Hello everyone! I(24m) am in fact dying at the age of 24 of lung cancer. As lung cancer is fairly uncommon among under 25 year olds, especially ones with no history of tobacco use, all the signs unfortunately went under the radar until it was too late, my cancer has now progressed to Stage 4 and has spread to other parts of my body. I was given 6 months to one year to live.

I haven’t told anyone in my life. I have kept my diagnosis a secret for 2 months, and have tried to hide the effects of my treatments as much as possible. I don’t have much contact with my father (51m) and my mother died ironically the same way I am (not the same type of cancer but cancer nonetheless.) I am very close with my sister (18F) and my brothers (26m and 21m) and I know my diagnosis will absolutely break their hearts. I don’t know if I have the heart to tell them. Especially my girlfriend.

She’s the best thing to ever happen to me. I never believed in soulmates until I met her. I don’t know If I can bring myself to tell her, especially after I’ve kept it a secret for 2 months. I just keep imagining the look on her face when I tell her I will be dead within a year. We recently moved in together and she’s been talking about our future together. She wants to get married and have kids in the next few years apparently. Part of me wants to elope with her now but I think it would be selfish and cruel in all honesty. I don’t want to leave her alone, I love her so much.

For someone who could die at any minute, I think I have been quite positive about the whole thing. I can’t let it ruin my final months with my girlfriend, family and friends. I could die at any minute, but so could anyone else who’s not dying of cancer. Most people don’t know when they will die and I do that’s the only difference. I just hope I live until my 25th birthday because my gf is planning a surprise party with my siblings. She’s not the most stealthy person in the world lol. I hope I can see my family and friends together one last time.

I know some people may think it’s wrong that I haven’t told anyone about my diagnosis but I don’t want my final months to be a pity party or everyone acting as if I’m already dead. I saw the way everyone treated my mother before she passed and I refuse to be treated like that.

Thank you for listening to my rant lol.

A netizen posted a story stating that there are many people who post online stating that they earn over S$20,000 but are still unhappy with their life.

This is known as soft bragging.

Here is the story:

Can I just tell those ppl who post online that they earn 15k/20k but are still unhappy cos their “friends” earn 30k/40k that I CANNOT RELATE, like AT ALL?

I am just a humble uni grad earning 4k+ working multiple jobs, barely managed to pay off school loans, and after paying rent, food, transport, bills, insurance, taxes, misc (add up to 2k-3k) I can barely save/invest some of the balance. Like that shouldn’t I just go to the tallest building in sg and just leave?

Here we are having to count every single dollar we spend, u guys literally do not have to worry about finances at all with that kind of income, but instead still unhappy about it?? Really first a world problem in a first world country sia… zz

Here are what netizens think:

• The younger you are, the more you want to compare. You compare based on income, material things, social status etc.But once you get older, you will realize that all these are superficial. You will realize money can’t actually buy happiness.Happiness is free…But most people take free stuff for granted.

• Higher pay higher financial commitment

• Alot of them come here n humble brag are really mentally retarded questions n mostly trolling.

• yah sometimes I wonder what is a typical salary for a grad… here everyone seems to earn 15k+++

Ladies, does it matter if your partner is unambitious and doesn’t have goals career-wise?

Since young, I always liked a simple life and doesn’t like to work too hard. I am currently earning about the median salary in sg.

As I don’t have any desire to move up the career ladder, I can predict how much I can earn maximum in the next 20-30 years. It’ll be enough to lead a simple life but defo not enough to get the finer things in life like condo, cars, exotic holidays, nice clothes, nice Renos etc. As for settling down, I believe my salary is enough for a 3-4 room bto but nothing more than that.

I’ve casually dated a few girls and most of them seem to value ambition in a partner. Unsurprisingly, I could see the disappointed looks on their faces when I told them how my future can be like. Some casual chats with my female friends also seem to confirm they prefer guys who are willing to strive and have good prospects.

I’d really love to find a girl who is willing to live a simple life too.

I know that many families did just fine with incomes lower than mine and I even read about that guy who supported 8 kids on $300 a week in the news recently.

Here are what netizens think:

• You can be rich and live a simple life too.There is a difference between Ambitious vs. Diligent vs. Lazy.Most women prefer their men to be diligent. Many professionals out there are not very ambitious but they are certainly very rich because they love what they are doing and are very diligent to excel in the things that they do.

• I had an ex who is like that. He stayed in his company for almost 15years. No increment. Not planning to move either. That’s lazy to me. My husband, change jobs every 2 to 3 years, no intention to climb corporate ladder, reject promotions so he can come home to our 2 toddlers and me. He is extremely simple. Not much friends ever since we have children. He just hangs out with us 24/7. This, is totally different from my ex.

• You can make your choice, but finances will always be a big factor in any relationship. Jackie Chan was like you once, but the Great Bruce Lee scolded him in a very harsh way and the rest is history. Your low ambition will poison your career and HR can see that clearly … which will lead to nasty stuff they love to do to workers. Think about it.

A girl shared a story about how she met a “nice” and “wholesome” guy who brought her to a hotel after boasting of his prowess in bed, only to be disappointed.

Here is the story:

“Hello everyone here, first time posting and I need some advice.

So I recently started using a dating app and met a guy there. it started off really well as I thought he was a very wholesome, nice and funny guy.

However, things went downhill after we started meeting up. he started making perverted comments all the time and brought me to hotel 81 under the guise of a staycation.

Upselling himself

He also consistently boasts about his prowess in bed and “Mighty D”, when in actual fact the “m” word we are looking for is “microscopic”.

I honestly don’t know where he gets all this confidence from, and even more confused about how to break it to him that the experience is truly mediocre at best.

Please help provide some advice I am really at a loss of what to do and very scared.”

I used to steal all the time and i regret it so much

So over a year ago when i was 13 me and my friend decided to steal, Not because we were broke just because it was fun and exciting.

So i got addicted after a while and i started going to malls without any money with friends and go home with bags full of things we wanted and i was so good at it at that point.

My mom got suspicious because i had so many new clothes without spending any money but i just continued.

I would even steal in the store with my mom and siblings as a secret and that was so messed up, i never thought about the consequences for some reason, if i would have gotten caught none of them would have seen me the same way as before or trusted me for some mf candy bars that i COULD AFFORD.

And one day me and my friends got busted and ever since that i have never done it .

Its so embarrassing how much we did it and how many security officers i used to lie to, and also how many cameras i must be on.

Netizens’ comments

• I’m glad you were able to stop and learn from it 🙂 before getting caught & ending up with a record

• It’s all a learning experience. You’re still young, learn from this and think about the consequences of your actions moving on. Also remember everything catches up with you eventually.

A guy said that girls are confusing and ask why when a guy stares at a girl’s body, it is offensive; but when a girl stares at a guy’s body, it is okay.

Here is the story:

“Girls can be so confusing at times.

When a guy stares at a girl’s body, it’s considered offensive and inappropriate.

When a girl stares at a guy’s body, it’s considered okay since she’s just checking him out.

First date? Normally it would be the guy paying for both parties or they split Dutch. Unless she’s super-rich.

When a guy does National Service, the guy is expected to commit to one girl only i.e. hang out with her on weekends as if we don’t have a family and our lives revolve around her.

When a girl is on her period, for some reason guys are expected to be nicer and act as better gentlemen as if we can tell the time frame by instinct.

I’m so confused. Someone, please write me a guidebook.”

Editor’s note: When I stare at pretty Ah Lians, they always ask me “you stare what stare”.

Stingy New Husband

2 years ago, I’ve remarried. Had a new baby, and 3 school-going kids from a previous marriage. I must say that I was quite independent after my 1st divorce, owning and fully paying for my own 5-room HDB. I even get full custody for the kids.

My current husband is earning more than me (more than $6k a mth). He doesn’t have kids from a previous marriage so it was his 1st with me. He loves his daughter ALOT, but he was SUPER STINGY. By saying super stingy, I mean, he does not:

– provide money for our groceries weekly

– never pay for our family meals if we were to go out together

– always expect me to pay for meals whenever we order in

– only gave $100 monthly for utilities, thats all

– does not fork out anything extra for e.g maid

– we own a car so he wants us to 50% the loan

– expect me to fully pay for the petrol

I’ve ever brought the topic up. But we always ended up fighting cos he told me that those staying in the house, most were MY KIDS and not his. Thus its fair that I pay, not him.

Recently, I changed job due to post-pregnancy stress. I took a $2k paycut. Tried explaining to him to help out with the monthly utilities as I am struggling doing so alone, but got brutally scolded by him instead. I ended up having alot of credit card loans cos whenever i don’t have enough, I am too afraid to voice out to him. Did not tell him about this, cos he will be mad if he knows that I’ve even used the baby bonus money meant for our baby.

I didn’t know he can be so mean and stingy, I really didn’t expect this from him. He had alot of savings (6 digits). All he cares about is making and saving money, nothing else… I developed anxiety and panic attacks thinking about this sometimes.

I never thought of divorce as I hate the process and going thru the agony again. And I am afraid I wont get to see my baby again, cos he ever told me that he will take her with him should we seek separation.. sometimes, I think about dying as it will be the best option for now…

I am super tired of all this.. really tired…