wearing short shorts to the gym even after being asked to stop?

So I am a big guy. I workout daily. I go to three gyms regularly. I wear and have worn short shorts, like those FBT shorts, like those you wear in the army.

I usually get attention for this, but it’s usually just old men that roll their eyes. Occasionally women stare. Nothing out of control. I’ve been doing it for years.

Well recently a woman joined my gym that seems obsessed with my legs. She will walk over everytime she sees me.

Well her husband came with her the other day. He proceeded to have a mental breakdown over his wife talking to me.

He came over and asked if I thought my shorts were appropriate. I responded by asking him not to objectfy me for being beutiful. Which made him very mad.

Staff got involved and asked me to cover up for a little while. I said sure. So the next day I came in smaller shorts but with a long sleeve shirt. He was with her and lost his mind.

When staff came again to talk to me. I said I had been working out like this here for years. I’ve also seen women wear a hell of a lot less. So I would not be changing anytime soon. Which they just shrugged at.

Netizens’ comments

1. Next time they bother you about it, ask them for a copy of the dress code in the contact you signed when you joined so you can review it together to fully understand what the policy says.
   Then inform them that you’ll be filing a complaint against the husband and the employees for harassment.
2. Next time they ask you to cover up, show up in a ski mask, long sleeves, and even shorter shorts.
3. You’re allowed to wear whatever you want. Clearly the boyfriend was jealous of you and the attention his girlfriend was giving you. I’d keep doing you, my guy. Who gives a f what others think. You’re not hurting anyone. If he doesn’t wanna see it or doesn’t want his girlfriend to see it, then they can go to a different gym or go at a different time

I(28F) am single, don’t have kids and live alone. I also do not work OT or do anything beyond my work.

First, let me explain what my work is like: so we are an internal auditing company. I work in the logistics auditing division. What that means is that when a company hires us (mostly to see how good their policies are), we shadow their workers, to see where efficiency can be increased.

Sometimes that means working night shift, delivery, warehouse, manufacturing…etc.

We are very lucky that we have an awesome manager and team leader. Once we divide the tasks, you can do them whenever as long as your report is handed in when it should be. Work from home, from the office, at 3 am, less than 40hrs… It doesn’t matter.

For the 6 years, I have been on this team, another female colleague (30s) has been doing her absolute best to work the least amount possible. First, she is either always pregnant and not “able” to shadow anyone but the office workers, she is on maternity leave (4 months), on her yearly vacation (a month), or conveniently sick when it is time for some heavy-duty work (she sends in MC like it’s free, well it is as the company covers medical).

When she is in the office, she is dumping her work on the others. She uses her kids as an excuse all the time.

Well usually the other team members pick up her slack, but I refuse to do so.

This time we are auditing a larger company, so all hands on deck. And for the first time ever she is neither pregnant nor on maternity leave, and she just got back from her yearly leave.

The company we are auditing is overseas, so the members who will have to go will be staying there for 3 weeks. This time it is my turn to stay in the office (well my home TBH) and do the data organisation/analysis.

She asked me to switch with her, apparently, she can’t leave her 5 kids alone with her husband. I said no. She tried to guilt trip me by saying that what she would have to pay for child care is more than what she would get paid for the whole month and that I don’t have any responsibilities like her. I told her “well they are not my kids, so I don’t see how that is my problem”

Now she is pouting like a kid, and some colleagues are saying that I don’t know how hard-working moms have it, that I should be more compassionate.

I want to complain now. I have been buying TOTO and 4D since last 7 years, every week at least once religiously. I have a decent job with loads of stress, I buy these 4D and TOTO in the dreams of quitting my job and go study full time to do my Degree. I have family commitments and I can’t complete my schooling. I really love studying and want to be educated. But I am the sole breadwinner since I completed Poly. Now that I am 25, I am very worried that my dream of studying uni will remain a dream. Coming back to the actual complaint, been buying toto and 4 d every week for the last 7 years, each week I spend 10 dollar to 20 dollar depending on my mood. Not even once I kenna even the consolation 6 dollars, I wanna complain I suspect Singapore pools is fake eh, like how can my luck be so xia suay one..like how can I not even strike 6 dollar?

Do they really have actual TOTO 4D winners like they claim to have or its just advertisement to generate more and more money for SP?

Do you all trust that Singapore pools really give out 1 St prize 2 nd prize all? do you know anyone who became a millionaire?

At least I still okay, I pity those foreign workers who keep buying every time in the aim of settling down and having financial freedom.

Here are what netizens think:

• U must go 4  road on the 1st or 15th. Pray to kuan im ma or big uncleKong . Than buy the flower go home bath before going to buy 4d or toto. Maybe can strike. Please try
• You will immediately win once you stop gambling.
• If you save up all these money for the last 7 years maybe now you can go to university already.
• The author has been buying TOTO and 4D tickets religiously for 7 years, dreaming of quitting their job and studying for a degree to escape stress.

• I just want 500K SGD, just nice to take care of my family for 4 years and I got enough money to pay for school fees and my Siblings

The best salesman of our department asked for a little raise. He was fired. I’m disgusted and looking for another job

We are a good departments, we make constant profits (that it’s quite uncommon in our business). He was by far the best of us, insanely good at his job, he sold so so much.

He asked for a 10% raise (that it’s still so low compared to how much he sold), was fired at the end of the day.

I actually like my job, salary is not high but hours are not too long, but now I feel like I am just a number, if he can’t ask for more, no one can (I’m very good at work but he is literally the best of all in a 400 people department).

I’m also surprised that except very few co-workers, all the other ones don’t seem to care about what happened.

Netizens’ comments

1. Businesses really are that stupid.
   One I worked for a few years ago decided to downsize their operations, so they looked at how much individuals cost in terms of salary and commission. I was the most expensive person because of the amount of commission I earned.
   You see where I am going with this? I earned about 40K commission in that year and the next closest to me earned 78 – that is 78 not 78K.
   They got rid of me based on cost, not realising that the reason for the cost was that I was the only one who sold anything.
2. Companies are just dumb and greedy. Our best salesman took turnover from $500k to $12 million in 5 years, but we were a subdivision of a far larger company and started making them look like a bunch of clowns.
   So, to redress the balance they shut us down, literally swanned in and we’re gone.
3. I’m not in sales but I overheard a meeting in a coffee shop where a manager held a meeting with his salespeople. I have no idea what they were selling but the guy who was clearly the top producer in the room was being berated and belittled by his boss and was then, summarily relieved of his clients and given the worst possible list of prospects as punishment.
   My sense was that the district manager wanted those clients himself and collect the commissions, so he simply took them away from the person who sold the job.

Asked out a woman and she looked horrified while rejecting me.

I’ve had confidence issues due to being really overweight and I’ve had weight issues where I would bounce between skinny and fat over a few months.

I finally got it under control where I’m a healthy weight, bigger than I’d like but not anorexic anymore, which is good.

I went and got my long straggly bad hair cut short, shorter than I’d like but hey ho.

I don’t know this woman, but I’ve seen her in the same places I’d go, I’ve made a few jokes here and there she’s laughed at when we’d talk briefly.

This morning I went up to her, smiled, and just asked for her number, thinking that yeah worst that happens is she says No, been rejected a million times before, no big deal.

But her reaction. Her eyes widened, she put like her left hand up to like block herself almost, she was acting like I was gonna explode and attack her. When I simply said “yeah all good, just thought I’d ask” with a smile she immediately exhaled and got more relaxed and I just walked away.

I know I’m ugly, but that reaction just. It’s like I’m this evil hideous monster, like Frankenstein walking up to a villager for the first time. I’ve been insulted while rejected before and it’s whatever. But this was honestly like she was afraid.

Just destroyed my self confidence all over again.

Netizens’ comments

1. Just something I’ve thought about over the years, that applies to anyone of any gender: I think if you’re the one approaching a stranger wanting to get to know them more, you should offer them your number not ask for theirs.
2. That way they don’t need to make a split second decision to give away a piece of personal information without getting time to think on it, and generally if you’re going up to them first you’re already taking the risk of rejection.
3. This is less about you specifically and more about previous experiences she’s had.
   Rejection absolutely sucks so I feel for you but that fear you saw in her was her past, not you.
4. Don’t take it too personally. Her reaction to me sounds like she’s had some bad experiences in the past by men not taking no for an answer.
5. This was definitely not about you and more that she likely had problems with men not taking “no” for an answer.
6. Good to get it off your chest. She was reacting to the spectre of every interaction she’s ever had, not you specifically. Hard to keep that in mind but it’s true

What’s considered poor in Singapore?

I am curious what are the opinions of people about this YouTube video from Asian Boss after they did an earlier one about high cost of living in Singapore. You may want to view the “What’s considered poor” video first if you haven’t done so.

So what are your opinions about the interviewees’ responses and are they good reflections of Singapore’s overall situation?

Netizens’ comments

1. I would think as long as you are living paycheck to paycheck yet you can’t even meet your basic living needs like food & shelter, you are more or less poor. Like to the point where you might have to skip meals or walk 🙃
2. $2000/mth and you have rent to pay it’ll be pretty rough. After CPF it’s only $1600. Room rental $700/mth. $900 left to get through the month.
3. When basic needs of clean food, water, shelter or safety are not guaranteed
4. Poor is subjective. To me you can have 10m in your bank but if you live at your job and visit your home then thats Poor to me. Actual actual Poor to me is unable to afford 3 meals a day.
5. Poor is when you have to work 8 to 12 hrs a day and after all your essential expenses you are left with little or no savings.
6. I think it depends on how people define poor. Poor as in it is financially difficult to live in relative comfort (ie not stressing about money or not needing to scrimp in a way that harms their long-term health), or poor as in difficulties in getting necessities?
   There was a research made by NTU professors – Minimum Income Standard. Using a benchmark of 2 working adults with 2 children, the average (2021) is $2900 per adult. I personally would add a little bit more to account for saving for university fees (or other tertiary education) for both the children (perhaps over 15 years) because to me school loan is just a matter of who is taking on the debt.
7. Depends largely on whether you have to rent. Getting a roof over your head is very expensive, especially for foreigners
8. It is better to be financially poor but emotionally rich.

I was an engineering student at a university in Singapore, and I just had a conversation with a few of my friends that left me feeling a little frustrated.

I had been studying hard for my degree for the past few years, and I was proud of the fact that I was able to make a decent living by working part-time in the IT industry. I was able to make around $4,000 a month, and I was satisfied with that.

My friends, however, were not so satisfied.

They were all working as Grab drivers and making around $8,000 a month. They would often talk about how much money they were making and how easy it was for them to make it. It was a little disheartening to hear them talk about how much money they were making.

I couldn’t help but think to myself, why did I spend all this time at university to make half of what my friends were making?

Sure, I had a degree and I could take on higher-paying jobs in the future, but at the moment, I was making much less than my friends. I was starting to feel like my decision to go to university wasn’t worth it.

I didn’t want to feel this way, so I decided to look at the situation from a different perspective. Sure, my friends were making more money than me, but they weren’t doing anything that was particularly meaningful. They were driving around town all day and picking up fares. There was nothing challenging or rewarding about that.

On the other hand, I was using my degree to do something meaningful. I was applying the knowledge I had acquired to solve real-world problems and make the world a better place. Sure, I might not be making as much money as my friends, but at least I was doing something that had a real and lasting impact.

I realized that university was worth it.

Sure, I might not be making as much money as my friends, but I was doing something that was meaningful.

But this trail of thought was disrupted after I had a gf

She started to say that my salary was a mere $3.2k after CPF and I cannot afford a car nor fancy holidays.

Should I start part-time Grab?

I spent 4000 dollars on food deliveries.

So I was 16 and I just started my first job and I didn’t know what to spend money on, so I ended spending 4000 dollars on food deliveries..

I just feel so f-ed up as I could’ve saved that money instead of being a fat fk

4000 f-g dollars, 1 year later and I’ve finally saved up the amount I spent last year, if I wasn’t like this I would have 8000 right now.

I just wanted to let this out cus I feel so guilty, food delivery is going to kill people I swear, it’s just way too easy.

I’m 11 months free from ordering food deliveries. It felt like coming off an addiction kinda

Netizens’ comments

1. That’s a part of being young and dumb sometimes. I’ve probably spent thousands over the years on dumb sht that I’ve regretted. I chalk it up to being an “idiot tax” and try to learn and move on. Better being a couple thousand now than $100k later in life! You’ll survive, you might just not like it for a little bit, there are worse things in life.
2. This is a great time to make mistakes that won’t have long term effects. You made an error, but more importantly you learned from it. You lost $4000 now, but being more cautious going forward might save you much more than $4000 since you know how much of a moneypit it is.
   If it makes you feel better, I just spent 95k on a machine I’m not even sure I can use anymore after only having it for about a month
3. I once spent $25k on an online gaming account that I played with for only half a year.
4. I’m disabled and sometimes food delivery is the only way i can access a meal. Just to give another perspective on this. The service isnt inherently evil.

I am deliberately pretending to be a little dumb and slow at work – sadly it is the best approach

I had half a dozen jobs in the last 20 years. I tried being smart and energetic, I tried to stand my ground, I tried to be calm, agressive, passive, active. None of these things seemed to work.

Right now I tried the a little slow and dump approach – and for the first time it seems to work.

I deliberately make some small mistakes that are easily corrected and do my work a little slower than average – the boss is sometimes annoyed – but thats it.

I suspect because with this approach I am not on the ”threat” radar? Competent and smart people are a threat to the position of someone.

But the little dumb and slow guy is not a threat to anyone so they leave me more or less alone. Anyone else has experienced this phenomenon?

Netizens comments

1. Yes they don’t want you to suggest something that makes you look more competent because many managers are extremely insecure
2. I will literally complete all my tasks in one go and instead of submitting them, I’ll take my time and show bits and pieces of the progress throughout the week so it looks like the job is eating up all my time and effort. Makes me look like a constantly busy and hardworking employee without actually having to be one
3. I just started doing this same exact thing! I just left a good job because I moved to a different state. At that job, I was well respected, had a lot of experience, and was constantly pushed into management. I was an over achiever. Now at my new job, I decided not do that. Now I’m the slow dumb one and it’s a breeze.
4. I have autism so my personality so it takes me longer to do things. People expect less of me because of my awkward social skills. I get lots of job interviews and I have the education and experience, but rarely land a decent job.
   I can and probably should work harder so I can get a better job. But I don’t like having all the extra responsibilities that come with higher level work and the increased chance of getting fired.
5. people will not think you are any risk, they will empathize with someone they think is no risk of replacing them. now they will even try to help you out, out of pity.