Hello all. So I pour Diet Coke in the sky for a living and it comes with pretty cool perks, such as free air travel. A cool part is that I can sometimes bring friends with me. There is a caveat that you have to be professional when you travel and can risk losing your job.

With that being said, I recently went on a trip with a good friend of mine. When we were leaving to head home, we had two flights to take. Upon landing, we had to clear customs and pick up our bags and recheck them. When we get to the recheck spot, we got informed that our bags were lost. My friend proceeds to go nuts. Like absolutely lose it, which is not okay. My friend knew about the fact that they had to show decorum because I could quite literally lose my job for it but they continued to go be beserk.

I asked them to calm down and they didn’t and instead, they lashed out at me. So, I went to the agent, told them to get security and had them cancel their flight on my benefits. Why did I have them call security? Because you’re causing a scene at an airport and a security officer is better than the police. Anyway, I left them to their tantrum and went on my merry way.

Obviously weren’t not friends anymore. So and so is also attempting to take me to small claims to refund them their alternative travel expenses. I’ve received mixed responses from our mutual friend group.

So what do you think guys?

Here are what netizens think:

All of these fools acting out at airports should get their flights cancelled. Full-on timeouts until they remember how to behave like civilized adults.

So sometimes when you fly somewhere you need to do it in two or more steps. You fly to one airport to catch a flight to another airport. In some cases the time you have to catch the next flight is not enough for the ground crew to take the luggage out, separate and sort it and get it on the next plane. In this case your suitcase is considered “lost”.

A man shared how he is stick and tired of his married life, as well as his wife.

Here is the story

I am tired of being married

I wake up every day at 6-7AM, take my kid to school, clock in at 8:30 to work from home while simultaneously taking care of my 4-year-old.

Taking my lunch break to go pick up my kids.

Work the rest of the day. Get off and walk to the kitchen at 530, to cook dinner for the wife and kids.

Then get the kids bathed and ready for bed.

I do the dishes and laundry regularly, my son has not been tardy all year, and I have been able to consistently work remotely for a while.

I hate this so much. I want a partner who isn’t a lazy POS.

What does my wife do? You ask? Oh just talk about how I’m not a real man because I don’t make more than 60k. I’m a loser who makes bad music and will never amount to anything.

Screw all this that! I’ll set a better example for our sons and teach them not to put up with emotional and psychological torture.

Bless you. Marriage isn’t my issue, my wife is.

Time to make some plans and changes.

I don’t think there’s many people in this sub who would be in the same situation as me which could be a good thing to get opinions but you can you even begin to start dating for the first time in your mid 30’s? Is it too late to learn all the things that should’ve been learned 10-15 years ago?

Having never had a girlfriend before and getting zero interaction on the dating app scene for 7 years I personally feel like it’s too late and the cut off has passed at my age (35 in May) and that there’s too many things to learn about being on a date, being together with someone, sex, love, and growing as an individual that should have been learned at a minimum of 10 years ago

I’ve seen it posted in here that not having a partner at all in you life when in your 30’s is a huge red flag which on first glance I find is a pretty unfair blanket statement to make on people but it seems to make sense when it’s broken down and analysed that people in my situation don’t really know how to be a “relationship quality” person and in a way I guess people feel like they have to coach someone when it all should’ve been learned in the teens and early 20s. Not even going to touch on learning how to have S.

Not that it really matters since I wasn’t getting likes or messages for years previously but I’m sort of at the point in life where I need to decide if it’s worth it to keep trying and feeling completely invisible and undateable or get on some good ol’ copium and rationalise reasons to give up.

Here are what netizens think:

I started dating at 30. I just waited until I was comfortable with myself. Get out there and go for it! I’ve learned quite a lot from dating for 4 years. I’m 34 now.

I think everyone dating in their 30’s is kind of working through something. It’s a refreshing change from 20’s dating when everyone is trying to present this flawless picture of themselves! Never too late 

A girl asked why are men obsessed with thinking that women are after their money.

Here is the story

What is this unfounded obsession that some dudes seem to have with women being after their money, free dinners, etc?

So I’m fortunate to have a rad partner who is not like this in the least. We are both solid earners and provide for each other equally, and I don’t feel that all guys think the way that I am describing below.

But I have to laugh when I see the sheer amount of dudes constantly fretting online about all the women they think are after their money and trying to use them for free dates and meals.

Ironically, it’s almost always a dude who is a really average earner flipping out about imaginary girls who want free dinners, gifts, etc.

This is borderline comedic to me because while I know that there are definitely individuals out there who will take advantage and have ulterior motives, it is nowhere near as common as dudes online will have you think.

I literally just saw a thread of guys musing amongst themselves about how to tell whether a woman likes them or their giant piles of cash and success. I’m like…none of you have this problem. Respectfully.

I feel like a lot of it is an extension of a very subtle form of misogyny and distrust of women that really isn’t that valid. Does this make sense? This is bizarre to me.

How can I tell my boss I don’t care about team building events?

Hi all, my boss attempts to do Sunday morning self-care days and usually no one signs up. He is a Gen Z boss and genuinely well meaning.

I just wish someone would tell him no, we aren’t interested in coming in on our day off. He tries to do one every month and every month he asks and I just say “no.”

Is there a tactful way to bring his attention to how tone deaf these self care days are? (Even if they are supposed to be for “health care?” We are social workers so self care is on brand, but we don’t want to come into the office conference room on our day off to do these weird activities and things with our coworkers)

If you think that is too risky to bring up to a boss, what is a respectful way I can tell him this month that I appreciate him trying to do this event, but I will just never do weekend events?

Netizens’ comments

1. Just approach your boss and tell him very kindly, “Sir, I appreciate your motives and understand that you care for our well-being. But I am sincerely unable to give a f- about it to come on my off day.”
2. You said it yourself
   “I appreciate that you try to do this event but no one is participating because its their day off”
3. This weekend event conflicts with my responsibilities at home. Thank you for the concern for well being and for your understanding
4. On the one hand, it’s nice they show concern about your well-being. On the other, these team-building events should not be on employees’ off days.
   It’s fair to mention that you have obligations on the weekend (even if it’s just sleeping in or hanging around the house with your spouse) that keep you from attending Sunday “team-building” events. And if the rest of the staff is on board with you, why not mention that people don’t want to think about work on their days off.
   Would you be willing to do a team building event after the work day is over? That might be a fair compromise.
5. He might be genuinely well-meaning but I’ll tell you what: he’s got some fucking cheek on him. Sunday morning? Give over. You’ve got plans. You’ve got things to do, things to watch, things to play, places to go, friends to see. You know, things you can’t do during the week because you’re working.

Ok listen I’m 29, single parent. I’m HORRIBLE with money. HORRIBLE. The minute I get my paycheck I spend it all. It’s overwhelming, it’s demoralising and definitely takes a toll on my mental health.

I need help but how? Who do I ask? I got paid today and I’m so behind on my payments and in so in debt, I paid my overdue balance on my phone bill, some medical bill payment and another $60 bill.

I pretty much blew the rest. I don’t even know if I have enough for tomorrow.

It’s a problem, a big one. But who do you ask for help in managing your money? I don’t have a cent saved. To make things worse, I make decent money, and live at home. I just spend it all on stupid unnecessary things. Restaurants, shopping, things I do NOT need. I’m desperate for help.

My brother and his wife suggested I hire someone to manage my money and it sounds so stupid to me. But then I look at my situation and maybe its what I need. This money situation is affecting me bad, I’m always moody, negative, sad.

This wasn’t me. I never cared enough until my child turned 8 and asked why we couldn’t go for holidays like his other classmates. I am desperate for help.

Netizens’ comments

1. If you’re really comitted you have to do it yourself. A money manager isnt going to stop you from spending irrationally. Set yourself a payment plan for each bill and see whats left. Then save 10-20% and spend the rest on your kids and yourself
2. What are you spending your money on? You cannot rely on hiring someone to manage it for you. That in itself would be wasting money. You need to gain control. I’d say therapy might be your best starting point. Learn what’s driving you behavior and strategies to manage it so you can develop discipline.
3. No one can fix it for you. It’s you. Make a budget. List every bill that you have for a month. Tick each payment off as you pay it. You can’t spend any money that month until you pay them all. Whatever you have left is yours to fritter away as you please. Do this every month. This works for me.
4. I am also a compulsive spender. One, emotionally. Two, for the dopamine. I’ve done a lot I’m not proud of and every week is a struggle. Two things helped me: one, I laid out all of my expenses, debts, and took a look at my bank balance for once to parse out how much i actually literally spent on stuff. Avoidance is big thing when you spend like this. You don’t want to see it. But you need to. Two, I created a budget and then began to hide and move my money from myself. I created an account for bills accessible only to my bill provider accounts, savings, and one for my necessities and allowance. Give yourself a set allowance. Make a separate account for it if you need to and only carry the other cards on the specific days you’re going to buy groceries or whatever. Make it as hard as possible to access most of your money.

Do guys pay for the ladies’ meal when they go out eventhough they are not dating?

Last weekend, one of my guy friends invited me along with 2 of his female friends for dinner in an upscale restaurant. I accepted the invite because we used to be very close and we haven’t see each other after lockdown. He invited 2 ladies who are originally from HK and China respectively and that was my first time meeting them.

The dinner was okay. It was pleasant enough but I just didn’t jive with the ladies. They are obviously scouting for potential mates and my friend here is their candidate maybe including myself. At one point they discussed about the difference between men from different countries, and said that local men are not very attentive to the ladies.

Like one of the girls complained that the guys here do not open the car door for her or carry her purse. They also complained that local men don’t dress up compared to Chinese/Hongkie. She expected all men should do this and not just when you are dating.

When the bill arrived, the ladies did not even attempt to take their wallet out. They expected us to foot the bill. It’s a fine dining establishment and a full course dinner costs close to 300.

So I immediately asked the table how are we going to spilt the bill, anyone wants to use their card to earn points and we can just use eWallet to send the money to the person we owed or we can pay cash etc. If look could kill you should see their face when I suggested that.

The Chinese girl even piped up, “I thought men pay for the meals. In my country, that is what they would do.” as if I need to follow their culture. I retorted that I would not pay for strangers whom I have no relationship with and they were obviously offended by it.

My guy friend did not side with me and offered to pay for them. Then they have the audacity to tell me I won’t get a girlfriend because I’m a cheapskate and should be more like a gentleman like my friend.

“Honey, I have a boyfriend and it seems like you two should learn from me.” They did not expect that and were totally dumbfounded. Anyway, the dinner ended on a sour note and my friend did indeed paid for them. He paid more than 1000 for a dinner and I don’t think he’s getting another date.

He blamed me for my antics and I should pay for women and this is a very common thing. He probably thought I would share the total bill with him.

Just got laid off after 13 years.

“Company restructuring”. I have been with them since 2010, was a Senior Manager. Joined when it was just getting past it’s startup stage, and have grown with it over the years.

At the beginning of the year we got a new boss, who restructured the team. I lost 2 out of 3 of my direct reports, destroying my team and ruining what I have built over the last couple of years.

It shifted my responsibilities, but was a chance to get back to doing something other than managing people which I was looking forward to.

Fast forward to this morning, get a calendar invite from HR and my manager “URGENT MEETING”. Figured what it was, the writing has been kind of on the wall, even though just last week my manager asked me if I would be interested in her position if she got promoted. So kind of a surprise, but also not.

Lots of emotions at the moment. This job lasted longer than my marriage. It was my first “grown up” corporate job. Made some life long friends.

Honestly kind of relieved? Oddly enough. I think I was ready for a change and a new challenge. I am financially secure, getting a decent severance, so I can take some time to find something I love.

But at 47. I am a bit scared to find a new job. Getting prepared for a roller coaster the next few days as I sort it all out.

Netizens’ comments

1. i had a similar situation happened to me in 2019. Our consulting firm tried to raise prices with our client. Didn’t work; we all lost our jobs. Didn’t help that my marriage was ending. Job hunting was stressful.
   But. It turned out to be the start of an amazing turnaround. I got a job in a different industry, new girlfriend, and the opportunity to attend one of the best schools around.
   I hope the same happens to you.
2. I got laid off in March and OOF it was rough at first. I had never been laid off so it was such a culture shock. The first 2 months I was job hunting and interviewing literally everyday and almost burnt myself out.
   I also got to hang out more with my family and get back into my painting. I still haven’t found a job but I’m in a MUCH BETTER mindset than the 11 years I spent at this job that kicked me out.
   I’m happier, healthier, and feel like myself for the first time in years. Definitely take it easy, take time for yourself, and trust that EVERYTHING will work out. Every person that I’ve talked to who’s ever been laid off said it was for the best. We gon be ALRIGHT!!!!!!!! Sending you hugs and love my friend

My wife’s been overseas for two months and I’ve found out I’m completely unable to function on my own
I have barely eaten anything more than sandwiches. I’ve done no cleaning besides dishes, laundry, and occasionally sweeping. I feel like such an absolute sack of s-t.

My spouse is definitely the one that pushes us to get chores done – she has higher standards than I do, and isn’t incredibly lazy. I didn’t realize how bad it had gotten, though. I’ve completely reverted to being a f-ing manchild. I get up in the morning with barely enough time to make coffee and leave for work. I haven’t mopped, vacuumed, cleaned the bathroom, anything. I cook maybe once a week, and the rest of the time I eat leftovers or sandwiches (or takeout)

I can make excuses, sure. I leave at 7 every morning and don’t get home till 5:30-6. But that’s just part of being an adult, having a job and still taking care of your life.

I can’t unload this all to her because I’m just being a self pitying piece of s-t who needs to learn some discipline, so I’m putting it all here instead. Thanks yall

Netizens’ comments

1. Look bro, no judgment from me, just for the love of god and all that is holy make sure you clean that s-t up before your wife gets home
2. So what are you going to do about it?
3. Now think about this from her perspective? And imagine there were two of you making all that mess. 2x the mess that by accidental default has been landing on your wife’s shoulders. Respectfully, it doesn’t matter that your behavior is now suddenly affecting you. Your behavior has been affecting her for however long you’ve been married,
   I respect the reflecting you’re doing, and I validate your instincts to improve. Start small, don’t get too down on yourself, but take it from a woman- don’t make your partner feel like your mother
4. Honestly have you ever considered that you haven’t reverted, that you always were one, and that your wife was just doing all of the housework AND mental work of mommying you into ”helping her” with some housework to the point that you thought you actually weren’t one.
   Either way, get it together because as much as you’re figuring out that you can’t function without her, she’s probably simultaneously figuring out that her life is easier without you.
5. Grow the f up dude.

Got subtly shamed for leaving for more money

Was offered a 5% raise back in January which brought up my annual salary from 32k to 33.5k (I had to start dipping into my savings to make ends meet at times).

At a performance review in June I tried opening up the conversation for an adjustment for inflation and was brushed off with a, “We only do salary reviews once a year unless an employee is performing exceptionally well.” That killed off any motivation I would have had left and I started doing the bare minimum while looking for other opportunities.

Found another job offer that would pay me 38.5k and so handed in my notice. My manager’s exact words were, “I’m not personally motivated by money,” when I said I was struggling on the current salary.

My director was curious to find out what the other place was offering me, and when I told him, he said, “5k? Not a massive difference then.” No counteroffer either, mind you.

They’re both so far removed from the realities of what the junior staff have to live on, or they pulled the corporate version of negging on me.

Couldn’t be more relieved to be leaving.

Netizens’ comments

1. If it’s not massive tell them to pony it up out of their pay, after all it’s not much.
2. They’ll spend a lot more than 5K replacing you.
3. “I’m not personally motivated by money” lmao I’m sure they donate their salary to a local charity than. What, they don’t? Weird.
4. 5k is 400 extra a month, that’s noticeable
5. They are making a ton more than you, that’s why they are not motivated by money…
6. “Yes, well I am motivated by hunger and having a place to live. Sorry we all aren’t rich twats like you are.”
7. Welcome to corporate gaslighting to try and guilt you into staying. So they don’t have to spend the money to replace you and the higher salary people will demand. I would be homeless on your salary.