Are 170 cm + girls really that super common these days?

I am a guy of height 171cm and I find it kinda repugnant when I talk a walk along the streets and see these fellas roaming, be it in office attire or exercise attire. Whatever happened to the 160 plus or 150 plus ladies?

I remember back then in 2015, when I took a ride in the mrt during peak hours, the ladies will be mostly shorter and it is not common to see 170cm plus ladies. Today it is the opposite. I will be blocked by these ladies and I need to even count myself lucky if I can even see a shorter one.

To those reading this post, if you laugh at this I believe you are the fortunate 180cm + or 190cm +. Probably most of you here cant even relate to this kind of odd and left out feeling though.

(If any of you 170cm guys have grown taller using some medicine or surgery method, please let me know. I believe there is a way.)

End of rant.

Here are what netizens think:

• There’s a surgery to help increase your height by a couple of inches. Of course it entails deliberately breaking your bones, and a few months recovery period at least. But since you’re obviously insecure about your height, I’m sure you wouldn’t mind it

• Not our fault that you’re short (by your standards) AND evidently insecure. I also find it repugnant when men of such a combination walk down the streets, be it in office/exercise/informal attire.If women have to be short to cater for guys- lmao- why don’t you grow taller to accommodate??

• Don’t hate the player, hate the game. Don’t worry, it should be a short one for you.

• The only height that matters is your little brother

I’m 40F, with a well paying job, single with no commitments so money was never an issue. I don’t need a man to take care of me. I have no interest in settling down and the maternal instinct just never kicked in. I’m happy being single. I’ve had a few relationships over the years but never got to the proposal stage with a guy. Sometimes I do feel lonely. I also have friends with benefits and one night stands to ease through the times when I need some comfort. I feel that since I’m single I don’t need to answer to anyone about how I live my life.

Because of my interests and lifestyle habits, most of my friends are guys and most are married. I do talk about my S life with a few of them whom I’m close to. What I cannot stand is some of these wives of my friends openly show that they don’t like me.

Since covid I also feel like all these social contacts have been conveniently cut off by some of these women. I used to be one of the few females among the guys when we hang out. I’ve met their wives in the past but somehow never seem to blend in. I find this is ridiculous. Just because I choose not to settle down and bear children, I am being outcast. Why can’t I be friends with whoever I want without being judged? I did accidentally got a little too close to one of my friends but nothing happened. Nothing started so there was nothing to end. I didn’t think it was a big deal until I notice I was excluded a few times. Why is a little mistake amplified into such a ridiculous situation?

He got to keep our group of friends while I got kicked out. I knew these people for over 10 years and 1 little mistake completely wiped away my presence in the group while he get to behave like nothing is wrong.

Try being 40 and single before you tell me it’s easy to find new friends during covid.

Boss threatened to fire me for getting a second job am I in the wrong here??

I’ve been working at the same place for 5 years and have been a manager there for 2 of those years. I recently had a change in my financial situation that requires me to get another job because the job I currently have does not pay enough and will never pay enough.

At my current job I barely earn above minimum wage despite working there for 5 years, being a manager, and having most of the responsibilities and being expected to be available pretty much any day of the week whenever they need me.

I’ve asked my bosses for raises for the amount of work I do but they refuse to give me one. I also have brought up to them that they hold me to a different standard than other managers there and let the other managers do whatever they want and work as little as they want while expecting me to be available practically 7 days a week.

(We’ve literally had managers who will repeatedly no call no show with no consequences but when I do something like requesting a day off a week in advance they will guilt trip me for not working because “it’s an important busy day and we need you there we don’t trust any of the other managers like we trust you!)

This Wednesday I accepted a position at a new job that is full time and was still planning on working my current job which is part time and just working a few less days there a week.

I had already consulted the person in charge of making our work schedules about my change in availability and we were already working out who would be working the shifts I would be dropping.

On Friday I was planning on coming into work on my day off to tell my boss that I would be starting a new job and working a few less days a week but before I got a chance to come in, he heard rumors that I was quitting

(which ended up not even being about me – there happens to be another worker with the same name as me who also happens to be getting a second job right now which is a little weird but he ended up finding out about my new job because of that anyway)

then he went to the other managers and told them I was disrespectful for not giving him more notice and told them he was going to fire me and he was already making plans to hire someone else to replace me.

I had a meeting with my boss where we talked things over and he didn’t fire me but stands by his claim that I was disrespectful and unprofessional for not telling him sooner and for “telling everyone that works there about it aside from him and keeping it a secret from him” which is simply not true.

But am I in the wrong here??? Should I have given more notice than I did even though I wasn’t quitting and had already gotten the scheduling figured out with the person who makes the schedules and got my shifts covered for next week on the days that I need to go in to train for my new job?

There’s so much more I could say about the specific dynamics and ways me and other workers have been treated there over the years but that’s the gist of the situation right now.

I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months. He said he wants to date casually because he’s in the process of getting a divorce.

But he asks me to hang out probably 5 or 6 days a week. We’ve been very vulnerable with each other and are definitely sharing a connection. He invited me over to have dinner with him so he could cook his mom’s favourite meal, it was the anniversary of her death.

He tells me how wonderful I am all the time. He’s cried in front of me talking about vulnerable things. But he still says we are dating casually and he does not want to be monogamous. I am invested at this point. I have feelings for him that I may have never felt in my whole life. At this point, I feel like I am being led on or he just doesn’t know what he wants or feels. I want to communicate this to him but I don’t know how or when. His words do not match his actions. I can tell that he cares for me and feels the same connection that I do. I don’t want to give him an ultimatum. Maybe I should tell him I just need to back off for a little while? I dont know what to do.

I just sent him this text message – I need to take a step back here and establish a boundary. Your actions do not match your words (we are NOT dating casually) and I need to protect my heart.

His response: I understand. I do really like you and enjoy your company. I am not trying to confuse you or mess with your heart. I do actually think about you and how you are doing. I consider you to be a wonderful person that I like spending time with. Honestly out of anyone i have met on that silly app you are the only one i feel that way about. Me not wanting to commit has nothing to do with “getting laid” or wanting to date around. Relationship is exhausting.

I guess I should follow your advise as well. I don’t like the thought of you dating other people but I also know that I am still a basket case from my divorce. The last thing I want is to bring any of that baggage to you. It has been wonderful spending time with you and I guess that is providing (selfishly) me a level of comfort. Can we get together tonight or tomorrow and discuss in person? I feel like intentions get lost over text.

Then he just said he’s falling for me too. Now I’m so freaking confused.

How do I get more fluent/confident in doing dirty talk with my bf?

I’ve been with my bf for almost 4 months, and we sometimes/often dirty talk. I’m not very confident and often struggle finding the right things to say so usually just repeat certain phrases and reword them if necessary.

It’s not that I’m not interested, it’s just that I struggle coming up with things to say. I want to be more confident about it because I know he likes it when I’m confident and It would make me feel better.

He also recently told me that he likes the idea of being called ‘daddy’ but I just don’t know how to say that without feeling awkward about it (it’s not that I don’t want to say it, I just don’t know how to I guess)

Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can get better at this stuff?! I’m getting frustrated with myself for not knowing how to do this better

Netizens’ comments

1. Sounds like you need to get from 0-100 real quick in order to let loose. Find your kinks…what do you like and think about those things in action. You’d be surprised how dirty you can be when you’re extremely turned on.
2. If you are uncomfortable with daddy tell him that and you should never be forced to do something your uncomfortable with. Are you more comfortable with things like sir or master? Those might also work for him.
   Just like learning anything, research/studying and practice is the key. Reading stories online is a great way to get familiar with things to say and keep trying new things with him.
   With both of those points communication is very important. Talk about what worked for you, and what worked for him. During that post coital cuddle ask him what things you said that he really liked. Tell him what things he said that you didn’t really like.
3. Try whispering in his ear “rubbish bin”, because that’s very dirty.

For context, I’m a 17 year old student who completed my O’s last year. I decided to spend my holiday working for a bit of extra pocket money.

The job is simple, we help to sell items for different schools.

Having had experience from being a sales girl last year, this was no big deal for me and I cope with the job well.

I have always been in “名校” (what some consider good schools) since I was in primary school, and most parents of the children I knew in those schools were amiable, pleasant people, so I used to refute the stereotype that parents from more elite schools were arrogant.

My view changed in less than a week of work. I hate to admit it, but most of the difficult parents are those whose children are from the “good schools”.

On my first day of work, I had a nasty parent who openly told her son “You have to wait, she’s not smart you know.” simply because I had to confirm that the sample size I gave them was correct with the full time workers at the counter.

Although I had been briefed, I just wanted to ensure that I provided the correct information and was doing my job properly. It doesn’t mean that I’m stupid or dumb. (Besides, if I did something wrong instead of clarifying my doubts, wouldn’t I be in even more trouble?)

For example, let’s say Happyland is a really well known school. There’s Happyland Primary, Happyland Girls School, Happyland High School and Happyland JC. The parents of Happyland have the tendency to go into the store and scoff “Happyland.” when I ask them which school’s items they are looking for. Upon asking them which Happyland School they are referring to, they would instantly look offended as if to say “Don’t you know Happyland?”

The usual condescending tone is expected, but the attitude they give is rather unnecessary. I’m a sales girl and my job is to help you. It won’t hurt to give me more details about your child’s school so that I can serve you better.

Some parents would brag about their children to other parents who they know are parents of children who are going to neighbourhood secondary schools, instantly changing their tone and attitude the moment they come into contact with another parents whose child is attending the same school as theirs.

C’mon, they’re just here to buy items for the new school year, not start a whole conversation about how your child is better because their T score is a 270+

The parents are nice to me (their tone actually does a 180) when they ask me which school I go to and find out that I’ve already accepted an offer from a “good” JC.

Are they implying that they’re only nice to me the moment they find out that I’m going to a “better” school than their child?

Your child’s brand of school doesn’t make you any better than others.

Over the last 5 days, I realised that many of the parents who were nice to me in school were probably nice only because they know I’m at the same level and their child and would like their children to be treated with respect as well.

It is a common assumption that sales girls are people who have low levels of education and it isn’t the highest of job titles, but it doesn’t mean that they are subhuman trash. (this applies to everyone with a job people “look down” on)

I know many of you here on reddit would think I’m spoilt and can’t take being treated rudely because I’m part of the “strawberry generation” and am just being easily offended and triggered by the slightest of things.

This post isn’t about me. It’s for the full time working “aunties” who have to deal with the attitudes of these people on a daily basis.

I’m starting to really empathise with those who have to deal with these elitists who think they’re better than everyone else simply because of the school their child goes to. And honestly, even as a student from one of such schools, it really isn’t that big a deal. You aren’t superior.

I’m not trying to say “all schools are equal” and I understand that elite schools exist to separate children of different levels of intelligence so that they can learn better amongst peers that are similar to them.

I just hope that people treat others with more basic respect, there’s no need to turn your child’s education into some complex politics.

Please teach your children to be nice to people, and do it by setting a healthy example.

Edit: I apologise if my tone is inappropriate or rude. If I get downvoted by a bunch of defensive parents, so be it.