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GUY GAMBLED AWAY HIS SAVINGS THEN LOST HIS JOB, NOW JOBLESS & BROKE & SCARED

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I gambled (stocks) my savings away right before losing my job and am anxious ashamed and scared.

I’m a 26 y/o (m) and I had a rough year where everything seemed to go wrong. Things got stolen, illness in the family and bad but not the worst is probably my contract ending at work.

Now I had some good money saved up after working hard for a while, nothing substantial but it did make me proud somehow and it gave me a real sense of safety and security.

But it didn’t give me enough of a secure feel in the sense that I could bridge a gap between jobs so I made the biggest mistake of my life and put more into the stock market as friends had been doing well and I had in the past too.

Well it all obviously went to s-t. In the most traumatizing way. I’d add a couple hundred bucks every few days to a losing position just to survive the swing.

My friends birthdays neared and I canceled it because I was laying in bed after looking at my bank account, utterly drained in a greed filled frenzy of about 1-2 months.

Every bad thing in my life came together and led up to that critical point of self-destruct. Thinking I deserved to win. I’d already been down in all other aspects in life, surely this had to be a winner. What a self-centered way to think.

In hindsight it was kind of just doomed to begin with. I really did feel important behind my computer watching my money burn lol, maybe that’s what kept me going too long.

I’m now about a month away from that worst point. I have some sense of safety but my pride is gone, basically my savings are gone, I lost a job I once loved and honestly, I’ve just been in a pretty emotionless state this past week.

I’m not going to be doing this again, after serious consideration of what that means for the future but I just don’t trust myself enough to even try. But where do I go from here? I feel frozen.

I know there’s nothing to really reply to something like this where the mistakes are obvious and I created the whole issue but maybe someone will recognize themselves and not feel alone. Thanks.

GOJEK DRIVER WHO DRIVE UNTIL END UP INSIDE CONDO SWIMMING POOL @ BUKIT PANJANG, CHARGED

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A Singaporean Gojek driver who previously went viral for driving his car into a swimming pool at the Hillside Condominium back in February, has since been charged on 28 June for committing a rash act and endangering life while operating machinery.

The driver, 67-year-old Chean Tuck Heng, is set to return to court on 8 August where he is intending to plead guilty, and he will also not be engaging a lawyer.

Recap

On 28 February 2023 at about 9.10pm, a Gojek driver ended up driving into a swimming pool at a condominium in Bukit Timah after making a wrong turn while finding his way in the rain.

A resident who lives in the condominium, Luke, witnessed the car “going for a swim” and posted a video of it on TikTok, showing the car partially submerged in the pool.

He said that the driver of the white Honda was a PHV driver who was dropping off a passenger at the condominium at the time, at about 9pm.

It was raining heavily at the time and visibility was low.

Luke said that it all started when the passenger allegedly told the driver to turn into a path that was only meant for pedestrians, and the path led to the swimming pool.

The route was only meant for pedestrians and not vehicles, and a security guard told the driver to reverse his car out of there.

The driver then proceeded to perform a three-point turn in order to leave the path, managing to turn his car onto a grass patch and somehow managed to avoid hitting the poolside chairs and tables.

However, things then took a turn for the worst when he was at the final stage of his three-point turn but he accidentally stepped on the gas, driving straight into the swimming pool.

He then tried to reverse his car out of the swimming pool but couldn’t do so because the front tyres had already gotten stuck on the stairs inside the water.

The car was eventually pulled out of the pool by a tow truck at about midnight, and the driver escaped unharmed.

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The Hillside said in a statement that the driver who drove into their swimming pool was a Gojek driver and that they are seeking legal advice for the damage caused.

The driver had reportedly hit some potted plants as well.

The Hillside said that they have reached out to Gojek regarding the claim for property damage, although it is unclear how badly the pool was damaged from the incident.

They investigated the incident and found out that the passenger was a woman who was visiting her family living in the condominium.

The management said in their statement that the driver had initially driven through the main entrance of the condominium before turning right into a dead end.

Their CCTV footage showed that the car remained stationary before moving into a narrow pathway that was meant for pedestrians only, leading towards the clubhouse beside the swimming pool.

The driver drove on the pedestrian path before coming to a stop at the clubhouse.

The condominium alleged that the driver was approached by a security guard, who told him to reverse his car, but he purportedly drove forwards instead, before turning right and ending up inside the pool.

The driver then alighted from his submerged car and told the guard that he was a Gojek driver.

Gojek said that they are looking into the case and are speaking to the customer and the driver to resolve the issue and take action.

They emphasized their desire to provide a “safe and positive” experience for everyone.

ANG MOH CYCLIST RUNS OVER WOMAN & TODDLER @ EAST COAST THEN GOES MIA

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A woman and her 2-year-old daughter were run over by a cyclist along East Coast Park on 25 June, resulting in the woman suffering a fractured tailbone while the toddler suffered abrasions all over her body.

The woman’s husband then took to Facebook to appeal for witnesses, saying that the cyclist had become uncontactable after the accident, with his phone numbers being turned off and invalid.

Here is what he said

Accident between cyclist (male Caucasian in late teens to 20s) and pedestrians (woman and 2-year-old child) at East Coast Park shared path beside East Coast Lagoon Food Village on 25 June 2023 at 3pm.

Appeal for witnesses and information on culprit’s identity/whereabouts.

*Admin, please delete if post is deemed inappropriate*

On 25 June 2023 (Sunday), my family (wife, 4-year old son, and 2-year old daughter) and I were taking a stroll at East Coast Park on the shared path at the extreme left outside East Coast Lagoon Food Village. This was towards the direction of the Singapore Wake Park. At about 3pm, a male cyclist on a road bike suddenly crashed into my family from the back at high speed. The impact caused my wife and daughter to be injured. My wife fell backwards and hit her head and back on the ground, while my young daughter fell face front. Both were hospitalised.

The culprit is a Caucasian and likely to be in his 20s with blond hair with a height of about 1.75 to 1.8m. He identified himself to be a British and mentioned that his name was “George”. The culprit apologised profusely and said that the injuries wouldn’t be too serious. I requested his contact number as I told him that he needed to be responsible for the matter. He gave me two numbers – one being a local number (88736715), while the other being a UK number (+44757777262). He appeared sincere in wanting to take responsibility. He even corrected me when I keyed in his UK number incorrectly which made the situation even more convincing. I trusted him (which was a mistake) as my focus back then was to quickly rush my family to the hospital for medical attention.

After checking my family into a nearby hospital – Parkway East Hospital, I attempted to contact George. However, his local number is never turned on, while his UK number is invalid. I have reported the accident to the police as this involved bodily injuries. The police established that this is a case of rash act / negligence and is a criminal offence. My wife has a fracture in her tailbone, while my daughter has abrasions all around her body including her face. Being a 2-year old child, my daughter has also been badly traumatised with a change in her behaviour – more withdrawn and easily irritable. Investigations are underway.

The purpose of my post is twofold: –

1) If you have witnessed the accident and know the identity and/or whereabouts of the culprit, please PM me or contact me on *phone number redacted*. Your identity will be kept strictly confidential. The culprit was cycling on a roadbike with a partner on another bike. Both are Caucasians in their late teens to 20s. Both were topless and wearing dark coloured shorts. The culprit suffered some abrasions to his limbs because of the accident. Your help is most appreciated as this would expedite investigations.

2) If you are the culprit, man up and take responsibility for your actions. Giving false information, especially after you have caused harm to a lady and a child? You ought to be ashamed of yourself. The police have access to CCTVs around the park. You have the choice of voluntarily surrendering yourself and sleeping in peace at night. Otherwise, be prepared for embarrassment if you get arrested at your residence, workplace, school, immigration checkpoint (if you decide to flee), etc.

Source: Andrew Foo on SG PCN Cyclist Facebook

MUM LEFT TODDLER ALONE FOR 10 DAYS TO GO HOLIDAY, CAME BACK & FOUND GIRL DEAD

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A mother in Cleveland, Ohio has been indicted on murder charges after allegedly leaving her 16-month-old daughter alone for over a week while she went on vacation.

Kristel Candelario, a 31-year-old woman, made the shocking decision to leave her 16-month-old infant daughter home alone while embarking on a 10-day vacation, according to CBS News.

She departed from Cleveland and traveled to Detroit, Michigan, and Puerto Rico, leaving her child unattended.

Upon her return from the vacation, Candelario found her 16-month-old daughter unresponsive. Recognizing the gravity of the situation, she immediately called 911.

Authorities discovered the child in a distressing state, lying in a play-pen with dirty blankets and a soiled liner covered in urine and faeces.

Tragically, the child was severely dehydrated at the time of her death, underscoring the neglect and suffering she endured during her mother’s absence, according to WKYC.

Law enforcement swiftly took action, arresting Kristel Candelario on June 16. Subsequently, a grand jury indicted her on charges of aggravated murder, two counts of murder, felonious assault, and endangering children.

The Cuyahoga County Medical Examiner’s Office investigations revealed that the child suffered no signs of trauma, and had died after being left alone and unattended for 10 days, according to NBC News.

Her neighbors shared that Candelario had previously asked them to care for her daughter before in the past, and didn’t know why this time she didn’t ask them for help again.

A neighbour described the deceased child as being amazing and really adorable and that she missed the baby a lot, adding that she didn’t deserve what happened to her.

The prosecutor’s office emphasized the enormity of the tragedy and the responsibility parents have to protect and care for their children.

The shocking circumstances surrounding the child’s last days, alone and suffering, have prompted a strong commitment to seeking justice on her behalf.

Kristel Candelario’s bond has been set at US$1 million, and a preliminary hearing into her case has been set for Wednesday.

50 Y.O S’PORE MAN RAPED 10 Y.O STEP-DAUGHTER AFTER WIFE WENT TO PRISON, JAILED

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A 50-year-old man was sentenced to 18 years in jail on Tuesday (27 June) for assaulting and raping his 10-year-old stepdaughter, he had pleaded guilty to a count of rape and another count of assault by penetration, with 3 other charges being considered during his sentencing.

The abhorrent acts continued even after his wife was released from prison, as he took advantage of the child while her mother was asleep.

The man, whose identity remains undisclosed for legal reasons, married the victim’s mother in Batam before the family relocated to a flat in Singapore in September 2017.

Tragically, just weeks after their move, the victim’s mother was sentenced to a 14-week jail term, the reasons for which were not revealed in court documents. It was during this vulnerable period that the offender began his heinous acts against his stepdaughter.

Taking advantage of the absence of the victim’s mother, the 50-year-old man initiated his assault of his 10-year-old stepdaughter. When the young girl resisted both physically and verbally, he threatened her with further acts of violence if she revealed what he did to anyone.

Despite her attempts to fend him off, she was overpowered by the man, who was larger and stronger than her, leading to her enduring unimaginable pain and suffering.

The assault persisted from 2017 to 2020, even after the victim’s mother returned home. Frightened by her stepfather’s threats, the victim remained silent, trapped in a cycle of fear and manipulation. Her stepfather’s actions robbed her of her innocence, leaving her emotionally scarred and deeply traumatized.

The crimes came to light in October 2021, when an unrelated incident prompted the victim’s mother to contact the police. Through investigations into the matter, the offenses were exposed.

Confronted by his wife, the offender initially denied the allegations but eventually confessed. In an attempt to avoid legal repercussions, he offered the victim a monthly sum of S$500 and apologized, pleading with them not to report the crimes to the police.

The victim shared the extent of her suffering during consultations with a doctor at a Child Guidance Clinic.

She disclosed having thoughts of self harm since 2017 and revealed her aversion to the traumatic experiences she endured.

Recurrent flashbacks, anxiety, and hyperawareness of men in public spaces plagued her. The victim’s emotional well-being had been shattered, and she carried feelings of anger for not disclosing what happened to her earlier.

PRC WOMAN SMASHED S’PORE EX-BF’S CAR & HOUSE WITH GOLF CLUB, JAILED 2 WEEKS

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A 36-year-old Chinese national, Zhou Dani, had been involved in a relationship with her Singaporean lover for over four years. Despite knowing that he was married and had a child, Zhou believed that he would ultimately choose to settle down with her.

However, in late 2020, she discovered that he had been seeing another woman, which caused their relationship to deteriorate further. By August 2021, her lover expressed his desire to end the affair.

In an attempt to salvage their relationship, Zhou Dani decided to pay a visit to her lover’s house in September 2021. She hoped to discuss the two children she claimed to have had with him during their affair.

Zhou demanded through WhatsApp for him to come out of his house, but he refused. Determined to be heard, Zhou repeatedly pressed the doorbell, drawing the attention of his family members.

As Zhou’s ex-lover remained inside the house, urging her not to cause a disturbance, she climbed over the metal gate of the property. Once inside, she sent him a close-up photograph of his car and main door, along with threatening messages. She vowed to “crush” his car and even threatened harm to his mother if he did not comply.

In a fit of rage, Zhou grabbed one of his golf clubs and proceeded to smash his car’s body, windows, and door. Unfortunately, the golf club itself was destroyed during the act.

During Zhou’s destructive rampage, her ex-lover contacted the police, referring to her as a “lady stalker” who had invaded his home.

When the authorities arrived at the scene, Zhou was still in the process of damaging her ex-lover’s house. However, she ceased her destructive actions upon the police’s orders and was subsequently arrested.

It is worth noting that Zhou admitted to consuming alcohol before the incident.

Following the incident, Zhou Dani was charged with mischief, criminal trespass, and criminal intimidation. After pleading guilty to two of the charges and with the third charge taken into consideration, she was sentenced to two weeks’ imprisonment. Additionally, she was ordered to compensate her ex-lover for the damages caused.

The damages resulting from Zhou’s violent outburst were substantial. The estimated cost of repairs amounted to approximately S$18,361.67. This included the expenses for repairing the car, replacing the house window, and the value of the broken golf club.

During the legal proceedings, Zhou Dani’s mental health came under scrutiny. A private psychiatrist diagnosed her with adjustment disorder, which prompted the court to order a Mandatory Treatment Order (MTO) Suitability Report.

However, a psychiatrist from the Institute of Mental Health (IMH) opined that Zhou was unsuitable for MTO. The IMH psychiatrist emphasized that Zhou’s actions were more influenced by alcohol intoxication than her adjustment disorder.

Zhou Dani has filed an appeal against her sentence and the compensation order. At present, she is out on bail pending the outcome of her appeal.

HOPELESS VAN DRIVER HITS 3 CARS WHILE TRYING TO PARK @ CLEMENTI CARPARK

A van driver was seen in a video on Facebook driving against traffic flow at a multi-storey carpark in Clementi and hitting 3 cars will trying to park the vehicle.

The incident took place on 24 June at about 11.10pm, at a multi-storey carpark at Block 440 Clementi Avenue 3.

The video starts with the white van making a right turn into the car park. However, what becomes immediately apparent is that the van is driving against the flow of traffic, as indicated by the road markings.

Ignoring the designated direction, the van abruptly swerves to the left and crashes into a parked car, forcing it to come to an immediate stop.

The driver, dressed in black, steps out of the van to assess the damage caused by the collision. After a brief inspection, the driver returns to the vehicle and reverses it, adding to the chaotic scene.

In the subsequent sequence, the white van attempts to reverse into a parking space beside a red car. Unfortunately, instead of successfully parking, the van collides with the red car during the maneuver.

The van’s passenger emerges from the vehicle to examine the extent of the damage caused by the collision. After a cursory inspection, the passenger returns to the van, and the journey continues.

At this point, a black car approaches the stationary white van from the front, honking its horn to signal the obstruction. The van then moves to the right to allow the black car to pass, pulling into a parking space facing the front. However, the van again reverses into the middle of the lane and pauses momentarily.

In an act that hints at frustration or resignation, the driver raises a hand to their head. Without further ado, the van reverses once more, this time colliding with a grey car.

For the third time, one of the van’s occupants alights from the vehicle to inspect the newly damaged car. It is once again the driver who takes on this responsibility.

Meanwhile, another person emerges from the white van, adding to the confusion surrounding the incident.

Unfortunately, the video abruptly ends, leaving the subsequent actions of the individuals involved uncertain. It remains unclear whether they left the scene or attempted to park again.

DRUNK MAN BLOCKS TRAFFIC @ TELOK KURAU THEN KICKS TAXI & SPITS AT POLICE, ARRESTED

On the morning of 26 June, a man, who appeared to be heavily intoxicated, caused a disturbance by standing in the middle of the road, obstructing the flow of traffic.

Not only did he block vehicles, but he also engaged in confrontations, challenging passers-by to fight him.

The allegedly drunken man was seen in a video uploaded on the SGRV ADMIN Facebook page, standing defiantly, causing a nuisance by shouting incoherently at both cars and pedestrians.

The incident seemed to have taken place along Telok Kurau Road, close to Bright Centre, as evident from the surroundings shown in the video footage.

Concerned members of the public attempted to reason with him and urged him to move out of the way, but their efforts were in vain.

Amidst the chaos, a passer-by finally took action and intervened. He subdued the intoxicated man by restraining him in a stranglehold and dragging him across the road, away from the traffic.

The second part of the video showcased the man targeting vehicles. A yellow taxi, with its hazard lights flashing, found itself in the man’s line of aggression.

Without any apparent reason, he directed multiple kicks towards the taxi’s windscreen and side mirrors, causing damage.

Shortly after, he shifted his attention to a black sedan, displaying aggressive behavior. He leaned his body against the car’s windscreen and pointed menacingly at the driver.

In a disturbing display, he pounded the vehicle’s front bonnet forcefully with one hand, while clutching a yellow cup in the other.

As the man continued to cause havoc, a concerned passer-by approached him, attempting to reason with him and end the chaos.

However, instead of cooperating, the man in black gestured aggressively, indicating that he wanted a fight. He placed his cup on the car, clenched his fists, and began pumping them up and down in a confrontational stance.

Another passer-by, dressed in green, stepped in and directed the disoriented man away from the middle of the road, hoping to defuse the situation and prevent any further escalation of violence.

According to reports from Shin Min Daily News, the incident occurred around 7:50 am on Monday, 26th June. The 58-year-old man, believed to be under the influence of alcohol, emitted a strong odor of alcohol, leading to suspicions of intoxication.

Upon the arrival of the police officers at the scene, the man allegedly spat at one of the officers, further exacerbating the situation.

On Tuesday, 27th June, the man was taken into custody and subsequently charged in court. It was also revealed by Shin Min Daily that the man was on parole at the time of the incident, possibly contributing to the judge’s decision to deny him bail. The man is scheduled to appear in court again on 4th July.

MOTHER-IN-LAW ACCUSE WOMAN OF “STEALING THEIR SON” AFTER MOVING IN

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A netizen shared how his girlfriend moved into his home to stay with him and his mother started making her do housework, among other things.

The mother then accused her of “stealing their son” and the guy then had enough and moved out the next day.

Here is the story:

“I faced similar issues as you guys as well. But instead, I am the son whose mother treats my room like storage.

It didn’t help that my then-girlfriend (now wife) was moving in to stay with me. We had wanted to stay together whilst working from home. I have never seen my own mum clean and mop the floor at 7am in the morning yet she had started demanding my wife to do so!

This carried on for 2 weeks, and of course, I helped her out. But it just got to me that my mum was using my wife to force me to do whole house chores! Normally we would split the work and I would just settle my own room, but what the heck, suddenly me and my wife need to do the whole house??

Just because my wife is “freeloading” and not paying bills? But hey! My wife did give a lot of gifts and we even forked out for family dinners every weekend! My wife had never talked back to my mum before. I warned my wife that I came from a toxic family and they will not appreciate any of these gestures.

The last straw was when my family scolded her for “stealing their son/brother”. I was fed up and we packed our bags and left home the next day for a rental flat (while I am waiting for my own resale flat).

All these happened during the covid period and I am glad we had managed through it.”

Editor’s note: You did the right thing standing up against a tyrant.

MARRIED WOMAN WITH DAUGHTER THINKING ABOUT EX-BF, WHO IS ALSO MARRIED

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A woman shared how she randomly thought about her ex-boyfriend one night and wondered how he was doing, reminiscing about their times together.

Here is the story:

Do you ever think about your ex-partner and wonder how they’re doing?

For the record, I’m happily married, with a beautiful baby girl. My husband is loving, everything I could have ever wished for. My life is complete, beyond my dreams and I’m really grateful.. 

But today, while putting my baby girl to sleep, I suddenly realized that it must have been roughly 10 years since my first boyfriend had broken up with me. (My husband is my second)

I started to wonder how this first guy is. Not in a romantic kind of way but genuine concern as someone who had known him very well in the past.

You see, he’s not a bad guy. At all. He just has all the bad luck. And I do wonder how he is from time to time, though I’ve no desire to get in contact. I genuinely hope things have looked up for him since. 

Break up

The circumstances of our breakup were dramatic, though it was none of our faults. He’s just plain unlucky.

We had been together about 5 years, throughout the university, but he broke up with me the first year after we graduated and started working.

The following can probably be written into a Mediacorp drama:

His family had always been fraught with problems. They’re a working-class family, with a total of 4 brothers. He is no. 2. They could have had a good, middle-class life but his father gambled to the point of having loanshark come to the house and to the office, causing him to lose his job.

Supporting father

Then his parents divorced, selling the flat to split assets. His father then became homeless, and my then-boyfriend who was still in uni had to fork out a few hundred a month from his part-time tuition income to rent a bed for his dad.

I pitied him having to support his dad while the rest of his family moved to an HDB rental flat. By this time the other brothers had stopped contact with his dad, only my ex-boyfriend was supporting him. 

Wanting to save on university fees, he deliberately loaded on more modules so he could graduate a semester earlier and go to work to earn money to support his dad and family, with 2 younger brothers who were still schooling. 

The last straw came one day when I was at work. By that time I had just started working a few months, so he could have been working for a year already. 

I still remember I received a text from him, asking him to meet me that night after work. I had period cramps and really wanted to go home to rest so I asked if we could meet another night. But no, he had something urgent to tell me. So we met at my void deck.

I still remember that night. He sat me down and told me everything… 

Never ending problems

He wanted to break up with me. Because his youngest brother, then in sec 3, had been kicked out of school for failing to turn up for the retake of his end-of-year exam. Yes, so he had failed once and had been retained. The school gave him another chance to come back for a re-exam but in between, he had gone to lion dance, fallen, and broken his collar bone, meaning he couldn’t take the re-exam since he couldn’t write. So the school had called to kick him out. That was the last straw for my ex-bf as his problems seemed unending and which led to his decision to break up with me. 

Incredulous? The whole situation was incredulous to me. I cried and cried and cried. I didn’t understand why it was me who had to suffer a breakup when we both agreed I wasn’t a problem to him. 

He then told me everything else. He said he didn’t want to burden me with all his family’s problems so he had kept a lot of the severity of the problems to himself. 

But during the breakup, he came clean and told me everything that had been plaguing him. 

Brother arrested

By that time, I hadn’t seen his eldest brother for months. I did ask, but my then bf just made excuses. Only during the break-up did he tell me that his elder brother had been caught taking drugs and had been either in jail or rehab (I can’t rmb). I was shocked and so pained for him. This meant that he could no longer continue to work in insurance after his release, and the burden on my ex-bf to support the family became even heavier. 

He also told me, when his parents divorced and sold the flat, they split proceeds, and his dad went uncontactable for a week, apparently, he had gone to Batam to gamble and came back after he lost heavily or most of it. 

So yeap up until that point, I had been blissfully unaware of the severity of his family’s problems and only knew that they divorced due to his gambling problem and that only my ex-bf was supporting his dad by renting a bed space for him to stay. 

I was stunned. And sad. We had talked about BTO, visited the show flat, discussed applying for the one at AMK, etc. Everybody including me thought we would end up together because that’s just how we were. 

And then as I sat crying and wailing, he told me he decided to break up with me because I was always a happy girl and he didn’t want to burden me with his problems. So he didn’t tell me alot of these things that plagued him. But when he had to meet me, he had to put up a happy front and he didn’t want to anymore. 

I was bewildered because yes I’m sheltered, but I’m not unhelpful or uncaring. I didn’t understand why he had to hide his problems from me.

When his dad was homeless, I even suggested he move in with my own dad so as to save on rent. 

My parents were and are separated, my dad stays alone in a house. So there was room for his dad. He did move in, but my dad is not easy-going. He has OCD and is very x100 naggy. So anyway, things didn’t work out between the dads and his dad had a fall in the house and was warded and later diagnosed with kidney failure and needed dialysis. 

Stalked boyfriend after break up

Anyway so we broke up that night but I was distraught and kept pestering him, stalking him at his house and workplace to force him to speak to me. I even contemplated jumping off his block, while sitting on the stairs in between knocking on his door for him to speak to me. 

Eventually, he told me, please stop knocking on my door. I feel very stressed, it reminds me of times when the loan shark came to our house. 

It took me more than a year, and a few months of severe pimple outbreak before I got over the heartbreak. I had a pimple outbreak from excessively crying, it dried out my face or caused some hormonal changes and at age 25, I had my first outbreak. 

Epiphany

My turning point came when I was overseas with a group of girlfriends doing community work. After activities one day, they took us out fishing for lala in the river. It was evening time. As I floated lazily down the river, I looked up and suddenly saw that the sky was round. I can’t put it in words, but the sky was so vast and clear.. clouds dotted the sky. I could see it was indeed round. And I thought to myself: The world is so big, there are still so many things I haven’t seen and done, so many things waiting for me. 

At that moment, I was filled with hope and excitement for the future and stopped looking back on my past. It took another few months for my pimples to die down. I discovered the vegetarian diet helped calm my hormones and pimples down. 

My healing really came after this river trip. I started doing a lot of things on my own, like cycling from ECP to Changi Point or Barrage every weekend. Going to swim 20 laps. All on my own. It was very empowering because I had never been a very independent person. 

Started dating again

And then about a year after the breakup, my colleagues encouraged me to start dating again. They told me about online dating. Actually, my director was the one who told me about it. That’s where he met his wife. So I did, and then I met my future husband. We dated for 2 years and have been married for 5 years now. 

Anyway, I am just writing to put this on the internet, and putting it out there that I hope this first guy is well and found someone he deserves. I hope things have gone better for him and his family and I sincerely wish them the very best. I keep him in my thoughts quite frequently, like once every few months I would wonder if he’s ok. 

I mean, after all that he has been through, I hope God is treating him better now. 

Oh, actually we did meet about 2 years after the breakup. Purely by coincidence. My grandma had been warded in hospital and so was his dad. My cousins bumped into him and told him about grandma, who he also knew. So he messaged me after that to ask about her condition.

That’s the first time we spoke after so long, I was already dating my husband. Anyway long story short, his dad passed away from kidney failure shortly after and I also visited his funeral. I felt really guilty at that time because I had blamed our breakup on his dad too. Anyway, that was the last time we spoke.

End of story, it was long.”

Editor’s note: Man, that was quite some journey wasn’t it?