I am homesick living with my boyfriend, so I recently had just moved into my boyfriends house and started living with him.
My family know about it and we’re absolutely shattered that I left and it was a whole dramatic catastrophe because no one knew I even had a boyfriend and that I moved to be with him. I went missing.
But after all the drama died down, I started to really miss my family. My mother specifically, and my newborn nephew. My siblings. Even my stepdad.
I cry every time my boyfriend leaves for work because I know crying stresses him out. But a few days ago he came home for lunch and I forgot he would, and I was crying and screaming my head off lmao.
Partly because I was thinking that my family would never wanna see me again. My boyfriend hugged me until I shut up.
But jesus christ I feel homesick as I’m typing this. I feel devastated and lonely. What can I do to combat these feelings?
Netizens’ comments
Go back to live with your family, they will want to see you and know you are ok. This situation is not ok.
The fact that you’re scared to cry and show your emotions is worrying, please be really careful that you don’t get trapped in something that makes you so unhappy, especially when you’re this young. Go home if you’re miserable, I’m sure your family would love to have you back. Good luck OP.
In the world of condominium living, there exists a peculiar dynamic that often goes unnoticed by the average person. Some condo residents seem to harbor a sense of entitlement and superiority, leading them to talk down to the security guards who work diligently to keep their homes safe.
The Condo Boom
Condominiums have become increasingly popular in recent years, attracting individuals seeking a blend of luxury, convenience, and prestige. With amenities such as pools, gyms, and concierge services, condos have become synonymous with a certain standard of living.
The Power of Affluence
One prevailing belief among some condo residents is that their affluence grants them ultimate power. They perceive themselves as being above the ordinary, and this perception can sometimes translate into condescending behavior towards others.
The Role of Security Guards
The Unsung Heroes
Security guards are the unsung heroes of condo living. They work tirelessly to ensure the safety and security of the residents, often under challenging circumstances.
The Dilemma
Residents, on the other hand, may find themselves in a peculiar dilemma. While they may assert their power, they also rely on security guards for protection, leaving them in a clouded perception of their own importance.
Perplexity of Power and Perception
The Paradox
The paradox lies in the fact that those who claim to be powerful enough to belittle security guards also feel the need for their protection. This perplexity raises questions about the true nature of power.
Burstiness of Behavior
The burstiness of behavior exhibited by some condo residents stems from a sudden surge of self-importance, often triggered by their surroundings and peers.
The Role of Money
Misconceptions
A prevailing misconception among some condo residents is that money is everything. They may equate wealth with superiority, believing that financial success grants them the right to mistreat others.
The Reality Check
However, the reality is far from their perception. Money may provide comfort and privilege, but it does not necessarily bestow moral authority or superiority.
Conclusion
In the world of condominium living, there exists a stark contrast between the perception of power and the reality of dependence. Some residents may find themselves talking down to security guards, driven by a sense of superiority rooted in their affluence. However, it is essential to remember that true power lies in empathy, respect, and understanding, rather than in material wealth.
The sudden appearance of a nearly 3-meter-long saltwater crocodile on Marina East Drive’s beachfront has sent shockwaves through the local community and has caught the attention of the National Parks Board (NParks).
The crocodile has since been captured by NParks and will be put down for the safety of the public, according to Channel NewsAsia.
The Sighting of a Large Crocodile
Lee said in his Facebook post that the crocodile was sighted on the morning of 10 Cotober at Marina East Drive, along the banks of the beach.
NParks said they had received reports about the massive reptile on the same day. In response to the sighting, NParks promptly initiated efforts to capture and remove the crocodile from the vicinity.
The director of NParks’ wildlife management and outreach, Mr How Choon Beng, was asked why they decided to put down the crocodile instead of relocating the reptile, and he said that it was because there was a risk of it going back to the place where it was captured, and potentially endangering the public.
Not the first time
This isn’t the first time Singapore has had encounters with crocodiles in concerning areas. In 2021, a 1.53-meter-long smaller crocodile was spotted swimming in a canal near Fort Road.
In that case, the crocodile was safely relocated to the Sungei Buloh Wetland Reserve. However, it’s essential to note that this was a smaller specimen, which was assessed to pose less risk to public safety.
The Risk to Public Safety
Mr. How mentioned that the Sungei Buloh Wetland Reserve, once a suitable release site, now has a significant population of crocodiles.
This makes it impractical to relocate more crocodiles there, and given the potential risk to public safety, NParks decided to humanely put down the captured crocodile.
In a heartbreaking turn of events, the Singapore Sports School announced on Wednesday, October 11, that it would be launching an investigation into the tragic death of a Secondary 2 student, Pranav Madhaik, according to Channel NewsAsia.
The 14-year-old boy fell ill following a 400m fitness time trial on October 5, before being sent to hospital where he subsequently died.
The Incident
Pranav Madhaik’s ordeal began on the fateful day of October 5, during a 400m fitness time trial at the Singapore Sports School.
Following the trial, he started feeling unwell, prompting a call to the Singapore Civil Defence Force for assistance.
The call was made at around 6:50 pm, and Pranav was swiftly transported to the National University Hospital. Sadly, despite all efforts, he passed away on Wednesday.
Organs already not functioning by the time doctors attended to him
Pranav’s uncle, Raj Verma, shared the devastating circumstances of the incident. He mentioned that Pranav’s parents were informed of the situation while the ambulance was en route to the hospital.
He also added that by the time the doctor attended to him, most of his organs were already not functioning. Pranav then went through a bypass surgery, as well as another surgery on his leg and 6 days later, they were told that “he’s no more”.
The family is understandably seeking answers from the school regarding the circumstances leading up to Pranav’s tragic passing. This situation has left the family devastated and raises questions about the events surrounding the fitness trial.
School’s Response
In response to this tragic incident, the Singapore Sports School expressed deep sadness and extended heartfelt condolences to Pranav’s family.
The school emphasized that Pranav was not just an outstanding athlete but also an exemplary student who excelled in badminton and possessed impeccable character.
The school said that the boy was cheerful and pleasant, and always maintained a positive attitude towards his training and studies.
They also added that he was a promising youth athlete and has won several national age-group competitions. He was also well-liked by his peers, teachers, and coaches.”
The school further stated its commitment to support Pranav’s family during this difficult time. School counselors and staff have also been actively providing assistance to the affected student-athletes, coaches, and staff, with the well-being of its students being the school’s utmost priority.
The Singapore Badminton Association (SBA), of which Pranav was a member of their national intermediate squad, is also providing support to the family, according to CEO Alan Ow who spoke to CNA.
Hello, I’ve been dating my partner for 6 years and we haven’t had any intimacy after a year. So it’s almost 5 years now that we don’t touch each other anymore. Recently I found out she cheated on me 1 year ago with a ONS which is very ridiculous as she mention she’s not a high S drive person. That’s why we haven’t had any S for so long. I confronted her regarding it and she says she’s very sorry. She just wanted to confirm that she got no interest in S anymore. After all these, my trust in her is lost. I’ve been asking her whereabouts everyday and who is she with etc. I am slowly losing myself, thinking that I am not attractive to her anymore.. I cried myself to sleep every single day.
She told me she wants to go to the doctor for her S-ual thingy so that she can be fair to me and give me what I wanted/needed. But up until now, she keep say shes busy and don’t have the time to go to the doctor. After that, she have not been taking my feelings seriously. Everytime when I mention about the ONS thing which are affecting me, she find it no wrong. She’s no longer guilty for doing that to me. She treat it like nothing happen.
After a few months past, she found a new job and have been really busy. She don’t have the time to even reply my message anymore. She’s always busy. I have to wait hours and hours for her reply. She only call me when she needed help from me but my messages to her was ignored after that.
Even when she reach home, she claims she’s still busy with work… yet she can post insta stories and reply other people. so I am slowly fading away. I am not waiting for her replies anymore. I don’t even wanna bother anymore. I am so tired of this shit relationship. So so tired.
Can you guys advice what to do? Or do you think she’s not interested in me anymore? But why she don’t want to just break up with me… everytime when I did that, she begs me to stay.
Unpopular opinion: I really do think there should be a basic English requirement test for all foreigners wanting to become citizens.
Sg is really forgiving and understanding when it comes to foreign talents. It’s becoming a bit unfair to us locals. At work, we need to switch from channel 5 to channel 8 quick when a prc colleague switches channel as and when he or she cannot converse in English. Many times our Indian boss just look at us and we have to become instant MFA translators to fill the gaps.
In queues for food and other stuff, we also sometimes have to become instant translators for ppl who cannot converse in english to the service crew over the counter. A few times the macik at old Chang kee just looked at me to ask for help when a prc wants a curry puff or a stick of fishballs but cannot say it properly.
While I love being bilingual or semi trilingual, it really helps that they know what they are getting themselves into when they migrate to sg. Sg may be predominantly chinese populated, but somehow I got the vibes that they are exploiting this to get into the country.
Some social science ppl will say, what about the older generation that cannot English? In the first place, why are we even comparing our grandparents or senior citizens who have already been in the country for so long, to those that have just entered or are planning to enter sg to live long term? Why are we pinning them against outsiders that want to become part of our society/community? To put it bluntly, there’s no need to use our oldies (who have long earned their places locally) to compare with the newbies. Earn and work it.
Then some will say English tests are repetitive and can be exploited. Then switch it up? Just like psle. And I’m not even saying the English needs to be British level, cos we all know sg English ain’t that level too. All I’m saying is, basic English standards so that there is minimal language barriers with others. And I hear my social science ppl say again, why can’t we accommodate to them instead? Then my rebuttal will be, why can’t they accommodate to us? 入乡随俗. Heck I’m using their own indiom to explain the concept. Then what about our service ppl and neighbours who aren’t chinese and need not learn chinese? Is it fair to them?
Whatever, I can’t say for everyone but for me, I’m starting to feel more like a foreigner in my own country.
I met an amazing girl and we hit off very well from the start. I was a V before I met her.
On the third date, we kissed and before we proceeded further, she innocently told me about her past 4 experiences (2 relationships, 1 fwb and 1 ons).The fwb and ons were just before she met me and she regretted those. It sullied the intimate kiss moment for me but I was willing to brush it aside.
On the subsequent meetings, without me asking, she showed me the pictures and races of the 4 relationships and it honestly messed with my head. I did not need to know the details and her just spilling everything hurt me so much that I cried when I went home. I tried to convince myself that her past is her past and I should just focus on the future but it did not work.
When we had S a few times, I did not enjoy fully because in my mind I was thinking that she must have learnt this from her fwb or her ons.
I went to see a therapist about it and the therapist told me that it was up to me to decide.
While many may say her past is her past, she is who she is because of her past, etc. You are not wrong but I was disturbed by the following things:
1- she told me too much info of her past without me asking and that was not appropriate. Especially on our special intimate day when we kissed.
2- I am a simple man who believes that everyone has a past and I don’t want to know everything about your relationship’s past
3- she did the fwb and ons immediately after her second relationship when she was feeling down and stressed from work. To make matters worse, she regretted it (the fwb guy started developing feelings and she was uncomfortable while she slept with the ons guy because she loved his tatoos). This hurt me even more for some reason.
4- I see S as a way to emotionally connect with people in a relationship. While S does not necessarily mean the same thing for her.
Even though we connected very well with each other. I felt that it was right to break up since our values are different and it would be fair to both of us.
But the one key takeaway is that you don’t have to force yourself to accept a person’s past. Its alright if you are not okay with it.
POLICE ADVISORY ON MALWARE SPREAD THROUGH FRAUDULENT POSTINGS INVOLVING THE SALE OF SECOND-HAND GOODS
The Police have observed an emergence of malware scams involving the sale of second-hand goods on fraudulent advertisements posted on Facebook.
In September 2023, at least 21 victims have fallen prey, with total losses amounting to at least $210,000. Members of the public are advised to be wary of fraudulent advertisements, especially when purchasing or selling items/services on Facebook.
Modus operandi
In these cases, victims would respond to Facebook advertisements from scammers purportedly looking to buy second-hand goods such as clothes, electronics, furniture, etc. by contacting the scammers via the social messaging platforms to enquire about the process.
The scammers would then direct victims to communicate on WhatsApp. When both parties came to an agreement on the prices for the second-hand goods to be sold, the victims would be directed to download an Android Package Kit (APK) over WhatsApp or directed to malicious links to download the APK to post pictures of the items they wish to sell, or to receive deposit payment and invoice.
The APK is an application (app) created for Android’s operating system, that contains malware. After downloading and installing the APK file (which includes granting the app accessibility services), the scammers will be able to access the victim’s device remotely to steal the victim’s bank credentials and passwords. Subsequently, victims discovered unauthorised transactions from their banking accounts.
Police advise
The Police would like to remind members of the public of the danger of downloading apps from third-party or dubious sites. Members of the public are advised to adopt the following precautionary measures.
ADD – ScamShield to protect yourselves from scam calls and SMSes. Add anti-virus applications and ensure that these apps are updated to scan for the latest malware. Ensure that your devices’ operating systems and applications are updated regularly to be protected by the latest security patches. Please refer to Annex B for the list of recommended anti-virus apps. Disable “Install Unknown App” or “Unknown Sources” in your phone settings and do not grant permission to persistent pop-ups that request for access to your device’s hardware or data.
CHECK – For scam signs with official sources (e.g. ScamShield WhatsApp bot @ https://go.gov.sg/scamshield-bot, call the Anti-Scam Helpline on 1800-722-6688, or visit www.scamalert.sg). Only download and install applications from official app stores (i.e., Google Play Store for Android). Be wary if asked to download unknown apps in order to purchase/sell items on Facebook. Check the developer information on the app listing as well as the number of downloads and user reviews to ensure it is reputable and legitimate.
TELL – Authorities, family, and friends about scams. Report the suspicious content or advertisement to Facebook. Initiate in-app blocking by reporting the number linked to the advertisement to WhatsApp. Lastly, report any unauthorised transactions to your bank immediately.
If you have already downloaded and installed the app (which includes granting the app accessibility services) or suspect that your phone is infected with malware, please take the following steps:
Steps to take if you suspect you have been “infected”
Turn your phone to “flight mode”. Check that Wi-Fi is switched off and do not switch it on.
Run an anti-virus scan on your phone.
Check your bank account/Singpass/CPF etc for any unauthorised transaction(s) using other device(s).
If there are unauthorised transaction(s), report to the bank, relevant authorities, and lodge a Police report.
After completing steps a-c, if you believe that your phone has not been infected with malware, you may resume usage of your phone. As a further precaution, you may consider doing a “factory reset” of your phone and changing important passwords.
If you have any information relating to such crimes or if you are in doubt, please call the Police Hotline at 1800-255-0000, or submit it online at www.police.gov.sg/iwitness. All information will be kept strictly confidential. If you require urgent Police assistance, please dial ‘999’.
For more information on scams, members of the public can visit www.scamalert.sg or call the Anti-Scam Helpline at 1800-722-6688. Fighting scams is a community effort. Together, we can ACT Against Scams to safeguard our community!
Annex A
Screenshots of the fraudulent Facebook advertisement ▼
Annex B
List of recommended anti-virus apps ▼
PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE 10 October 2023 @ 10:15 AM
MAN ARRESTED FOR UNAUTHORISED TRANSACTIONS USING FOUND CREDIT AND DEBIT CARDS
The Police have arrested a 46-year-old man for his suspected involvement in using found credit and debit cards to make unauthorised transactions.
On 19 July 2023, the Police received a report from a victim who discovered that several unauthorised transactions had been made with her missing credit and debit cards.
Through follow-up investigations, officers from the Commercial Affairs Department established the identity of the man and arrested him on 9 October 2023. Preliminary investigations revealed that the man is believed to have found the victim’s wallet which contained the cards and subsequently used them to make various unauthorised transactions amounting to more than $1,900. Two watches, a baby anklet, a bicycle and other household items which were believed to have been purchased using the credit and debit cards were seized as case exhibits.
The man will be charged in court on 11 October 2023 with Cheating under Section 420 of the Penal Code 1871. The offence carries an imprisonment term of up to 10 years, and a fine.
Unauthorised use of another person’s credit or debit card is a serious offence. The Police take a serious view against any person who commits fraud, and perpetrators will be dealt with in accordance with the law.
The Police would also like to advise all credit/debit card holders to call their card-issuing banks immediately if their credit/debit cards are lost or stolen, and to adopt the following crime prevention measures:
Do’s
Keep your credit or debit cards safe with you at all times;
Opt in for SMS notifications to be sent to your mobile phone for any charges incurred on your credit or debit cards; and
Check your bank statements and alert the bank immediately should there be any discrepancies or unauthorised charges.
Don’t’s
Give out your credit or debit card details to unknown persons;
Reveal your One-Time Password to anyone; and
Expose your credit or debit cards. Keep them in your purse or wallet until you are ready to make your purchases.
Case Exhibits Seized ▼
PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE 10 October 2023 @ 4:45 PM
A disgruntled Samsung user recently voiced their disappointment in a Facebook complaint about their negative experience with Samsung’s customer service at their service centre.
What happened?
The customer, Arya Simon, who visited the Samsung Service Centre at Westgate, Jurong East, sought assistance for the appearance of green lines on their Samsung S20+ and expressed their dismay over the service they received.
The complainant, who brought in both their own and their spouse’s Samsung S20+ for the screen issue, detailed their interaction with Mrs. TIM, the customer manager (CM) at the service center.
According to the complaint, TIM allegedly informed the customer that in order to resolve the green lines on the screen, they would need to replace the LCD, and a labor fee of S$54 would be charged. Additionally, the old LCD was supposed to be disposed of as part of the process.
“Additional fee” of $300
However, the situation took an unexpected turn when the customer’s screen was found to have minor damage in the corner.
TIM reportedly claimed that an additional fee of over S$300 would be incurred for the repair, making it no longer a free service.
The complainant argued that the issue lay with Samsung’s hardware and software, and the slight damage to the LCD corner should not affect the overall resolution process, as the old LCD would still be discarded.
The customer requested that the green lines be addressed without the need to replace the LCD, as they were willing to accept the slight damage.
The complaint highlighted the customer’s frustration with what they deemed “ridiculous reasoning” by TIM, suggesting that this additional fee was merely an excuse not to replace the LCD.
The complainant contended that the green lines issue was not a result of damage to the LCD but rather an inherent hardware or software problem.
In their Facebook post, the user expressed their deep disappointment and regret at purchasing a Samsung S20+ due to what they perceived as subpar customer service. They called on Samsung Singapore to provide a proper response to their concerns.
Here is what he said (SIC)
Hey Samsung Singapore
It is so disappointing to see how I was treated at your Samsung Service Centre at Westgate, Jurong East.
I took my Samsung S20+ (unfortunately my phone and my wife’s) for the green lines appeared on the screen. Please hear me what Mrs TIM, customer manager (CM) told me!!
In order for us to remove these green lines, we need to replace your LCD and you need to pay us S$54 as labor fee. She mentioned that the old LCD would be disposed.
However, due to your screen getting small damage in the corner, TIM (CM) said that I have to pay another S$300+ and will not be free anymore!!
I questioned her back that users affected by the screen issues are not at fault, and the issue lies with Samsung’s hardware/software and the damage to the LCD will not make any difference as in the end, the old LCD will be disposed! I requested her to remove the green lines without replacing LCD as I DO NOT have any problem with slight damage in the corner of my handphone. BUT she insisted that I have to pay for LCD!!!
TIM (CM)’s reasoning is extremely RIDICULOUS AND IT’S ONLY AN EXCUSE NOT TO REPLACE LCD!!!
Samsung Singapore,
IT IS SO DISAPPOINTING AND REGRETING BUYING SAMSUNG S20+ WITH SUCH A LAUSY CUSTOMER SERVICE!!!!
The green lines issue lies with Samsung’s hardware/software and NOT the damage to the LCD!!!
