Imagine being the kind of guy who sees an employee “not working” for five seconds, takes a picture and sends it to that person’s boss

My boss pulls me in to the office today to explain that a customer apparently took it really personal when he saw me on my phone, even though my job is helping people who come to my desk which obviously means I have downtime every once in a while.

But apparently this a-hole was so personally offended he decided to make it his mission to inform my boss of this behavior, and now my boss is actively looking for tasks to give me and my coworkers to guarantee we can’t stop working for even a second.

Tl:dr breaks for any length of time are for the devil, I guess.

Netizens’ comments

1. I got an angry phone call from my boss when I worked at a convenience store once. Apparently a regular came into the store and saw me reading a “magazine” at the counter instead of greeting her, and she took that personally.
   When I remembered the incident I had a pretty good idea on what time it happened at so I told my boss to check the cameras and call me back with what he found.
   He never called me back. I saw him a few days later and asked him what the outcome of his investigation was. He told me I was clearly reading the latest delivery order paperwork. The same paperwork that he had left me at the beginning of that shift because we were getting extra deliveries that day and he wanted me to be aware of it.
2. I HATE when bosses think the customer is always right. The worst is when an employee upholds a standard and a customer comes in trying to get special treatment and your boss waives it, doesn’t back you up, and cares more about a single Karen than a permanent employee.
3. I WORKED with a guy like that. not even a customer. He literally walked around the shop taking pictures of people if they so much as looked away from their workstation got quite a few in trouble and one person fired. ( all of whom he personally disliked) Dude was a bootlicker and got promoted to Project Manager in two months. I left the company right after that. They rewarded his behavior

My girlfriend (24F) blames me (22M) for not stopping her going home with another guy. I want to break up. What do I do?

Me (22M), my girlfriend (24F) of 4 years and some friends went nightclubbing a couple of days ago. It wasn’t a heavy night, but she did get quite drunk.

About half way through the night, she came up to me outside (after disappearing off for a while) holding hands with an older man and stated she was going to the toilet with him.

They both came back about 5 minutes later, but she ignored all my attempts to get her to come with me.

They both had their phones out like they were exchanging numbers and she just completely refused to come home with me.

When I finally got her attention, I told her to go away and I went home alone. I checked her location when I got home and saw she was at someone else’s house

I found out the following day that it was the same guy’s house, but she said she left immediately and that nothing happened between them.

She profusely apologised at first and was crying on the phone to me about the fact that she can’t lose me, but we met for coffee the next day and she said that I should have forced her to come with me, and that I’m to blame for “compromising our relationship” by letting it happen.

I now feel like I’ve done wrong and I should have stopped her.

Netizens’ comments

1. The first sign to dump her was when she appeared holding some guys hand after disappearing for a while then going to the toilets with him alone. She cheated god knows how many times in one night
2. She is irresponsible, untrustworthy, and manipulative. Do you want to further enable these things by giving her another chance?
3. Obviously you should have stopped her from hooking up with another guy. Just trying to make light, dump that girl.
4. It sounds like this is 100% on her, and she’s gaslighting you. I doubt you physically forcing her to come with you would have ended well either. And sorry to say but I am almost certain something did happen when she went over the guy’s house. Innocent people don’t act this scared and gaslighting.

Came for an interview but it was a trial day… I left

I was supposed to have an interview yesterday at 9:00 and I was told I could stay right after to see the work environment and have a short trial day until 15:00.

As I arrived, the person interviewing me sat me down in her office to tell me that the interview would be from 14:00 to 15:00 because some staff was sick and the two apprentices needed to be supervised by her, the only person with a certification in the building.

I said I couldn’t do a trial day without even knowing what the job is about or discussing anything (for example, salary. I have 10y experience and I’m not cheap) and that I agreed to have the interview first and the trial day later.

The other person said that this change of plans was necessary as she couldn’t interview me and leave the apprentices unsupervised. I said “perhaps it’s better if we reschedule when you’re not understaffed”.

Do I have “STUPID” written on my forehead? You want 5 hour of free labor out of me only for me to find out your pay and benefit suck?

Made me wonder if they use people that are looking for a job as a replacement for sick or absent staff as a routine.

Netizens’ comments

1. Trial day, lol
   If I’m working, you’re paying me.
2. Good for you. There probably was a job waiting for someone at the end of all that, but they were making sure they’d only hire the doormat.
3. they were hoping that you’re thirsty and desperate… They were wrong….
   Like others have said; give the company a negative review online to warn others…. What they pulled with you was unprofessional AF….
4. If they require you to work for them they need to at the very least pay you. I had a recruiter call me up about 5 years ago and wanted me to do a try out for a WEEK and be paid nothing.

My ex and I broke up over a year ago but we still sleep together.

My ex (34m) and I (34f) dated for about 9 months and a couple months after we broke up I reached out to him for a hook up because I was lonely and “in the mood”.

He didn’t hesitate at all and came right over. Now it’s over a year later and we still hook up about once a week. He’s usually the one who initiates our “dates” now.

I do not have any interest in starting a relationship with him again and as far as I know, he doesn’t either. We broke up for a reason and that hasn’t changed. He is fantastic in bed and I am insanely attracted to him, I just don’t know how to say no.

I guess I’m just looking for some objective advice about the situation. I’ve never had a FWB relationship that’s lasted this long before and I’m not sure it’s healthy to keep it going. Thoughts, please?

Netizens’ comments

1. Not technically a problem if you’re both fine with it, but definitely cut it off before you want to date other people. I would never go out with someone who was still banging their ex, or even recently banging their ex
2. I don’t see and issue, but long term if one person ends up wanting more and the other doesn’t then someone will get hurt. As long as you’re both aware of that risk then it’s fine
3. Obviously your desire to F is greater than wanting to say no, as long as feelings arent returning then I dont see an issue here?
4. What are your long-term goals regarding partnership? If you don’t have any, absolutely keep going if it makes you feel good. If you are hoping to meet someone else long-term, end this. Yes it’s only once a week, but that’s once a week you could be making connections with other people, who can connect you to more people to eventually help you find someone you’re crazy for whose life goals align with yours.

not giving wedding hong bao I was a bridesmaid for after receiving only $20 as a hong bao.

A old friend of mine recently got married and asked me to be a bridesmaid. I said yes as I felt we were moderately close since we went to school together.

We barely meet twice a year since graduating. But she is really calculative every time we meet, even texting me to ask to return her $10, splitting the bill down to the cent etc… We are both pretty comfortable and money isn’t an issue for us.

However, I only received a $20 hong bao from her after going through all the effort to help her for the wedding. We had to Grab to her house at the wee hours of the morning, pay for the bridesmaid dresses on our own and do our own make up, hair etc.

The wedding was held on a weekday and the whole bridal party had to take leave to go for the wedding. The wedding was held at an upscale venue and she had the whole works so it’s not like she was on a budget.

Honestly, it was not so much of the amount of money but like feeling she took us for granted and, didn’t even bother to offer to cover the cost.

After the wedding, she just sent a text in the WhatsApp group “thks for your hard work” (lmao sis this not CCA camp sia…)

The $20 ang bao was honestly pretty insulting lol… Was kinda pissed alr and didn’t bother to put in the wedding hong bao. IDK man…

Netizens’ comments

1. NTA. Similar experience.
   Shitty feeling. Think alot of people out there somehow dont value other people’s time. Probably the same kind of people who call plumbers to fix their leaking pipe, then if the plumber makes 1 small adjustment in 10 seconds, they ask if can get discount since only 10seconds of effort, without considering travel time, carrying shit around, before i even talk about experience.
   And yeah, just people think everyone’s time is free because you are their friend or some shit.
   Especially if you work in jobs that pay by the hour. Very easy way to value someone’s time.
   $20 for that effort and time, even I work at Mcdonalds also better.
2. If what you say is true, it does sound like she took you and the others for granted. Can see why you’re pissed. I think even if you didn’t get $20 but if she really made it a point to treat to a nice catch up meal to thank you personally (even if it cost less than $20), it would have meant something.
   The most important thing right now is don’t bring it up with the other bridesmaids or else you’ll end up sounding very catty/bitchy. If they bring it up then just casually agree.
   Gotta play it cool. I think you did the right thing to check here if you were the ass.

Manager upset I’ve put in my two week notice

I put in my two week notice at my job as a cook after working there for 4 months as I’ve found a better job that’s more pay and more convenient for me.

I could tell my manager was salty and he started to act indifferent towards me. It’s hilarious that they expect me to continue to work somewhere that is no longer convenient to me simply because they will have more work to do and will have to go through the hassle of hiring someone else, but this is not my problem.

I understand I was an asset to their company but I have to do what’s right for my situation and my LIFE regardless of how short I worked there.

I can’t wait to move on to my new opportunity as this will serve me way better than my current job. I did my fair share of work there, I could care less who’s peace I disrupt if I am doing things appropriately like putting my 2 weeks and continuing to help out until then.

My physical, mental, and my financial health are my priorities.

Netizens’ comments

1. Sounds like you already have the right mindset about it. Good for you on upward movement!
2. This is why you don’t give notice. You are not obligated to give notice, and it is not even a courtesy to do so. They will never give you 2 weeks’ notice when they decide to fire you. It’s only a courtesy if it is reciprocated. If you want to give notice, do so at the end of your last shift. Otherwise, just stop showing up for work. They will figure it out.
3. I would quit on the spot during your notice period the first time your manager pisses you off again!
4. It’s no surprise they are unhappy, but they need to deal with it and not act out.
   If they get unreasonable, you can always tell them that the 2 weeks was a courtesy and you could just leave immediately. (If that doesn’t cause you any problems.)

my boyfriend(32m) says I(27f) need to prove to him how sorry I am.

I got a tattoo and it was something that was discussed with my boyfriend. not that I was trying to hide it but I didn’t feel as though I need to ask permission?

I get letting him know and talking to him about it is important. he let me know he felt disrespected in our relationship due to me not talking to him about it.

a part of me didn’t want to have the discussion because he gives me crap when I spend money and I’m already an extremely frugal person and this was something that I had been saving up for.

I genuinely apologized because it was never my intention for him to feel disrespected in our relationship but now he’s saying it wasn’t a genuine apology and I need to prove to him how sorry I am.

advice?

Netizens’ comments

1. Someone insisting that you “prove you’re sorry” is looking to have power over you. Don’t give your power away.
2. Get a tattoo that says I’m sorry You were ever in my life. Henna tattoo that goes away. Like him.
3. Wtf? You don’t need to ask permission for getting a tattoo on YOUR body. Do you feel disrespected when he shaves his hair without asking you? And you really don’t need to apologize for something like that.
4. i don’t understand what the big deal is, really. it’s your body and you can do with it whatever you please.
5. You’re the one who’s disrespected. Turn things around and ask him to apologize for stealing your autonomy and ask him if he wants some complacent slave that only does what he wants and how he wants it.
6. I’m gonna be honest, this sounds like a power move/establishing dominance in the relationship kind of thing where you have to “earn” his forgiveness as a reward as opposed to his actual feelings toward you getting a tattoo.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 years and he still finishes within 5 seconds of penetration

We’re both early 30s M/F. The first time I slept with my boyfriend, he finished before he even fully penetrated. I figured with time and frequent intimacy he would last longer but it’s really just 5 seconds on average.

I maybe thrust twice and he’s done. It’s endearing because I feel he finds me immensely attractive but just not sure if this is overall normal.

I never finished from penetration and overall believe I’m just unable to. My boyfriend understands he finishes incredibly fast so he has a ‘she comes first policy’, where we do foreplay + toys initially so at least I’m satisfied before we decide to actually have PIV.

I’ve had casual hookups with other men during my schooling days and sometimes it was so long that I got tired and didn’t feel like doing it anymore and they never actually would finish either (neither did I since I cannot cum from just penetration).

When I told my boyfriend about how other guys in my experience sometimes wouldn’t finish and how our hookups would last a long time, he said alcohol + excessive adult video watching makes finishing in the actual moment difficult.

He doesn’t really watch AV so when we do sleep together (~once biweekly) it’s his only stimulation and not sure if this is why?

Anyway just wondering if others have this experience as well? Im overall neutral to this issue but it’s just different from my past experiences so I’m curious.

Netizens’ comments

1. Have him finish earlier in the day so that it’ll be round two for him by the time you start. Hopefully that’ll help.
2. Curious question. Do you guys use condoms? If not maybe possibly trying one. Could possibly help reduce the feeling with penetration. Maybe try finding some thicker ones.
3. This might be an unpopular opinion, but once every two weeks is infrequent, IMO. You do you, but he may need it more frequently in order to extend his time. If my husband and I don’t do it for a week then he climaxes very quickly, but we usually go about 3 to 6 times a week and he lasts much longer.