I (19f) keep finding poop nuggets on my boyfriend (19m) and his brother (19m) bathroom floor.

So I visit my boyfriend and his twin brother pretty often. We have been dating for over a year now. I currently live nearby but plan to move in with them in a couple weeks.

I am just a little worried because every now and then I find tiny poop nuggets on the bathroom floor.

They don’t have pets so it has to be one of them. A few months ago I found one about the size of a thumb but thought it was a one off thing and cleaned it (I have never mentioned it).

But as I have been staying with them more and more, I have been noticing it more and more. I have no idea which one it is but I don’t know how to bring it up to them.

Someone is leaving poop nuggets on the floor at my boyfriend’s apartment, how do I bring it up to them?

Netizens’ comments

• Bring it up jokingly to both of them together and say something like “guys wtf is that” neither of them will probably own up to it but i’m sure they’ll stop
• The bf and his brother sound like pigs. Honestly, the OP is likely finding that the two leave things where they finish with them, empty beer cans left where they finished, dishes left where they finished, ect. Like you said, normal people don’t leave poop spots anywhere, they are aware about good hygiene practices and follow them.

It’s hard to cut ties with your own sister and girlfriend.

The title says it all, a guy I’ve always had a problem with had a one night stand with my sister and girlfriend of 5 years when I was out of town.

The absolute betrayal is seriously, seriously unbelievable. I’m still processing it even now.

For now, I’m just looking for a bro to discuss it with. Thanks in advance, I need advice.

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s not tricky in the slightest! One is related to you by blood and one is not. One is committed to be an adult relationship with you, the other is family. One promised to be monogamous, the other would never even remotely consider that as an option. One you’ll see for holidays for the rest of your life, the other you never have to see again.

• Just because she the other one is your freaking sister she has to get a pass? Exactly because she is your sister she needs to go as well. But well your choice at the end of the day…

• Drop the gf, if the sister sincerely apologizes MAYBE have some kind of relationship. I’m the forgiving kind so I would keep the sister in my life, unless she was otherwise toxic.

• Damn cut both of them out of your life bro. I wouldn’t even acknowledge her as your sister anymore

• The gf is the easiest part of the equation – just cut her loose, your sister , it depends , did your sister know that the guy was your enemy, did she know your gf was still in a relationship with you ? , if she did , cut her loose too, go low / no contact.

Anyone else literally forcing themselves to get to work since the alternative is homelessness?

Sometimes I feel like this can’t be healthy.

Internally coaching myself to stay at my desk and not run out with some excuse or quit. The mental anguish.

Thinking about having to get through the entire week, forcing myself to be at this place for 8 hours straight every day.

Of course I don’t expect to get money for nothing.

I do enjoy working to a degree. Just not for 8 hours of the main part of my day 5 days a week. 6 hours would be so much more doable. Leave me time to cook dinner, straighten up the house, and still have a few hours to myself. but who can afford to live off this kind of salary?

It’s the full time rat race that’s killing me. Having every minute accounted for before and after work to get everything I need done. Working out. Showering. Prepping lunch. Cooking a fresh and healthy dinner. Getting a decent amount of sleep.

Where do I fit in what I want to do? Friday nights I’m so exhausted from the week that night is shot.

Sunday I have my housework, yard work, chores and errands. Prepping for the upcoming week.

Saturday – one day. I get one full day to myself. Hopefully there’s not a baby shower, relative or friends birthday, wedding, etc etc.

My life revolves around work….. and I can’t handle this for the next 30 years.

Netizens’ comments

1. I feel this post in the deepest parts of my soul. I’m working two full time jobs and trying to stay sane enough to maintain my relationship with the wife and kid…
2. That’s the best part of a 9-5 job. Getting off work, making it home at 6 & then doing food deliveries from 630 to 9 so I can afford food.
3. Yup. Every single day. And I even work for a great company where I’m treated like a human – I still get this gnawing feeling like I’m wasting my life and I constantly ask myself how my parents did this for 30-40 years. It’s crushing and I hate it. I just want to chill and enjoy my life, not enrich some corporate a-hole that I’ll never meet.

I don’t know if I’m being mean in this situation but can I just have a second opinion please. My boyfriend and I went to eat somewhere in east yesterday and came across this hawker centre.

Just walking in only, this older lady came over and asked us really personal questions and ask us to guess her race and guess her name and she’ll give us 1mil if we get it right etc.

she asked for our names, and I gave her a nickname of mine, which my boyfriend was a bit annoyed about. I was already kind of weirded out but she just seemed like a lonely old woman so it’s fine.

She then proceeds to tell us to just sit with her and eat with her all, still I am ok. I don’t mind hearing this aunty’s life story, she seemed quite interesting. Side note, we arrived the area at 8.30pm.

She proceeds to share her life story, how she was a billionaire and lost all her money. How she was supposed to own certain companies all of that.

She claimed to have been famous, most beautiful, the most wanted woman. She also added that she did not take her meds that day. She said the hospital was using her like a Guinea pig.

Amongst many, many other things. I don’t really wanna say much but I hinted at my boyfriend that I’m damn tired and it’s been quite some time alr. It was est 10.15pm at this point. I eventually told her we need to meet my sister, and she said ok, but proceeded to talk for abt 30 more mins.

She told us to come over to her house and have a sleepover with her. We said no. She said to just visit her house, I told her I had work the day after.

She told us to give her our numbers, and I typed in my nickname. Again, my boyfriend was annoyed and told me to just put my real name.

This is quite nothing la but this made me realise that my boyfriend doesn’t have a stranger alert radar? Like am I crazy? We eventually walked this lady to her house, and my boyfriend made me come up the lift to her level, which obviously she’s gna continue encouraging us to sleepover, or come in which I absolutely did not want happening.

She proceeded to encourage us to come in, and show us around. I said no, my boyfriend told me it’s just for awhile what’s the harm. Like just accompany her awhile. We were literally in heaps of sweat, it’s 11.15pm at this point.

Ngl the house rly damn nice, but at this very moment, I realised that how crazy easy it is to coerce my boyfriend to do things. Like I truly cannot believe I went to this stranger’s house, albeit an old lady but still. Like at least give chance to get to know her better la LOL

So I’m pretty pissed, especially at my boyfriend. A small part of my heart understands he has a lot of empathy and care for this lady, but my brain was just screaming stranger danger.

I don’t know I feel like I’m overreacting but like I feel it’s common sense not to enter a stranger’s house aft like 3hrs of knowing them, claiming everyone in the world knows them, is missing out on meds and has been walking arnd since morning.

I am 25M and just broke up with my 20F. We had been together for ~2 years. When we were together, she was still a student, and as a working adult, I was there to support her (dates were mostly paid for by me).

Now that she had graduated and transitioned to adult life, she found a job in the design industry. Things were difficult as they work on a comms basis and do not have a fixed salary. Dates were mostly paid for by me until recently she started to fork out some of her own share.

During the first week of work, she needed a laptop, so I bought a MacBook for her (initially was mentioned to be paid on an instalment basis but I guess she took it as a graduation gift and I as a supportive BF left it as it is).

She also needed a car to meet clients so she used her family car for work, however whenever she needed money to pump petrol/season parking, she would ask money from me, and I would pay for her. When she decided to lead a healthy and fit lifestyle and wanted to sign up for a gym and asked me to help pay for it, to encourage her, I did.

However, the money I am writing today is not about the money that I have paid for during our time together, but the money she had borrowed for her own needs (e.g., paying off outside debts, and fixing her car, etc).

Recently we had an argument in which I told her that I felt neglected by her since we only met once every few weeks. After that argument, she basically shut off from me and ghosted me for 2 weeks and I had no choice but to initiate the breakup because we were supposed to go on a family trip together (which I had paid for), but things were so dire that I just wanted a clean break. But when I mentioned the money that she owed, she left me on single tick and did not answer my messages at all.

Now I just want my money back. I do not care for the money we had spent together during our time; I just want those that she legitimately borrowed from me.

To be honest, all the money that I have spent on her amounts to much more than this (birthday trips, my dinners, luxury gifts), but I just want those that she had borrowed because it is still not a small amount…

Please help and give any advice, TIA.

A guy from Tinder invited me to a nice cocktail bar. I usually don’t agree to drink alcohol on the first date, but the guy was my type looks wise, and he gave out very cool, chill vibes over text.

The date started off great – he was smooth, fun, lead the conversation and I felt like we had great chemistry. We clicked immediately with our ironic, “f-ed up” sense of humor.

As the evening went on and we had few drinks in us, our conversation became more adult oriented and we started to talk about kinkier stuff (in a fun, playful manner)

At one point we started talking about the guys sizes (he brought it up) and he made a remark along the line of: “You look like a size queen”, I laughingly replied:”What?! No, I do not discriminate haha” and than tried to make a joke: “unless it’s a micro of course, then you’re f-ed hahaha”.

I said it as a dumb, silly joke, and it matched the vibe of our conversation, but I immediately saw his energy shift, it was like I ruined the whole atmosphere.

There was an awkward silence for a moment, he then changed subjects and pretty much started having meaningless, unengaged small talk with me, any of my attempts to steer the conversation back on “the fun train” were ignored.

At that moment I jut felt clueless about wtf had just happened. He also had made silly, insensitive jokes about women’s bodies and other so called taboo subjects. My dumb remark definitely was within the context of the conversation. Plus, I had said more f-ed up jokes before that and he laughed.

Looking back in hindsight, when he made that “size queen” comment, he was definitely fishing for something. There was some tension coming from him in that moment, but I did not pick up on it at the time.

So yeah, after another 30min or so of awkward conversation he said he needs to wake up early tomorrow and it’s time to call it a night. He did not try to kiss me or suggest coming to his place, we just parted ways and I was left mind f-ed. Did not hear from him again.

Obviously I do not really know whether he actually had a micro p-s, but him bringing up the size subject, then getting upset after I made that joke (even though up until that point everything was going great) makes me assume that.

It’s a real shame, I liked the guy and feel bad that I made him feel insecure (assuming my theory is correct). But who knows, maybe he actually did not like me and was looking for a way out to end the night, but that seems highly unlikely.

I (26f) have a brother (30m) “David”. David has been married to “Katey” for 6 years before he cheated on her with “Candice”.

Honestly I loved Katey, even she was rather quiet and introverted, she was always interesting to talk to, helpful and I loved how serious she was about her hobbies. Like she wouldn’t let anything to stop her doing what she loves and she would work hard for it. So once we found out that David has been cheating on her with another woman, we were shocked, since David said he will never do that to her.

David has separated with Katey and started a relationship with Candice. I’m not a big fan of her as she is not nearly as helpful or nice as Katey, always gives unsolicited advise and generally behaves and speaks as if she is more important then everyone else in the room. However David seems to be totally in love with her.

Recently I have told David that I don’t feel comfortable inviting Candice to my and my boyfriend’s house due to her behavior and how their relationship started. David didn’t like that and started an argument with me, during this argument I have mentioned how much better Katey was and that he was a fool for loosing her and David said that his sore throat syndrome made him cheat on Katey and she should of understood and forgiven him, but she didn’t. I have called him dumb for blaming his condition on cheating and said if my boyfriend have told me the same thing as he told Katey, I would of left as well.

Now my brother got offended and have called me “insensitive brat”. The family is split, my parents believe I should apologise to him, while some of my siblings said I did the right thing.

Here are what netizens think:

• Exactly how he is claiming his sore throat made him cheat? Like what is the justification? Signed, another person that is full of S.

• That’s straight bull. He’s either supremely dumb or lying 

• Well then he is fully and thoroughly enabled to get out of jail free anytime . Just imagine, he has realized that he can never do anything wrong because he always has the best excuse. And this isn’t gonna help him build a good life and it’s not gonna help him really appreciate anyone else.