Found out I’ve been massively lowballed on my salary and the company doesn’t care. I’m already applying for new jobs wherever I can.

I’ve worked with my current employer for 6 years as a data analyst, my initial pay was lower than the advertised amount due to my lack of experience and I accepted as I was desperate for a job.

Recently we had a new hire and I was showing him the ropes, teaching him about the data and software we use. We actually got along really well and strated chatting outside of work.

The subject of pay came up and it turns out he’s being paid about $10,000 a year more than I am. We were both pretty shocked at this and did some double checking to confirm that we’re in the same role and we are.

I brought it up with my manager and she seemed shocked and agreed something was wrong. We then went to the department head and he initially tried to downplay it, saying stuff like the new guy has more experience and qualifications etc.

I then pointed out I’ve got 6 years of experience and have qualifications in the software we’re using and I’ve been teaching him how to do his job. He backed down and agreed to pursue a pay rise for me. It took about a month to hear back.

I’ll be honest, I wasn’t expecting to get a 10k payrise all in one go but I was expecting something, even just a small bump to get me to shut up.

What I got was an outright “No, it’s not in the budget”. My manager tried to argue for something else, reduced hours or extra days off instead but that was also rejected.

During the follow up with her she seemed shocked about it and while she didn’t outright say “find a new job” all she was able to offer me was some opportunity to work on a project that might look good on a CV.

I was stunned and incredibly dejected. I’ve never felt so unappreciated. I’ve worked late on numerous occasions for this company, I’ve repeatedly had good performance reviews from my manager and dept head and this is what I get in return.

My motivation has plummeted and I struggle to expend even a small amount of effort on my work. I feel like so much of my time has been wasted and I’ve basically put my life on hold with this stupid company.

I’ve started applying for jobs and I can find a new one soon, before I accidentally get myself fired for slacking off or something. Then again, I doubt they’d be able to find someone to work as cheaply as I am.

I just received an inheritance of about $20k and I have no idea what to do with the money. I am unemployed. I had a few grand in savings to start with. I live alone and can generally afford to pay the bills, for now.

I need/want a few things like: new phone, PC, PS5, new clothes, laser hair removal. So maybe… $5k worth of goodies?

But what to do with the rest($15-$20k)? Is there a way I can turn it into more money, with little risk? At the moment I’ve got it in a high interest savings account.

I’ve never had this much money in my account, and although I’ve always been sensible with finances, I really don’t want to blow it.

What would you do with $20k? Any advice is much appreciated!!

Netizens’ comments

1. OP, if you’re unemployed with only a few thousand in the bank, I wouldn’t recommend spending $5k on goodies. Make sure all of your bills are caught up, give yourself $1k and put the rest in a high yield savings account for the inevitable expenses that come up. You’re not going to find little risk in any investment that may make more, and you may wind up losing money.
2. Separate your needs from your wants. As with any windfall, you should pay off debt first, then invest.
3. Instead of finding an excuse to spend the money, I’d find an excuse to save it. Sure, go spend $1,000 but you should really consider saving most of it for the long term.
4. Everything you named off is maybe 3k unless you go really to town on the PC and clothes. You can do a pretty decent budget build with something like a 12700K and 4070 under $1,500. You really don’t need the PS5 if you make a decent PC but still I guess 500. Spend another $500 on clothes. I’m only up to $2,500 so far

My BF can’t stop hurting me and my chest.

Well as the title says. It looks like he’s obsessed with trying to pinch, twist or hurt my bewbs and then especially my nips.

I don’t like it at all. I am very sensitive there and this makes it even more sensitive. Which leads to me not wanting to sleep with him or do anything intimate with him.

He even has a thing when we’re laying in bed, whenever I’m the small spoon he will try to pinch both my nips at the same time in the same hand. It hurts and most of the time he does it when I’m almost asleep.

It doesn’t matter if I’m wearing a padded bra or not, he just wants to pinch or twist them.

Last time I became angry and I had tears in my eyes asking him to not do it anymore. Since I really don’t like it and it hurts. But he just said that my body is his and I should get used to it

We are together for 5 years, he’s 28 and I’m 27 and I don’t know how to deal with this anymore. He just won’t listen.

Thank you all for reading

Netizens’ comments

1. You know the answer. You’ve expressed how serious it is, and his response was ridiculous.
2. Pinch his little brother and ask him how it feels, teach him a lesson.
3. wtf, did he really just say “your body is his”? I’m sorry you shouldn’t have to go through this. This is red flag. I wish you’d understand. he should have this stopped by now and there’s no way your body is his. you shouldn’t have to go through this pain.
4. Grab him by the b*lls. Squeeze. Twist. Pull. When he starts screaming, just smile and shrug. Tell him, “Your body is mine. Better get used to it.”

I hired a prostitute for my terminally ill brother and it went wrong.

My (32M) little brother (19M) was diagnosed with a stage IV glioblastoma a few months ago. He mostly has trouble walking and the treatment has rendered him mostly unable to speak.

I know he’s a virgin because we are close enough to talk about that stuff and he has never mentioned any girls in his life or any romantic relationship with chicks.

He’s not very social and he only had one really close friend in school who he even went on trips with (and later on I found out this guy was gay so of course he never helped my brother out with women, but it was obviously still great to know my brother finally had a friend)

I figured he’d like the surprise of having a professional hooker pop his cherry and it would even take his mind off things.

So I hired a woman, 30sh years old. He’s staying in his bedroom so he didn’t even need to move. I introduced her to him and then left them alone to do their deed.

Apparently, in the midst of it, my brother’s condom broke and they only noticed… after it was over.

The chick was supposedly on birth control but I don’t totally believe her. She seemed hysterical and upset after the whole incident. He definitely could get an STD.

Netizens’ comments

1. If he is terminally ill, would he really be worried about an STD? And if he is a virgin should she be worried about an STD?
2. The big question: who cares if he gets an STD? Poor guy has stage 4 glioblastoma
3. You did a good thing. It kind of went off the rails. These things happen.
   I’m sorry to hear about your brother. That’s more of a concern to me, honestly.

Colleague’s wedding invitation – can’t afford ang bao

Just joined a company a couple months ago, and got invited to a senior colleague’s wedding.

I really want to attend because I know everyone will be there, and I would like to celebrate for my colleague as well.

But it’s at a 5 star hotel and when I googled the recommended ang bao rate, it was $200-$250.

I definitely can’t afford it… should I rsvp no and give a lame excuse? Tell the truth? Or should I go and give a smaller ang bao. Or just suck it up, give the $200 ang bao and eat less for the rest of the month.

Also I’m not from the same culture as the colleague so I’m not very sure how to navigate the situation since my culture doesn’t really have a very strong ang bao practice for weddings.

Netizens’ comments

1. You can just decline
2. i invited this particular friend to my wedding banquet years ago, knew he was not doing well so i told him no need to bao angbao, just come. in the end , he bao $50 , didnt seem right to reject it so i didnt. i was touched by his sincerity of course
   sorry not answering op , just wanted to share lol
3. how close are you to this colleague? chances are you’re just invited as a table filler and for your angbao money. don’t feel bad for declining.
4. If I’m reluctant to fork out market rate for a wedding banquet angpow, I’d just make my excuses and decline gracefully. There is simply no way to guarantee word doesn’t get out along your colleagues that you were a cheap bastard who wanted to hobnob with the brass but didn’t want to pay the proper entrance fee to the party. I don’t know about you but my reputation is worth much more than $200 – $300.

He broke my heart. A while back I noticed a woman posting off comments to my boyfriends Facebook account. My intuition is spot on, I have a gift. I soon found post on her Instagram that were truly unreal. She posted pics my boyfriend sent me of his daily actions.

And on then she posted, I love you! With his name as if they were in a relationship. I confronted him with copies of the pics and he completely denied everything. And asked who she was.

I remember him telling not to add her as a friend. I put two and two together. He completely denied the whole thing. I was so hurt. But I believed him.

Months later she posted something I just couldn’t understand and I asked her to stop. She asked who I was, why I don’t know? She knew who I was. I told her I was his girlfriend. Who are you, I said because you are sure as hell are not his girlfriend.

A month later he tagged her on account on a dead account. If which I knew of. I asked him again, what she was to him. He said he never met her, never talked to her like me and to ask his mom? Wth? I am not dumb, what would you do. I am a women in love.

When you did this you were selfish, when I could’ve gone in with my life earlier. This is a three year relationship. Lately, he has been very attentive loving and I know he knows what he has done was wrong. Why can’t he just own up admit it, so we can move on? I ask what would you do?

Here are what netizens said:

• Let that boy go!! I promise you will find someone so much better for you, who treats you with kindness, loyalty, and RESPECT 100% of the time… Sounds to me like he is full of secrets and lies and heartbreak.. please stay strong and grow from this.. take peace in knowing that one day down the road, he’s gonna see you doing so much better and happy without him.. and that is when you will have your retribution.. Take care of yourself and I wish you the absolute best things in life!!

• It isn’t normal to have to convince yourself your man is being faithful. That’s not part of a healthy relationship. It isn’t normal for your partner to ever put another woman (with exception to family in certain circumstances) ahead of you. It isn’t normal for other women to be posting pictures of your partner with phrases like “I love you”. And it REALLY isn’t normal to have your partner react to that by saying “don’t add her as a friend.”, while continuing to interact with her behind your back and tell you he doesn’t know her.

• Let’s be honest would you really leave if he told you the truth! You know the truth already because your gut is telling you. Dump humans move on! Period.

I’ve been in a relationship with my gf for over three years now. Ngl after we got together, she stopped bothering about her image and appearance and look nothing like how she was in the past (gained weight, don’t make makeup). My gf also pays me very little attention these days and our lives are becoming more monotonous and routine.

I wanted to feel validated by the opposite sex so I started using dating apps. I have no intentions to cheat, I just wanna know my market value as a dude and whether I’m still in demand. I wasn’t the most popular dude on dating apps but not too shabby either (few matches per day).

But lo and behold! The girls I get suggested on the dating apps are all dino bus. Either they are old, fat and ugly or young, ugly and dumb. There’s the occasional chio one but as expected I don’t get a reply. The number of likes I get are crazy low compared to years ago when I was active on the app. This hugely damaged my confidence as a hot young male.

In a desperate attempt, I changed my gender preferences in the app to be male and started seeing male suggestions. Holy cow, I was getting over 10 likes a day from the dudes. It felt good. I liked a few of them back and started chatting. Some of them are super funny and flirty. I really enjoyed chatting with them. They made me feel super wanted and validated. This is the validation I have been craving for, though I didn’t expect it to be coming from males.

Now I’m super confused. Am I bisexual because I’m enjoying attention from guys? Should I turn gay and break up with my gf so that I can be with these guys who want me so badly?

Here are what netizens think:

Clearly you’re gay, since you hate women so much and you enjoy the attention from men and talking to men.

You’re not special bro.I left my preferences on male to female by accident on tinder last time, went to take a shower, and came back with 100 new likes, all from guys.

Practise dropping the soap

What should I do?

I’m 23 years old and a 3rd-year student in a university. I grew up in a single income family. My dad made the choice to womanize and abandoned 2 young kids than with my mom. He tells everyone else he has no money but he posts on social media pictures of him travelling all over the world while eating food. He refuses to pay anything for my younger sibling and my education, living expenses etc. He used to pay a bit like $1k every 6 months when we are much younger like in primary school. He cut us off officially financially when I’m 18 years old telling me straight in the face that we are “ a burden to him “ while he is smoking. He barely fed us, clothe us but expect us to give him an X amount in future so he will sue us for the maintenance thing.

Please tell me, is it not parents’ responsibility to bring kids up since they are the ones who chose to have unprotected S?

My mother is a strong woman in everyone’s eyes. She single-handedly brought me and my younger sibling up. She refuse to believe it but the divorce tore her up and the lack of financial support from my dad. She worked hard. Working endlessly. To support my younger sibling and me. Whenever she’s sad or being emotional, she will use emotional/mental abuse like guilt tripping, manipulation, gaslighting, etc. This is her way of being human after being strong for so long. I’m often the target as I’m not academically inclined since young as compared to my younger sibling. At times it really gets into me. I would cry and beat/bite/scratch myself thinking I’m not good enough. With all the negative thoughts. Basically self harm, i know. I went to counseling once but stop as i was worried it will affect my future career prospects. Like will the employer be judgmental when they found out? At times i really want to move out but it’s not sustainable in Singapore as prices is so crazy expensive.

So i can only endure and suck it up. That’s my coping mechanism for a long time.

Before anyone bash me up saying i should suck it up as everyone have a coping mechanism and i should understand, what about me? Who will think of me?