I’m seriously considering divorcing my overweight husband.
I know how awful that sounds. Just hear me out. When me and my husband first started dating we were both reasonable weights. Not fat, not skinny, just reasonable. We got along, he was super sweet, would take me out to nice places, super romantic.
We got married 7 years ago. Ever since then it’s been hellish. He got let go from his job after some budget cuts. He started playing online games, and eating out for most meals even though i offered to make him lunches before i left for work but he refused and said it would be too much work for me. We were still good romantically and apart from his slightly worrying gaming addiction, at the time we were fine.
We had our daughter 2 years into our marriage and I had some complications which led to me being unemployed for a bit because i was recovering from a few surgeries. He refused to get a job and said he would rather spend his time gaming and “taking care of our daughter” so we ended up borrowing money from my mother. This hurt because my mother isn’t in that good of a place, financially, and her giving us the money felt like a really low point.
I love my daughter more than anything and I noticed he didn’t seem too care as much as i did and preferred take out and computers more than our child.
5 Years later, I’m employed, he is not, he is now over 250 pounds, i am still at the 160-170 mark. My husband spends more time interacting with his friends online than me and his daughter, my daughter will occasionally go up to him wanting to play, or spend time with her dad, he 9/10 times will brush her off. He hardly leaves his gaming chair, we haven’t been intimate in 2 years because is physically impossible and he gets tired too quick.
I’ve counted, he has only left the house to run errands with me this year 4 times. We never do things as a family, he’s never fully there with me. I feel like a single mother to two kids, one an actual child with curiosity and a desire to do fun things, one with its ass glued to a game console.
I have tried convincing him to diet, he will always go like 3-4 days before i catch him with a takeaway box or an uber order. I’ve tried so hard with him but he never tries. Our relationship feels so one sided and i don’t know how much longer i’ll be able to hold out like this. I don’t want to divorce because i know what it’s like to grow up in a broken home but i also know what it’s like to have a dead beat father and i can’t tell what i should do?
The breathtaking waters surrounding Sentosa, a picturesque island resort in Singapore, recently witnessed a dramatic event.
A foreign-registered luxury yacht, known as “Australia,” unexpectedly ran aground and became stuck near the waters of Sentosa on 16 October, according to The Straits Times.
The Luxury Yacht “Australia”
The star of this story, the yacht “Australia,” is an opulent vessel measuring 56 meters in length and estimated to be worth a staggering A$40 million (approximately S$34.7 million).
This remarkable vessel boasts an array of luxurious amenities, including a jacuzzi, well-stocked bars, and an exclusive VIP suite.
Reports suggest that “Australia” belongs to Clive Palmer, a prominent mining magnate and former Australian member of parliament.
While the incident unfolded, it remains unclear whether Mr. Palmer was on board the yacht or not when it got stuck.
Eyewitnesses account
A resident of Sentosa was quick to notice the yacht’s predicament at about 5.30pm in the evening and promptly reported it, adding that there are a lot of rocks in the channel but only some of them are visible at low tides.
Surprisingly, this isn’t the first time such an incident has occurred in the vicinity.
The director of yacht charter company Wanderlust Adventures, 45-year-old Mr Quek Wee Teck, spoke to ST and said that this was in fact the second time this month he had seen something like this happen there.
Maritime and Port Authority of Singapore’s Response
A spokesperson for the Maritime and Port Authority of Singapore (MPA) said that their Maritime Safety Control Centre was alerted to the incident at about 4.30pm, and that no pollutions or injuries were reported from the incident.
They added that the yacht has been refloated and will be anchored to assess any damages caused, port operations were also not disrupted and the MPA will be conducting investigations into the incident.
Four Singapore-registered Porsche Luxury Sports Cars Make Headlines at Tuas Second Link
In a recent incident that unfolded at the Tuas Second Link, four Singapore-registered Porsche luxury sports cars caused quite a stir. On Sunday, October 15th, at approximately 2:30 pm, these high-end vehicles were seen cutting the queue at the border crossing to return to Singapore. However, the story took an unexpected turn as these four supercars were later spotted driving back towards Johor. Many who witnessed the incident through a shared video on the SG Road Vigilante – SGRV Facebook page believed that the motorists of these luxurious vehicles were compelled to rejoin the queue due to their queue-cutting antics.
What the Video Revealed
The dashcam footage captured the daring actions of these Porsche drivers. The Tuas Second Link, a dual three-lane bridge, witnessed some rather audacious maneuvers that left many astonished. The grey Porsche was the first to make its move by crossing the double white line from the left-most bus lane to the second left-most car lane. Simultaneously, a blue Porsche pulled up beside the grey Porsche, which further disrupted traffic to allow the blue Porsche to overtake it. Instead of forming up directly behind the vehicle in front of them, the two Porsche cars already in the car lane allowed the other vehicles to move forward, creating enough space for the remaining two Porsche cars – one blue and one white – to overtake.
With this synchronized move, all four Porsche cars managed to align themselves in a single row, all set to enter Singapore. However, this was just the beginning of the unexpected turn of events.
The Tuas Second Link
The Tuas Second Link is a crucial border crossing between Singapore and Malaysia. It comprises a dual three-lane bridge that facilitates the movement of vehicles between the two countries. Given the high traffic volume at this border, maintaining order and following traffic regulations is of paramount importance.
Porsche Cars Queuing in a Row
The footage of the four Porsche cars queuing together to enter Singapore indeed raised eyebrows. The video suggests that these luxury cars, known for their speed and style, had no intention of waiting their turn. They employed tactics that allowed them to gain an unfair advantage over other law-abiding travelers at the border.
The Unexpected U-turn
Despite their initial maneuver to enter Singapore in a single file, the dashcam footage took an unexpected turn. Shortly after this alignment, the four Porsche cars made a U-turn along the Tuas Second Link, heading back in the direction of Malaysia. The video’s caption claimed that these Porsche cars were “made to U-turn,” which added another layer of intrigue to the situation.
tuas 2nd link
cutting across the double white line using motorbike /bus lane to cut queue
made to uturn
A convoy of 4 porsche cars cuts queue while coming back to sg from jb via tuas..
First 2 cuts in and let’s their 2 other friends in after.
A condominium in Pasir Ris was “breached” by an outsider over the weekend, when a black car crashed and knocked down a wall of the condominium premises, leaving a huge gaping hole in the wall.
Two people ended up suffering injuries, albeit minor ones.
The Incident
According to a netizen who shared videos and photos of the incident, it purportedly took place on the 14th of October, at the junction of Pasir Ris Rise and Jalan Loyang Besar.
A black Nissan Teana crashed into the perimeter wall of the Sea Esta condominium, and was believed to have skidded after mounting a kerb and losing control, before hitting the condominium wall.
The Consequences
The car, a black Nissan Teana, left a trail of destruction as it knocked down a huge part of the perimeter wall and sent debris flying across the walkway.
The car almost crashed into a tree but stopped just in time, and the damage was quite significant.
Minor Injuries and Prompt Response
The Singaproe Civil Defence Force (SCDF) said that two people were involved in the accident and were assessed to have suffered minor injuries and refused conveyance to the hospital.
The following day, the wall was cordoned off from the public although the huge gaping hole and debris from the accident still remains.
Eyewitness Accounts
Residents in the vicinity were understandably shaken by the crash. Mr. Wu, whose unit is adjacent to the portion of the wall that was impacted, recalled a “deafening crash” that frightened his mother.
He told SMDN that he didn’t manage to see the driver or passengers due to the suddenness of the incident.
Another 46-year-old resident shared that when he returned home later that night at about 11.30pm, he was police officers at the accident site, along with a tow truck that was getting ready to remove the vehicle from the scene.
A woman recently posted her frustrations on the internet after her husband humiliated her during their bedtime hours.
The husband made unruly comments about his wife’s physique and she has since been destroyed after hearing the words that came out of her husband’s mouth.
Here is the story:
Last night was one of the nights that made me tear up the most in my life.
My husband who is working 9 to 6 came home at about 7 PM and it was our anniversary, I cooked a big meal for him and our two kids. Hoping that I would get some praise for him.
He totally did not even spout a word and did not notice the difference in the dinner. He eat, showered and went to bed and started scrolling on his phone.
I told him that it was our anniversary and he said “hmph”. I tried to engage him to have a night that is full of passionate love but he suddenly pushed me aside.
I asked him what was wrong and he said: “your belly is too big, it’s very hard to get hard”.
I was destroyed when he said those words. I bear for him two children, go to NTUC to buy food, cook and clean.
I barely have enough time for special diets or exercise.
I went to the toilet and cry and he did not even bother to comfort me. He went to the kitchen took a beer and started watching Youtube videos.
Later he off the light and said tomorrow he have a meeting early in the morning and started to snore.
I don’t know what to do…
Its seems like after many years of marriage, nothing is special anymore.
Alright… This didn’t happen today but since I only learned about it today I think it counts.
A couple months ago my bf n I were in a LDR. I flew out to see him for a week, and when I left I accidentally left a pair or my underwear at his place. It had fallen under his bed so I hadn’t noticed it when packing. He told me a couple weeks later that he had found them and had put them in the wash. No problem right? Wrong. God… I am mortified by what he told me today… I tend to discharge quite a lot after my period, and this was the case with said underwear.
BUT CHRIST ALMIGHTY I did not expect him to tell me there was a WORM IN MY DISCHARGE. I know he loves me simply by the fact that he washed them, and said nothing to me until 6 months later. I’m embarrassed, don’t know how the worm manifested it’s way into my underwear.
A little drunk rn while typing this out so hopefully, it makes sense. Strangers of the Internet enjoy this story as there is no way I’m telling this to anyone IRL.
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a fly probably laid eggs on your underwear while it was chillin’ under the bed and he found them when a maggot hatched.
I highly doubt that there were worms in the underwear when the OP was wearing them. Fruit flies and regular flies love to lay eggs in decomposing proteins and fruit fly maggots do look a lot like little tiny worms.
Pinworms are tiny. Months later, they would be so dried and small it would look no different than a fiber.
There was some show i saw that was people telling stories(with re enactments) of parasites they caught. I think it was called…. the thing inside of me? Or something about as unsettling
The Singapore Red Cross (SRC) is pledging USD 150,000 (SGD $205,264.50) in humanitarian aid in response to the ongoing crisis in Israel and the Palestinian Territories, according to the SRC’s press release.
The Singapore Ministry of Foreign Affairs also said in a statement on 16 October that they are pledging to contribute $300,000 to humanitarian relief efforts as well.
This gesture serves to support their Red Cross Red Crescent Movement Partners, including the Palestine Red Crescent Society (PRCS) and The Magen David Adom in Israel (MDA).
Both of these organizations are active members of the International Federation of the Red Cross and Red Crescent Societies, collectively working towards alleviating the humanitarian crisis in the region.
A Timely Humanitarian Response
As the region witnesses an alarming escalation of violence, particularly in Gaza, the SRC has stepped forward to address the plight of innocent lives affected by the turmoil.
The ongoing violence has resulted in numerous casualties and widespread suffering among civilians in the region. Many have lost their loved ones, while others remain displaced and without homes.
Mr. Benjamin William, Secretary General/CEO of the Singapore Red Cross, has expressed the organization’s deep concern for the situation.
He emphasized the severity of the crisis, acknowledging the relentless efforts of the Palestine Red Crescent Society and the Magen David Adom in providing critical assistance to those affected.
These brave staff and volunteers risk their lives daily to offer aid, and the SRC is ready to bolster these relief efforts.
A Call for Support
Recognizing the urgency of the situation, the Singapore Red Cross has launched a public fundraising appeal starting from 16 October 2023, which will continue until 31 January 2024.
This appeal aims to garner support from Singaporeans and residents to contribute to the much-needed relief operations in the region.
The appeal seeks to provide aid and assistance to individuals and families impacted by the crisis. It is a call for compassion and solidarity to help the affected people rebuild their lives.
Upholding International Humanitarian Law
In line with universally accepted International Humanitarian Law, the SRC urges the protection of non-combatants and critical infrastructure.
This includes vital facilities such as medical centers, water and power systems, ensuring that humanitarian actors, including the Red Cross Red Crescent Movement, can access and provide support to civilians in need.
The ongoing hostilities, which began escalating significantly on October 7, 2023, have resulted in over 4,000 casualties in both Israel and the Gaza Strip. This tragic situation has left thousands more injured, exacerbating the already dire humanitarian crisis in the region.
Mass Displacement and Humanitarian Needs
The crisis has forced an astonishing number of people to flee their homes in search of safety. More than 1 million people in Gaza have been displaced, and this number is expected to rise further, underscoring the urgent need for humanitarian assistance in the region.
In the Palestinian Territories, the PRCS is actively providing support to communities in the Gaza Strip and the West Bank.
They are transporting casualties to hospitals, offering critical emergency medical care to the injured, and distributing essential relief items like mattresses, blankets, kitchen kits, water, dignity kits, and shelter to displaced families as safely as possible.
MDA has also acted promptly by deploying medical teams with ambulances and intensive care units to provide essential care for the injured. They have intensified their blood donation drives to support medical facilities and have dispatched helicopters for evacuation operations to transfer civilian casualties to hospitals in the south.
S’pore Red Cross’ Press Release
Singapore, 16 October 2023 – In response to the ongoing crisis in Israel and the Palestinian Territories, the Singapore Red Cross (SRC) is pledging USD 150,000 in humanitarian aid to our Red Cross Red Crescent Movement Partners, including the Palestine Red Crescent Society (PRCS) and The Magen David Adom in Israel (MDA), both members of the International Federation of the Red Cross and Red Crescent Societies, to support their ongoing relief efforts in the region. SRC has also launched a public fundraising appeal from 16 October 2023 to 31 January 2024 for the relief and recovery operations.
“We are extremely concerned by the escalating violence that is happening in Gaza. The loss of innocent lives and the suffering endured by the civilians in the region are heart-wrenching. Our hearts go out to those who have lost their loved ones, or have their loved ones missing, and those who have lost their homes and are displaced.
The Singapore Red Cross (SRC) is closely monitoring the situation with our partners in the Red Cross Red Crescent Movement. The Palestine Red Crescent Society and the Magen David Adom have been working tirelessly to provide critical assistance to those affected, with their staff and volunteers risking their lives everyday. SRC stands ready to further support the relief efforts. When we launch our fundraising appeal in the week ahead, we look forward to the support of Singaporeans and residents to bring much-needed relief aid and assistance to individuals and families,” said Mr Benjamin William, Secretary General/CEO of the Singapore Red Cross.
He added, “In line with universally accepted International Humanitarian Law, we strongly urge for the protection of non-combatants and critical infrastructure such as medical facilities, water and power systems, so that humanitarian actors, including the Red Cross Red Crescent Movement will be able to have access to civilians needing help.”
The ongoing hostilities in the region has significantly escalated since Saturday, October 7, 2023, specifically around the border between Israel and Gaza. According to latest reports, over 4,000 people have lost their lives in Israel and the Gaza Strip. This tragic situation has left thousands more injured, compounding the humanitarian crisis.
The crisis has also forced a staggering number of people to evacuate their homes and seek safety. As a result, more than 1 million people in Gaza have been displaced. With this number expected to rise, reflecting the pressing need for humanitarian assistance in the region.
In the Palestinian Territories, PRCS is actively aiding communities in the Gaza Strip and the West Bank. PRCS has been transporting the numerous casualties to hospitals, as well as providing critical emergency medical care to the injured. The emergency ambulances have been operating at full capacity since the crisis started.
The PRCS has also been providing urgent field relief, including mattresses, blankets, kitchen kits, water, dignity kits and shelter to displaced families as much as the security situation allows for safe movement of their staff and volunteers.
MDA has also responded swiftly to the crisis by deploying its medical teams with ambulances and intensive care units to provide essential care for the injured. They have also ramped up their blood drives to help medical facilities. In addition, the MDA has dispatched its own fleet of helicopters to carry out evacuation operations to convey civilian casualties to the hospitals in the south.
Seriously, what’s with those financial companies who keep asking people to become their financial advisors? I have already been head-hunted via cold calls and LinkedIn messages prompting me to work as their financial advisor like 5 times over the past 2 weeks.
In context, FoS undergraduate and already have a summer internship – but still being head-hunted by financial companies asking me to spend my summer in their cult of financial advisory – even though I had no knowledge in finance and I even hated being in business.
There are already a lot of FAs these days. Why are they keeping hunting more of their prey?
I know not all FAs are like that, but seriously, I’m this close to giving a bad impression to financial advisory. Seriously, it’s so irritating dealing with all of these sellbots. How do they sleep at night knowing that this is what they do.????????
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It’s a highly delusional profession. I was served by one keynote speaker FA, and he was so lousy. He could not answer any of my questions, especially the one “how many of the products you sell are in your portfolio?” On my own, I did better than him and all the FA I have ever known, even if they count their losses as gains. Run!!!!
Cold call is not headhunted lah. Your case is closer to scam call than headhunting.
Ignore them lah. They abit like mlm. FA is almost a sunset industry as more people are it savvy and can buy on their own liao
don’t blame them la, have you anything before? It is tough to sell insurance cause mainly sell base on fear , that is one and secondly you need to have the skill to sell on being able to manage their money . Needs training and a bullet proof skin so that’s why those that make it are so successful. Take it positively la, their profession is literally taking people money to become their own money. It is a very tough job.
Get this right. You were not headhunted because as an intern or a fresh grad you have nothing valuable for any companies to want to head hunt you.Those who cold called you were transactional recruiters who tried to transacted you for a commission.Know the difference so you don’t become a laughing stock by telling people you are being headhunted.
The Singapore Ministry of Foreign Affairs has issued a statement expressing profound distress over the escalating civilian casualty toll and the deepening humanitarian crisis in the Gaza Strip.
These dire circumstances have resulted from Israeli military operations in response to attacks by Hamas on Israel on October 7, 2023.
Hamas has been accused of deliberately targeting civilians, resulting in fatalities and kidnappings, as well as the perpetration of acts of terror.
The Singaporean government, in alignment with international consensus, firmly states that these atrocities cannot be justified under any circumstances. They have called for the immediate and safe release of all civilians held hostage by Hamas.
Comply with international law
While emphasizing Israel’s legitimate right to protect its citizens and territory, the statement also underscores the necessity for Israel to comply with international law, specifically the laws of war. It is incumbent upon Israel to take all necessary measures to ensure the safety and security of civilians during its military operations.
The Singaporean government has urged all parties involved to adhere to international humanitarian law and to facilitate the urgent delivery of humanitarian aid to the civilian population in the Gaza Strip, recognizing the pressing need for immediate relief.
Contributing $300k to humanitarian relief efforts
In response to the deteriorating humanitarian situation, Singapore has pledged to contribute S$300,000 toward humanitarian relief operations through the Singapore Red Cross, highlighting its commitment to assisting those affected by the crisis.
The statement acknowledges the protracted and tragic loss of lives on both sides of the Israeli-Palestinian conflict over many decades.
Singapore has consistently advocated for a negotiated two-state solution in accordance with relevant United Nations Security Council resolutions as the sole viable path toward a durable, just, and comprehensive resolution to the long-standing conflict.
The Singaporean government remains convinced that this approach continues to hold the most promise and is urging both Israelis and Palestinians to take steps toward this ultimate goal, despite the recent and ongoing hostilities and the formidable challenges it presents.
Singapore maintains that both Israelis and Palestinians deserve to live in peace, security, and dignity.
MFA’s statement
MFA Spokesperson’s Comments on the Situation in Israel and the Gaza Strip
16 October 2023
Singapore is deeply distressed by the increasing civilian casualty toll and deepening humanitarian crisis in the Gaza Strip. These arise from Israeli military operations in response to the attacks by Hamas on Israel on 7 October 2023.
Hamas deliberately targeted civilians, murdering and kidnapping them, and perpetrating abhorrent acts of terror. These atrocities cannot be justified by any rationale. We call for the immediate and safe release of all civilians taken hostage by Hamas.
Israel has the legitimate right to defend its citizens and its territory. However, in exercising this right Israel must comply with international law, including the laws of war. It must do its utmost to protect the safety and security of civilians.
We urge all parties to abide by international humanitarian law and allow for the urgent delivery of humanitarian aid to the civilian population in the Gaza Strip.
In response to the urgent humanitarian situation, the Singapore Government will contribute S$300,000 towards humanitarian relief operations through the Singapore Red Cross.
Tragically, too many lives on both sides of the Israeli-Palestinian conflict have been lost in repeated cycles of violence over many decades. Singapore has long held the position that the only viable path to a durable, just and comprehensive resolution to the longstanding conflict is a negotiated two-state solution consistent with relevant United Nations Security Council resolutions. It is convinced that this remains the case. It urges both sides to take steps towards this ultimate goal, despite the recent and ongoing hostilities and the difficulty of the task. Israelis and Palestinians alike deserve to live in peace, security and dignity.
In an exciting development, Singapore’s Housing and Development Board (HDB) is set to transform the serene Bayshore region into a bustling residential hub. This massive project involves the construction of 7,000 Housing Board flats, marking a significant extension of the vibrant Bedok town. The first two Build-To-Order (BTO) projects are scheduled for sale in the second half of 2024. Let’s dive into the details of this remarkable transformation.
1. The Bayshore Expansion
The Bayshore expansion is a colossal undertaking that will see the creation of 10,000 homes on a 60-hectare site. This reclaimed land stretches between Upper East Coast Road and East Coast Parkway, offering residents picturesque waterfront and city views.
2. Diverse Housing Options
Among the 7,000 new flats, 3,000 units will be designated for private housing, providing a wide range of choices for prospective residents. The remaining 4,000 units are part of the HDB project, designed to cater to the public housing needs of the region.
3. First Two BTO Projects
The initial BTO projects are expected to comprise around 1,400 two-room flexi, three-room, and four-room flats. What sets them apart are the full-height windows, offering residents stunning waterfront views of East Coast Park or captivating city views of Bedok town.
4. Housing Classifications
HDB has classified these BTO projects under the ‘Plus’ category, indicating their prime location, proximity to transport nodes, and nearby amenities. Starting in the second half of 2024, these flats will come with stricter resale conditions, including a mandatory 10-year minimum occupation period.
5. Minister’s Vision
National Development Minister Desmond Lee expressed his enthusiasm for these new projects, as they mark the first public housing developments in East Coast since the construction of HDB flats in Marine Parade. The aim is to create more inclusive neighborhoods by offering various housing typologies, including rental flats.
6. Project Timeline
The Bayshore estate is set to be fully developed by the mid-2030s. A unique feature of these flats is that structural beams and columns will be placed along the edges, allowing homeowners flexibility in customizing their unit layouts according to their needs.
7. Connectivity
Most homes in Bayshore will be within a five-minute walk of the upcoming Bayshore and Bedok South MRT stations on the Thomson-East Coast Line. The accessibility doesn’t stop there; Bayshore will be a car-lite estate, with cycling and walking paths that connect to the Round Island Route and a 15km green corridor linking East Coast Park and Changi Beach.
8. Bayshore Drive
At the heart of Bayshore, a new street called Bayshore Drive will host shops, eateries, supermarkets, health facilities, sports amenities, and recreational spaces. A “transit priority corridor” will ensure efficient public transport access.
9. Green Spaces
Green spaces will be seamlessly integrated into the Bayshore landscape. A 3-hectare central park will run through the estate, offering open lawns for picnics and leisurely strolls. Playgrounds will have a rustic theme, and various walking trails will be available.
10. Integrated Development
On the eastern side of the estate, an integrated development will be linked to a bus interchange and Bedok South MRT station. This development will feature residential units and retail and dining shops, though the public or private nature of this development is yet to be specified.
11. Sustainable Design
The Bayshore project will incorporate sustainable design strategies. For instance, solar panels will be installed on the roofs of the first two BTO projects, and a pneumatic waste conveyance system will be used to transport household waste via underground pipes to a central bin center.
12. Conservation Efforts
Despite the substantial development, care will be taken to manage the environment. HDB will work with the National Parks Board to identify and conserve plants of conservation value, mitigating the impact of construction on local flora and fauna.
13. Future Prospects
The HDB continues to issue keys to flat buyers, with plans to increase the pipeline of new BTO projects. As of now, approximately 80,000 BTO flats are under construction in nearly 100 projects across Singapore. This number is expected to rise to 110,000 flats across 150 projects by 2025.
