I feel like I’m in a mental prison waking up here everyday. I can’t remember the last day I was genuinely happy here.

I’m so sick and tired of this country where I feel like I know every corner, nothing is new. There’s no joy or excitement living in this country for me. I eat the same food everyday at home, I’ve seen the same streets in central Singapore for many times now. The working culture here is a slave culture, Singapore society just seem materialistic as a whole it seems hard to make genuine connections with other people.

I feel like mentally it’s like a ‘water droplet’ torture treatment where everyday things just get 1% worse, and now when I wake up I don’t have anything to look forward to, my life experiences are bland and repetitive. I’ve tried to go for some fitness class to change things, but it all feels very temporary from the ‘daily grind’. The everyday moments don’t change, I’m so tired and sick of all the repetition.

To those who are happy here, I don’t know how y’all actually do it. Maybe you can share with me some tips? I feel like I’m alive but barely living at all. I thought of migrating (since I was overseas for uni and really enjoyed it, it was the first time in my life I felt I was actually ‘living’ but now I feel like a zombie and another peg in the machine) but it’s not possible at this stage of my life yet.

Who do you guys cope with all the repetition in this tiny small island for many years?

Here are what netizens think:

• I doubt for a lot of people it’s the country itself that makes them happy here. For me, it’s family. I’m happy wherever my family is. Lesser contributing factors also include the food, familiarity, efficiency, friends. While you’re stuck at this interval, hope you find something that makes you enjoy this place,

• This sounds more like you are unhappy with your life right now rather than the country. Moving to a new country might not help if you are just gonna repeat your old habits. Why not take a moment and think about what makes you happy and unhappy about your life and make changes there?

• I have a friend who thought the same way, he was big on how life in Singapore is soulless and dull. So he decided to travel the world, he went to all kinds of exotic and different places. Then he got mugged in South America. He was badly injured qnd lost everything including the money in his bank account. The police told him he was targeted because he is an asian man and there was nothing they could do. When he returned to Singapore he was suddenly all pro-sg. Apparently he realised that most humans are trash and safety and security is the exception not the norm.

A man shared a story online which shows the extent that people will do just to “fit in” with other friends.

Sometimes, people take things too seriously and the term “face” is often overrated.

Here is the story:

I have this friend known as the king of credit card rolling, from the outside he looks like he got money but deep down he is very poor.

He drinks every day and asks people to drink with him to show that he has “spending power”. The problem is, that he does not have spending power, his credit card is always at the limit and sometimes even exceeds the amount.

He claims that he is working in a senior position in a company and has a high salary, but the fact is, it does not matter if he is making $1,000 or $10,000 a month. The way he spends money is like money grows on trees.

From month to month he will survive by making minimum credit card payments + interest. To be honest it does not concern me.

But every now and then he will cycle among our clique and ask us to borrow him $50 so he can afford lunch the next day, this has going on for years and it’s really getting annoying.

In another words, he has no cash and zero savings and survives from month to month with his credit card.

To be living on a high is his dream, no matter how fake it is. He just wants to show off.

I am 29F and he’s 30M. We got to know each other from a dating app, and we’ve been dating for the past 3 months (approx 15-16 dates so far). FYI, it’s a first for the both of us (we’ve never been in any relationships before).

He’s a chivalrous man and I really do like him. He even remembers everything that I have mentioned before (i.e. what I like/dislike, what I’d like to do and etc) and plans all the dates accordingly.

He did mention that he kinda likes me and would like to continue going out with me after our 3rd or 4th date, which I agreed.

Fast forward to our most recent date, he said that he really likes me, but he’s not prepared to commit because I’m looking for a serious relationship that hopefully will lead to a marriage eventually. He says that’s he’s also looking for something serious but not until that extent (marriage) yet.

I really do like him, but I’m not sure if it’s a good idea to remain as friends (with the hope that he will change his mind?)

Because I’m afraid I’ll fall harder for him the more time we spend together.

Your advice is much appreciated!

When a guy asked me when was my last rs and my reply was “none” they just don’t believe me. But that’s the reality of my life.

From young I was guarded fiercely by my lion and lioness parents. Ever once at the age of 12 I tried going on a steady but that lasted only a day coz my mom with her source and Intel managed to caught the boy I went on a steady RS with.

I have no idea what was said to that boy that made him run farrrr awayyyy from me. And so I take it as it’s not the right time to focus on rs, and that’s where I studied hard and 15 yrs later now at my twenties struggling to create a connection especially with guys out there.

It’s so awkward for me coz I don’t know how to find myself a boyfriend. Now, my parents are divorced and they no longer got the energy to filter my friends and all…Just need an advise on how do I embark on the journey out of being a single girl for entire 27 years of my life now….they say the clock is ticking and as I’m getting older I will be less appealing due to my age…help me out please!

Here are what netizens think:

• If those guys asked and do not believe it, they do not carry real heart at all. When your time is near, you will meet your Mr Right. Next time when you telling your story, tell them your parents, and your 1 day steady, that why you have been single at these time.

• Don’t stress it. Let nature take its course. You will find someone or your someone will find you when the time is right

• Just make friends as per usual and make the first move if you like a dude! Guys love it when you take initiative.

Advice

My bf and I talked about the issue of having kids. He says he does not want kids, and thinks this view is unlikely to change in future. I’m currently on the fence and not sure yet for the future, but do not want kids in the next 3 years after marriage (maybe 2 years from now). He is afraid that in future, my “unsure” will change to a “want” due to development of parenting instincts/love for kids. Then at that stage, one party has to compromise (bf give in to either have kid, or i give in and not have kid), and be unhappy while the other feel guilty. But on the other hand, this is like a future unknown unknown and other aspects are great. What should we do?

Here are what netizens think:

3 things you both need to agree on before even discussing abt marriage:

– Kids….both have to agree whether to have them and how to raise them

– finance…who pay for what

– In laws….how to deal with each other in-laws

If you both can’t agree on any of these 3, don’t get married because love for each other is not enough

• When it comes to having kids, if it’s not an unequivocal “HELL YES!!”, don’t do it. Your bf is childfree while you are a fence sitter. You are incompatible. Period. Break up now to not waste more of each other’s precious time.

• Iif he stand his ground and not wanting kids and you are unsure about your decision about having kids you really have to seriously think about the continuing or ending this relationship. Cus having kids is not fun. if 1 party not able to commit the whole part will just crumble.

• Don’t bring a kid into this world if both are not on board with the idea unequivocally. One or both of you might change your minds down the road. Then again it’s not just the topic of having kids or not that will arise. There will be other issues that crop up. It’s whether both have fundamentally similar goals to start with.

• Have open and honest communication on this issue. If one partner wants children and the other does not, it can be a dealbreaker for the relationship. do consider the reasons behind each partner’s stance and whether there is room for compromise. If both partners are not ready for commitment and not loving each other enough, it might be best to take a step back and reevaluate the relationship. It’s important to prioritize one’s own happiness and well-being…

I cheated with my female colleague and I feel very bad about it. What made it worse was that my wife witnessed the cheating…

I’m happily married with a wonderful wife with two kids. I work in marketing in an FMCG company and I’m constantly surrounded by younger female colleagues. Ngl, many of them are very attractive but I’m a faithful man who thinks with his bigger head.

However my life recently turned upside down. There’s this female colleague who recently joined, let’s call her G. G is in her late twenties and has a face and figure many women would die for and many men would go for. I was so surprised to find out that she was single (she gave me that information without me asking). G would constantly ask me for advice dealing with work matters and invite me to go lunch together with her batch. Sometimes we go for lunches and it’s just the two of us. G would constantly ask me what I was doing over the weekend and tell me what her plans were. She was actively using dating apps but none of the guys were up to her standards. She would often flirt with me (I think?) Like when we are alone she would playfully brush my arms and sometimes bump into me (too often for it to be by accident). She’d also tell me about her experiences with her dates and how they’re not good, and I’m so much better. I always felt a weird sensation whenever I hear that from her. It’s a nice feeling to be validated, but I’m married and it feels wrong.

One fateful day, as my wife had to use the car that day, she came to my office to pick me up. As I was walking away from the office with my wife, G somehow appeared out of nowhere and said hi to us and was extremely friendly towards my wife. G and my wife started chatting as if they were besties and they somehow ended up organizing a games night at my place that weekend. G said she’d bring her date over.

Fast forward to that day, G came with her date. Not sure why but I felt a tinge of jealousy seeing him. We decided to play some card games and I ended up partnering with G. This is when things went down. G was secretly texting me the cards she had in her hand and signalled me to read my phone. I got the hint and was trying to discreetly look at my phone. However, my wife caught me doing that and snatched my phone away and she saw the message from G. She acted like it was ok but after G and date left, she was so furious that I cheated with G during the games and my wife refuses to talk to me now.

How can I appease my wife?

Here are what netizens think:

• sorry dude if your wife caught you cheating, you’ll probably lose custody of the kids and have to pay large alimony fees. just suck it up and offer 2/3 of your salary to her and hope she doesn’t divorce you. lol.

• 5mins of my life reading that. 5mins that I will never get back

• Clever twist leh, not bad not bad  write a few more stories to entertain us pls

The place I work at requires us to wear these stiff uniforms. I was already turned on before heading to work but honestly was just lazy and went about my day.

As I was driving, the seam of my pants hit my “little sister” just right when I scooted my butt over a little.

I found myself moving my hips so the seam of the pants kept pressure on my womanhood going back and forth.

I found myself getting really close to “coming” and having trouble concentrating on driving, so I slowed down on the pleasuring myself, even though I wanted to climax right then.

Once I got to the parking lot, I pulled into a space and unzipped my pants and circled my “little woman” with my finger and quickly came.

I didn’t think much about someone watching me (although I should have probably atleast looked around first). I walked into work soaking wet after finishing myself.

I felt naughty all day but also it made my day so much better.

Netizens’ comments

• RIP her DMs