i could have been absolutely beautiful. instead i look like a monster.

I could have been so beautiful. I have a perfect body, and a cute face. I love everything about myself, except my teeth.

My mom never cared to get me braces, and today i look like a meme. People are visibly put off by my smile when they talk to me.

My jaw is messed up because my wisdom teeth are pushing and pushing and just making everything worse.

On my x-rays i look like my mom slept with a bird and gave birth to me. It’s just so bad, and there is nothing I can do.

I always see other people get new teeth and be happy, and i get super bitter about my life. I don’t have a single picture from after my 5 year birthday. Nothing.

I’ve completely stopped smiling. All i want is to be normal, and to be able to eat and smile like a normal person.

I want to be able to take a picture with my family without deleting it right after. I want to be able to eat a sandwich in public, and not think about how i look constantly.

Its just so messed up, and i have become so isolated because no one wants to speak to someone who doesn’t smile. I feel cursed.

My girlfriend “freebleeds” all over my apartment and I’m considering breaking up with her

I’m 24m and my gf is 22f. Several months ago she got into this new method of dealing with her periods called “freebleeding”. It’s basically where you don’t wear any pads or tampons (no menstrual products for that matter) and just let the blood flow wherever.

Initially when she told me about this I was kinda okay with it as long as she contained it in her underwear or layed on towels. But then I started noticing period stains here and there. On the couch, drops on the floor, even on the bedsheets. The stains started soaking into the mattress. I didn’t want to embarrass her so I didn’t say anything until the room started accumulating a very weird odor. She said she would start cleaning it but never did.

She started freebleeding into my boxers and when I told her I wasn’t comfortable with that she basically said all of her underwear was soaked and she didn’t have anything else. I’d had enough and told her I wanted her to wear pads or tampons again like an adult if she couldn’t contain her messes.

She said her cramps were less severe doing stuff this way and that she didn’t want to stop. Also said it was childish to act this way about some period stains. I told her it was disgusting and that blood is still a biohazard regardless of where it comes from.

She got offended, said I was calling her dirty and we started arguing. I gave her an ultimatum to use menstrual products or to get out of my apartment and we’d be done. She hasn’t talked to me since and I really don’t want to break up with her but I’m just so grossed out and can’t deal with the smell. Those boxers were high quality too.

Am I gaslighted or overthinking?

I’m one month postpartum and I believe that I wasn’t the same person I was before. Please help me and give me advice.

For context, my husband has an ex, which was a dear friend to him prior their relationship. During our dating stage, he was open to tell me that he wanted to reconnect with her cos he still sees her as a friend. But this ex has blocked him from her socials and no communication since their breakup. They have common friends so he was informed that she was getting married (this happened 2021) But he doesn’t have any updates with her since then. We got married recently and also I have given birth also.

Now, one day, I woke up in the middle of the night, and he was in the toilet. He left his computer on, out of curiosity I checked his recently closed tabs until I saw that he was looking at his ex’s FB profile (using dummy account). I know it’s wrong cos I invaded his privacy but I was just curious what he’s doing on his computer while I sleep. I confronted him about it and he told me that he felt that I violated his privacy. He even said that I had nothing to worry about and he had been open how he wanted to reconnect with her. Moreover, he said that it’s scary that I snooped on his computer like that and he didn’t once do it to me cos he respects my privacy and he trusts me. When I asked him why he was stalking his ex, he said that it wasn’t stalking but more like he wanted to see how she was doing. The argument led me apologizing to him for invading his privacy. He even said that he sees nothing wrong with what he did.

I wasn’t like this before I give birth but now I’m too sensitive about everything. Are my feelings even valid or was it really my wrong for checking his recently closed tabs out of curiosity?

Here are what netizens think:

I am looking at this logically

1. They broke up. Both moved on and are married now. Why is he still so concerned that his ex is getting married?

2. They are ‘friends’ but friends don’t get blocked on social media. He’s actually not able to let go of his ex and has been in a way disruptive to his ex so she blocks him on social media.

3. He has something on with his ex but so far the ex is not reciprocating his efforts.

4. You are invading his privacy no doubt but what made you do that? Something is really suspicious and that compelled you to take the unusual route of investigation. So don’t blame yourself for that.

5. You are post partum, you will tend to blame yourself and develop depressive thoughts due to the negative circumstances that are taking place. I’m sorry to say, your husband is not in the right state to continue the marriage. But he might be a good father. Therefore take note of your mental state and seek help if needed, don’t stop your husband from reaching his child.

Good luck.

I hate that I can never get out of the “honeymoon period”

I’ve been together with my partner for a year now and he seems to have been done with the so-called “honeymoon phase” for a while now.

He doesn’t reply instantly to my texts anymore, doesn’t need to hang out as often, and the lovey-dovey messages have decreased.

Don’t get me wrong though! I totally understand that it can’t last forever and that people have their own lives, and I know he loves me.

But hot damn why does this period never seem to end for me? I still get excited when he texts or calls me, I still love seeing him as much as I can, and I like to send him cute messages or pictures that made me think of us.

Even with my ex, it lasted for years FOR ME until he treated me like crap and we broke up.

I just wish I was more normal when it came to this. It just sucks to feel like I’m caring more even though I know it’s not true but it’s just different now.

I have hobbies and friends to keep me busy, but it’s just not enough. I wish I could just turn it off and be more chill as well.

Okay so I’m in a bit of a dilemma here.

I am currently 37 weeks pregnant so we are getting ready to receive our girl. The problem is my husband has recently told me he wants to teach her Chinese too. We are both Chinese but we don’t speak Chinese at all

The thing is, my family only speaks English! He was born here and lived in Singapore since he was 4 until he was 19. Now, if he had some sort of cultural or family connection to being Chinese then I might consider it. But his a Singaporean.

I told him what I told you guys above and that it would be hard for her because they are very different languages.

He started arguing that there are many kids that are raised bilingual and are very smart but I also feel like it might cut me from my child.

He is mad at me for not accepting and I can’t help but wonder if I was wrong here.

Here are what netizens think:

• Is not like the kid will not know English too, im sure if she continues the same path of arbitrarily making decisions like this the child will grow and cut themselves off from her even in English. Kids are innocent but they absolutely love when they grow and notice their parents negated them opportunities..I know I did, nothing like growing and discovering that your mom never let you achieve your full potential because they had some irrational fear just like

• You Chinese but don’t teach your child Chiniese language, so you gei ang moh ah

• Lao kui sia this mother.

Reaction of abuse between men and women.

When man abuse woman physically, immediately everyone will say he’s the bad guy, he’s evil, he’s toxic, he needs to be gone from this world, etc.

But when woman abuse man physically? “He must’ve done something wrong” , “It’s his own fault” , “100% the guy pushed her too far that she did that to him” , “You go girl” , “Slaaaayyy queeeenn”.

No one will ever question if the woman is the one who pushed the man too far for him to abuse her physically. I can 100% bet you feminist be like “Well if the man got abuse, walk away then. No need to hit her back”. But when the roles are reversed? “Hit him back!! Yeah queen fight him!! Make him hurt!!”

I stand on my point. Men will always have to deal with the consequences no matter what. Women nowadays are allergic to taking accountability to anything.

And yet, who cries for “equality” everyday? Women.

Sincerely,

The anti-feminist woman

Here are what netizens think:

Unfortunately western laws are for women. There are girls that use rape to threaten guys for money or to harm their reputation. There are girls that also fake domestic violence to get what they want. People are more likely to stand on the girls side if they play the weak role. But I guess they are the minority. But definitely out there. Most girls are emotional but reasonable with most things.

Income between couples, why are there men that cannot take it when their wife is earning more than them.

A netizen recently posted online about how her lady friends were force to quite their high income jobs to satisfy their husband’s ego.

Here is the post:

I think guys need to be a lot less sensitive on some things. I had a long talk with my lady friends and apparently, some of them gave up good-paying jobs because their husbands couldn’t stand them earning more. Or if the lady is in the same field and has a higher rank.

Or higher degree of education. Be more confident in yourself and stop comparing yourself and feeling less manly. Your lady loves you for who you are.

What netizens think:

• I think some people may blame their partner as “too sensitive/egoistic” when it’s them who want to leave for someone better.

• That kind of mentality is pre-boomer. Couples should earn as much as they can, but they should not compare with others.

• If the woman taller than me i turn off. Its a natural reaction.

• If my wife earn more than me I will be very happy, If I lose my job the family won’t die. So I don’t really care if she earns more than me. As long she is working I am happy.

• All these Egoistic people sounds like two of my midget friends.

My EX-SO owes me a 5-figure debt and is now ghosting me, what can I do to recoup my money?

I am 25M and just broke up with my 20F. We had been together for ~2 years. When we were together, she was still a student, and as a working adult, I was there to support her (dates were mostly paid for by me).

Now that she had graduated and transitioned to adult life, she found a job in the design industry. Things were difficult as they work on a comms basis and do not have a fixed salary. Dates were mostly paid for by me until recently she started to fork out some of her own share.

During the first week of work, she needed a laptop, so I bought a MacBook for her (initially was mentioned to be paid on an instalment basis but I guess she took it as a graduation gift and I as a supportive BF left it as it is).

She also needed a car to meet clients so she used her family car for work, however whenever she needed money to pump petrol/season parking, she would ask money from me, and I would pay for her. When she decided to lead a healthy and fit lifestyle and wanted to sign up for a gym and asked me to help pay for it, to encourage her, I did.

However, the money I am writing today is not about the money that I have paid for during our time together, but the money she had borrowed for her own needs (e.g., paying off outside debts, and fixing her car, etc).

Recently we had an argument in which I told her that I felt neglected by her since we only met once every few weeks. After that argument, she basically shut off from me and ghosted me for 2 weeks and I had no choice but to initiate the breakup because we were supposed to go on a family trip together (which I had paid for), but things were so dire that I just wanted a clean break. But when I mentioned the money that she owed, she left me on single tick and did not answer my messages at all.

Now I just want my money back. I do not care for the money we had spent together during our time; I just want those that she legitimately borrowed from me.

To be honest, all the money that I have spent on her amounts to much more than this (birthday trips, my dinners, luxury gifts), but I just want those that she had borrowed because it is still not a small amount…

Please help and give any advice, TIA.