My son is 18, He is going to be attending poly soon and is living with me, my husband and his 2 younger half-sisters.

The other day I found out that he found and accepted a part time job without telling me. I was upset with him about it and the reason for that is that first of all, he should’ve told me since we live in the same house and also, and more importantly how I’m left without someone to stay with the girls from 3 to 8 where my shift start-ends. my son is usually the one to stay home with the girls and his new job is during these hours so one way or another we are impacted.

He told me his friend found him this job and it just happened – but I don’t think it did because he knew he had to give up staying with his sisters while I work. my husband travels most of the time (he’s a pilot) and paid child care is a no for me.

My son said I shouldn’t be surprised by him trying to work to save money to be able to pay for himself but that is just absurd since he literally lives with us without having to pay for anything except for his own entertainment. He said he needed the job and he wasn’t really going to stay and watch his sisters for days on end especially he doesn’t get paid for it.

We kept arguing and my husband got involved and he too was upset saying that my son had no respect for us. my son basically had a “like it or not” attitude with us and kept refusing to discuss this with us saying we have no right to be upset with him and should just accept it.

but I’m just…I think that he’s being inconsiderate of my husband’s and I struggle to provide for the family as a whole. this should mean something to him but he acted selfishly.

The babysitter option isn’t ideal and is because my daughters don’t want a babysitter. they’re both dealing with some issues and are uncomfortable being with a stranger at home. besides that my son decided to stay with them and we didn’t ask him or anything.

My girlfriend told me that she tested me by cancelling a date when we first started to go out. It was the date when we were kinda planning to hook up for the first time. For context, She lives in town area while I have a 40 min drive.

She waited until I was halfway to town before cancelling. I remember texting her as I got into the car and telling her I was on my way and she still waited until I was halfway to Orchard.

She had a lot of opportunities to cancel before I had driven half an hour. The date being cancelled sucked but she told me she was feeling sick and I told her it was okay and told her to get better. I had also asked her if she wanted me to come over and she said she didn’t want to.

She told me that it was a big moment for our relationship as she found that I am very considerate but honestly I get why she wanted to test me but I really am angry about the way she tested me. She had no consideration for my time and effort. it was as if she really wanted to inconvenience me to see how I would react.

I told her that it was pretty inconsiderate to wait until I had driven halfway to cancel and she had been really inconsiderate in the way she tested me.

She apologized half-heartedly and then said it was not a big deal and it has been 4 months. I told her it was a big deal to me and we had an argument about it. I feel bad afterwards cause it feels really small thing to get mad about.

Here are what netizens think

• Your GF is absolutely garbage, if she has to test it means she is unsure. If she is unsure why did she get official with you.

• I really don’t think anyone should do these kinds of ‘relationship tests’, because enough things will happen on their own to test a relationship anyway. You will get sick, you will get tired, you will face stressful times. No need to make up tests for that when those things already happen.

• People normally do test are insecure and people that will cause problems in relationships so please stay away.

I work at a nice restaurant as a cook and every day when I get off from work I always cook dinner for my wife and our 2 kids at the restaurant before coming home.

The only time I don’t cook for them is on weekends when I’m off and that’s when my wife does the cooking. We usually trade off who makes breakfast and luck for the kids every other day but for the week I’m always the one bringing home dinner.

At weekends we sometimes get together with friends and they come over to the house. My wife usually cooks and I help set the table/clean afterwards. One of her friends “Stacy” asked how come I never do any of the cooking and is it always on my wife all the time making meals for the kids, especially when I’m a cook myself.

Instead of correcting her she sort of laughed and went along with it making jokes about “you know how it is.” And Stacy laughed because her ex-husband was the same way. And then sort of ripped on me in a “joking” way how I better buck up before I become an ex too.

My wife just said well let’s see if he actually listens and starts cooking for once. Joking about all the time I spend in the kitchen at work but won’t do the same at home. It really pissed me off. I’m not the husband that just doesn’t do anything after I’m home from work.

I cook food for her and the kids at work AND on top of that I make separate dishes for each of them (what she wants and what the kids want). All that after standing on my feet all day. We talked about it once they left because I don’t appreciate being told I’m not doing something she knows for a fact I do.

She didn’t want to apologize for it because it was all just to be a funny joke. Even after telling her about how it hurt my feelings being put down like that. My wife said she felt like she has to go along with the joke so there wouldn’t be any awkward vibes (whatever that means).

But I said fine if she can’t apologize for something that was mean just so she could laugh along with her friends then I won’t keep doing something she already claims I don’t do. For the past week I’ve only brought home dinner for our kids and she’s had to make her own food. She’s mad that I’m refusing to feed her over what happened instead of letting it go but I can’t help but feel mad about being made fun of like that when I’m working like a dog to provide for my family and still making sure they have food on the table every evening.

She just thinks I’m a bad husband now for how I’m reacting when she’s already tired at the end of the day but still having to make food for herself . Wth..

Ever since I got out of the hospital for chronic problems, My husband has been introducing me to some games every evening. One game used to be about doing things while my eyes are blindfolded. involving puzzles, ruby’s cube, shaped objects et cetra…. We’d take turns to do it just for entertainment.

Just a couple of days ago, he’s been trying to get me to sign papers while wearing a blindfold. I refused to do it because he never lets me take a look at what I’m signing neither before nor after. He says that he was just trying to see if I could leave the same signature every time I sign but I couldn’t help feel uncomfortable.

I told him I don’t want to play this game unless and until he shows me the papers first, he said “nevermind then” and stopped bringing it up.

Last night, he tried to convince me to give it a try and even volunteered to go first, I asked if he was going to show me what I was going to sign and he made a face and said no, it’s the rules and I should respect them.

I refused and he kept on about how I keep acting worried and suspicious for no reason. he said I clearly don’t trust him and he was hurt by finding that out now after everything we been through. We had an argument and I told him to drop it and not bring it up again, period.

He was mad despite saying it was no big deal, he was obviously upset with me and kept talking about how I don’t trust him and that I was out of line to assume or suspect anything from him like this. I might be paranoid but I couldn’t help it. I do think I was ta to him after he stood by my side when my own family didn’t even visit.

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s a trick, it could be divorce papers

• It could a paper for u to transfer all assets to him.

• He might be trying to let you sign something that will benefit him like it could be a will.