A netizen shared how she hits her boyfriend as a form of “play”, which the guy then got angry at her because he found it annoying and they got into an argument.
She then took to Facebook to ask if all guys are really this “sensitive”.
Here is the story:
“Asking girls, do you hit your boyfriends? And guys, do you like being hit? Of course i’m not talking about actual physical abuse, i mean just playing around.
So i hit and pinch my boyfriend quite a lot. It’s just for fun, but recently he asked me if i can stop it. It actually became quite a big argument.
Can dish out but can’t take it
i said that as a guy he should be able to take it and i’m not hurting him anyway. He just said it annoys him sometimes as i do it very often, and i wouldn’t accept it if he did it to me.
I said of course not as i’m a girl, and i thought most guys like these kind of playing from their girlfriend anyway.
Asks if guys are this sensitive
It went back and forth and after that i think he just gave up and said ok do whatever you want. I don’t think i did anything wrong as he’s a guy and i’m not intending to hurt him.
Pls no big discussion about equality in the comments, i’m just wondering if all guys are really this sensitive.”
Boss told me that work life balance will prevent me from advancement True story, sharing because I can’t help but laugh
Former workaholic here, partially because of personal desire to succeed and also wanting to advance with company.
After realizing that late nights and skipping lunch/breaks wasn’t getting me anywhere I started prioritizing work life balance. Now I take my breaks, leave my desk for lunch, and arrive/leave on time (nothing more).
Boss man pulled me in and said it looks like I’m no longer invested and that if I will no longer be considered for a manager role if I’m not willing to work through my lunches or into the evening.
That would have bothered me before. Now I can’t help but laugh because it completely reinforces my thoughts toward the boss/company
Netizens’ comments
“Well, Boss, that’s a shame. Because healthy, well-rested managers would be far more efficient and effective, and thus more profitable for their firm, than managers who burn themselves out from a lack of balance in their lives”
I fricken hate that carrot dangling talk. OP did put in the work, wasn’t acknowledged/rewarded – but they’ll happily throw out the “well if you don’t work harder…we just won’t promote you!” Simple fact (that most people here already know), there was never ever going to be an advancement outside of the goalposts.
Work life balance will make you happier and healthier. Then you will do your job better while working less hours.
In order for workaholism to make sense, you have to trust that management is smart enough to both know who is carrying the team and reward those people.
Boss: “I’m a complete loser with no life, so you should be too!” You: “No”
When it’s obvious (especially to you) that they weren’t considering you at all. Let someone else reach for the imaginary brass ring. Advancement will only get in the way of work-life balance anyway.
Didn’t “advance” when i was busting my but…. so now i don’t
My(22F) boyfriend(26M) says that even 10 deeks can fit inside my vagina
I’ve been in a 5 years long-distance relationship with my bf, I met him only twice in 5 years, once we stayed together for 4 nights and second time it was for 7 nights and we got intimate both the times.
But now he tells me over his phone that he slides inside me too easily and even 10 d-ks can fit inside me, which implies my hole is very big.
I have never cheated on him and also that was my first time sleeping with him. I am soo deeply hurt and devastated after hearing this.
How do I calm myself down? And what should I do further?
Netizens’ comments
He doesn’t know basic biology. Sometimes when you’re reallly comfortable with someone and love and care about them, you will become more loose. He’s an idiot.
wtf, your boyfriend is an imbecile.
Your ‘bf’ is insecure about how small his D is. Also how do you do a 5 year relationship and only see each other for less than a fortnight?
He seems immature, angry and insecure. You are young, it’s hard to have a relationship where you see someone 2 times in 5 years…
If you’ve been with someone for 5 years, but you’ve only met them twice in that period then you’re not in a relationship, that’s called being a pen pal. Sorry but, you have to stop deluding yourself that you are somehow in a relationship with this person. You are not. A real relationship involves much more than messages, phone calls and the 2.5 yearly meet up just to F. Do yourself a massive favour and take a good honest look at this so called relationship. I’m sure you’ll realise that most of it is based on make believe and an idealised image you’ve created in your head about this other person. I’m not even going to say anything about the comments he made about your private parts because that’s just dumb.
Does hardwork really guarantee success in Singapore?
People always tell us you have to work hard in order to be rich and successful. When you ask people who made it big, the word “hardwork” will never be left out. Teachers at school constantly remind us to be hardworking, our bosses always say “Jia you and work hard hor!” .
But do you think working hard really guarantee success? If not, what does?
Unless you’re a real estate agent or financial adviser or holding on to any sales role where there’s no ceiling to how much you can earn, hardwork doesn’t seem as appealing.
To me, I realise what matters more or perhaps within the same attribute is network. As much as you can work your ass off, if you don’t know the right people, your chances of being seen will reduced.
Netizens’ comments
OP what is hardwork to you? your hardwork, in the wrong direction could be futile as well.
the only guarantee in life is death
That depends on how you define success. Hard work will keep you fed, but it probably won’t bring huge amounts of wealth by itself. Luck and connections matter more than anything for that, and luck itself is mostly putting yourself out there and turning up on time. Between you and me… This focus on ‘hard work’ is beyond passe. Hard work could mean fighting through adversity but it could also mean trying to move a mountain with a spoon instead of taking a step back to look for a better solution.
If you’re not smart then make it up with hardwork, and I can tell you most people are not as smart as they think they are.
You can work super hard but still get no results. I see some of my friends grinding interview prep all day for months and get no callbacks for internship roles, while others who didn’t prep as hard manage to get callbacks to the next stage of interview. Then u have those who can skip the entire process and just get jobs based on nepotism.
Is it okay for wedded couples to ask their guests which angbao did they give?
I recently attended my colleague’s wedding and i gave her an angbao without writing my name (i dont have the habit of putting my name down, i know some people do).
The following day, i received a text from her asking me to identify the angbao that i have given her. In my mind i was thinking like wth?
Why would you take a photo of the angbaos people gave and ask them to tell you which is the angbao they gave?
Of all the weddings i attended, this is the first time i have encountered such situation and i thought it was rather rude…
Disclaimer, i have done my duty of covering my portion of the banquet table and even gave extra, so don’t say I never write my name cause i scared people know i am a cheapo
Netizens’ comments
Ya to me this is rude and lame. Wanna invite people but also wanna make sure they can tally and “keep scores”, idk man, just seems very off putting to me. Thankfully is just a colleague not a relative or close friend so you are spared from any close interactions a personal basis.
Perhaps thats why she is a colleague and not a friend. Remind her that.
Your host is being petty, and really thick skinned to even ask. IMO.. if cannot afford the banquet, don’t do it. if want to have some lavish banquet in some 5 star hotels getting driven to the venue in a Lamborghini then make sure they can afford it instate of gambling their budget on angpow. For me. I pay what I can afford, and how much the host spend is their problem.. not my problem at all
Curious to know if there are others out there like me.. Sorry for formatting, am posting this from my phone.
This incident happened more than a few months ago.
Some context: I was recently granted Excuse Stay In the previous Friday, and was very excited to be booking in on the following Monday.
On my way to my favourite camp, Sungei Gedong, my stomach felt slightly uncomfortable just 10 minutes into the bus ride. (It takes 40 minutes by 975 from BP to Gedong, with no access to toilets once you pass Sunshine Mall at CCK)
After passing by Tengah Air Base, I couldn’t hold in the bomb anymore. I had a few seconds to decide whether the poop goes in my pants or not.
With no hesi, I alighted at one of the most ulu bus stops that no one drops off at. Pulled down my pants. And took a wet poop 3 steps from the bus stop, onto the vegetation. Thankfully, I remembered my training back in BMT where I had to poop in the jungle, so this was just like it.
And because I had no tissues or wipes on me, I shamefully pulled up my pants without wiping and boarded the next bus as if nothing happened.
I then proceeded to my coyline where I continued my business, and clean myself up after.
Do share if you have any pooping experience(s) during NS!
Netizens’ comments
Formerly, I was in 3 Guards Mono and this is before the time where the safety rules kick in . Back then, time to poop was severely limited and we will get punish for trying to sneak off to poop during BMT. We were excited recruits on the way to Tekong for our first outfield, the thought to poop was far from my mind. I was a young novice, fearful of life and terrified of the drill sergeants. We were supposed to be ‘garang’ and follow instructions without thinking. The tonner to the site was filled with excited whispers and fresh optimism of the army life. Back in my mind, the thought of pooping was far off, a molecule in the grand scheme of the world. From the first day to the seven day, I didn’t poop. I held it in, I had no thought, no individuality to poop, I am a slave! A slave to the army, one who doesn’t poop. I refuse to ask the drill sergeant for permission to poop, a prideful soldier I might add. No I didn’t cry, that is for the wussies and the cowards, I held my poop like a man. A man being sent to the frontlines, the poop being an analogy to freedom. I am unable to escape from the anuses of army to civilian life, but I soldiered on. As expected of every Singaporean boy, with hope in our eyes. Still, I didn’t think of the poop. It is not my priority, pooping is an average part of life and not something worth discussing for the future. 7 days, I held. I think of my love ones, my brothers and the government. My duty to the country! I have to soldier on, if not what are our lives but measly civilians, not a drop in this society where aunties refuse to even give their seats to us and covered their noses in disdain at us! On the 7th day, it was raining. We were packing up at the campsite, I almost teared up looking at the trees. We are going to Ord. My prideful tearful eyes and expression turned into a grimace. My stomach growl and I can feel it, 7 days of ration, of lo Mai kai, chicken rice and red bean paste. I ran, I ran with fright into the trees. I didn’t dig a hole contrary to rules, with great force I pulled down my pants. Squatted and pooped, it never ends and curled up into a circular motion of poop as long as my arm. I took the toilet papers out of my pockets and wiped. I expended the whole roll. Looking back the spiral of poop was as large as my face. It was the best poop I ever had in my life. I pulled my pants back up and turned to the skies, whispering ‘I am finished’!
Wtf is wrong with you
Sanest nsf personnel
Not my story but IIRC during Ranger course one of the trainees shat in the jungle and didn’t bury his poop. When cadre found out, nobody admitted, so he made all the trainees line up, and wiped the poop on all their faces. Happened recently too 💀
There has been poop on the floor 7 times in 1 month at my bunk level. The 7th time is today.
FIVE MOTORISTS TO BE CHARGED WITH DRIVING WITHOUT DUE CARE OR REASONABLE CONSIDERATION CAUSING GRIEVOUS HURT
Five motorists, aged between 25 and 66, will be charged in court on 25 October 2023. The five men will be charged with driving without due care or reasonable consideration causing grievous hurt. They had allegedly failed to keep a proper lookout or stop at designated pedestrian crossings, causing other road users to suffer serious injury.
The details of the cases are as follows:
On 5 January 2023, a 65-year-old man was driving a lorry and made a right turn into Senoko Road when he collided with a motorcyclist who was travelling straight from the opposite direction and had the right of way. He will be charged with driving without due care and attention causing grievous hurt under Sec 65(3) of the Road Traffic Act 1961.
On 10 June 2023, a 41-year-old man was driving a car, and collided with a motorcyclist when he made a right turn from Toh Avenue into Upper Changi Road North. He will be charged with driving without due care and attention causing grievous hurt under Sec 65(3) of the Road Traffic Act 1961.
On 14 January 2023, a 66-year-old man was driving his car along Bukit Panjang Road slip road into Upper Bukit Timah Road when he collided into a cyclist who was crossing the zebra crossing. The driver will be charged with driving without due care and attention causing grievous hurt under Section 65(3) of the Road Traffic Act 1961.
On 16 February 2023, a 25-year-old man was turning into an intersection at Zion Road, when he collided into two pedestrians who were crossing the road. The man will be charged with driving without reasonable consideration causing grievous hurt under Section 65(3) of the Road Traffic Act 1961 and driving without reasonable consideration causing hurt under Section 65(4) of the Road Traffic Act 1961.
On 8 June 2023, a 28-year-old man was riding his motorcycle along the Loyang Lane junction of Loyang Drive, when he collided with another motorcyclist who had the right of way. He will be charged with driving without reasonable consideration causing grievous hurt under Section 65(3) of the Road Traffic Act 1961.
The offence of driving without due care or reasonable consideration causing grievous hurt under Sec 65(3) of the Road Traffic Act 1961 carries a fine of up to $5,000, an imprisonment term of up to two years, or both. In the case of a second or subsequent conviction, motorists are liable to a fine of up to $10,000, an imprisonment term of up to four years, or both. The offence of driving without due care or reasonable consideration causing hurt under Section 65(4) of the Road Traffic Act 1961 carries a fine of up to $2,500, an imprisonment term of up to 12 months, or both. In the case of a second or subsequent conviction, the offence carries a fine of up to $5,000, an imprisonment term of up to two years, or both.
The Traffic Police takes a serious view of those who drive in a manner that endangers their safety and that of other road users. All motorists are urged to abide by traffic rules to keep our roads safe for everyone. The Traffic Police will continue to act firmly against errant motorists.
Post-accident scene of the vehicles involved in a collision at Senoko Road ▼
Post-accident scene of the vehicles involved in a collision when the car driver made a right turn from Toh Avenue into Upper Changi Road North ▼
Photograph of the vehicle which collided into two pedestrians when turning into an intersection at Zion Road ▼
PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE 24 October 2023 @ 7:20 PM
In the heart of Singapore, for the past month and a half, a mystery man has been spreading joy in the most unexpected way. This kind-hearted individual has been on a mission to make people’s days a little brighter by leaving surprise cash gifts hidden across the city.
Known as @communitybenefactor on TikTok, he’s been stuffing $10 and $50 notes at various locations across Singapore, for people to find.
Inspiration Strikes
The man behind this heartwarming act of generosity, who prefers to be known simply as Mr. B, was inspired by similar videos he saw from TikTokers around the world. He discovered that others were engaging in this heartwarming practice, and he felt a profound urge to join in.
Mr. B was motivated by the desire to give back to society in a fun and novel way. While he had been donating to charities online, he often felt disconnected from the impact of his donations.
He remarked that he didn’t feel fulfilled because he had no idea how his monetary donations were being used to help those in need.
Changing Lives, One Note at a Time
In Mr. B’s own words, he realized that sometimes, people could use just $50 for groceries or essentials. He believed that those who found his hidden notes would feel not only lucky but also blessed, as if the universe itself was watching over them.
As he pondered the best way to continue his mission, he encountered the challenge of finding discreet and secret locations to hide the money. Ultimately, he decided to “settle” on benches as they presented a viable option.
From $10 to $50 Notes
Initially, he started with $10 notes but later increased the value of the notes to $50 after receiving feedback that $10 was too little to make a significant impact. This shift allowed him to spread bigger smiles and bring more joy to those who stumbled upon his hidden treasures.
Finding suitable hiding places became a thrilling part of Mr. B’s mission. He mentioned that discovering secretive spots around the island was a challenging task. Settling on benches was not just practical but also accessible, ensuring that many could discover his gifts.
A Blessing for the Lucky Finders
What Mr. B is creating goes beyond just finding some extra cash. He aims to create a sense of luck and blessings for those who stumble upon his generous offerings. His acts of kindness show that even small gestures can have a profound impact on people’s lives.
You can find out more about his giveaways on his TikTok page.
In a heartbreaking incident on the afternoon of October 22, 2023, a 36-year-old Bangladeshi construction worker met with a tragic end.
He fell 10 meters through a skylight while working on the installation of solar panels on the rooftop of a workshop at a construction site in Tuas, according to The Straits Times.
A photo of the aftermath was shared on the Complaint Singapore Unrestricted Facebook page, showing two paramedics attending to the man, as the other workers stood aside.
What also appears to be (presumably) his brain or organs could be seen on the floor beside his head. (Or it could just be a blood soaked cloth or bandage).
MOM’s Response
A spokesperson for the Ministry of Manpower (MOM) confirmed the incident and said that it happened on Sunday at 12 Tuas South Street 2, at about 2pm.
The worker was rushed to the National University Hospital, where he died from his injuries later that day.
The spokesperson also disclosed that the worksite’s occupier is Energetix Pte. Ltd., while the employer of the deceased worker is BBG Electrical Engineering Pte. Ltd.
MOM has acted swiftly in the wake of this tragedy, instructing the occupier to cease all work-at-height activities at the site and initiating a thorough investigation into the incident.
This incident brings the number of reported deaths in the workplace this year to 21.
Migrant Workers’ Centre’s statement
MWC is aware of the tragic accident that resulted in the loss of a 36-year-old Bangladeshi national at his workplace and MWC understands that the cause of incident is still under investigation.
We have established contact with the deceased worker’s employer to gather all relevant information pertaining to this unfortunate incident, while offering guidance and support on filing of incident report to make claims under the Work Injury Compensation Act (WICA). We understand that the employer has arranged for the repatriation of the worker’s remains to his family in Bangladesh.
Our primary focus now is to ensure that the immediate needs of the affected worker’s family are met. To provide interim financial assistance to the next-of-kin (NOK) as they await compensation through WICA, we will extend an ex-gratia payout from the Migrant Workers’ Assistance Fund (MWAF). We are also ready to assess and address any urgent needs and assistance required. We recognise the significant impact such incidents can have on the livelihoods of the families involved, and we remain dedicated to providing a helping hand during times of crisis.
In addition to supporting the affected worker’s family, MWC acknowledges the emotional toll this incident may have on other workers who were present at the scene. As such, we will offer counselling services to these workers through our partner organisations when the need arises. Our goal is to ensure that no worker is left alone in the aftermath of such distressing incidents, and we are committed to providing comprehensive assistance.
MWC remains steadfast in our commitment to safeguarding the welfare and rights of all migrant workers in Singapore. We will work closely with relevant authorities, employers, and other stakeholders to prevent workplace incidents and enhance safety measures across various industries. Every worker deserves a safe working environment, and we will continue to advocate for robust safety standards and strict enforcement. We will continue to engage with employers, educate workers about their rights, and collaborate with all stakeholders to create a safer working environment for all. At NTUC, we are advocating that reporting workplace safety issues is a basic right for workers and employers must not retaliate against these reporting for a good cause. We urge all workers to report any unsafe conditions and notify appropriate personnel and the union. NTUC and its affiliated unions stand ready to assist on any matters should there be any inaction on resolving these issues of non-compliance.
Migrant workers who require assistance can contact MWC via our 24-hour helpline at 6536 2692.
29-year-old Han Feizi, who has since rose to infamy in Singapore for insulting a Singapore General Hospital staff member and challenging the police, was recently charged in court, where she pleaded guilty on 25 October.
She was handed 6 charges earlier this month (13 October) before being slapped with 2 other charges related to manpower offences.
She is being charged with being a public nuisance, two counts of using insulting language to a public servant, two counts of using criminal force on a security guard, one count of harassment and two offences under the Employment of Foreign Manpower Act.
It was earlier reported that Han had allegedly been moonlighting as a freelance hostess.
She appeared in court earlier today via video-link to much fanfare, about 50 people showed up in court to see her, as she pled guilty to her charges.
Wanted to “have fun” in Singapore
The prosecution said that Han was arrested on 11 October, and the MInistry of Manpower was then informed about possible breaches under the Employment of Foreign Manpower Act.
Investigations then ensued and it revealed that Han had applied for a work permit earlier this year in August, after her application for a student pass was rejected.
In her application, she declared that she would be working as a clerk but failed to do so.
The prosecutor for MOM also added that Han had only wanted to come to Singapore to “have fun”, and that she applied for the work pass without trying to understand what it said, as the form was in English.
Drunk
Incident at The Sail
The prosecution said that on 3 October at about 10pm, the police were called in by the security at The Sail at Marina Bay, a private apartment building, because there was a drunk resident that needed help.
Han was found by a security officer squatting in a common area, and she said that she was drunk; the security then helped the woman back to her unit but she became aggressive inside the lift and pushed the guard, insulting him with vulgarities.
SGH Incident
On 10 October, the Singaporean police received a call for help at the Singapore General Hospital (SGH) at around 2:35 am.
Han claimed to have waited for three hours in the hospital’s emergency department without receiving any medical attention after allegedly being hit by a car.
She further alleged that a nurse told her she would not be treated because she was not a Singaporean citizen. These claims were later disputed by SGH.
Insights from SGH
Speaking to The Straits Times, the head and senior consultant for SGH’s department of emergency medicine, Associate Professor Kenneth Tan, said that the woman was discharged after 2 hours, after she had been thoroughly reviewed by the medical staff.
Tan added that everyone who presents themselves at SGH’s emergency department will receive the medical care that they require.
The situation also escalated when the woman refused to wear a face mask and according to Professor Tan, during the triage process at the emergency department, a staff member offered her a mask, which she refused to put on, despite being reminded about the government’s guidelines on wearing masks in Singapore’s hospitals.
As the situation got increasingly heated, the woman continued to behave in an aggressive manner and the medical staff had to call the police for help, as her behaviour was affecting the hospital operations.
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Douyin Videos
The woman posted two videos on Douyin, both exceeding 11 minutes. She was also seen demanding a plainclothes police officer to identify herself and attempting to grab her police lanyard.
According to ST, the Singapore Police Force said that the two plainclothes officers, who were investigations officers, had introduced themselves in front of uniformed officers before speaking to the woman.
The female police officer was seen in the video repeatedly asking the woman if she had used vulgarities on the nurse, but the woman refused to answer.
The woman refused to cooperate and used vulgarities on one of the police officers, and filmed her interview with one of the female investigation officers and sharing them on her Douyin account.
The videos, which have since been reposted on several social media platforms, have been viewed more than a million times in total.
