I wish I had a good loving mother. When I was younger (Im 18 guy now) I didn’t really understand how horrible of a mother she is.

She was abusive, selfish, and terrible at being a mother. I would be jealous of the other kids at school of how loving their mothers are. During primary school, I would make her gifts during Mother’s Day but every time I gave it to her she never really care.

And I’ve never been praised for the works I’ve done and she never had asked me anything really. She would gamble a lot and lose lots of money, when that happens my parents would get into an argument.

She doesn’t even watch her own kids, I have a little sister and she was born in 2019 but she just goes out and has fun while her kids are watching the baby. She doesn’t even do the work around the house it’s always the kids that gotta clean, and she’ll be complaining like why didn’t you guys do this or that.

Like you’re the mother you’re supposed to do those too and she doesn’t even cook for her kids. When I was 11 it was when I had enough, I lost hope already for her. There’s no way anything good is gonna happen. I know it’s a young age but I was a child and a child deserves to be loved. Growing up in a toxic household just breaks my heart and that’s why I have to my sure my younger siblings get all the love they can. I still remember all the terrible doings she did and she’s evil asf. I really hate her and I feel like it just keeps growing.

Here are what netizens think:

• For the sake of your siblings, you have suck it up and really do it till they grow older

• Well, one way is for you to work real hard and get rich fast so you can probably move out with your siblings. But you have to wait till ur siblings get to a legal age before doing so.

• Seek help from Ministry of Social and Family development, they might be able to send someone over to asses the situation.

The only people complaining about actually going to office to work are low ranking, low paid employees who come in and play stupid games on their phone all day anyway.

I personally lead a fulfilling life while having a healthy routine coming to office 5 days a week so I don’t see how this is a problem. Moreover, I always come in early after dropping my son off at school and I stay the full day except when there are things I need to do.

Everyday, I like greeting the staff and also seeing them around the office. It’s depressing to see empty workstations all the time, it’s like seeing fish tanks without any fish or bird cages without any birds. Generations of employees have been going to a workplace to work 5 or even 6 days a week, isn’t that just the expectation unless you are purely a subcontractor doing some computer work?

Working remotely should only be the expectations for some jobs or temp work and not for all office positions. People are so lazy it’s disgusting, so many people don’t deserve their pay. Given how much time people spend on their phones and in toilets while they are supposed to be at work, they ought to be working 6 days a week to be fair to those of us who come in to office regularly 5 full days.

They are not married and don’t spend time with their family on the weekends, they will otherwise probably just be playing on their phones all day on Saturdays anyway.

Complaining about working in the office should be regarded as work avoidance and disciplinary examples ought to be made to end this nonsense.

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s pretty simple. People who enjoy going to office can find jobs that requires going to office. People who dont enjoy going to office can find jobs that dont require going to office or not work altogether.

• you must be super high ranked. well done! good pat at your back and enjoy the office, very sure your department or company appreciate you there to make them come back because of “low ranked”

• I hate boomer bosses who need 10 stuff at their disposal just cause they dunno how to pivot their own freaking tables.

My (28M) girlfriend (25F) Shared my private pictures with her friends

We have been dating for 8 months. It is a LDR relationship. we have a great relationship and she wanted to introduce me to her friends and we had a zoom call.

She made a joke which hinted that I was well endowed. Her friends laughed and one of them said I know. I was extremely uncomfortable.

After the call, I talked to her about it and she said she had talked to them about it and I pressed a little and she confessed that a few of them may have seen a few pictures I had sent her because she had been drunk and she got the text at the bar.

She said I should get over it as I have nothing to be embarrassed about and they were all jealous of her. It makes me want to puke.

I just feel bad about myself. I don’t want those to be shared. I think I may be insecure about this. I feel like she sees me as a piece of meat rather than her boyfriend.

It is breaking my heart. She thinks that it was just one slip up and I don’t know honestly? I just want to block her. How do I deal with this?

I (F35) work as a team lead for a software developer, ive got 5 staff members total, one of which is super important because he is talented and smart beyond anything.

He’s basically worth the same as the other 4 combined.

He recently told me that he was thinking about switching jobs because other ones pay much more (which is true).

But he also added that he also doesn’t really want to change jobs because he’s very introverted and prefers to keep working with people he already knows and asked me if it was possible if i could simply give him an appropiate raise.

I could (and did give) him a raise, but unfortunately only a small one that’s basically no real raise at all because the budget i got for that is very limited.

I remembered that once during our regular after-work events when he was drunk, he confided to me that he has no friends to speak of, no real family and that he basically thinks of us as such, that he had never been kissed or more by a girl before and that he thinks of me as the mum of the department (which i guess is because i happen to have a bit of that attitude in me).

So i made use of that knowledge and decided to give him a raise in a different way. I told him to close his eyes. I sat myself on his lap, put his hands on my waist, gave him a passionate kiss and told him this is what a woman tastes like. And that, if he keeps working in our team, he can have even more than that.

A few days later, when he told me he decided not to quit, i made true on the promise and let him lose his virginity with me.

Since then, ive been available for him on a regular enough basis and ive been emotionally more available for him as well because honestly his confession that he thought of me as a bit of a mommy figure kinda triggered some caring instincts in me as well.

I just got tested positive for HIV and idk what to do

Long story short i slept with a random woman a year ago because i was a virgin at 22 and just wanted to get it over with, after the deed i noticed the condom broke but didn’t think much of it.

Then a few weeks ago i started having weird symptoms, i went on google to check and it turns out they’re early hiv infection symptoms, then my jaw dropped when i remembered the condom breaking.

I immediately went to get tested. And BOOM! HIV Positive. I’m confused, terrified and absolutely helpless, i still haven’t told anyone yet, not even my parents.

I was already having mental health issues before all of this but now i’m crushed, i’ll never get to experience relationships, i’ll never feel normal ever again, all of this because i pressured myself to lose my virginity.

Any kind words would be appreciated.

Netizens’ comments

1. Get a re-test. The odds of a man catching it from PIV one time especially with a condom likely containing N-9 even if it slipped are pretty darned low.
2. Hi! Pharmacist in training here:
   I completely understand where you’re coming from when you say that this is a daunting thing to accept. I can’t imagine the stress you must be under, but I do have some things that may be worthwhile to look into.
   First and foremost, it is incredibly rare for HIV to be transmitted via va—-l intercourse, so it may be worthwhile to take another test for confirmation. If you took an over the counter test, it may be best to find a location that offers more thorough laboratory testing.
   However, if you can say with certainty that you are HIV positive, then just know that your life doesn’t end here. While it is a chronic condition, it is now manageable and no longer carries the weight if being labeled (please forgive my lack of better phrasing) a “death sentence.”
   With proper pharmacological maintenance therapy, you can suppress your viral load to the point of it being deemed “undetectable” in your system, which ultimately means untransmissible!
   I have met many patients who are leading fulfilling, happy lives despite having been diagnosed with HIV. They’re some of the most successful, high-spirited individuals I know, and they certainly aren’t going to let an illness define them.
   You are just as capable and just as deserving of that happiness, and should you need any direction to any resources to get there, I’d be more than happy to provide you with some!
3. Hey! Get a retest. False positives happen. I had one and it was super stressful. But confirmation exams were done and im not positive. But i get what youre feeling. It almost destroyed my relationship, but me and GF were confident it was a mistake. And after multiple tests, turns out it was a false positive.

Is it an unwise move to quit my job and spend months travelling while job searching?

Single M in my early 30s. Doing the so called iron rice bowl job now but it’s stressful and I am not doing well.

Figured I might as well take the opportunity to change to another job that I’ll be passionate about. Next career will be something I’ll need to explore since I’m not in the lucrative IT sector.

I also want to take the chance to travel for 3 months around the world. Since I couldn’t afford it when I was younger. Currently I have enough savings to manage for a year with no issues.

But I keep reading about terrible job market, seems like it’s always a terrible market out there.

Alternatively I could slog for another 3 to 5 months while job searching and request the future HR to give me a longer gap period before starting work, which would be subjected to their agreement.

How wise/unwise is this decision?

Netizens’ comments

1. Considering you have enough savings to manage a year, if you die next year, would you regret not travelling around the world?
2. If you have an iron rice bowl job, try to see if you can work out a no pay leave arrangement. Then when you come back you can search for a new job elsewhere
3. If the job market is good, people start worrying about the huge opportunity cost in not finding their next job now. Good or bad, there’s always a reason to not take a break for fear of unemployment.
   I’d just go ahead and travel while you are still relatively free, instead of switching jobs and end up asking your new employer to make special accommodations for you.
   Who knows – maybe the market will be better in 2024?
4. I did it in my late 20s back in 2018 when I left my job to travel the world for 3 months. From my experience, you should have 2 considerations before quitting:
   – a story that you can tell your employer on this move in your life, if they ask;
   – sufficient connections to bridge you too your next job In the meantime as others have mentioned, we are probably near a recession so that makes it harder to find a job. It depends on your comfort level.
5. Please. if you are younger than 35. TRAVEL. there are visas for this. find it. I missed my chance. Don’t miss yours.

I’m considering breaking up with my girlfriend over the fact she keeps getting tattooed. For come context my girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. I’m 28M and she’s 26F.

Okay so about a year ago she expressed interest in getting a tattoo. I’m not a big fan of tattoos, it’s just not something I find particularly attractive on anyone.

She knows my views on them and I told her it’s her body, so she can technically do whatever she wants but I don’t have to like it. After some discussion, she said she’d get something relatively small.

When she came home and showed it to me I was surprisingly okay with it. I would still rather it not be there but it wasn’t nearly as bad as I thought it would be.

Over the year however she’s gotten more, and they’re larger than I’d like them to be. It’s been the cause of many of our fights and it’s affecting me. I love her but I don’t find her as attractive anymore.

Well on Saturday she went to a friend’s house for a small get together, that I was supposed to go to but I made an excuse not to. She didn’t come home until Sunday afternoon and didn’t answer my texts.

When she came home she revealed she got another tattoo and it’s the largest one yet. She absolutely loves it, I obviously hate it.

We fought and I asked her why she didn’t discuss this with me. Arm and leg tattoos are one thing but this is too much for me.

She said she was a little tipsy and told the guy who’s been tattooing her that she wanted to do it but was scared of what I’d think.

He convinced her to get it done, and told her what I think doesn’t matter. She went to the studio he owns with her friends and she got it done.

I asked if she’s noticed we haven’t slept together in months and she said “yeah of course” and I told her why. She seemed hurt and I told her I don’t know if I could get past this last one.

She told me to figure it out and let her know because she doesn’t want to waste her time. We haven’t spoken since. A part of me knows this isn’t salvageable anymore but there’s a small part of me that still loves her and thinks I’d be mean for breaking up with her over this.

Husband touching himself to my old photos

So my husband and I are great together in bed, our relationship is good as well. We are coming up on a year of marriage and have been together for almost 6.

I struggled with some weight gain about 2 years ago and have been slowly losing it but having a hard time with dedication.

I’m not morbidly overweight. I’m about 68kg, and I used to be 86kg. So I’m within my normal weight but I plan on getting to 60 and then getting stronger I’ve just been dealing with some mental crap.

Anyways when we’re getting it on in bed, sometimes he’ll finish really fast. It doesn’t really bother me at all and I’ve communicated that. But he started like preparing himself before we do it.

He’ll go touch himself and finish first so that he can last longer when we do it, basically which I didn’t have a problem with. But the thing is he used my pictures. Alright cool no issue.

But he was using my skinny pictures… i don’t know if that’s a bad thing? He communicated his concerns with my weight and his pride of my progress.

Some women have expressed how disgusting and awful this is but I don’t really have that big of an issue with it? Especially since I intend on getting back to that same physique.

We talked and he didn’t like the feeling of touching and finishing himself alone since he hadn’t done it in forever and rather just be intimate with me and finish me first then him.

so he doesn’t do this anymore but is it weird he used my old pictures? Thoughts?

Update: I wanna be my best self for myself and him. I am even more grateful for my relationship now and I was extremely grateful even before! This is very motivating.

Also I guess I forgot to mention that he does have some new pictures of me but he says he loves them but he REALLY loves the old ones. Lol. I definitely have struggled with confidence since the weigh gain but I am gaining it back as I lose the weight!

Honestly the whole situation just motivates me to shed the remaining weight. I didn’t like being overweight either. Who does?

My husband (29M) tells me stupid lies (29F). Would you leave over something so silly?

My husband of 7 years (14 years together) is constantly telling little white lies. I asked him about three days ago to never lie to me again, especially about stupid stuff bc I can’t trust him if he does. That I can never know when he’s being serious bc he’s always telling small lies.

I just found out he lied to me again. A STUPID lie.

We went shopping 2 days ago. Yesterday he makes me a snack with something I swore we hadn’t bought. I ask him when he got it, and he said during our shopping trip.

I say that I don’t remember scanning it (self-checkout), and he responded with “maybe I did, I don’t know.” I was left doubting myself bc he wasn’t really scanning, and I didn’t remember scanning it.

I assumed he was telling the truth and I must have scanned it and don’t remember. I almost felt crazy.

Tonight I find a receipt that had been thrown away and fallen next to the bin. I look at it wondering the price of something else we bought, when I look I realize it’s a receipt I didn’t recognize from the same store.

It included the snack he served me and some other random items. I look at the dates and it was a day after our shopping trip (yesterday) in the morning before work.

I just walked into the room and confronted him. He was asleep, but I was beyond upset, sad, disappointed, and hurt. I straight up asked why he lied to me, especially after our talk about not lying.

At first he denied it, but finally fessed up. He said he thought I’d be mad if I knew he bought it which I don’t get bc he didn’t hide the item, just tried to play it off as if we had decided to buy it. I wasn’t mad when I saw it, just trying to figure out how and when.

I just don’t know what to do about these stupid lies. He’s lost my trust. I don’t think he’d lie about big stuff, but now I don’t know honestly. It sounds dumb to leave over this, but idk what to do.