I know it seems like a dumb thing to end my marriage over. But after dealing with this for so long I’m finally done.

My wife and I are both in our 30s. We have a daughter. My wife has always been pretty into appearances but it was never that bad. She just wanted things to look nice when people came over.

Then she started a Instagram page for moms and got a massive amount of followers, about 400 thousand since our daughter was born.

Ever since then I feel like I don’t live in a house I live in an Instagram photo shoot.

There can’t be any proof we actually live here. My wife stresses so much about things looking good that she doesn’t actually enjoy the moment. She started a fight with me right after our daughter took her first steps because I had put my drink down on the table behind her and it’s “all she could see” and how she’d need to edit it out of the video. She called me a selfish prick for putting my drink down on a coffee table to watch my daughter take her first steps.

Our daughters bedroom is just a mass of beige and cream, there’s barely any toys in it which was fine while our daughter was small but now she’s getting older. My wife refuses to buy her any toys that don’t match her “aesthetic” My mother took my daughter to the store and let her pick out a toy, she picked out this doll house from this show she watches, she got all of the dolls and furniture, and my wife told her she had to keep it at my mothers house because there was “no place for it at home” (she absolutely had room for it).

My wife is convinced I’m leaving for another woman, I’m having an affair, etc, but I’m not. I just can’t keep feeling like I live in a museum where I can’t touch or move anything, I can’t even build a blanket fort with my kid without my wife flipping out that they’re “decorative blankets” that she had folded a special way. I’m not going to force my daughter to live in an “aesthetic”.

I wish I had a good loving mother. When I was younger (Im 18 guy now) I didn’t really understand how horrible of a mother she is.

She was abusive, selfish, and terrible at being a mother. I would be jealous of the other kids at school of how loving their mothers are. During primary school, I would make her gifts during Mother’s Day but every time I gave it to her she never really care.

And I’ve never been praised for the works I’ve done and she never had asked me anything really. She would gamble a lot and lose lots of money, when that happens my parents would get into an argument.

She doesn’t even watch her own kids, I have a little sister and she was born in 2019 but she just goes out and has fun while her kids are watching the baby. She doesn’t even do the work around the house it’s always the kids that gotta clean, and she’ll be complaining like why didn’t you guys do this or that.

Like you’re the mother you’re supposed to do those too and she doesn’t even cook for her kids. When I was 11 it was when I had enough, I lost hope already for her. There’s no way anything good is gonna happen. I know it’s a young age but I was a child and a child deserves to be loved. Growing up in a toxic household just breaks my heart and that’s why I have to my sure my younger siblings get all the love they can. I still remember all the terrible doings she did and she’s evil asf. I really hate her and I feel like it just keeps growing.

Here are what netizens think:

• For the sake of your siblings, you have suck it up and really do it till they grow older

• Well, one way is for you to work real hard and get rich fast so you can probably move out with your siblings. But you have to wait till ur siblings get to a legal age before doing so.

• Seek help from Ministry of Social and Family development, they might be able to send someone over to asses the situation.

The only people complaining about actually going to office to work are low ranking, low paid employees who come in and play stupid games on their phone all day anyway.

I personally lead a fulfilling life while having a healthy routine coming to office 5 days a week so I don’t see how this is a problem. Moreover, I always come in early after dropping my son off at school and I stay the full day except when there are things I need to do.

Everyday, I like greeting the staff and also seeing them around the office. It’s depressing to see empty workstations all the time, it’s like seeing fish tanks without any fish or bird cages without any birds. Generations of employees have been going to a workplace to work 5 or even 6 days a week, isn’t that just the expectation unless you are purely a subcontractor doing some computer work?

Working remotely should only be the expectations for some jobs or temp work and not for all office positions. People are so lazy it’s disgusting, so many people don’t deserve their pay. Given how much time people spend on their phones and in toilets while they are supposed to be at work, they ought to be working 6 days a week to be fair to those of us who come in to office regularly 5 full days.

They are not married and don’t spend time with their family on the weekends, they will otherwise probably just be playing on their phones all day on Saturdays anyway.

Complaining about working in the office should be regarded as work avoidance and disciplinary examples ought to be made to end this nonsense.

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s pretty simple. People who enjoy going to office can find jobs that requires going to office. People who dont enjoy going to office can find jobs that dont require going to office or not work altogether.

• you must be super high ranked. well done! good pat at your back and enjoy the office, very sure your department or company appreciate you there to make them come back because of “low ranked”

• I hate boomer bosses who need 10 stuff at their disposal just cause they dunno how to pivot their own freaking tables.

My (28M) girlfriend (25F) Shared my private pictures with her friends

We have been dating for 8 months. It is a LDR relationship. we have a great relationship and she wanted to introduce me to her friends and we had a zoom call.

She made a joke which hinted that I was well endowed. Her friends laughed and one of them said I know. I was extremely uncomfortable.

After the call, I talked to her about it and she said she had talked to them about it and I pressed a little and she confessed that a few of them may have seen a few pictures I had sent her because she had been drunk and she got the text at the bar.

She said I should get over it as I have nothing to be embarrassed about and they were all jealous of her. It makes me want to puke.

I just feel bad about myself. I don’t want those to be shared. I think I may be insecure about this. I feel like she sees me as a piece of meat rather than her boyfriend.

It is breaking my heart. She thinks that it was just one slip up and I don’t know honestly? I just want to block her. How do I deal with this?

I (F35) work as a team lead for a software developer, ive got 5 staff members total, one of which is super important because he is talented and smart beyond anything.

He’s basically worth the same as the other 4 combined.

He recently told me that he was thinking about switching jobs because other ones pay much more (which is true).

But he also added that he also doesn’t really want to change jobs because he’s very introverted and prefers to keep working with people he already knows and asked me if it was possible if i could simply give him an appropiate raise.

I could (and did give) him a raise, but unfortunately only a small one that’s basically no real raise at all because the budget i got for that is very limited.

I remembered that once during our regular after-work events when he was drunk, he confided to me that he has no friends to speak of, no real family and that he basically thinks of us as such, that he had never been kissed or more by a girl before and that he thinks of me as the mum of the department (which i guess is because i happen to have a bit of that attitude in me).

So i made use of that knowledge and decided to give him a raise in a different way. I told him to close his eyes. I sat myself on his lap, put his hands on my waist, gave him a passionate kiss and told him this is what a woman tastes like. And that, if he keeps working in our team, he can have even more than that.

A few days later, when he told me he decided not to quit, i made true on the promise and let him lose his virginity with me.

Since then, ive been available for him on a regular enough basis and ive been emotionally more available for him as well because honestly his confession that he thought of me as a bit of a mommy figure kinda triggered some caring instincts in me as well.

I just got tested positive for HIV and idk what to do

Long story short i slept with a random woman a year ago because i was a virgin at 22 and just wanted to get it over with, after the deed i noticed the condom broke but didn’t think much of it.

Then a few weeks ago i started having weird symptoms, i went on google to check and it turns out they’re early hiv infection symptoms, then my jaw dropped when i remembered the condom breaking.

I immediately went to get tested. And BOOM! HIV Positive. I’m confused, terrified and absolutely helpless, i still haven’t told anyone yet, not even my parents.

I was already having mental health issues before all of this but now i’m crushed, i’ll never get to experience relationships, i’ll never feel normal ever again, all of this because i pressured myself to lose my virginity.

Any kind words would be appreciated.

Netizens’ comments

1. Get a re-test. The odds of a man catching it from PIV one time especially with a condom likely containing N-9 even if it slipped are pretty darned low.
2. Hi! Pharmacist in training here:
   I completely understand where you’re coming from when you say that this is a daunting thing to accept. I can’t imagine the stress you must be under, but I do have some things that may be worthwhile to look into.
   First and foremost, it is incredibly rare for HIV to be transmitted via va—-l intercourse, so it may be worthwhile to take another test for confirmation. If you took an over the counter test, it may be best to find a location that offers more thorough laboratory testing.
   However, if you can say with certainty that you are HIV positive, then just know that your life doesn’t end here. While it is a chronic condition, it is now manageable and no longer carries the weight if being labeled (please forgive my lack of better phrasing) a “death sentence.”
   With proper pharmacological maintenance therapy, you can suppress your viral load to the point of it being deemed “undetectable” in your system, which ultimately means untransmissible!
   I have met many patients who are leading fulfilling, happy lives despite having been diagnosed with HIV. They’re some of the most successful, high-spirited individuals I know, and they certainly aren’t going to let an illness define them.
   You are just as capable and just as deserving of that happiness, and should you need any direction to any resources to get there, I’d be more than happy to provide you with some!
3. Hey! Get a retest. False positives happen. I had one and it was super stressful. But confirmation exams were done and im not positive. But i get what youre feeling. It almost destroyed my relationship, but me and GF were confident it was a mistake. And after multiple tests, turns out it was a false positive.