I don’t understand why some people are so sensitive when it comes to friendships.

Everything must always do together. Must include everyone. If someone cannot make it, then must cancel the whole outing and pick another day.

Why can’t just have two outings? I don’t understand.

A, B and I are good friends and we do most things together. I say most things cos A doesn’t like to watch superhero movies. She thinks they are lame.

On the other hand, B and I are like huge fans of Marvel and DC. So recently we went to watch The Flash without A.

Wah I tell you she kpkb non stop about it, keep saying we exclusive and other crap. Wah I hear already really triggered.

I mean in the first place she doesn’t even like Flash. If we went out to do something she likes then fine lah we cb but in this case we got what wrong sia.

Last time we asked her along to watch Avengers she kao peh and kao bu the whole damn movie. Avengers leh! It’s already so mainstream but she still kept asking qn and making stupid comments throughout.

We were so embarrassed cos it’s damn obvious the people beside us were very annoyed by her. So the next superhero movie we swore not to invite her if not very waste our money.

Actl everything was okay one until this stupid B go and let slip we went out without A but wtf this A also damn childish this kind of stupid thing also want to ignore us.

Ignore ignore lor even better. I don’t have to deal with her nonsense. Pity her boyfriend sia.

Netizens’ comments

Why are you guys acting like little kids, reading this made me go through puberty all over again. Grow the F up people.

My ex GF [24F] cheated on me [22M] & had a kid. She left her boyfriend [25M] and wants me to take her back.

I don’t want to come off as arrogant or cocky. I just have had such large growth financially and mentally. This girl and I dated for months, but bad a lifelong friendship & we were friends since we were both toddlers.

I’ve always had feelings for her and I thought she was my soul mate. We had a lot of plans and goals to complete together, but she acted to play games and left me for another dude.

Obviously it hurt and I am still feeling some sort of betrayal over it. The thing is, she had a baby with that guy. After the whole mess I cut her off completely and she kept trying to be my friend, but I turned my back to her.

I saw her a couple times recently due to some stuff that was going on and we had some conversations on my and her feelings.

The thing is I am not the same. I started making high 6 digits a year and I think for somebody my age I am doing very good. I am able to afford the things I like, and I am loving comfortably.

She on the other hand dumped and kicked her boyfriend out. Right after she did that, she called me to tell me she wanted to give it another go. I have issues, ever since she left me I was feeling lonely and I am still attached to her

. But I also do not believe she wants to be with me over her feelings for me, more so because I am successful now. How should I handle things with her? I don’t want to be rude, but I do want to know her true intentions.

Tldr: my ex left me for somebody else and settled down. Now that things went south, she got separated and she wants to date me, but I am not so sure I can trust her again.

Netizens’ comments

1. She doesn’t “want you back” she wants you to help her with someone else’s kid. THE someone else she chose, over you. Block, move on. Find better.
2. Her true intentions are clear as day bruh. What else do you want ? Her to spell it out for you ? Move on and pay no heed.
3. Of course she wants you hack…the grass wasn’t greener, and she needs a babysitter. So, another option is to find someone new who hasn’t broken your trust and cheated on you, and build a new relationship, have fun traveling and having experiences now that someone without kids can do, and later get married and have your own kid. Good luck, congrats on moving forward, and don’t look back!
4. She didn’t choose you before, she doesn’t get to choose your money now. Don’t take her back.

I will be 30 this year, and I’m still scared of my mother. I’ve not admitted this to anyone, and no one knows this. It has been my secret since young.

Since I can remember, my mother has been this intimidating figure in my life. As a child, I thought this was normal. When I was in primary school she would cane me frequently, sometimes I deserve it (like most kids I make mistakes sometimes), but sometimes it is really not my fault.

I remember vividly the times she hit me when I accidentally knocked over a vase, or when I was hungry and ate some food from the kitchen she didn’t approve of. She would quarrel with my father (divorced) and vent her anger out on me.

I also got beatings simply because she said I reminded her of my dad and that it’s my fault she got divorced. Often I would go to school with cane marks on my arms and legs and be ridiculed by my classmates. I would always be scared to go home, not knowing what mood my mother would be in.

In secondary school, the canings continued. She would also not give me pocket money regularly and I would have to ask for it. Sometimes she was in a good mood and she’ll give it to me, but a lot of times she would scold me for being a financial burden or hit me and chase me out of the house.

I would go to school and watch my friends eat because I didn’t have money to buy food for myself. I made excuses like I’m not hungry. I had to return home immediately after school because if I was late to come home she would hit me or lock the doors and I would have to wait in the HDB corridor for her to return so I can go in.

I couldn’t join my friends to go out after school and anyways I didn’t have the money to go. I made up loads of excuses and slowly no one asked me if I was going anymore. Weekends she would forbid me to go out and lock me at home while she went to play mahjong.

If she lost, I would be in for another beating. If she won, which was rare she would be in such a good mood she would cook me dinner or even dabao something back for me to eat.

In my teens she also escalated to throwing heavy objects at me, hitting me over the head with hard objects and even sometimes throwing boiling water at me. I got better at evading and covering up bruises and marks on my body.

In my teens in addition to the frequent beatings, her mood swings were also scary, and she had a lot of paranoid thoughts. She would often accuse me of ridiculous things like I’m plotting with the neighbours to ruin her life.

She would also accuse others of having intentions of harming her. She can get from normal to really angry in seconds, and it’s hard to predict her mood as the simplest things can set her off.

I finally graduated (my father gave me some money for school) and she got older. I got a job and would stay out later to avoid going home.

Till now her mood is still unstable, and she still chucks things at me and hits me with bamboo poles and stuff. But her strength and agility is lessened now due to age so I’m able to evade.

I also have income now so I can buy my own food and spend on some things that I need. She has also retired and asks me for an allowance every month which I give.

People might ask me why I don’t move out. It’s expensive to rent, and I don’t earn much. Despite her shortcomings, I do still love my mother and worry she’s not going to be able to cope alone. I do alot of things around the house.

She did still bring me up. I also can’t stay with my dad as he has a new family and other children now, and he doesn’t want me to interfere with his family. He says he’s done his part by paying for my education and to not mess up his new family.

Sometimes I feel tired living with someone who’s so unpredictable. The fear is still there even though things are better now as she’s not physically hitting me as much.

Now I don’t know what’s in it for me in the future. I’m living one day at a time. It’s bad but sometimes I think I’ll only be free after she passes. I feel guilty thinking this way. For now I just wait I guess.

Thanks for reading my rant. Needed to get some of this off my chest.

My (24F) boyfriend (29M) refuses to call me beautiful.

We’ve been together for 5 years, and I can count on one hand the number of times he’s called me beautiful/gorgeous.

Those times were only when I asked him to do so. When I’ve asked him directly why he never calls me beautiful or anything similar, he tells me that I sometimes look pretty when I have makeup on, but he otherwise just hedges and changes the subject.

When I’ve broken down and asked him to tell my I’m beautiful, he does almost anything to avoid saying it and has even walked away.

The only time he lets any real attraction be known is when he wants to be intimate, and comments are only on my body, not my face. I’ve talked to him several times about how this hurts my feelings and self esteem, but he only says he is sorry he hurt my feelings. He has even said “I just don’t want to” tell me I’m pretty.

I don’t think he intends to be hurtful. I even think he is just being honest, which is the worst part.

Is this a dynamic I should just accept? Is this a problem worth giving me pause in our relationship?

TLDR: Boyfriend outright refuses to tell me I’m beautiful.

Netizens’ comments

1. I think it is safe to say he’s not going to change this after 5 years.
2. My now husband didn’t immediately start telling me that I was beautiful, but once we were definitely committed he started, and still does, tell me that I’m the most beautiful in the world TO HIM and I believe him. I’m not stereotypically gorgeous, but when you really love someone for who they are, that doesn’t matter anymore. It shouldn’t take 5 years, and this is either really manipulative of him, or really telling of his true feelings
3. I used to date a guy who straight up said he wasn’t going to tell me I’m pretty/ beautiful just because. He hated giving me words of affirmation and even hated holding hands and small intimate touches I would give him on the shoulder (he would literally cringe).
   Now I’m married to a guy who tells me every day that I’m beautiful and he loves me. Life is so much more enjoyable when you’re with a partner who meets your needs.
   Do not stay with this guy if he’s not meeting you at your level. You deserve to be with someone who at least tries to make you happy in ways you’ve communicated that you need.
4. I had a bf who told me kissing me before going to work and when he comes home is too much work.
   I ended it. Know your worth.