A man raised a question online asking the cheapest meal so that he can save more money.

Is Cai png the answer? Netizens discuss.

Here is the question:

Does any of you eat cai png everyday? Or like have friends who do so?

If you genuinely love cai png that much, ok hats off to you. I have nothing else to say..

Or like if you’re financially not that well off and cai png is your most viable option when eating out, ok I understand.

But for those who are middle income or above and do that to save cost as a primary motivation.. I dunno eh.. It seems like a pretty sad way to live your life, no? Like, you are not going to become a millionaire with all those savings eh!

Frugality is good and all but it’s got to be sustainable too?

Here are what netizens think:

• Your mum must be so to know that you feel she had been living a sad life cooking cai png for you since you were a kid. Veg, meat and rice are common in households, much like those served in stalls.

• Choosing to eat cai png everyday is synonomous with being frugal?? Dont get it

• can i intro you to my sales friend? he likes your kuan where image is everything. he will flash his APs and LVs at you and you would be instantly motivated to join him and be like him.

• To eat or not to ear cai png is a personal choice regardless love, budget or affluence.Nowadays, chicken is the premium dish in the same level as fish. Don’t plray plray.

• Maybe they order cai png with fish dishes leh? That’s a very strong flex ok

• I’m a caipng (almost) everyday person and I have a few reasons why I choose it:1. I’m not picky with my food so I can go weeks eating the same food without getting bored. (I always pick the same ingredients every time I order caipng)2. I gym and I feel caipng is the easiest and most affordable way to control what goes into my diet. I feel most coffeeshop meals don’t contain enough protein and caipng offers the most bang for your buck meat portion wise.3. I eat caipng so I can save money to spend on things that I’d rather splurge on like alcohol and online shopping. Eating caipng everyday can really significantly reduce your monthly budget on food.

Ok I’m about to give you all a ton of red flags. So basically for context my ex and I were together for years and lived together and we had a pretty messy breakup where we have been on and off since.

He wasn’t totally loyal (but it was a grey area on loyalty like crossed my personal boundaries but maybe wouldn’t cross everyone’s. Definitely disrespected the relationship ). We have been somewhat trying to make it work but we fight so much that it’s been quite difficult. I don’t trust him, we have a lot of issues, mostly in terms of him being horny on social media. He also has a lot of girl friends now which he never had when we were together which is weird because he became friends with them in the last few months and some things are sus.

I recently got Covid so I’ve been quarantined for two weeks. Also before that we were fighting so we really haven’t seen each other in 2 months. Still through this we text everyday and tend to fight a lot. I definitely cry alot. It’s something I accepted it doesn’t affect my day to day but if I get mad or sad or I see weddings I cry. I’m also sarcastic. once in our relationship at the beginning I made a joke that I can cry on queue to get us in somewhere. One time when we were fighting I cried and he made a comment “oh you’re probably fake crying and lying to me to make me feel bad” and he left. It bothered me alot but we had so many other issues I didn’t want to get to that one then.

Fast forward now, in this toxic mess where I’m still talking to him.

Today in particular, I had a bad day for numerous reasons that aren’t really relevant but I told him. He didn’t acknowledge it at first ( we were on the phone I don’t think he heard me) but then we were texting and he brought up my friend (let’s call her Jane). Jane’s mom has been very sick and in a bad situation for months where she likely won’t make it. I was really close with janes mom and Jane so I’ve taken this really hard and tried to be there for her. About a month ago my ex wouldn’t stop texting me and questioning me about what was going on . I had received a call from one of janes family members saying Janes mom had died. My ex kept calling and calling when I was trying to get ahold of Jane (not weird – I’m her only true support) and eventually I answered and said “I’m dealing with a loss right now please stop calling me” turns out janes mom was literally unresponsive in coma but made a somewhat drastic recovery where she was given another month to live in the hospital. Today,janes moms in bad condition but we’re grateful she’s still here .

Today my ex started questioning me about janes mom because he doesn’t believe that when I waS visiting her that she was really sick.

He thinks I was cheating. So he kept asking when’s the funeral, and I kept saying call me so I can tell you the full story because we don’t talk deeply anymore. He kept saying he wouldnt call me and to tell him when the funeral happened. Eventually, I said that I would tell him later what was happening and I’m sad he kept questioning me and hasn’t even asked about my day or talked to me about anything today just “when was the funeral “ accusing me also of making excuses to not see him because I was lying about Jane. So then I say “well I had a horrible day and you don’t even ask me what’s wrong just questioning” he ended up calling and I was crying to different reasons and the first thing he said “are you fake crying again right now”

I cried even more and yelled at him and told him this is why we won’t work. I know I shouldn’t yell but I just said that he was being an a-hole and i am upset that i cant come to him when I’m sad anymore so what’s the point. We kept contact because we were best friends and on my end I held on because he was always there I guess I feeel like idk if I’m the a-hole because I’ve given him a hard time bu yelling but I also feel like he’s kind of an a-hole. He wasn’t fully loyal to me (questionable) and he broke up with me in the end when I tried to make it work. He came back and I said no because he hurt me so much, like I did everything and still gave him a chance I just started to trust less so I went crazy/

Basically in the end I yelled at him and blocked him. We’ve been doing this toxic situation for months and he’s really not showing me he’s a caring or kind partner. But I guess through this I’ve felt crazy because I don’t trust him after what he did so I expected him to communicate with me more or make an effort. I know I’ve been hard on him, like some new girl kept commenting on his pics/he commented on hers and I got mad at him. But idk if I overreacted. He literally asked me “are you fake crying” and I blew up and blocked him.

I don’t want to go back on my word/ am I in the wrong?

Seeking help and advice.

Context:

Male, only child. Dad widowed since 7 years ago and we live together. Career-wise, my dad runs a SME business while I have a stable job, both doing fine financially. We don’t talk much but are on okay terms.

Issue:

Recently, my dad got involved with a China woman. I managed to find out that this China woman is a 39yo (while my dad 60), married with 1 young son, and claimed to be a SG PR. I found out because my dad uses a van for work and we also share a car and he has been using the car very frequently in recent times, e.g. to fetch the woman to work every morning. I got suspicious of what he was doing so I viewed the car’s video recording and got a lot of information about the China woman through their car conversations. (Not proud of invading his privacy but I got to do what I got to do)

Specifically, I found out that she had recently bought over a neighbourhood hair salon with the financial help of my dad. He gave her at least $10k. She has also been pestering him to help pay off her debts because she also borrowed money to buy over the salon. She just wants to hurry and start making cash inflows without needing to pay off her debts.

She also claimed that she is not after his wealth and does not intend to marry him if she divorces in the future. She only wants to have her own house and suggested to buy a 2 room apartment with my dad paying half – 1 rm for her son, 1 rm for her and my dad could go over anytime. (so much for ‘not after his wealth’)

From my perspective, I see that my dad is totally in love with her, showering her with lavish gifts, paying for meals, sending her to work, etc. (I see what he buys for her because I handle his credit card bills). Whereas this China woman is simply making use of him. From the recordings, I see how she gradually progressed from just ‘companionship’ to making him ‘invest’ in her salon to asking him to buy a house with her (which may happen if this continues). She also talked about being careful not to be caught by her husband and she was concerned whether her salon could help keep her PR status. I suspect that if he divorces her, she might be sent back to China? So she’s probably making use of my dad to ramp up her salon income quickly while milking his money.

I have talked to my dad once and asked him who this woman was because he brought her home once thinking nobody was home, but I came back home and bumped into them. He only revealed that she is a friend and he also invested in her salon. He claims that her skills are good and her salon should be able to do well. (but seriously, such neighbourhood hair salons are everywhere, and what does he even know about hairdressing lmao). At that point, I only told him to be careful of such investments and also beware of such China women who are out to cheat older men. (No disrespect to the many China women who have become successful on their own)

I’m just at a loss right now because I know my dad has the freedom to do whatever he wants. But am I really supposed to just let this China woman milk him??

Feeling hopeless & Not being proud of

I am 39, a mother of 3 whose age from 14, 12 and 5yrs old..I have been married for 14 yrs and never once i was happy in my marriage due to my husband unfaithfulness, abused me and my kids years back but things is different now as i have finally apply ppo and now CPS is now working closely with my kids and lately due to the situation giving, my husband eventually able to come home on certain days just to ensure the safety of myself and my 3 kids..Lately everything was fine and i started to believe my husband after many wrong doing he have done and i am giving him a chance to prove that he is wiling to change and to be faithful, loving me and my kids..My husband with the kids is doing great but sadly my husband started to drift apart from..No much hug, love and kiss me..I always felt that i am like a dirt to him..is always me who comes to him and take care of his heart but when comes to me, he just treat me like a chicken..If he want to have S with me, he just do it and if not he just give excuses or move away..Not sure if he still sleep around just like how he used to be when i pregnant with all my 3 kids..

I am tired to be his doormat and i am not sure if he really proud to have me in his life for once or ever love me..I am living for my 3 kids now..I need attention and to be loved and appreciated

#whattodonext# Should i leave him?

Here are what netizens think:

• Yes, leave him. No one deserves to be treated like a doormat or a piece of rag. You gave him the best part of your youth, gave him 3 beautiful children, and all you get back from him is sadness and grief all these years. Please live for yourself. Kids will grow up and eventually have their own lives too. It’s never too late to start anew.

• You have made the first step to a better future by applying for PPO and CPS. Now you need to gather the courage to leave as soon as possible, starting by distancing yourself emotionally from him. People rarely change. Since he has shown you the type of person he is, you have to accept it and not hope he will improve.

• There’s no longer a relationship, it’s just a shell. A marriage on paper only. You can decide for yourself if this is the long term path for you and your kids, or would you like to create a new path and find happiness again.
• You need to love yourself more. Not ask questions about, I don’t know if he is ever proud or you or love you.
• Because a man who sleeps around, just do not have respect for you.

My husband confessed that he has been having an emotional affair and it’s breaking me

I’ve married my husband for 9 years we have a son together.

Last week he confessed to me that he thinks he has started an emotional affair with a coworker of his. He said that this has been going on for a few months and he didn’t feel guilty. He said that he never touched her romantically, but he had feelings for both of us. He said he, of course, would choose me over any woman but still I’ve been hurting since I found this it and I don’t know what to do.

The girl is in her mid 20s, she hasn’t had any kids, she’s so pretty and she has a piece of his heart. I don’t know what I’ve been doing wrong for him to catch feelings for another woman. This is devastating to me. Honestly I’d rather he had just slept with her and had no feelings for her whatsoever. That would be easier.

I don’t know how I can get past this. We have a family that I don’t want to break up and I still love him, and he’s ending everything with her, but now I feel broken. I don’t even know of I can trust him again.

I don’t know what to do.

He said he did not feel guilty because it was an accident and he didn’t intend for anything to go as far as it did.

There were a lot of messages exchanged between them and he said they went on 2 “dates” but there was nothing physical.

He said he’d end the affair but right now we can’t afford for him to quit the job. He said that he was going to stop seeing her outside of work and said he has already blocked her on everything.