I’m 23 years old. For the last two years, I’ve been in a loving relationship with my boyfriend, We were planning to get married soon and even discussed having a baby.

But that dream was shattered when my bf went missing.

It all started a couple of weeks ago when I took a pregnancy test and it came out positive. I was so excited to tell him the news, but he was not happy. He said he wasn’t ready to be a father yet and wanted to wait a few more years. I was disappointed, but I understood. We had a long discussion about it, and I decided to keep the baby.

But the next day, he disappeared. I called his friends and family, but nobody had any idea where he was. He was just gone. I was worried sick, but there was nothing I could do.

I searched for Joe for weeks, but there was no sign of him. I almost filed a missing persons report with the police, I had no idea what to do or where he could be.

I was starting to lose hope when I got a call from a friend of his. He said my bf had been staying with him for the last few weeks. He had been scared and confused, and he thought I was mad at him for getting me pregnant. He had been avoiding me because he didn’t want to face the situation.

When I heard this, I was relieved, but I was also angry. I had been so worried and scared all this time, and he was just hiding from me. I knew I had to talk to him and try to make things right, so I went over to his friend’s house.

When I got there, My bf was so relieved to see me. We talked for hours, and he apologized for running away. He said he was scared and confused, and he was sorry for making me worry. We agreed to work through this together, and he said he was ready to accept responsibility and be a father.

Weeks later, his family moved and he went missing again.

I don’t know what to do…

I’m a Grab driver in Singapore. I’ve been married for 8 years, and for most of those years, my wife has been making a lot of demands about “doing it” every day.

She’s always asking me to do things to her every night, I am reaching my 40s. I am no longer a young man that has the power to do it everyday.

It’s gotten to the point where I feel like she’s taking advantage of me and I just don’t want to do any of it anymore. That’s why I started driving part-time for Grab. I figured it would be a way to make some extra money and give me some time away from my wife’s demands.

At first, I was only driving at night, when my wife was sleeping. That way, I didn’t have to worry about her knowing I was out working. But then I realized that I actually enjoyed the job and I wanted to do it more often.

I started driving during the day as well, while my wife was at work. That way, I was able to make more money and I was also able to avoid her demands.

I soon realized that driving for Grab was more than just a way to make money. It was also a way to give me some much-needed time away from my wife.

I was able to focus on something other than her demands, and it was a great way to de-stress. I also got to meet some really interesting people on my trips, and I even made some friends.

Driving for Grab also gave me some financial independence. I was able to save up some extra money and use it for things like vacations or small investments. I was able to make my own decisions and felt like I had control over my own life.

But she has been complaining that I have been coming home late and started to accuse me of cheating. I even showed her the trip records on my Grab app to prove that I am really working.

But deep down she doesn’t know I am just trying to avoid her demands at night.

I have a degree and i’ve gone through 11 different jobs from 2020 to 2021 (sometimes working 2 at a time).

Most paid between $1.7k and $2.6k a month. It feels like if I try to be nice and accommodating to others I get stepped on repeatedly or picked on.

If I try to speak up or distance myself from those people then I’m a problem or not a team player. If I’m quiet then I get told ‘are you sure this is the job for you’ why do I have to try so hard!!!!

I thought my terrible search would be over in 2022. Still under 50k a year but at least I can finally move out from living with my toxic mother right? After a year at a crappy insurance company, I had enough and stood up for myself.

Immediately I also wanted to change jobs. I spent 3 months searching and applying to over 200 jobs. Some I feel like I didn’t get because I have a traditionally feminine name. I applied to entry-level factory jobs for pete’s sake. If you’re really so desperate for people then don’t assume I can’t lift or monitor things just because I wasn’t born a man.

I started at another insurance company then got an offer for a role elsewhere. I was so conflicted between the two but I chose the insurance company since they said ‘they really liked me’. I didn’t want to let them down. I get there and I’m constantly told they’re understaffed.

2 weeks later they tell me they don’t think they’re a good fit. They recently hired a guy younger than me right out of uni with 0 industry experience yet I’m the one who doesn’t fit? I’ve never had this happen. Now I’m out a job.

I feel like if I were born a guy with my qualifications it would be less troublesome to get a decent job. Instead of being considered a ‘job hopper’ I’d just be someone who was ‘trying to figure himself out’ or just looked down upon less. I wouldn’t get picked on because others wouldn’t think I’m weak.

Is there anyone else who feels this way???? I’m just so sick of trying so hard in these environments but ‘nO oNe WaNtS tO wOrK aNyMoRe’ right?

Now me and my bros we together write this for u

My brother met a +1 Singapore bu a few months back and after some drinking, he manage to ups her into bed and was addicted to her skills in bed.

Now his life has changed, he wants her badly. He spent all his money on her, hang flowers on her and brings her children and her for family day.

He keeps trying to dabao her back after a night of drinking but it fails usually. He couldn’t work properly during the daytime and was so distracted, he would spent his time fetching her home from KTV (she works nightlife).

After she end works during midnight camp her under her place and also wants to marry her. But she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with him. The girl was having a Cold War for almost a week with him and he even tried to hurt himself due to not being able to talk to her.

He had since fallen sick, having difficulty breathing, heart pain and having a high fever. He told the girl he was sick the girl was not heartless during the cold period helped him to book transport to the hospital and even ordered him food with extra ingredients for him after he was home.

He was very happy and said she really loved him for this action. He had borrowed money from people around him so he could bring her for a holiday. Is this really true love or is this kena gongtao? you tell me.

We Gan him many time he still don’t believe, Now he just came back from batam with the girl then the girl receive a bouquet of flower make out of cash from another guy

He still believes the girl love him

I have been controlling myself for a long time. My friend’s mom is the ultimate hottie. I always find excuses to go to my friend’s house to talk with him but I just wanted to interact with his mom. Im 21-years-old but his mom is in her maybe late 30s to early 40s because she married and had him early.

And I must say, she is still looking hot af.

Then his mom approached me one day and asked if I have any insurance to protect myself from accidents and blah blah, that was when I realised that I had hit the jackpot and an opportunity had arisen. I was not listening and using my eyes to scan her whole body like an x-ray machine.

She then asked if I was interested to switch my insurance provider to her company and I agreed, cause if she is my agent I can meet her as and when I want.

So we met on another occasion without my friend at a restaurant near my home and she prepared her laptop for me to sign the insurance documents. While signing, We started to have a casual chat and she said that my friend is a good kid despite growing up in a single-parent family.

Then she also asked me about savings or investment insurance, I told her maybe the next time we meet we can talk more about it, I told her that I have something on and left. But the fact is I have nothing on and I’m trying to ‘brew the tea right.

So I started texting her under the pretence of asking about insurance policies but I was just trying to know her more and letting her know me more.

We met about a month later and we were texting like we were friends, she complimented me saying that I’m mature and thinks about protecting myself with insurance and doing some savings. She compared me to her son and said that I sound 10 years older than his son, that was when I know the time for me to ‘cash out my winnings.

I said: “Do you see me as a boy like your son or a man?”

She laughed and said I’m definitely a man and blink one eye at me (WOAHHHHH), not trying to be a snob here but I am highly intelligent. I’m thinking there is a higher chance she is saying that I’m a man cause she wants to please the customer, but my other ‘brain’ is saying there is a chance.

So we started laughing and there was some light flirting and I said “well your an attractive woman and still young, no find a boyfriend?” She said cannot lah she don’t put any pressure on my friend and said she prefer something casual.

Then my eyes open wide like an owl in the night, I told her in a smoky voice “Elaborate what’s casual?” and I blink my eye back at her.

I will update again, I am definitely bedding her even if I have to buy more insurance policy from her.

I met this girl in a club and started dating her. We cohabit for a few years in my parent’s house. Then one day she started asking about marriage and also started arranging for BTO matters.

She even plan on what job to find after she retire as stewardess assumingly she got pregnant. I did not want to marry her due to her special background. Before I met her, she works in the club and let any guy took advantage of her. She told me she had 3 abortion before so she is always feeling tired and weak.

She’s dirty and doesn’t cherish herself working in this kind of places until when we dated then she switch job. I am unable to overcome the barrier that she was being USED by many guys. I wonder how come girls like her can even think that they can find decent husband and happily married? Isn’t it naive? She likes giving her hard earn money to her mother which I did not approve.

Her mom knew she was working in club and did not object at all, since she was making money to support her. What kind of parents is this?! In fact I’ve no respect for her mother. How can she witness her daughter earning fast money and still spending her money happily.

When she finally got the BTO flat she wanted and in high floor, she told me to put in deposit together. But I didn’t want the flat, the BTO is what she wanted.

She should put the deposit since she is the one that wanted a BTO. She was so upset and left me. What right does she even have to be angry and leave me when I picked her up from her bad situation and told her to find better job. Her family couldn’t even be bothered. What I wanted was to live with her without marriage or children. But our relationship went downhill when she became naive.

What do you think I should do? Should I ask for my money spent on her back?

This is bothering me for a while. A while ago I was doing internship in a bank, there I met a NUS senior of my age. She’s 23 just like me, I kinda have a crush on her. The thing is she has a bf who works in the same bank and she is getting married this year. The BF is 36 years old and is a senior banker. They both been dating for 2 years, when she did the same internship.

I found out later that this phenomenon is common in the bank, with many dudes around 10-15 years older than their spouse. Another intern(21) also dated one dude 9 years older because he has a car, condo and a 100k salary package.

At this rate all the good ones are getting hunted by all these rich old man. To the girls, Isn’t it really disgusting to date someone almost 1.5 times older than you?

Recently I shared this thought with a friend, and she told me that if she was could find a 100k per annum dude with a car and condo, she’d marry him no matter how bad he is. Worst come to worst she could just divorce and ask for alimony.

What is this world coming to? Maybe I should go for dudes instead.

Here are what netizens think:

• Orrrrrrr you can find women that earn 100k and is 1.5 times older than you with car and condo. Learn, adapt and survive bro.
• Your very mindset is why they don’t go for guys around their age. Think about it logically, would you go for someone new in his career who gets emotional like this instead of thinking how to be a 100k earner or one a decade ahead who can provide in more ways than one?
• Sad reality of life, not many woman wants a man who’s a “work in progress”. Stay strong bro.
• Just wait another 10 years and you might become like them

I work remotely and a few months ago I went to the office for a few days to get some face-face time with my colleagues. On my last day, one of my colleagues offered to give me a ride and there was a hidden speed camera and he got flashed.

At the time he just brushed it off like it was nothing and we went on with our lives.

Anyway, a month ago he sends me a message saying “So I just got the ticket. How are we going to do this?” I asked for clarification because I wasn’t really sure what he meant, but it turns out he wants me to pitch in for the fine.

At this point I’m just thinking “But…I wasn’t driving….” and we have a small back and forth about this and I assumed we had resolved it and put it behind me.

This morning, his wife messages me basically saying that it is incredibly unfair of me to have not paid my share of the ticket and that they expect me to pay them back because they paid it in full. I was really surprised to receive this message because I assumed it was resolved and quite honestly, it wasn’t expensive at all and I could easily part with the money for the entire ticket if need be.

To be told “He wouldn’t have had a speeding ticket if he wasn’t driving you” felt especially rich to me considering that he actually wouldn’t have had a speeding ticket if he wasn’t speeding – something I had no control over at all as a passenger. 

I have not yet responded to her and to be honest, I feel like if I don’t pay them, I’m being the petty person. At the same time, on principle it feels wrong to give in.

Extra info: I know this particular colleague quite well as we used to work at another company together. I know his family and they know mine as they’ve come to visit and stay with us as well and I would say we are relatively close – as far as colleagues go.

I also know for a fact that they aren’t exactly struggling financially. We work in one of the top 5 most paid industries. I know that I get paid pretty handsomely for my work, and the guy has a pretty senior role to me and definitely earns quite a lot more than I do.

The industry wis wife works in also has her earning nearly 10k more than he does a year from what he’s told me, and as I mentioned, we get paid pretty well. I wouldn’t have thought twice otherwise, but I just feel like this is petty on their part, especially considering how small of an amount the fine actually is.

Info: I was not running late, nor was I asking him to pick up the pace at any point in time. I had initially planned to walk to the train station, but he kindly volunteered to take me.

To many people, I would suppose owning a car is a dream that they always wanted to have.

I have the chance now that many would have wished for but to me it is not a dream but rather a nightmare. I am lucky enough to come from a well to do family and my parents wanted to buy me a car for my birthday this year.

The issue is that I cant seem to pass my driving tests at all. I have taken over 30 lessons so far and had taken and failed 3 tests. 2 of the tests I had an immediate failure while I chalked up above 40 points for the last test. I had spent about $6000 so far on driving which I feel is such a waste of money. My dad has been encouraging me to continue and that I will pass one day.

Yeah sure I may pass one day out of luck after 10 or 20 tries maybe? I feel so stressful whenever I am sitting behind the drivers seat now. To me, I would rather not have any car and just take public transport everyday to and fro work where its so much more relaxing.

I am not even confident of driving on the road or changing lanes even if I pass. I feel its so hard to change lanes when there are so many vehicles around. I almost got into accidents few times even when there is the instructor around me and I can feel that the instructor is also very stressed when hes teaching me. I am probably the worst student he ever had. Singapore traffic is so bad with so many vehicles, what for add to the stress with driving when I can sit on the MRT or bus and just watch my netflix shows.

I am thinking of giving up driving entirely but I am not sure how do I break it to my parents. I am sure they will be disappointed with me as they really had hoped for me to be able to drive them around. At the same time I also feel bad that I had spent about $6000 of their money yet not achieving anything in the end.