s and I get too bogged down by my career as well. I am tempted by those success stories put out by those dating agencies that promises a high chance of getting a match.
If all else fails, I am not ruling out marrying a foreign bride too even if we do not share any common language.
Here are what netizens think:
To be honest, even dating agencies doesnt 100% certain can find you a life partner. Best is to go out there n be involved in social activities n make new friends, dating apps can but u know the risks. Gd luck
Be confident my man! Those scars and belly are just physical attributes which can be overcome by true love.
if u not handsome and muscle fit, u need lots of money. No money no honey. Even a Bui bui with millions can get all the celebrities.
One of Singapore’s most infamous and notorious sons, Amos Yee, known for his controversial past, is once again in the headlines.
Just one month after his release on parole halfway through serving his prison sentence in the United States, Yee found himself back in custody.
On November 7, CNA reported that Yee had been admitted under the custody and control of the Illinois Department of Corrections, according to Channel NewsAsia.
On November 8, Singapore time, news of Amos Yee’s return to custody emerged, with reports stating that he was held at the Stateville Correctional Center, a maximum-security prison located in Crest Hill, Illinois.
Reason for his rearrest
A “mentor-figure” to Yee shared that he had received a text from the US prison authorities that the latter had been rearrested, and shed light on what he thinks happened.
“Today I got a text from the prison authorities that Amos has been rearrested.
So I called his house, and his housemate answered. He said he was coming back from the store at ~11 a.m. when he saw Amos being handcuffed by police officers.
He asked Amos and the officers what happened, all of them kept quiet and kept on moving. They took all of Amos’ belongings too.
If I were to guess, some Singaporean tipped off the Illinois Department of Corrections about his online activities and linked his latest blog post.
Especially the bit about where he intends to reoffend. Technically not a violation of his parole, but it’s the “going online” part that violated his parole conditions.
His latest mugshots, as of today.
For those who are awaiting his return, I’m sorry, but you’ll have to wait until at least October 2026.”
The blog posts
On 23 October, Yee published a blog post stating that he is planning to return to Singapore. Then on 5 November, he published another blog post titled “6 Impressive Things I Want To Do”, before adding that he has a goal of defending pedophiles on the list.
Is is believed that his blog posts were in violation of his parole conditions, resulting in him being rearrested.
Yee’s Conviction and Parole
Yee, at the age of 25, had been serving a six-year jail term in the United States. He was convicted after being found guilty of grooming a teenage girl online and soliciting explicit photographs from her.
Yee’s case dates back to 2019 when he was convicted for engaging in an “online courtship” with a 14-year-old girl. During this period, he repeatedly asked her for explicit images, fully aware of her age. Shockingly, Yee went on to distribute these photographs online, adding to the gravity of his actions.
As part of a plea deal, Yee had pleaded guilty to charges of grooming and possessing obscene photos of children.
In exchange, 16 other charges were dismissed, but his jail term was backdated to October 2020 when he was arrested by US marshals.
Singapore is not the most wallet-friendly country to visit in Asia and some might even say, the world.
However, a couple from Ireland visited Singapore and attempted to try spending just US$20 a day in Singapore, which they eventually succeeded in doing.
Focus on essentials
Eoin and Aisling started their backpacking journey in September 2021. During a recent trip to Southeast Asia, they decided to test the waters in Singapore, a city known for its high cost of living.
The goal was to experience Singapore without including accommodation expenses, focusing only on essentials like food, transportation and doing things.
Getting Around: Affordable Transportation in Singapore
Before they could begin their adventure, Eoin and Aisling had to make their way from the East Coast neighborhood to the city center.
They opted for a bus ride to Bugis, which cost them US$2.10. They were pleasantly surprised by the efficiency and affordability of Singapore’s bus system.
A Sweet Start: Ice Cream Adventures in Bugis
To kick off their day, the couple treated themselves to some ice cream from Mixue’s Bugis Street outlet. Two cones set them back just US$1.50. While they didn’t shop at the Bugis Street Market, they highly recommended it for budget-conscious travelers, as it offers a wide range of affordable shopping options.
Satisfying Their Cravings: Hawker Centers and Affordable Meals
After their sweet indulgence, Eoin and Aisling headed to the nearby Albert Centre Market and Food Centre for lunch. With an array of food options to choose from, they eventually settled for a plate of economy rice, chicken cutlet noodles, and Kopi Peng, spending US$7.75 in total.
Aisling pointed out that hawker centers are a fantastic option for those looking to dine affordably in Singapore, offering great food at low prices.
Exploring on a Budget: Free Shows and Attractions
The couple dedicated some time to exploring the Bugis area, making a stop at 7-Eleven to buy water for US$1.50. They then visited Boat Quay and Marina Bay, well-known for their lively atmosphere. Eoin and Aisling emphasized the abundance of free activities in the area, including free concerts and the famous Garden by the Bay light show.
More Ice Cream and Unexpected Surprises
During their adventure, the couple encountered an ice cream vendor selling traditional wafer and sandwich ice creams, and they couldn’t resist. They bought a mint chocolate chip wafer ice cream for US$1.10. The sweet treat was a refreshing escape from the city’s humidity.
While making their way to the Gardens by the Bay, they stumbled upon an ongoing Mid-Autumn Festival event, where they received free packet drinks. This unexpected bonus helped keep them hydrated during their day of exploration.
A Delicious Finish: Curry Noodle Soup
After the mesmerizing light show, Eoin and Aisling headed to Ah Heng Curry Chicken Noodle at Hong Lim Market & Food Centre for dinner. They enjoyed two bowls of curry noodle soup for just US$5.90, which brought their total expenses close to their $20 budget.
I knew Singapore was getting hotter but I didn’t expect what was to come this year.
Usually I try not to use air-con but since the start of the year I literally have had to turn on the ac for most of the day, even at night, if not my room becomes a furnace.
Anyone else feeling the same? How often do you turn on your air-con?
Netizens’ comments
it’s freaking hot… i don’t have an air con in my room, some nights i really couldn’t sleep despite maximum my fan speed
It is super super hot. I used to stay away from the outdoors at 11 30 onwards to 330 cos you can feel the heat of the sun. Now by 930, you can feel the heat of the sun. It’s insane. We used to have more huge green land parcels. It’s next to nothing now. And we used to have huge rain trees for shade. Now we have thin narrow trees lining the roads. It’s damn hot. It’s concrete jungle everywhere and you can feel the heat radiating from the roads. Last time all schools had no aircon. Now they do have some aircon in some classrooms. Also buses, bus interchange, all shops in your town centre. Also town centres used to have shops. Now you have a mall using aircon throughout. Aircon makes the surround hotter.
no aircon and never open windows also. ok lah. used to it.
The collective use of aircon makes the country’s temperature even worse so even if I could breathe without my nose getting blocked, I will not contribute to the rising temperature as far as I can help it
This really creepy thing happened and we don’t know what to do. Can someone please give me advice
Hey guys, me and my girlfriend moved to a new apartment at the beginning of this year. We are both very sceptical about ghosts/paranormal activities etc. But after the last few days we are both really on edge. I would like to get your guys opinion because we both don’t know what exactly to make of the situation and what to do now.
It began a few months back when me and my girlfriend were lying in bed talking and suddenly my girlfriend just froze and started breathing very heavily. I asked her if everything was okay and the only thing she could do was shush me. After 3-4 minutes she told me she saw a woman right above me just staring at me the whole time. We didn’t really think anything of this it was sort of just a creepy experience. However more of these so called sightings have happened in the past few weeks. It’s always a girl looking at me or a man in the corner of the room trying to make contact with my girlfriend. Still we always just blamed it on sleep deprivation because we do tend to party a lot and sleep late.
This was until two days ago. I was in bed with my girlfriend again and the same thing happened. She saw a guy in the corner waving at her. Because I didn’t really believe in ghosts or anything I started to make a few jokes (not too kind I know but I was really sceptical at the time). My girlfriend told me I really should be quite for a moment. After she said this I saw a look in her eyes which I will never forget. She grabbed my arm very tightly and after about 1 minute she said she had the feeling that something had scratched her. We do have 2 cats but they were both not in the room with us. After talking for a while I looked at her shoulder and yes: I saw a really big scratch mark on her shoulder. This was the moment that I knew something was not right. After doing some research the following day we agreed that we would just not make any jokes about it and ignore it for as much as we could.
Well tonight the real horror began. After watching a movie and falling asleep peacefully I am woken up by my girlfriend shaking in bed the whole time. After not responding for a minute she started to suffocate. I ran to the lights to see what was going on. Luckily she woke up and after asking if everything was okay she told me that she saw everything happen from te corner of the room where she normally sees the man standing. She had the feeling that she was being pulled into some other space. She didn’t know what is was but the only thing she knew was that she definitely had to avoid this space.
After talking for a few minutes (keep in mind my girlfriend was really scared the whole time) my girlfriend turned to me really casual and said: “babe let’s just go to sleep.” I was weirded out by this a lot because she had been panicking for the last few minutes. I also saw a really calm, yet aggressive glance in her eyes. I told her I wanted to turn the lights back on and talk for a bit. However she just kept on pushing me to go to sleep. I had the feeling something was terribly wrong so I tried to test her reaction with a few jokes that we always make with each other. She didn’t react AT ALL. She just kept saying “it’s fine let’s go to sleep. My girlfriend HATES laying on her back and here she is laying on her back the WHOLE time. I really did not know what to do. After having the same conversation with her for 15 minutes with me wanting to turn the lights on and her reacting in a really firm way saying I SHOULD go to sleep now. She just turned around and started shaking again. I ran to the lights and as soon as I turned them on I saw her normal look again. The most terrifying part of all is that she did not remember a single part of the conversation which literally happened 10 seconds before!!
We are now both sure that there is something here with very bad intentions.
I am just really looking for advice about what to do with this. If anyone has had any similar experiences in the past please tell us what you did to make this nightmare go away.
Netizens’ comments
Move out NOW
That might not be a ghost. It might be something worse. I’m worried for your girlfriend. Could you two stay anywhere else for a couple of days?
that is something evil, not a ghost, you should leave that place.
In Pasir Ris, Singapore, a recent incident involving a pack of wild dogs has raised concerns among the residents and authorities. The Animal and Veterinary Service (AVS) has taken swift action to address this issue, according to Channel NewsAsia.
The Issue of Wild Dogs in Pasir Ris
The incident that prompted AVS’s intervention occurred when a jogger found himself pursued by a group of free-roaming dogs along Pasir Ris Drive 3.
The disturbing scene was captured on TikTok and quickly went viral. The community became alarmed, and the question of how to handle these dogs arose.
Dr. Chang’s Response
Dr. Chang Siow Foong, the AVS group director of community animal management, addressed the issue. He confirmed that AVS was aware of the pack of dogs in question and was actively taking measures to handle the situation.
AVS has a structured program in place to address the issue of free-roaming dogs. The Trap-Neuter-Rehome/Release-Manage (TNRM) program is designed to humanely manage these dogs. The first step is to trap them and then sterilize them.
The TNRM program has shown promising results. Since its launch in 2018, over 3,900 free-roaming dogs have been trapped. Remarkably, more than 60% of these dogs have been successfully rehomed or fostered. This program highlights AVS’s commitment to finding humane solutions to address the issue of stray dogs in the community.
Previous Incidents with Stray Dogs
This is not the first incident involving stray dogs in Singapore this year. On a previous occasion, AVS captured two dogs that were believed to have killed dozens of cats and behaved aggressively towards residents. These incidents underscore the importance of managing the population of free-roaming dogs.
Capturing wild dogs is no easy task. They are known to roam widely, be elusive, and avoid traps. Dr. Chang acknowledges these challenges, highlighting that dogs are territorial animals and may react aggressively to perceived threats.
Dr. Chang also sheds light on the behavior of free-roaming dogs. While some dogs may display a strong instinct to chase fast-moving objects, not all of them exhibit this behavior. In fact, many free-roaming dogs tend to be wary of humans and usually avoid direct contact.
I (33f) just got engaged to Eric (35m) this last Tuesday. My sister Ann (30f) and her fiancé Dean (35m) are getting married this Saturday. We have an older brother named Luke (37m). Fake names and account because Ann follows my other one.
I told everyone in a mass text, including Ann, that Eric proposed to me at the restaurant we went to on our first date. I noticed everyone except Ann responded right away. She answered the next day with congratulations. She said she was busy putting together final arrangements for her wedding. Okay, no big deal.
However, right after that message, she sent me another one asking that I not talk about my engagement. I asked why, and she said she’s spent over a year stressing over the wedding and hasn’t seen our family in that time, so she wants it to be about her and Dean. She asked that we wait until the day after to discuss my engagement.
I said that’s ridiculous and that we can talk about both, plus people will be asking me about my engagement, anyway, as they already know. She said she expects that, but then the conversation needs to go to her because everyone is coming to celebrate her and Dean, not Eric and me. But I haven’t seen our family (parents and older brother) in the same amount of time, and I want to use this time to talk about my engagement, my ring, and our own wedding plans. I’m excited and this is the only chance I’ll get to do it.
Ann told me it’s not about me, and “reminded me” that with her rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, and girl get togethers (her bachelorette, nail appointments, etc.), she wants to talk about just her wedding and everything she’s been doing. I told her not everything is about her, and I should be allowed to talk about my engagement, too. I said I want her to help me plan mine since she’s just done it, and we could use this time for her to show me how to plan a wedding, but she said no, and that it’s not about me.
Then our brother Luke texted me and told me I was being ridiculous.
I said Ann was being a bridezilla thinking everything is about her, but he said she has a right to want week of her wedding to be about her. I’m not saying the wedding day can’t be about her, but she doesn’t own the days leading up to it. I want to show off my ring and talk about my wedding. She hasn’t had the chance to show everyone her ring in person, either, because our family is spread out, but I think we can do that together.
Eric agrees that Ann is being self-centered, but Luke thinks I’m trying to steal the spotlight and to let Ann have her moment. I don’t see why we can’t do everything together.
My [26M] fiancée [25F] doesn’t want to contribute financially anymore after our engagement We’ve met in college 7 years ago. When we first started going out to dates she would reject my attempt to pay the bills in full and insist we should split or each pays for what he ordered. I wasn’t expecting that because in Morocco it’s usually the guys who pay for the dates but since she insisted I said okay.
She would do it for regular dates (restaurant, coffeeshop, parks…) and also when we started going out for vacations. For example if she didn’t have money with her and I paid for something no matter how cheap it is she would give that amount when we next met.
Last summer we were on a vacation and in the last day of the vacation I had to cancel the flights because of an expected family business in the city we were visiting. We stayed for 3 more days and I’ve paid for both our hotel rooms and new plane tickets. Next time we met she gives me the money for the plane ticket and her hotel room but I refused to take them since it was because of me that we had to stay for more days than planned. But still she didn’t accept my refusal and I insisted that I take the money.
Even when talking about scenarios in the future she would still split the costs. When we were in a retail store and we saw a refrigerator, washing machine, dishwasher pack and we agreed that it was a good deal she says “And it’s only cost 13000 each!!!” (the total price was 26000). Also, when talking about our future kids and discussing names and how are we going to raise them, when we started talking about schools she says “I know a school close to work. I’ve heard it’s good and it’s only 2000 per month so it’s 1000 each, and that includes the bus and lunch fees”
We got engaged last December and have the wedding in the summer. In the last two months we’ve started shopping for furniture and appliances for the apartment and I’ve noticed that she expects me to pay a much higher percentage than her in pretty much everything. She even refuses to pay anything for the TV because she doesn’t watch it.
Whenever I try to bring the subject up she ignores me or get defensive/dismissive whether by pretending she is tired, changing the subject, busy by work or trying to sweet talk me. We’ve had some pretty heated argument over the years but we could always sit and talk face-to-face and try to tackle the problems as a team, something that she can’t do when I bring this subject.
It’s not like she is struggling financially. She has a well paying job and she doesn’t provide for her parents (nor do they need her too) and she still buys very expressive stuff. Paying her share wouldn’t even affect her financially or downgrade her lifestyle.
I don’t have any problem to be the sole financial provider in our relationship but this sudden 180 degree change is something that I can’t understand especially coming from someone with her principles.
I’ve told my best friend about this and he says that I should cancel the wedding and run as far as possible from her because if she changed this much after the engagement who can say how much she’ll change after the wedding.
I don’t what to do or how to approach this any differently than what I tried by talking to her and at this point I don’t even know if I am with the same person I’ve been with all this time.
