I just found out that my wife has an OnlyFans page! and that is not the problem!!

So, I am simply here because I want to talk, I want to feel like I am talking to the abyss. It is more of me talking out loud.

I met my wife back in June 2020, she is a therapist and she comes from a conservative family with a very traditional background. I was the one who is crazy and always outgoing and she loved that about me. In a way, I was her window toward another world. I enjoyed that! It felt like I am bringing something new to the table.

We embarked on a journey of true living without limits or restrictions. I still remember the day she farted (she couldn’t help it) and I kissed her and hugged her and told her, Yeah, I want you to be yourself. I don’t want you to feel ashamed or embarrassed. I know it is stupid but it meant a lot to me! in a way it was an indication that she is becoming more outgoing and more relaxed with herself around me.

We had so many interesting discussions about the definition of love, religion, healthy relationships & everything you could ever think of. OnlyFans models (workers) was one of those topics…you know the why’s, the how’s, and the what’s. I remember making a joke and I said if you start your OnlyFans page, you will make a fortune because you got it all… the beauty, the body, the intelligence, and kindness. She really did not take it well despite my attempts in explaining that it was a joke, a bad joke if I may add.

Almost 2 weeks ago she sat next to me and revealed her chest to me. I started putting my mouth on it… at that time, I noticed that her phone was recording, it was like a voice memo… I did not mind and I did not ask… we are both out there and we both enjoy our intimate lives a lot, it was strange that she did not tell me about it but I did not think much of it.

4 days ago, I came across a post for an OnlyFans page, it was hers! I recognized the background and what she was wearing. I am not gonna lie, My heart was beating so fast while I was going through subscribing to her page of excitement! It was such a turn on (the idea this could be my wife).

There she was, looking beautiful & hot. I watched every post, I read every word, & I even liked every single post of hers.

Fast forward an hour or so, I started freaking out, I never thought I would act like this finding out my wife has an OnlyFans page! then my brain started wondering about the idea that this might be considered cheating?! not because she offered herself and her body but because she kept it hidden from me! is there anything missing in our life? am I not enough? is it an experiment?

Then, I decided to go back to the page again and pay more attention to anything I might have missed. apparently, there is something called a tips menu (it is like a menu of services with prices next to each service) and I saw audio recording is one of the services! which reminded me of that time when I noticed she was recording the time we had.

Again, I felt excited about it, so excited that I even paid to see the video and texted her on OnlyFans that I am a new fan and I like what she has on her page.

This is my problem!! Why am I excited? should I be anything else other than feeling excited about this?!!

I am not really looking for an answer! I am just here speaking my mind and loud.

Husband is not interested in getting intimate after baby

So I gave birth 6 months ago. And we had intercourse about 5-6 times since. My husband has been so not interested. And I feel like I initiated half the time.

I know he is not cheating. He is a great dad. He works from home. We share house work and he looks after the baby too.

He is just not into it and this happened after giving birth.

It didn’t used to be like this. We did it at least 3 times a week before.

This makes me very self conscious and sad. Like, I’m not wanted or loved anymore. Has anyone experienced this? What could be the reason?

Netizens’ comments

My brother went through the same thing with his wife (ex wife now – they divorced because she had been cheating on my brother since before she was pregnant, during, and after) when she gave birth to my nephew.

He told me that he saw her as a mother to his child, someone to respect, work hard for, and was just so busy working 2 jobs so he could provide. The last thing he thought about was getting physically with her because what he found attractive was her being a mom, not being her (if that makes sense) after the kid turned a year old things got better for them. Not to say that he didn’t find her attractive as herself, but after bearing a child he said that he wanted to give her and his kid the world. That meant working 60+ hour weeks, 3-4 hours of sleep, and taking care of a kid.

Then he found out she cheated and he left her.

A guy shared how he was having a conversation with a female friend where he categorised women into three categories, which made her angry and stormed off.

Here is the story:

“A female friend and I were having a general discussion on romance, intercourse, and dating, etc.

At some point, I (a male) mentioned that as I see it there are broadly three classes of females: those you date/wed, those you hook up with, and those who just don’t catch your eye. In short, love or lust or leave alone.

Things got heated immediately. Said female friend started accusing me of objectifying women.

I protested that this is merely one way among many others of classification, and the same probably holds for men as well.

She demanded I repeat all I said but with women replaced by men – I refused because well I don’t truly know do I?

I did concede that it’s probably true though!…

she stormed away, and we haven’t contacted each other in a week. This whole incident is just so bizarre I can’t get it outta my head – both my innocuous statement and the social justice warrior-esque antics of hers.”

how to get grab to reimburse more for a 1h+ food delivery?

ordered at 7:45pm, the rider picked it up around 8 plus, delivered another order first and then delivered mine. i received my food at 9pm.

he was walking on foot. it should have only been a 5min drive or maximum 15mins via MRT (to my doorstep from the mall – the mall is 2 mrt stations away, straight road drive down, i live near the mrt)

contacted grab customer service and they said they will compensate only $3 but i said that it’s not fair – i waited 40 to 50mins for the delivery?

that’s basically 8-10x the waittime (if driving) or roughly 3x the waittime if the rider had taken the MRT… furthermore, grab did not inform me that it would be a stacked order 😐

i asked the rider if the stacked order was assigned by grab / the system and he said yes, so i told him to just deliver the food and did not disturb him with texts or questions.

has anyone had something similar happen before and managed to get a bigger refund? for reference, my order cost $23 excluding the delivery charge.

Netizens’ comments

1. A company like grab probably isnt reimbursing you from their bank, likely they penalise this deliveryman salary. He walk whole day to make ends meet, at least you got the food, I think just move on.
2. Just to share, as a rider/walker we have no control over whether we get stacked or single orders as it’s assigned by Grab.
3. since you said it’s nearby, why u don’t just go there instead of bitching about this? Grab riders will often stack and the food was delivered safely albeit in a longer time. Cfm opt for savers option then wanna blame grab.
4. Also why is it not fair? The food arrived to ur door step safely.. so the $3 refund grab is giving u is to compensate for the probably $4-$5 delivery charge.
5. Cannot refund. From Rider’s perspective the order came in at 8+ and he delivered in less than <1h, fulfilling his job and being punctual.
   Choosing to order at peak hours, you are prone to waiting longer than usual regardless of the rider’s mode of transport but hey at least your food came.

21 year old male here. I’ve been unemployed for about 4 months now, and my family is already frustrated about this. We’re really struggling to make ends meet, and I suffer a great deal on a daily basis.

I’ve been despairing over my situation for so long that I don’t know what to do. I refuse to work shitty jobs, and I do accept being left homeless because of this.

I’ve tried living outside for a few days at a time in the past, and it felt better than the mental anguish that working for someone else with a shitty wage inevitably brings.

I’ve been learning web development since I left my job, so I do have some hope regarding getting employed (it’s the only kind of job I enjoy) but it won’t happen until 6-8 months later, so I somehow have to survive till I start job hunting.

I posted here because I want some advice living like a homeless person. I accept my own past mistakes which have caused the current situation and since I simply can’t make myself work a shitty job, going homeless is a decision I’ve been contemplating for a long time.

Please don’t recommend to get a job at McDonald’s or something; I simply won’t do that. However, any advice on surviving in the streets is greatly welcomed.

I will have my laptop with me to pursue web development; however, I have no idea where I’ll live or code, what I’ll eat, etc.

I’m extremely horrified by my futile existence and at my wits’ end. I can’t meet my friends or others either because I’m out of my money pretty much all the time.

My savings ran out about a month ago, and I’m having insane thoughts about the reality. I feel like I’m on the verge of insanity but anyway.

I somehow have to survive without money and a roof on my head for the next months. What does one do in this situation? It feels like no rock bottom will be enough for me.

I keep hitting it over and over again and can’t get out of this stupid existential crisis that I’ve had for more than half a decade.

We’ve been dating for six months. A few months ago she met a guy (fake name Kris) at her new job and they’ve become good friends.

Since meeting him, she’s taken up a hobby of criticizing me for minor things constantly. I’ve hung out with Kris and her a few times.

He’s a nice enough guy, very nerdy, and a bit awkward. Apparently I intimidated Kris the first time I met him, which was not my intention. I do not get a vibe from Kris that he’s into my gf, but she talks about him constantly.

Yesterday at her birthday party my gf gets very drunk. I’m chatting with someone and out of nowhere she points at me and drunk-yells at everyone that I’m only talking to the person because I’m too awkward to talk to anyone else. I give her a funny look and don’t say anything while she laughs at me. Nobody laughs with her.

Later, I notice her having an animated conversation with Kris telling him that if he was a rod, she would polish him (they polish rods in a lab at work).

She thinks it’s really funny and keeps talking about how much she wants to polish Kris’s rod, which… seems explicit.

That night we sleep together. We’re both drunk. We’re really getting into it when she moans “KRIS”. A moment later she corrects herself: “[my name]”.

I’m drunk, and just wanted to F, and non-confrontational so I ignore it.

In the morning I bring up her calling out Kris’s name and she denies that it happened. She even texts him in front of me about the rod thing and Kris agrees that it was just a work joke, saying he didn’t think she meant anything from it. She scrolls up through their texts to show me that they’re just friends.

Well, I still can’t stop thinking about her calling out Kris’s name. I remember it very clearly and it’s bothering me.

Have any of you made a new friend and then called out their name with your SO by mistake? I’m not sure whether her suddenly becoming very critical of me after meeting Kris has to do with the honeymoon period ending or if she’s comparing me to him and would rather be with him if only he were interested.

Do you think she said a random name by mistake because she was drunk, or was she fantasizing it was him in bed with her.

Unpopular opinion – I don’t look forward to the weekends

30’s male with a wife and kid. Both of us work in a gahmen job. I find weekends very stressful. I mean, I love my wife and kid. Weekends can wake up a bit later.

But weekends means chores, cooking etc. Weekends means family outing, money flying Weekends means spending time with SO who may or may not be in a good mood. Nowhere to run if bad mood.

Weekdays on the other hand, thru the morning rush. Go to work, people smile, laugh. Camaraderie is there. Finish work, come back too tired to fight/argue/cari pasal. Routine is calming.

Anyone else feel this way?

Netizens’ comments

1. Working in private sector is very stressful so I look forward to weekends to destress by washing cars, sweeping and mopping floors, going to hardware shop to buy supplies to do minor repairs, taking family out for meals and shopping, meeting with parents or parents in law.
2. Sounds like the root cause of you not liking the weekends is your wife. Try to work that out.
3. I love weekends because I actually have time to do chores. I can actually cook during the weekends. I cant do that during weekdays because I simply doesn’t have the time.
   I think you just hate household responsibilities
4. Careful though, because the way u think now is nearing the type of husbands that “abandoned” their family and no longer took interest in them because they feel they lost the joy of being in that family anymore, and they would eventually try to find a “new” thing outside of it.
5. easy fix! just find a job you hate.. then you’ll love the weekends. 😀
   jokes aside. sounds like u need to see a therapist to talk about your problems. sounds like you’re harbouring resentment and anger.

Tell me if what I did is wrong.

Basically I did a simple experiment to determine if people are attention seeking with their “mental illness”.

So a friend of mine has 3 younger siblings, aged 18, 16, and 14. None of them got much exposure from the internet. Strictly only use it for studying. They have social medias but not using it often. All of them are normal and have pretty much a simple life. Sometimes my friend asked me to look after them when he’s out, and since I knew them , I just say why not. Sometimes not all 3 are at the house at the same time. So while its just me with one of them, I started my experiment.

So here’s what I did : For the 18 year old, I talked to him about a mental disorder called Dissociative identity disorder (DID). It’s just a talk, and I told him lots of facts about it and how scary it is if that happens to anyone. I even told him one example from media would be Moon Knight from Marvel. And I showed him various videos of explanation about it.

For the 16 year old, I told her about Tourette Syndrome (TS). I explained to her all the info about it, and showed videos of people with actual TS to her just for her to understand it better. I told her that they couldn’t control it, and some people don’t tend to understand them, which makes them frustrated.

For the 14 year old, I told him about Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). I explained to him how its common for soldiers to have them after the war, and that they have vivid flashback of horrible, shocking, scary events. I showed some videos to make him understand, and explained to him how its tough for them to go through that.

After that, about 2 week later, I visited my friend’s place to hangout, and my friend is visibly upset. I asked what happened and he said that his younger siblings is going through some “phase”. So I checked and talk to them.

The 18 year old make these dumb overexaggerated movement and facial expression, and became “someone else” entirely, and he told everyone he has DID. Note that he has been normal all these time. The 16 year old kept on having tics that sounded really really fake, and told everyone that she has TS. Note that she has been speaking just fine with 0 issues. The 14 year kept on screaming uncontrollably for minutes when he hears a loud sound, claiming that he’s “traumatized”. Note that he often play with loud things like fireworks, drums, etc.

All of them faked their disorders HAHAHAHAHAHA! Now they go around to their friends, and pretended to have these things HAHAHAHAHAHA! AND NOW THEIR FRIENDS SO CALLED HAVE THESE DISORDERS WHEN THEY DON’T HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!

Here’s the thing, I didn’t do anything wrong. All I did was educating them and spread awareness about these disorders. They’re the ones attention seeking HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!! So I have come to the results that people, especially online, who claimed to have these disorders and tells everyone about it are nothing but attention seeking losers. My experiment proves it!

But what’s your thoughts about this? I’m not wrong now right?

A netizen shared a story about how she got into an argument with her boyfriend because he “finished” on her face when they slept together.

Here is the story:

“Got into an argument with my bf after he came on my face when we slept together – he never did that before so it caught me by surprise.

I felt disgusted and degraded by the act – not to mention his proclamation “Take my holy water!” – but he called me a prude and said all guys do it.

He even claimed that many girls see it as a “badge of honour” on their faces, and showed me thousands of Google images of girls doing it.

I was utterly shocked tbh.

Is that a Western thing, or do yall let your bf/husband disrespect you like this too?”

Editor’s note: I’m sorry but I lost it at “take my holy water”… LOL!

haha i really hate how my mind becomes completely illogical when it comes to my crush.

basically he can just ask a simple question e.g how much do my braces cost?

immediately my mind will link to why does he want to know my braces cost, the price of putting braces is just a usual range of 3-8k depending on private or public a simple google search will do. then i will proceed to the conclusion that he is finding an excuse to text me.

if a normal platonic friend were to ask the same question, my mind does not go through this thought process. i will just dismiss that person as lazy, so lazy he cannot do a simple search.

a small remaining logical part of my brain knows the truth: my crush is lazy and wants a quick answer from me and he is not trying find a reason to talk to me.

ah.. having a crush is a magical feeling that is slowly leading me to death.

Netizens’ comments

He want to know if he kiss you and your braces break, how much he will have to pay and whether kissing you is worth the risk