Got kid king ah? Must give in to you ah?

I don’t understand why when some people have kids, they must make the whole world give in to them.

Family gathering must change timing to fit their schedule, food cannot be processed, must not contains this that. (Not allergy problem but the parent don’t want the kid to eat non natural food, fruits and veggie must be organic, cannot have processed food, MSG, this chemical cannot, that chemical cannot more than Xg) I hope they can let you bring chef to school and army hor, good luck!

Actually your kid so precious can don’t come, much easier for me, the host and everyone can eat whatever they want!

I also have a 7 year old myself. If schedule cannot fit, I just don’t go or I go alone or with my husband and let someone babysit. I don’t like her to eat junk food but I control what she eats instead of expecting host to offer food she can eat. Sometimes I feed her something beforehand if I know the food doesn’t suits her.

Shoo~ I invite you out of courtesy, not nice if I don’t, not like you’re the VIP. Sorry, we having steamboat, you want soup base and veggies according to your standard is not possible, you bring own food or don’t come!

Here are what netizens think:

• Since is family not too tough to talk right u rant here they might not see or even read what the point.Some parents are really concern about good for kids but honestly the more u dun let them eat they will.crave more for it and eat when u are not aware. I Think this parents think kids will forever be 5 years old…lol

• The same may not happen again if you say the last 3 paragraphs to the person directly.

• Then you come here and back stab and bash them? Infront of them wayang and act like caring perfect hosts and a great friend la. Power la. You got think to work in mediacorp as an actress?

The marriage of a pair of newlyweds in Australia fell through after less than 24 hours. It turned out that on the wedding night, the bride was too tired and refused the groom’s courtship. She did not expect to be divorced the next day. After the woman shared this real experience in the call-in unit of the radio program, it sparked heated discussions on the Internet.

Australian radio host Abby talked about “the shortest-lived relationship” on the show. At this time, Rachel from Sydney called to reveal the shocking marriage story.

The bride said: “I didn’t even get married for 24 hours, my husband wanted a divorce, and we officially separated after 2 weeks.” Because on the wedding night, after the couple returned to the hotel room, “Unfortunately, I didn’t give him what he wanted.”

At this time, the host asked whether the so-called “wanted things” referred to “S”. Rachel replied: “Yes. We are all tired, I don’t want it, and he filed for divorce the next day.” She admitted that she was once in pain and misery, and now she can’t wait to leave her new husband.

The wedding organisers couldn’t hide their shock. She even called the groom “terrible”, “disgusting and disgusting”, “I heard that many people don’t want to have S on their wedding night because they are really tired. !”

After this interview was edited into a TikTok video by the production team, it sparked heated discussions among netizens. Many thought bride got away with it, “A man like him should stay single”, “This is absolutely insane. What a piece of S”, “You don’t owe anyone S, including your husband.”

Some people also humorously shared anecdotes about the wedding night, “My husband cried and said how much he loved me, and then fell asleep. I was pulling out 83 hairpins in my hair”, “My husband was undoing the 3 hairpins on the back of my dress. After 100 million buttons, I was exhausted, and there was no way to help me take off the skirt, which was really romantic.”

My boyfriend (30m) lost all his savings in the stock market, I don’t know if I can stay in the relationship (30f)

My boyfriend disclosed to me that he is addicted to options trading and lost all of his savings 150k+ over the past few years.

I am in absolute shock 1) that it got this far and 2) feel conflicted about continuing the relationship.

He has a good paying job and is well driven (just became a cfa) but the stock market has become an addiction to him.

I am a 30f that has a good job, am overall financially secure and only trying to improve.

My boyfriend is seeing a therapist and I want to believe that he really wants to overcome this but I am also really struggling.

I am at the age where I want to take the next step in marriage, buying a larger home and don’t feel like he’s at the same place as me or that we have the same views on money (he is ironically a very frugal spender otherwise beyond this addiction) so we had always been on the same page.

He said he hid this from me for a long time because he was afraid I would break up with him.

I’ve been considering asking for a break or just cutting my loses and breaking up entirely. I have some triggering experience dealing with a former bf of mine back in the day.

That experience with dealing with an ex was taxing on me and my mental health. Though this situation is a little different in nature I’m worried about my mental health as i work through this with him- especially if we can’t kick this addiction together. What should I do in this situation- stay and help him through this or leave?

I (F43) want to leave husband (M39) as he sleeps for days

My husband (M,39yo) has been sleeping since Wednesday morning (around 4am) until now Sunday, 1PM. He sleeps for 4-5 days straight without doing anything now.

Yes, he sleeps during working hours and only awake maybe once or twice to go to the toilet and eat then back sleeping again.

However for the entire weekend, Saturday and Sunday… he sleeps the entire day and get so irritated and angry when when try to wake him up. He only eat once and pee once since Saturday and Sunday.

He told me he couldn’t sleep because of he is in pain from high blood pressures and pinched nerve. But I called that BS because he can’t manage his time.

He doesn’t sleep for 2-3 nights straight doing his hobby, then he sleeps for days afterwards.

As usual, both myself (F, 43yo) and my daughter (8yo) are left to do our own activities and feel so left out. I feel like a single mom and I can’t even communicate at all.

Feels completely disconnected and I grow a lot of hates towards him. I’m also very embarrassed with him, very disheartened and so depressed dealing with this situation.

Our bills are behind, our credits are all maxed up and he’s just sleeping all the time or busy doing his own things which cause a lot of mess.

I really want to leave and go but I have no money. All my salaries and side hustle goes to this family and he manages the finances now.

We’ve been together for 10 years now. In the beginning he was all kind and fun, but now things have been really challenging between us.

We can’t even talk or communicate without having arguments. I feel absolutely disconnected and so sick to have to talk to him and being treated like a door mat.

Is it too late for me to leave him and take my daughter with me?

Should I resign without the next job lined up?

Currently planning to leave the company but my notice period is two months. I work in tech and would need time to prepare for the next job.

The only dilemma is that the economy isn’t doing as well and I would have to get another job within the following months.

People around me have been telling me to apply first and it’s bad to have a gap in my resume. But I really feel like bouncing asap, no point hustling for something that isn’t good for my career. What would you guys do?

Edit: I have enough savings to last me 6mths and no financial responsibilities rn. Also quiet quitting isn’t really an option for me. I work in a small team.

Maybe I’m a workaholic idk I kinda enjoy having work to do. Just that the work I do isn’t the right stack/scope for my career progression.

Netizens’ comments

1. I actually recently did that. Lol.
   Mine was also 2 months notice. So when i managed to get 3 job interviews lined up, i went ahead to quit without a job. Managed to get a job within 1 month and my new company doesnt know i had tendered earlier. So i have 3 weeks break before i start the new job. Haha.
   Take a look at your savings and the rate you are getting job interviews and assess it. I had enough savings to last around 3 to 4 months without a job, so i felt comfortable to quit first.
   The good thing about a 2 months notice is you dont really have to tell your potential employer you’ve already quitted when you are looking for jobs in the first month cus u still have that month’s payslip to back you up.
   Good luck!
2. I had a 3 months notice. I resigned without a job lined up. New employer eventually found out when they asked for my past 3 months pay slip – my company had this compensation structure which cut my monthly pay by 30% when I serve notice
3. I did that. Singaporeans are NPCs and obsessed with ‘safety’. They always need something lined up and feel lost otherwise. I say f that. If you think there is no use in staying, just quit first then you can focus full time on studying preparing for technical interviews.
   You need to remember that most job interviews are bullshit and you can waltz into most interviews with minimal prep. Technical interviews however need days of preparation. It could be weeks/months of preparation if it’s a stack or role you aren’t familiar with. It’s hard to prep for technical interviews (possible, but you will be more tired and scatterbrained) while still working a full-time job.

My (24F) FWB (23M) cried after he came, did i mess up?

We have had intercourse a few times before, this did not happen before. I was giving him head and saw tears in his eyes so i stopped.

I asked him if he was ok, he told me he was and that i should just continue. I switched to cow girl to slow things down though.

Still he had tears in his eyes and i asked if he had pain or something or if something was up and that maybe we should stop. He said not at all and that i should please continue.

After he came he broke down crying and i got super worried thinking i messed up something or hurt him so i kept asking him why he was crying and if i did something wrong, he said no but he couldn’t answer me why though as he didn’t know himself.

I asked him if those were ‘happy or sad tears’ to which he replied ‘probably both’. Did anyone ever experience something similar? Got me worried as hell?

Netizens’ comments

1. Rush of happy chemicals and endorphins and he probably feels very safe with you. Good job. You did nothing wrong.
2. He caught feels. Plus, a lot of people don’t realize the impact that intimacy can bring. Poor man probably went through a lot and you made him realize how much he has been without
3. While it could be really anything at all I had a moment like this with a friend years ago I did stuff with where he broke down crying. For him specifically we talked it out and came to terms with it being some kind of intimacy starvation and personal life stuff kind of releasing all at once.
4. When I’ve come across this it is due to past trauma in the other person’s life. You can be as caring and loving as can be and it won’t matter because they go away into a different head space. They feel guilty for not being able to enjoy what should be a natural connection and will ask you to continue, but the truth is, they are just not there with you and continuing won’t help. If possible, stop and talk, conveying that it’s more important that they’re okay than that you have fun. If they can’t talk, just be there for him until they can.

the guy i lost my virginity to told me i didnt do a good job and now im too scared to get intimate anymore.

i lost my virginity a year ago and didn’t have the best experience. the guy i slept with told me after that i did a really bad job and that i wasn’t good enough etc.

i felt really ashamed and i feel bad since i really want to pleasure the person i’m with and i dont see a point in sleeping with someone if i cant make them feel good.

since then, i haven’t flirted or been affectionate with anyone cause i’m too scared it’ll lead to more and i’ll be humiliated like last time.

i don’t really know what kind of advice i’m seeking more than how i can be less ashamed and maybe if theres any way i can be better? i dont want to be useless in the bedroom

Netizens’ comments

1. Why do u feel ashamed? It was your first time. No one is a pro starting. He is toxic. U don’t say those things to ppl.
2. To give your virginity to someone and have him react that way is unbelievable. As you mature and grow older you will understand better what you need as well as how to please your partner. Move on from him! You are amazing!
3. The ONLY thing to understand here is the guy who said that is a giant a-hole. 100% of the problem was him. You are fine, and will be fine going forward. I guarantee it. Feel free to try again whenever you’re ready. I bet you get a completely different reaction.
4. I promise you you did nothing wrong. It was your first time, nobody’s an expert the first time round no matter how much you think you know.
   You’re obviously a good person based on your comment about wanting to pleasure them as best you can, take pride in that.

What should I do moving forward?

Hi all, I’m a 23M poly grad working my first full time job @ earning 50k annually.

My family recently sold our place and my parents gave me 100k from the proceeds of the house.

After CPF, my salary is 3.2k and I save around 1.5k monthly.

I dont spend much on, only on food splurges like yakiniku or kbbq or shake shack.

I cook my lunches to bring to work daily to the office as well, costing around $5/meal.

I have a personal goal of buying a villa costing around 300k SGD with my fiance in Bali (she is balinese) when I’m older and to live a quiet life, while also being able to have had enough cash to support my parents while taking care of my own expenses in the future.

How should I work towards the goal with my current savings & expenditure, while also making use of the 100k?

Thank you for your time!

Netizens’ comments

1. Wah poly grad salary so good these days ah? Can share what industry?
   The 100k depends on your risk tolerance. Stocks if you ok with >50% drop.
2. I’m a degree holder and my annual pay very recently crossed the 50k mark after an increment. Am I in the wrong industry?
3. Didn’t know poly can get 4k out of school. 3k already laughing
4. short term:
   -put the 100k in a high interest savings account (e.g UOB One), credit your salary there, hit min spend. gets you around 4-5% interest on first 100k
   -invest excess of 100k in T-bills. close to 4% interest now
   longer term:
   -determine your risk appetite, which will guide your stocks/bond mix
   -decide on your portfolio allocation. ideally, build a globally diversified portfolio
   -start to DCA that 1.5k/month to get comfortable with investing and dealing with volatility
   -avoid significant lifestyle inflation, continue to save and invest consistently and you will reach your goal
   -only trust yourself. avoid self-serving folks who try to sell you products that may not be in your best interest, or get-rich-quick scams.
   300k SGD for a villa in Bali, living a quiet life, sounds amazing to me.

I deposited a $70k check at *bank name redacted*. It’s been 3 months and it never showed up in my account.

After doing a month long investigation, they told me they can’t find record of the transaction ever happening!!!

I went back to the branch where I deposited the check three times, and they are also completely clueless about what happened to the deposit and why the transaction is completely missing from my account.

The bank manager and the tellers told me that in their 20+ year careers, they have never seen anything like this happen before.

The investigation team asked me to send them the deposit receipt, so I have some hope that it might help resolve the issue.

However, I thought I’d still come here and ask for advice since this seems like a very messed up situation on the bank’s part.

Has anyone here had a similar experience or have some clue or good guess as to what might have happened? Or do you have any advice on what I should do to get this resolved?

Netizens’ comments

1. First, ask the person who wrote the check if it was actually cashed. If not, they can cancel it and write you a new one. If so, get a copy of the check showing the deposit stamp on the back.
2. Ask the check sender for a copy of the canceled check. This is the image of the check that the bank stamped on when they processed it.
3. The most likely scenario is that the teller entered the wrong account number when keying it in, and your money went into someone else’s account.
   It would seem that the bank could do an audit, searching for 70k deposits made on whatever date that you made the deposit. I highly doubt that more than one person made a deposit of exactly that amount.
   Once they find it, they should see that the account number was very similar to yours.
   Unfortunately, the wrongful recipient could have removed the money and closed their account by now. They will have to chase him/her down, if they can.
4. How in the world did you let 70k go unresolved for three months?! I would’ve been nervous and checking after 3 days and at 3 weeks I’d of been losing my mind. Sorry I know this is not helpful but….