I’m currently serving SOL in *camp name redacted* camp, and I stay in none other than the infamous level 6 bunk, alone

Was about 6pm, was studying my own things in camp, mind u it was a rather sunny day, sun hadn’t set yet.

All the usual stuff you’d hear about cupboards banging, breathing down yr neck, feeling like you’re being watched,

what shocked me the most was that one moment I was doing my own studies, then the next moment I was outside the bunk lying on the bunk floor, having just hit my head on one of those metal box things, as well as red marks on my arm

Sitting here rn at the medical centre; DO told me to go to guardhouse but it isn’t a long term solution, I’m in my smart 4 and I have nothing with me except my wallet and my phone and a powerbank, and the guards don’t have spare manpower so there’s no way I’m going up to get my stuff

it’s day 2 of my sol, I have 12 more to go, 6 nights of sleeping alone, anyone have any advice? is this enough reason to get an ooc? I’m not stepping foot in there even if my whole platoon is with me.

Netizens’ comments

Damn, why do they still make people sleep at Level 6 if it is that infamous for paranormal activity?

I’ve seen multiple stories shared by people with their own experiences about *camp name redacted* Camp. Would not want to set foot in there, definitely.

I’m a girl and I never get called pretty by guys nor my own friends. I don’t even think I’ve ever been called pretty by my mom, or at least it was so long ago that I can’t remember it.

The only time people say I was pretty or cute is when looking at pictures of me when i was little(5-8yo).

The only compliment I ever get about my looks is about my hair (I have very curly hair which is kinda uncommon in my family).

And that even is only by adults/elders (mostly in my family), most people my age and my friends actually make fun of it and say i look like a clown or like I’m wearing a cheap wig.

I know it’s all jokes but it’s practically the only thing about me I kinda like.

I’ve only ever had one person have a crush on me and that was in 1st grade. And I’m just not attractive in any way I don’t look good nor have a skinny waist and it has just really been messing with my self esteem and worth recently.

Netizen’s comments

Stop it. Stop it now. Youve been conditioned to believe that. I understand because Ive been there. Dont be me, dont wait until youre 34 after traumatizing relationships to see that you are beautiful and that you are more than worthy.

Dont ever let others opinions GUIDE you. How you feel about you will resonate in the world and youll attract ppl who aee the beauty and light in you

I just turned 27 days ago and I feel like I have no friends and have never had a boyfriend. I take care of myself and never have a problem finding a date, but the guys turn out to be pretty crappy and end up ghosting me or ending thing with me before anything gets serious.

I also have no genuine friends. I’m a nurse practitioner and I have kinda put friends on the back burner for the past couple yrs due to being in school for so long.

My only friends now are 2 girls from school but they are both engaged now.

One of them hasn’t really talked to me and for my birthday all she wrote was “happy birthday. hope it’s a good one”. I just said “thank you” in response.

Then my other friend forgot my birthday and made up some excuse that she had it in her calendar a day late however she forgot my bday last yr too.

I’m in both of these girls wedding sans just spent over $1000 on the first girl’s bachelorette party (it was out of town) and $200 on the other girls bridesmaid dress.

I ended up having lunch with the 2nd girl yesterday and she didn’t even bring me anything for my bday and barely asked how it was (I had to be the one to mention it).

I just feel like I have no genuine friends and I do t even want to be in these girls weddings anymore. I feel like I’m just a body that they need for the photos at this point.

My closest friends are honestly my coworkers but I’m about to switch clinic locations (I’ll be an hr away) so I won’t be able to see them as much. I just feel lost with my relationships.

I’m religious and have been thinking about joining a church to meet people. I refuse to do dating apps again because those just hurt my feelings and I would get so attached to the guy only for him to ghost me or end things a couple weeks into dating.

Any advice?

A netizen shared how she hits her boyfriend as a form of “play”, which the guy then got angry at her because he found it annoying and they got into an argument.

She then took to Facebook to ask if all guys are really this “sensitive”.

Here is the story:

“Asking girls, do you hit your boyfriends? And guys, do you like being hit? Of course i’m not talking about actual physical abuse, i mean just playing around.

So i hit and pinch my boyfriend quite a lot. It’s just for fun, but recently he asked me if i can stop it. It actually became quite a big argument.

Can dish out but can’t take it

i said that as a guy he should be able to take it and i’m not hurting him anyway. He just said it annoys him sometimes as i do it very often, and i wouldn’t accept it if he did it to me.

I said of course not as i’m a girl, and i thought most guys like these kind of playing from their girlfriend anyway.

Asks if guys are this sensitive

It went back and forth and after that i think he just gave up and said ok do whatever you want. I don’t think i did anything wrong as he’s a guy and i’m not intending to hurt him.

Pls no big discussion about equality in the comments, i’m just wondering if all guys are really this sensitive.”

Editor’s note: You clearly have issues.

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Boss told me that work life balance will prevent me from advancement
True story, sharing because I can’t help but laugh

Former workaholic here, partially because of personal desire to succeed and also wanting to advance with company.

After realizing that late nights and skipping lunch/breaks wasn’t getting me anywhere I started prioritizing work life balance. Now I take my breaks, leave my desk for lunch, and arrive/leave on time (nothing more).

Boss man pulled me in and said it looks like I’m no longer invested and that if I will no longer be considered for a manager role if I’m not willing to work through my lunches or into the evening.

That would have bothered me before. Now I can’t help but laugh because it completely reinforces my thoughts toward the boss/company

Netizens’ comments

1. “Well, Boss, that’s a shame. Because healthy, well-rested managers would be far more efficient and effective, and thus more profitable for their firm, than managers who burn themselves out from a lack of balance in their lives”
2. I fricken hate that carrot dangling talk.
   OP did put in the work, wasn’t acknowledged/rewarded – but they’ll happily throw out the “well if you don’t work harder…we just won’t promote you!”
   Simple fact (that most people here already know), there was never ever going to be an advancement outside of the goalposts.
3. Work life balance will make you happier and healthier. Then you will do your job better while working less hours.
4. In order for workaholism to make sense, you have to trust that management is smart enough to both know who is carrying the team and reward those people.
5. Boss: “I’m a complete loser with no life, so you should be too!”
   You: “No”
6. When it’s obvious (especially to you) that they weren’t considering you at all. Let someone else reach for the imaginary brass ring. Advancement will only get in the way of work-life balance anyway.
7. Didn’t “advance” when i was busting my but…. so now i don’t

My(22F) boyfriend(26M) says that even 10 deeks can fit inside my vagina

I’ve been in a 5 years long-distance relationship with my bf, I met him only twice in 5 years, once we stayed together for 4 nights and second time it was for 7 nights and we got intimate both the times.

But now he tells me over his phone that he slides inside me too easily and even 10 d-ks can fit inside me, which implies my hole is very big.

I have never cheated on him and also that was my first time sleeping with him. I am soo deeply hurt and devastated after hearing this.

How do I calm myself down? And what should I do further?

Netizens’ comments

1. He doesn’t know basic biology. Sometimes when you’re reallly comfortable with someone and love and care about them, you will become more loose. He’s an idiot.
2. wtf, your boyfriend is an imbecile.
3. Your ‘bf’ is insecure about how small his D is. Also how do you do a 5 year relationship and only see each other for less than a fortnight?
4. He seems immature, angry and insecure. You are young, it’s hard to have a relationship where you see someone 2 times in 5 years…
5. If you’ve been with someone for 5 years, but you’ve only met them twice in that period then you’re not in a relationship, that’s called being a pen pal.
   Sorry but, you have to stop deluding yourself that you are somehow in a relationship with this person. You are not. A real relationship involves much more than messages, phone calls and the 2.5 yearly meet up just to F. Do yourself a massive favour and take a good honest look at this so called relationship. I’m sure you’ll realise that most of it is based on make believe and an idealised image you’ve created in your head about this other person.
   I’m not even going to say anything about the comments he made about your private parts because that’s just dumb.

Does hardwork really guarantee success in Singapore?

People always tell us you have to work hard in order to be rich and successful. When you ask people who made it big, the word “hardwork” will never be left out. Teachers at school constantly remind us to be hardworking, our bosses always say “Jia you and work hard hor!” .

But do you think working hard really guarantee success? If not, what does?

Unless you’re a real estate agent or financial adviser or holding on to any sales role where there’s no ceiling to how much you can earn, hardwork doesn’t seem as appealing.

To me, I realise what matters more or perhaps within the same attribute is network. As much as you can work your ass off, if you don’t know the right people, your chances of being seen will reduced.

Netizens’ comments

1. OP what is hardwork to you? your hardwork, in the wrong direction could be futile as well.
2. the only guarantee in life is death
3. That depends on how you define success.
   Hard work will keep you fed, but it probably won’t bring huge amounts of wealth by itself. Luck and connections matter more than anything for that, and luck itself is mostly putting yourself out there and turning up on time.
   Between you and me… This focus on ‘hard work’ is beyond passe. Hard work could mean fighting through adversity but it could also mean trying to move a mountain with a spoon instead of taking a step back to look for a better solution.
4. If you’re not smart then make it up with hardwork, and I can tell you most people are not as smart as they think they are.
5. You can work super hard but still get no results. I see some of my friends grinding interview prep all day for months and get no callbacks for internship roles, while others who didn’t prep as hard manage to get callbacks to the next stage of interview. Then u have those who can skip the entire process and just get jobs based on nepotism.

Is it okay for wedded couples to ask their guests which angbao did they give?

I recently attended my colleague’s wedding and i gave her an angbao without writing my name (i dont have the habit of putting my name down, i know some people do).

The following day, i received a text from her asking me to identify the angbao that i have given her. In my mind i was thinking like wth?

Why would you take a photo of the angbaos people gave and ask them to tell you which is the angbao they gave?

Of all the weddings i attended, this is the first time i have encountered such situation and i thought it was rather rude…

Disclaimer, i have done my duty of covering my portion of the banquet table and even gave extra, so don’t say I never write my name cause i scared people know i am a cheapo

Netizens’ comments

1. Ya to me this is rude and lame. Wanna invite people but also wanna make sure they can tally and “keep scores”, idk man, just seems very off putting to me.
   Thankfully is just a colleague not a relative or close friend so you are spared from any close interactions a personal basis.
2. Perhaps thats why she is a colleague and not a friend. Remind her that.
3. Your host is being petty, and really thick skinned to even ask.
   IMO.. if cannot afford the banquet, don’t do it. if want to have some lavish banquet in some 5 star hotels getting driven to the venue in a Lamborghini then make sure they can afford it instate of gambling their budget on angpow.
   For me. I pay what I can afford, and how much the host spend is their problem.. not my problem at all

What is your craziest poop story?

Curious to know if there are others out there like me.. Sorry for formatting, am posting this from my phone.

This incident happened more than a few months ago.

Some context: I was recently granted Excuse Stay In the previous Friday, and was very excited to be booking in on the following Monday.

On my way to my favourite camp, Sungei Gedong, my stomach felt slightly uncomfortable just 10 minutes into the bus ride. (It takes 40 minutes by 975 from BP to Gedong, with no access to toilets once you pass Sunshine Mall at CCK)

After passing by Tengah Air Base, I couldn’t hold in the bomb anymore. I had a few seconds to decide whether the poop goes in my pants or not.

With no hesi, I alighted at one of the most ulu bus stops that no one drops off at. Pulled down my pants. And took a wet poop 3 steps from the bus stop, onto the vegetation. Thankfully, I remembered my training back in BMT where I had to poop in the jungle, so this was just like it.

And because I had no tissues or wipes on me, I shamefully pulled up my pants without wiping and boarded the next bus as if nothing happened.

I then proceeded to my coyline where I continued my business, and clean myself up after.

Do share if you have any pooping experience(s) during NS!

Netizens’ comments

1. Formerly, I was in 3 Guards Mono and this is before the time where the safety rules kick in . Back then, time to poop was severely limited and we will get punish for trying to sneak off to poop during BMT.
   We were excited recruits on the way to Tekong for our first outfield, the thought to poop was far from my mind. I was a young novice, fearful of life and terrified of the drill sergeants. We were supposed to be ‘garang’ and follow instructions without thinking. The tonner to the site was filled with excited whispers and fresh optimism of the army life.
   Back in my mind, the thought of pooping was far off, a molecule in the grand scheme of the world. From the first day to the seven day, I didn’t poop. I held it in, I had no thought, no individuality to poop, I am a slave! A slave to the army, one who doesn’t poop. I refuse to ask the drill sergeant for permission to poop, a prideful soldier I might add. No I didn’t cry, that is for the wussies and the cowards, I held my poop like a man. A man being sent to the frontlines, the poop being an analogy to freedom. I am unable to escape from the anuses of army to civilian life, but I soldiered on. As expected of every Singaporean boy, with hope in our eyes.
   Still, I didn’t think of the poop. It is not my priority, pooping is an average part of life and not something worth discussing for the future. 7 days, I held. I think of my love ones, my brothers and the government. My duty to the country! I have to soldier on, if not what are our lives but measly civilians, not a drop in this society where aunties refuse to even give their seats to us and covered their noses in disdain at us!
   On the 7th day, it was raining. We were packing up at the campsite, I almost teared up looking at the trees. We are going to Ord. My prideful tearful eyes and expression turned into a grimace. My stomach growl and I can feel it, 7 days of ration, of lo Mai kai, chicken rice and red bean paste.
   I ran, I ran with fright into the trees. I didn’t dig a hole contrary to rules, with great force I pulled down my pants. Squatted and pooped, it never ends and curled up into a circular motion of poop as long as my arm. I took the toilet papers out of my pockets and wiped. I expended the whole roll. Looking back the spiral of poop was as large as my face. It was the best poop I ever had in my life. I pulled my pants back up and turned to the skies, whispering ‘I am finished’!
2. Wtf is wrong with you
3. Sanest nsf personnel
4. Not my story but IIRC during Ranger course one of the trainees shat in the jungle and didn’t bury his poop. When cadre found out, nobody admitted, so he made all the trainees line up, and wiped the poop on all their faces. Happened recently too 💀
5. There has been poop on the floor 7 times in 1 month at my bunk level. The 7th time is today.