So recently I started seeing this guy I have a huge crush on. He likes me back, or at least he did up until this point.

Earlier today we went on a lunch date at a restaurant. Afterwards, we walked to the park together, where we just sat and chilled.

As we were having a great convo, I had to go to the bathroom, but I held it in because I assumed there would not be a bathroom nearby and I could make it until I got home.

However, as time went on, I realized I couldn’t hold it in any longer, so I asserted that I needed to use the bathroom. I checked for the nearest bathroom on my phone, which was close enough, but he offered to go with me, since it was a little ways out.

As you can imagine, this stressed me out, but I couldn’t reject his offer. So we started walking (and I did so at an embarrassingly brisk pace while wearing heels, which were killing my feet).

Unfortunately for me, he was quite close to me, and within about 7 mins of walking, I felt I could no longer hold it in. I told myself that I could make it, and that I couldn’t embarrass myself any more, especially because I only needed about 3 more mins until I made it to the bathroom.

To my demise, however, as my date was walking right next to me, I let out a shart in front of him. My heart sunk into my stomach as my date just made an involuntary expression of disgust.

Quickly, he tried to compose himself, but I sharted again. I wanted to cry and run off, but he reaffirmed me that everything is ok and that accidents happen.

I just told him that I needed to go home and he said that he understands and we parted ways. He texted me if I got home but hasn’t texted me since then.

I literally can’t face him anymore and the amount of embarrassment I went through feels intolerable.

Please help me.

My friend introduced me to her 24-year-old friend at a dinner party. He works in tech. It was totally platonic, not romantic at all.

I was politely chatting with him, and he was asking about a trip I’m going on soon with my friend and several other people, and he said she invited him.

So I was trying to be polite and was like, “oh yeah, you should come.” And then he accused me of flirting with him, which was funny since I definitely wasn’t.

He was like “well, girls who didn’t used to like me all want to date me because I’m making $110K now.” And he said I’m probably one of them.

I laughed then, which I guess was rude, and I was like “Well, that’s nice and all, but it’s not like you’re wealthy. If I was going to be impressed by someone’s money, they would have to make a lot more than middle-class.”

He went off after that and told my friend I flirted with him, then attacked him when I found out he wasn’t rich. Which I find funny, because I never thought he was rich.

Netizens Respond:

1. That guy has some serious insecurity. I love your jab about 110k being middle class because I’m sure that hit him like a freight train. You’re good.
2. I think she was more making the point that 110k is not like an exceptional level of wealth in this country. The difference between someone making 40k a year and 100k a year is a lot, but nothing like the gap from 100k a year to a million+ a year. That’s when it’s more at a level that it would be something to brag about. Personally, I also don’t care about/am not impressed by wealth. I just know when I think of actual rich people it’s not 110k/yr

Is it common to wear makeup when in the workforce? I’m joining the workforce soon, it’s an office job. All the while through school I’ve never worn makeup before.

My mother always tells me only those loose women wear makeup to attract guys, and forbid me to wear makeup.

So I don’t really know anything about makeup at all, I’ve watched some youtube videos but it seems very overwhelming to me. Will I be judged for not wearing makeup and is it more polite to wear makeup?

I’m very lost and anxious.

Here are what netizens told her:

• What kind of office jobs? Do you need to face clients? I have colleagues coming to office without makeup too! Anyway now need to wear mask you put lipstick also no use.
• Makeup is showing respect to yourself & others ( by being presentable ).Dun have to be very heavy full makeup. Just loose powder with lipgloss will be sufficient. Looking good will leave a better impression for others on u too.Good luck to your new job.
• To look presentable loh, just like guys comb their hair and shave.
• its up to your own preference.I hated makeup when I go to work. Plus now you need to wear mask,who gives a shit if you have make up beneath. As long as you have self confidence. There’s no need for makeup. That being said, some companies have a dress code which includes make up. If there isn’t then don’t bother. Some make up contains lots of junk ingredients like lead in lipsticks. Reduce such exposures is better. Some say its a form of respect to others, but I would say,learn to respect yourself,love yourself, before you think about that. Such sayings are commercial talks to make women buy makeup.After all,which company doesn’t want to cash in on women’s insecurities?
• my mother also told me hold hands will get pregnant. i think i fathered quite few already.
• Dolling yourself up can also be for yourself, your own mental well being. Your mother’s opinion was for a young girl/teenager in hopes to reduce your chance of having bgr problems, no longer applicable to a young working female adult. Personally I feel better if I put a bit of make up when I go out. Which girl wouldn’t want to look nice?Now everyone wear mask, already cover half the face. First day of work just put a bit at the area that the mask didn’t cover and access if the other ladies at the office put any. See if you want to blend in or you want to do what you want. Personally I find women who make an effort to look presentable will make a good impression at work. No need wayang make up. A little blush if you usually look pale. Make sure no chapped lips in case you have lunch with colleagues. Nice defined brows etc.

I’m 30 and live with my husband and three children (m8/ f5 / and m2). I work as a freelance artist from home and my husband works long hours driving. As a result, I do the majority of housework and look after our three children. Though when he’s off work and home, he takes on his fair share. Our lives mean that we don’t have much free time.

I enjoy cooking and as a mum, I make sure to give my children a wide variety of foods to eat. I want them to appreciate different cultures, flavours and different types of cuisine from all around the world, and to grow up kind and respectful of others, so a few days a week, (3 out of 7 )my children and I cook together and make a recipe from another country. We all enjoy this and it gives a perfect segue into learning about a foreign country.

My husband on the other hand has a more plain palette and prefers simple dishes that he grew up with, such as fish and chips, bbq chicken etc. We eat plenty of meals like this too.

A week ago, we hired a babysitter and went to a friend’s house for dinner. They cooked a beautiful vegetarian pie, with mashed potatoes and vegetables.My husband turned to them and said “Oh god, finally! A decent meal for once! My wife is always cooking these awful smelly dishes.”

Hurt, I looked at my husband and asked him what he meant, and he said that ” he only puts up with it, because he doesn’t have time to cook something decent for himself”.

The meal was a little awkward after that, but neither of us brought it up again while there, until we came home. I told him that I “wouldn’t stop cooking foreign food with the kids and if he didn’t like it, he would have to cook something for himself.”

He once again said that ” he didn’t have time for that, and I should just cook him something he likes at the same time, ” which I refuse to do, mainly because when he comes home after work he spends all his time, up until bedtime, gaming (this is around 4 / 4 1/2 hours of time after he comes in.) and has plenty of time to cook a quick, but decent meal for himself and enjoy his hobby.

Once again this week, I cooked with my kids and like I told my husband, I didn’t leave him any. He was pissed, but ordered take out. The second time he went around to his parents house and his mum cooked for him.

The next day, I got a phone call from my mother in laaw saying I was ” a bad wife for not cooking for my husband, and that I spent all day doing my hobby (my actual job) and why shouldn’t he enjoy his hobby? ” Which again, he still can and does do. I also still cook for him on the days I’m not cooking anything foreign.

So am I in the wrong? He need to bring his mother out to settle small things like this. I think i married a child.

Hi I’m 21(M) and I was matched with a 44(F) in the dating app and I was there for fun. So we met up after a few chats.

3 months later I went to her place and I spent a night with her. I’m surprised she is so good in bed.I thought women at her age passed childbearing, so I dared to do it. Now I regretted it because she told me she was pregnant a month plus later. I suggested her to go for an abortion because I am not ready to start a family, and since she is older than me, she should be able to pay for the abortion.

She got angry with me and stopped contacting me thereafter.

I got to know a few days ago she didn’t go for an abortion, and she is pregnant with my twins. What shall I do? To get back in touch with her again? I still not ready to start a family, especially with a woman much older than me.

Netizens’ comments

• Nicely done. U had your fun and then U decided to walk away and let her handle the abortion fees.U are 21, U are too young to start a family. I can already see your future going down the drain.I believe the logical thing to do is not to get married, but be there for the twins when they are born. No one says you have to be a husband, but U definitely need to fulfill the role of a father to provide.Lastly, there are other holes to upload your shit if U really dun want to be a father. Please exercise some self control, it’s becoz of people like U that some kids will grow up unhappy and become rebellious.

So you did it with someone old enough to be your mother, and because of you she’s going to be mother to a pair of twins young enough to be her grandchildren…

• Boy,one moment of shiok dong dong give u life time of seow ding dong.You will live with the stigma forever in your life
• If I’m you, I will get back with her cos I will not have to worry about her getting pregnant during her pregnancy period.
• She can sue you for child support and you will be financially impoverished for the next 21 years! And at 44, she is at risk of pregnancy complication or giving birth to baby with special needs.

“Want to put some encouragement out there to graduating students. Especially those who received less than satisfactory offers and feel disappointed at what employers are offering you out of school.

It doesn’t matter that much. It matters what you do after getting a less than satisfactory salary (If you’re satisfied, don’t read further).

I’m not from CS or well paid courses so when I took on my first job with a salary slightly below 3K monthly, it was pretty amazing. I ignored culture and got into a really bad job. Thank goodness I manage to get myself out of it.

Remained motivated, kept working hard and did not restrain me to my job scope. Looking back, this helped me because I always had so much to share during interviews.

Finally, after changing a few jobs (I was “approached” each time), I’m earning at least triple of what I had 4 years back.

So, friends, you are what you set yourself up to be. If someone paid you less, try set yourself to accomplish tasks that could justify why you should be paid more (help the company earn more, help others in your team grow, help your boss get recognised… etc). That way you’re setting yourself up for success.”

Netizens’ comments

1. Go for the job, learn what you can and move on. Remember that there is no such thing as loyalty in a company. When you leave thousands more are behind you waiting to get that job. If you have an offer take it first. You can always omit those short jobs in your resume.
2. If the boss is good stay around longer and see what you can learn.
3. There are some things that money can’t buy,. and that is job experience. Make do with the sub par salary first and gain some valuable experience so that you can later push for a pay raise or get a better paying job with the skills that you learned.

I feel sick about this but know I made the right decision.

My boss approached me last week after my employee review and informed me that I would be receiving a substantial raise. I was ecstatic and elated because I worked so hard last year and our profits reflected my time and hard work. My position holds equal rank to another employee at the company (we are both in top management) and for years we’ve made the same salary.

However, earlier this week she informed me that after her review she was not offered a raise. Working alongside her I have been witness to her working just as hard as me and being an asset to our company as well.

I felt terrible for her but recognized it was not my place to have an opinion as I am not her boss. However, this morning our boss approached me requesting a meeting in which he informed me that he was unable to offer her a raise because he offered what was left of the budget all to me.

He then proceeded to inform me that unless I split or gave up some of my raise – she would not get one. I split it equally with her and she was very grateful. I know I did the right thing but part of me wonders

Why I wasn’t more selfish in this decision since it wasn’t my responsibility, it was my boss.

Netizens’ comments

1. I don’t see why your boss would put that on you, its ultimately not your decision. It sounds like this was a test if you both have been working hard. Makes no sense.
2. Company should have made the choice and explained that you both earned it. How does it make sense to anyone that both people equally deserving of something, one gets ignored? I don’t like it one bit, I’m struggling to understand how this made sense to anyone.
3. It’s pretty common for men to be paid more than women when they’re doing a job equally well. Not trying to start an argument or be bitter, just stating a very unfair and unfortunate fact.
4. Your Boss is an idiot! He/She needs to be replaced, hope when your company does the 360 review, you are able to do something about it.

So my husband, who I’ll call “Jake” for this story, have been together for 5 years and married for 3. We have recently started trying for a baby as we both felt like that was the next step in our life together, and 3 weeks ago I got a positive test back. We were really really happy and told our families, and now my mom and mother in law want to throw a big baby shower for us, it was just super good news all around.

Well 2 nights ago Jake and I were getting ready for bed when he reminds me to go through the house and make sure all the lights are off. Now he can be a little lazy at times, and it has become a nightly routine for me to make sure all the lights are off that he leaves on before we go to bed. I wasn’t feeling very well and asked if he could just do it since he wasn’t doing anything and was literally standing by the door.

He then tells me “No, this is what is expected of you every night.” I was a little hurt but I didn’t want to fight with him so I just did it. When I came back Jake goes on this very long and unprovoked rant saying things like “Just because you are pregnant does not mean anything will change” and “You are still expected to cook, clean, and do all the chores every day because how can you be expected to be a mother if you can’t handle a little work.” He wasn’t yelling or anything, he was talking to me quietly like a was 2 inches tall.

I was shocked because I had never heard him say anything like this. The rant went on for about 30 minutes before I interjected and asked “Well what do you plan on doing to help me with all of this.” He then got extremely defensive saying he works his brains out at his job to provide for me and what is going to be our future children. (For context I don’t work)

He ended by saying that it doesn’t matter how I feel physically or mentally, it is a mothers job to push through, and if he helped and babied me I wouldn’t be a good mother.

I got extremely upset and started yelling and I said that “I wish I would’ve known this is how you felt before I got pregnant with your baby.” There was a moment of silence before he started crying and he left for the night to stay at his mother’s house. He hasn’t been back yet and my mother-in-law have called me berating me and saying I broke Jakes heart with what I said and I need to apologize immediately, and until I do he isn’t coming home. I don’t know how to feel.

So am I wrong for yelling at my husband after he said he isn’t helping me with anything during the pregnancy because “it’s a mothers job to deal with it”?