A man shared a story online which shows the extent that people will do just to “fit in” with other friends.

Sometimes, people take things too seriously and the term “face” is often overrated.

Here is the story:

I have this friend known as the king of credit card rolling, from the outside he looks like he got money but deep down he is very poor.

He drinks every day and asks people to drink with him to show that he has “spending power”. The problem is, that he does not have spending power, his credit card is always at the limit and sometimes even exceeds the amount.

He claims that he is working in a senior position in a company and has a high salary, but the fact is, it does not matter if he is making $1,000 or $10,000 a month. The way he spends money is like money grows on trees.

From month to month he will survive by making minimum credit card payments + interest. To be honest it does not concern me.

But every now and then he will cycle among our clique and ask us to borrow him $50 so he can afford lunch the next day, this has going on for years and it’s really getting annoying.

In another words, he has no cash and zero savings and survives from month to month with his credit card.

To be living on a high is his dream, no matter how fake it is. He just wants to show off.

I am 29F and he’s 30M. We got to know each other from a dating app, and we’ve been dating for the past 3 months (approx 15-16 dates so far). FYI, it’s a first for the both of us (we’ve never been in any relationships before).

He’s a chivalrous man and I really do like him. He even remembers everything that I have mentioned before (i.e. what I like/dislike, what I’d like to do and etc) and plans all the dates accordingly.

He did mention that he kinda likes me and would like to continue going out with me after our 3rd or 4th date, which I agreed.

Fast forward to our most recent date, he said that he really likes me, but he’s not prepared to commit because I’m looking for a serious relationship that hopefully will lead to a marriage eventually. He says that’s he’s also looking for something serious but not until that extent (marriage) yet.

I really do like him, but I’m not sure if it’s a good idea to remain as friends (with the hope that he will change his mind?)

Because I’m afraid I’ll fall harder for him the more time we spend together.

Your advice is much appreciated!

When a guy asked me when was my last rs and my reply was “none” they just don’t believe me. But that’s the reality of my life.

From young I was guarded fiercely by my lion and lioness parents. Ever once at the age of 12 I tried going on a steady but that lasted only a day coz my mom with her source and Intel managed to caught the boy I went on a steady RS with.

I have no idea what was said to that boy that made him run farrrr awayyyy from me. And so I take it as it’s not the right time to focus on rs, and that’s where I studied hard and 15 yrs later now at my twenties struggling to create a connection especially with guys out there.

It’s so awkward for me coz I don’t know how to find myself a boyfriend. Now, my parents are divorced and they no longer got the energy to filter my friends and all…Just need an advise on how do I embark on the journey out of being a single girl for entire 27 years of my life now….they say the clock is ticking and as I’m getting older I will be less appealing due to my age…help me out please!

Here are what netizens think:

• If those guys asked and do not believe it, they do not carry real heart at all. When your time is near, you will meet your Mr Right. Next time when you telling your story, tell them your parents, and your 1 day steady, that why you have been single at these time.

• Don’t stress it. Let nature take its course. You will find someone or your someone will find you when the time is right

• Just make friends as per usual and make the first move if you like a dude! Guys love it when you take initiative.

Advice

My bf and I talked about the issue of having kids. He says he does not want kids, and thinks this view is unlikely to change in future. I’m currently on the fence and not sure yet for the future, but do not want kids in the next 3 years after marriage (maybe 2 years from now). He is afraid that in future, my “unsure” will change to a “want” due to development of parenting instincts/love for kids. Then at that stage, one party has to compromise (bf give in to either have kid, or i give in and not have kid), and be unhappy while the other feel guilty. But on the other hand, this is like a future unknown unknown and other aspects are great. What should we do?

Here are what netizens think:

3 things you both need to agree on before even discussing abt marriage:

– Kids….both have to agree whether to have them and how to raise them

– finance…who pay for what

– In laws….how to deal with each other in-laws

If you both can’t agree on any of these 3, don’t get married because love for each other is not enough

• When it comes to having kids, if it’s not an unequivocal “HELL YES!!”, don’t do it. Your bf is childfree while you are a fence sitter. You are incompatible. Period. Break up now to not waste more of each other’s precious time.

• Iif he stand his ground and not wanting kids and you are unsure about your decision about having kids you really have to seriously think about the continuing or ending this relationship. Cus having kids is not fun. if 1 party not able to commit the whole part will just crumble.

• Don’t bring a kid into this world if both are not on board with the idea unequivocally. One or both of you might change your minds down the road. Then again it’s not just the topic of having kids or not that will arise. There will be other issues that crop up. It’s whether both have fundamentally similar goals to start with.

• Have open and honest communication on this issue. If one partner wants children and the other does not, it can be a dealbreaker for the relationship. do consider the reasons behind each partner’s stance and whether there is room for compromise. If both partners are not ready for commitment and not loving each other enough, it might be best to take a step back and reevaluate the relationship. It’s important to prioritize one’s own happiness and well-being…

I cheated with my female colleague and I feel very bad about it. What made it worse was that my wife witnessed the cheating…

I’m happily married with a wonderful wife with two kids. I work in marketing in an FMCG company and I’m constantly surrounded by younger female colleagues. Ngl, many of them are very attractive but I’m a faithful man who thinks with his bigger head.

However my life recently turned upside down. There’s this female colleague who recently joined, let’s call her G. G is in her late twenties and has a face and figure many women would die for and many men would go for. I was so surprised to find out that she was single (she gave me that information without me asking). G would constantly ask me for advice dealing with work matters and invite me to go lunch together with her batch. Sometimes we go for lunches and it’s just the two of us. G would constantly ask me what I was doing over the weekend and tell me what her plans were. She was actively using dating apps but none of the guys were up to her standards. She would often flirt with me (I think?) Like when we are alone she would playfully brush my arms and sometimes bump into me (too often for it to be by accident). She’d also tell me about her experiences with her dates and how they’re not good, and I’m so much better. I always felt a weird sensation whenever I hear that from her. It’s a nice feeling to be validated, but I’m married and it feels wrong.

One fateful day, as my wife had to use the car that day, she came to my office to pick me up. As I was walking away from the office with my wife, G somehow appeared out of nowhere and said hi to us and was extremely friendly towards my wife. G and my wife started chatting as if they were besties and they somehow ended up organizing a games night at my place that weekend. G said she’d bring her date over.

Fast forward to that day, G came with her date. Not sure why but I felt a tinge of jealousy seeing him. We decided to play some card games and I ended up partnering with G. This is when things went down. G was secretly texting me the cards she had in her hand and signalled me to read my phone. I got the hint and was trying to discreetly look at my phone. However, my wife caught me doing that and snatched my phone away and she saw the message from G. She acted like it was ok but after G and date left, she was so furious that I cheated with G during the games and my wife refuses to talk to me now.

How can I appease my wife?

Here are what netizens think:

• sorry dude if your wife caught you cheating, you’ll probably lose custody of the kids and have to pay large alimony fees. just suck it up and offer 2/3 of your salary to her and hope she doesn’t divorce you. lol.

• 5mins of my life reading that. 5mins that I will never get back

• Clever twist leh, not bad not bad  write a few more stories to entertain us pls

The place I work at requires us to wear these stiff uniforms. I was already turned on before heading to work but honestly was just lazy and went about my day.

As I was driving, the seam of my pants hit my “little sister” just right when I scooted my butt over a little.

I found myself moving my hips so the seam of the pants kept pressure on my womanhood going back and forth.

I found myself getting really close to “coming” and having trouble concentrating on driving, so I slowed down on the pleasuring myself, even though I wanted to climax right then.

Once I got to the parking lot, I pulled into a space and unzipped my pants and circled my “little woman” with my finger and quickly came.

I didn’t think much about someone watching me (although I should have probably atleast looked around first). I walked into work soaking wet after finishing myself.

I felt naughty all day but also it made my day so much better.

Netizens’ comments

• RIP her DMs

A girl shared how her boyfriend booked a hotel at MBS for them to celebrate her birthday but is afraid that he wants to ‘piak’ with her.

Your birthday is approaching, and your boyfriend has planned a staycation at the Marina Bay Sands (MBS) hotel. It’s an exciting time, but it’s natural to feel a bit nervous, especially if this is your first serious relationship.

Here is the story:

“Hi! As my birthday is coming, my boyfriend managed to book a hotel for both of us at MBS!

Although I can’t wait for that day to come, I am also very nervous because I don’t know what to do with him!

Is it true that couples stay-cay in order to have intercourse together?

I am still evergreen and he is my first boyfriend, I don’t want to screw things up because I refuse to cater to his needs. Any advice?”

Editor’s note: If you’re uncomfortable with it, please speak up and let him know about it.

2. Planning a Memorable Birthday Staycation

A staycation can be a fantastic way to celebrate your birthday. Start by discussing your expectations for the trip. This includes the activities you both enjoy, the atmosphere you want to create, and any specific surprises you may want to plan.

3. Setting Expectations and Boundaries

It’s crucial to be on the same page about your intentions for the staycation. While physical intimacy is a part of many relationships, it should never feel forced. Openly communicate with your boyfriend about your comfort level and boundaries.

4. Creating Meaningful Moments

Rather than focusing solely on physical aspects, aim to create meaningful moments together. Explore the city, try new restaurants, or visit popular tourist attractions. These shared experiences can help strengthen your bond.

5. Communication Is Key

Effective communication is the foundation of any successful relationship. If you have concerns or questions, don’t hesitate to talk to your boyfriend. Honest conversations will help build trust and understanding.

6. Exploring New Experiences Together

Trying something new can be exciting and memorable. It could be a new cuisine, a unique activity, or even a spa day at the hotel. These experiences will give you something to talk about and bond over.

7. Enjoying Quality Time

Make the most of your time together. Put away your phones, turn off distractions, and fully engage with each other. This can lead to a deeper emotional connection.

8. Understanding Your Partner’s Needs

While it’s important to respect your own boundaries, it’s also essential to understand your partner’s needs and desires. A successful relationship involves give and take.

9. The Importance of Emotional Connection

Physical intimacy is just one aspect of a relationship. Emotional connection is equally vital. Share your thoughts, feelings, and dreams with each other. This strengthens your bond.

10. Staying True to Yourself

Don’t forget who you are. A successful relationship involves both partners being true to themselves. Don’t feel pressured to change who you are to cater to your boyfriend’s needs.

haha i really hate how my mind becomes completely illogical when it comes to my crush.

basically he can just ask a simple question e.g how much do my braces cost?

immediately my mind will link to why does he want to know my braces cost, the price of putting braces is just a usual range of 3-8k depending on private or public a simple google search will do. then i will proceed to the conclusion that he is finding an excuse to text me.

if a normal platonic friend were to ask the same question, my mind does not go through this thought process. i will just dismiss that person as lazy, so lazy he cannot do a simple search.

a small remaining logical part of my brain knows the truth: my crush is lazy and wants a quick answer from me and he is not trying find a reason to talk to me.

ah.. having a crush is a magical feeling that is slowly leading me to death.

Netizens’ comments

He want to know if he kiss you and your braces break, how much he will have to pay and whether kissing you is worth the risk

A netizen shared how she lost all her guy friends because their wives see as her a threat as she is “hot”.

Here is the story:

“All my guy friends’ wives see me as a threat. I know because they expressed their displeasure and these guys told me about it.

These wives do not like it when my friends hang out with me but are ok if they hang out with other girls in our clique.

I asked myself honestly if I did anything to make them uncomfortable but the answer is no. I even tried to befriend the wives but they still see me as a threat.

I have zero interest in all my guy friends so there’s no way my actions would have suggested otherwise.

Frankly speaking, I think I am just average looking though most people say I am hot.

Really upset because I have lost these friends due to their wives’ insecurity.”