I look younger than my age, and I’m attracting younger men. I feel absolutely horrible about it

But this is also something that I’m seeing on my limited social media presence that other women in their 30’s are going through.

I look like I’m in my maybe early 20’s I’m hearing from people but I’m in my mid 30’s and 19/20 year old boys are CHASING me.

When I was that age boys barely paid attention to me and now I can’t get them to leave me alone. I feel so horrible because it’s so inappropriate for them and I don’t get it?

Is this a phase that guys go through? Is this something that this particular generation is going through? Maybe I’m personally just glowing up or something and randomly attracting younger guys? It feels like a mess.

Because I’m in a phase where I want to get married and have kids and I’m searching for stability and I associate that with older guys.

And I especially want these younger men to have their freedom and enjoy these wild days like I’m an older lady now chill OUT

Netizens’ comments

If a guy thinks a woman looks hot, he’s not going to care how much older she is than him. Pete Davidson was in his 20s and dated Kim Kardashian who is her 40s with four children.

A lot of attractive women in their 30s, 40s, and 50s could hook up with younger guys. Some women have already had the “fairytale wedding” in their 20s and divorce by mid 30s and they’re looking to enjoy their newfound freedom.

Age isn’t always an indicator where one is in life. Some people are “late bloomers”. The role of the man in most cultures is to pursue or initiate contact with women. Ultimately it comes down to what the woman wants whether she will say “yes” or “no”.

Eventually most women live to see the day where men aren’t hitting on them. You are entitled to have your own mate selection screening process and must haves list. You are entitled to have your own “red flags”, boundaries, and “deal breakers”.

It’s not about who is attracted to you as much as it is who you are attracted to. Nothing happens until you say “yes” to someone. Being attractive is never a “bad thing”. Some women and men actually find love and marriage through dating age gaps.

My bf and I have been tgt for 3 months. I do love him but I have a bad habit of stalking his ex. Every once in a while, I’d go in his ex’s IG to see their history and it kills me every time to find out something new about their past relationship.

I saw that he pampered his ex very much by gifting and bringing her places, while he doesn’t do the same for me.

Recently he introduced me to his computer game and taught me how to play. I was glad I could learn about his hobby and actually even like it as much as he does. But just tonight after randomly visiting his ex’s IG, I realized he also introduced the game to her. In addition, he even made it easier for her to play by buying her gaming gears. Meanwhile for me, he doesn’t help me much, I feel like he introduced it to me so that I won’t bug him while he’s playing.

Yeah ranting here only. I pretend like I don’t know but I cry 50% of the nights. It hurts to know things you consider special with someone are actually not special to them.

Here are what netizens think:

• Stop ruining your own relationship by constantly comparing your relationship with the one he had with his ex. This is an act of self-sabotaging.Put the ex out of your mind, and observe what is it that you really want in the relationship. Do you really want to be gifted and brought to places or is that what you want because of the ex? Do you really enjoy the game that he introduced enough that you really want the gears? Or is it because the ex had them?Know exactly what you want and communicate it to him.

• You’ve only been together for 3 months…how long has he been together with the ex? First thing is you should stop comparing yourself with her. You are a different individual and so is she. He might take time to develop those things for/with you. Just be patient. Develop and grow your relationship without comparing. Focus on yourself and your boyfriend…not the ex….she’s an ex for a reason

• Girl, why you cry? If he did those to you, you can find smth else to do? Like hanging out with your male friends distract yourself away from what he do to his ex gf~As you say ex what~Dont cry lahDont shed a tear for nth better to doJust concentrate on how much you both together the happy timeIf they still want together he wont leave her and together with you arLet those past be past and dont dig what he and his ex do. Cheers

• Is it you curious to know how your bf treats someone he loved so you go look into his past rs. If you feel he doesn’t loves you wholeheartedly, then you staying for?

My 29 year old Singaporean born and bred son is a mess. If it wasn’t bad enough that he was a V even at 29, his first relationship had turned him into a hot mess. But he isn’t to blame. It’s partly my fault.

I grew up in the Kampong and always had a rebellious streak. You could call me an Ah Lian from the nineties. I loved hanging out with all races and tattooed men especially made me drool. But that was only until I met my husband and decided to settle down. My husband is the exact opposite of me. He follows every rule, believes in the virtues of chastity and I must say he has raised his children well. I’m so proud of all of them. They attend church on Sundays and have vowed to live chaste lives.

The problem started a few years back when my daughter (now 27) turned 23. Even though she was a straight “A” lister and went JC/Uni she got into some bad company and before we knew it she was breaking almost every rule that her father and brother believed in. Even though I have never told them about my ex-life I think genetics played a part and my daughter seemed to take to everything that I liked in my youth. Things came to a head when my son caught her in bed with her then FWB of another race. To make it worse he saw them “in action” and the guy was not just well built, but also tattooed and well endowed.

I think this trauma of seeing his sister drift, wanting to be the virtuous son and then getting into a relationship with a girl who has a past has played a big part in messing him up. He was already insecure. After he found out about his girlfriend’s past he is even more insecure and the past trauma makes him think everyone will be like sister. To be fair, his sister is now settled down (like me) and with a steady Ang moh boyfriend. I’m sure my son is still reeling from the trauma of seeing his sister’s partners tool and figuring his Asian manhood wasn’t anywhere near that.

I believe my boy is scared of going to church on Sunday and facing off the fact that he was with an “easy” woman. He broke off with the girl even though he loved her because he can’t imagine how he would introduce her to his father.

I feel so sorry for my poor boy who is still living with the hope of meeting that special someone who will be as virtuous as him. My heart goes out to him. But I’m secretly glad she took his virginity and gave him a taste of what he is missing out on. I wish he gains his confidence again and get get into a relationship. I only wish the best for him.

[Am waiting to her the sister’s and father’s view]

My gf is delusional about how good she is in bed. It’s awful.

My (30 m) and (29 gf) have been together about 2 years. To cut to the chase, I’ve always been the type of guy to address anything that’s bothering me/ always trying to find a way to work on something that’s not right.

She’s always been more resistant to talking about hard topics so I try to be as sensitive as I can. I’ve been getting frustrated with being the only one putting the work in recently.

I have a fairly active history in bed. I’m no wiz but I think I’m attentive, capable and usually a decent partner in bed. I’ve had numerous relationships with good experiences in bed, and partners who have given me some reassurance. I try my best to make sure my partner is satisfied from head to toe.

My gf is a complete starfish. Rarely shows initiative, rarely is the doer in any position and very rarely performs any kind of non-PIV activity that would be for my pleasure (ie bjs). She usually just lies there while I kiss her, go down in her, put her in a couple positions etc. she’ll usually finish once or twice.

More times than a few I’ve been in a room and overheard her and her gf’s chatting where she talks up her game in bed. How “my man is well taken care of”.

How she can ride this and throw that. Which i have to play on to in public for her sake. But I’ve tried to address it a million times in every way I now how to.

She just doesn’t know what to do or doesn’t want to or is delusional and thinks she’s doing something.

I love her but damn. Even the worst partner I’ve had put in more effort. I’m mad because I don’t know if she can and won’t. Or she can’t and doesn’t how to.

I was working in a small firm while waiting to go to uni. I was getting close to this boy who was interning there.

We would text almost every night for a few hours. For a few months. Not flirty conversation but just getting to know each other more in depth kind of conversation. We often ate lunch together, just the two of us.

Of all the topics we talked about, I didn’t tell him what course i applied for in uni, it was one of the more popular courses overseas and i didn’t think i could get in. Anyway when i finally got the offer, I excitedly told him about my good news. He didn’t seem very excited for me and he wasn’t very talkative for the rest of the day. Even worse, he started avoiding me. He stopped initiating text with me ever since that day. during lunch time, he would go out of his way to ask more people to join the two of us for lunch (he didn’t do that before).

I was really hurt as i thought that we were getting closer. But suddenly he was trying to create as much distance between the two of us. i thought i said something wrong that offended him. But after thinking long and hard i wonder was it because of my uni application.

Eventually, my last day came and i told him how i felt about him. As expected, he rejected me. Saying stuff like he doesn’t want a relationship. And i should find someone better than him in my uni course.

Despite him saying that, i couldn’t help but wonder. Did he really not have any feelings towards me? Did i imagine those feelings? Am i delusional?

It doesn’t help that his “loss if interest” was immediately after i told him about my uni application. I wonder if he feels “inferior” or something? Or was it because i am going overseas? If i am not going to that course would he have said yes to me? I guess i will never find out the answer because we cant go back in time.

Here are what netizens think:

It doesn’t matter whether he had feeling for you or not, bec he rejected your feeling already.Both of you were just in the stage of getting to know each other, so both are free to say yes or no.Please get ready for your future–your study oversea. Tremendous opportunities out there, both relationship, friendship and job.Young lady…our feelings are temporary. This internship and brief feeling chapters are over. Pack your luggage and move on.Always be positive. Your soulmate is not here yet. Believe me…you will find the better one in the future. WHY? Bec when you grow up and hv more experience, you will understand yourself and know what kind of person/partner/lover…you want to have better. Everyone in this world gets disappointed once about love/relationship. That’s why we call it puppy love. Cute for a little while. Burden for a long time if you choose the wrong one. Good luck with your journey

This is what it feels like to be young and in loveApparently the feelings are mutual but distance r/s are often challenging. At least get closure and go out of your way to have an open and honest conversation with him. You dont want to bring any excess emotional baggage overseas

Most people don’t want to have a 3-4 year long distance relationship. Better to suffer now by distancing yourself than later.

Status-less Long Distance Relationship (25F) (28M)

Hey everyone,

I’ve got a bit of a relationship puzzle on my hands and I’d love to hear your thoughts and advice. Here’s the scoop:

My partner (28M) and I (25F) met in Singapore and we had an amazing 3-month connection. But, here’s the twist – he had to head back to his home country, and while he’s eager to return to Singapore (possibly around January 2024), it’s not set in stone. The final decision lies with his company, so it’s a bit of a waiting game.

Now, here’s where things get interesting. We haven’t officially put a label on our relationship, knowing he’d be leaving soon. But there’s definitely a strong liking and care between us. I mustered up the courage to ask him about ‘what are we?’ and the whole exclusivity thing right before he left. His response was a bit ambiguous. He didn’t want to make any promises at the moment, but he also mentioned he’d be up for exclusivity without the official status. So, it’s left me in a bit of a relationship limbo.

Honestly, part of me really wants to wait for him. I’m not keen on dating multiple people simultaneously, and I believe in taking chances on love. But I can’t deny that I have my moments of doubt. Especially with 6 hours time difference, there is less communication, and without a defined status or a set date for our next meeting, I’m left pondering whether this is worth pursuing.

What do you think, fellow netizens? Have you been in a similar situation? Any advice or personal stories to share? I’m all ears and looking forward to your insights! ????????️

A group of former scare actors who used to work at haunted house attractions, came together to share their scariest encounters with the supernatural.

“Actor” sits on roof

One of my friends worked at the Zoo’s halloween before, he told me a story of how one of scare actors went all out by sitting on the roof of a tram. Except it wasn’t a scare actor.

Fake ghost met real ghost

Not from a local attraction but was a scare actor back in school where my class wanted to do a haunted house attraction for a festival.

The patrons loved it and mentioned how the scariest part was the 2 “Sadakos” that we had. We only had 1 girl play sadako as a jump scare at the entrance.

Weirdest part was that all the witnesses say rogue sadako was spotted in the area near my station.

Figure sitting on table

Not a scare actor, but was the head in charge of an event that had a scare component. This was in one of the schools in SG and it was held at one of the more ulu blocks. Each level had designated scare teams with specific roles that they had to follow and play.

The only caveat was that we could not use the classrooms because they were locked. Each level also had a level head that I appointed and knew could be depended on.

About 15 minutes into the whole event, one of my level heads radio-ed me to come up to his floor. Asked him whatsup and he just told me it was urgent. So I climbed up the flight of stairs, went to him and he straight up told me ‘we gotta cancel tonight’.

I asked why and he just gave me a dead-pan look and just repeated the same words. He’s a straightforward dude and someone that really doesn’t joke around, plus the crew on the floor looked jittery. I decided to cancel it and radio-ed to my whole crew that we were cancelling the whole thing. People were clearly disappointed but what to do?

Anyway, the next morning, I asked that particular level head what happened. He told me that while patrolling his level, he saw a figure sitting on a table through one of the classroom windows.

Remember that all classrooms were locked and after accounting for his crew strength on the floor, he probably realized that something was up. Can’t blame him tho because f that sh-t. I’ve refused to be part of any sort of scare walks/hhn after that incident

The “flying lady”

I am pretty sure many of us have heard of ghost stories revolving around Mandai but there are very few who share stories about the sightings at the Singapore Zoo and the Night Safari.

This incident happened to myself back in 2010 or 2009, if I remember correctly. Back then, Night Safari had a halloween special and, in my opinion, it is way scarier than the Halloween Horror Nights at USS.

We had many decorations from hanging “Haunted” dolls, Chinese zombies, realistic tombstones and many more. The main theme was spooky tales of Asia or something along those lines.

I was working there back then and there was many ghostly encounters that was “reported” to us, the staff. The reason I say “reported” is because many of the guest do not know that they actually encountered something. Here are some of the stories.

Firstly, my personal encounter with the supposedly realistic pontianak. Back then, I was one of the staff roaming around the compound near this boardwalk. I forgot what was it called but it was something along those lines.

When I was there, I frequently received this compliment that, “the decorations on the trees look realistic”. Initially, I just smiled and nodded to thank them for the compliments but suddenly, I thought to myself what is this decoration that so many people are attracted to.

After about 4-5 compliments, I was approached by this couple – I am not sure whether they are Japanese or Korean. They said to me in english, “the flying lady very good!”. That’s when I realise that it is not any decorations…

There was no “flying lady” involved at all and in my mind, I immediately thought of the pontianak. I wasn’t really scared since there were a lot of people there but I definitely had the chills being in that area.

The train of horror

The second story happened to one of my friends who was working at the train attraction – if i’m not wrong it’s called train of horror during the halloween event. What she experienced was similar to me but it’s way scarier.

She was one of the scare actors there and as usual, they will naturally start jump-scaring the guests. The creeps started coming when 1 of the tourists on the train said to his friend “These 2 are by far the scariest ghosts we’ve seen on this ride.”.

She thought to herself “These 2?”. She was alone there the whole time and at first, she believed that the tourists were playing a trick on her.

Slowly, she realised that some of the tourists were recording something else each time they passed her zone. Instead of pointing the camera to her, they were pointing it to the area behind her…

Sitting on top of tram

The last story is a famous one but I just thought of sharing it since it is 1 of the more creepy ones. No one told me this story specifically but I managed to eavesdrop the conversation between the other staffs.

They were making jokes about how some of the scare actors were really into their role and one of them even decided to sit on top of the tram.

However, none of them did it… The drivers insisted that they clearly saw someone sitting but no one admitted to it or maybe there was actually no one there.

I have more stories that I have heard related to paranormal sightings in the zoo and the night safari but I will save it for next time. Hope you could share my story to your readers and I hope the stories managed to scare you!!

A group of netizen came together and shared their creepiest ghost stories during their time serving national service at Pulau Tekong over the years.

Followed ghost into toilet

I woke up wanting to go to the toilet at 2am. Tried to shake my buddy to wake up but seems like he’s too tired. No response from him.

So I thought I should wait for someone from my bunk to wake up or someone walking past the bunk and then join them to go pee.

15 mins later, I saw someone walking past. So I quickly jumped out of my bed and sprinted to the door When I opened the door, I see no one along the corridor, but saw the toilet light was switched on from its total darkness (it happened at the moment I turned my head towards the toilet to find where the fella was, because he ‘walked’ so fast).

Yup, he just went into the toilet I told myself, so I brisk walked into the well lit toilet. But heck, I saw no one in the urinals.

Thought he went to take a dump or late night shower, but nope, toilet cubicles were all empty, there’s no one in the shower cubicles too, as I walked to check every cubicle.

Wonder who I actually saw that day.

Found talisman paper inside cupboard

I’ve experienced one and heard of another from some coymates during BMT. This was ~10 years ago in School 4.

First Incident:

During our first ever area cleaning, in our bunk we were dutifully cleaning it when one of our bunkmates saw that inside his locker there was like a talisman looking paper pasted (on the inside). Curious, he removed it since he thought it was the previous batch who kept it inside.

That very night, I heard a loud knock – as though something inside the cupboard fell or someone knocking on it from the inside. It came from a few beds away but I presumed maybe one of the items did fall so thought nothing of it. The next day, during our downtime, I brought it up and surprisingly all of us on the same side as that cupboard heard it & yep it was that exact cupboard with the talisman in it.

The bunkmate pasted it back and it stopped but this was only done on day 3 because we initially thought it to be wind or maybe the cupboard creaking so decided to wait one more day.

Second (unrelated) Incident:

This was something we all learnt about in our Company as it happened to one of our company mates. We were the PTP batch so some of us had the opportunity to do Guard Duty. Mine was uneventful in school 4 itself.

The one that was eventful was in Ammo Dump. Apparently, in the guard room the story goes (allegedly) that one of the cameras is off and covered with a cloth because there are always sightings. Anyway, what happened was the prowlers on patrol suddenly heard some children’s laughter – sounds of kids playing and all.

This happened out of nowhere and they were both frozen. They were brought back by the Duty Spec who had come looking for them because they were not checking in or something.

Another case from a friend in a separate batch/intake:

He was doing Guard duty at Ladang. I think you all know about the altar with toys behind guard room? Apparently he decided to go peek in and he saw some of the toys moving by themselves despite the windows not being open and no air draft there.

When the cold wind blows~

 It was around 4 am I was doing guard duty at the tekong ferry terminal with a malay bunkmate. He needed to use the restroom so I stood guard alone. Around a couple mins in I rested my eyes suddenly the air froze. It was cold already but it became air con cold like you just entered in an air conditioned room from a humid place. And a voice that I will never forget til this day.

你不想活了吗? (You don’t want to live anymore?)

Knn I ran as fast I could to the restroom to find my malay buddy n stick as close to him. I didn’t tell him the incident as I need to borrow his ‘fire’ after our duty I stayed in the bunk and couldn’t sleep the whole night.

That was just 1 of 2 encounter I kenna in my army days.

Ghost also need to shower

I was in one of the companies in school 1 and I was from the enhanced batch. This means that the day was full of activities from the moment you get up and spare time was very infrequent.

Because of that, I usually wait until lights out then bathe so that there’s no queue. After awhile I noticed that a certain cubicle would always be locked and the shower will be running. I knew that nobody else was in the toilet but once in awhile I’ll bathe a little longer to see if that person in the cubicle comes out but he never did.

In the end on one of those nights, curiosity got the better of me and I looked beneath the door to see if anybody was inside but there was nobody at all even though the door was locked and the shower was running.

I just brushed it off and resumed doing my own stuff. Apparently the sergeants were also aware of it but they didn’t acknowledge it.

Coincidentally after quite a number of years, my cousin was enlisted into the same company and same level I was. I asked him about the toilet and he said that it’s still locked and the shower still on. Guess we’ll never know

Night navigation at Tekong

We were doing night navigation in the jungles of Tekong. It was so dark, you can hardly see your own hands. We were using the dim luminous leaves on the jungle floor to find our way.

As the section moved, the whole section was in a straight line with hands on the shoulder of the soldier in front of you. Along the way, a soldier move out of the bushes and took the lead. Thinking that he was one of the soldiers in the platoon, the section followed this soldier.

After some time, the whole section felt something was wrong. The second man in the line stopped and asked, “where are you going?”.

The first soldier merely turned around and used hand signals in the dark. One of the man in the section got impatient and screamed, “KNN, do you know how dark it is a not. You are using hand signals, who the F can see. Who the F are you?” The SGT at the checkpoint some distance away heard the commotion and started scolding.

It was at this point the whole section realized that our destination was right behind us. The first soldier was leading us deeper into the jungle, away from the meeting point. The section got triggered now. The men are demanding to know who is this first soldier. The first soldier did not say a word. He merely turned around and walked deeper into the jungle. None of the members of the section followed him.

We turned around and walked towards our SGT. Did a head count and everyone was accounted for. After checking with every section, there was no one walking alone by himself in the jungle.

Everybody stuck to his section. The superstitious men in the platoon believed that it was something dirty trying to lure the section to its death.

My girlfriend is angry at me because she was sleeping and had a dream about me cheating on her, then starts a fight with me and now wants to break up.

My gf has been dreaming a lot about me cheating on her or treating her badly in her dreams.

This has happened around 7 times already and I keep on waking up to her angry messages about how I treat her in her dreams.

I always apologized for it even though I did nothing wrong and have made sure to assure her that I would never do those things in real life.

But today was the last straw, I woke up to her being very pissed at me and I decided that I would not apologize this time because its honestly my fault and I’ve done all I can to assure her.

Now she wants to break up because I was being too aggressive towards her and her insecurities.

Netizens’ comments

1. Tell her you have apologized to her in your dreams.
2. Lol let her go. She crazy. You don’t want that in your life.
3. Sounds like your GF has issues. Also, cheaters usually accuse their partner cheating on them, just FYI
4. So, she blames you on what is happening in her head, treats you badly about something imaginary and then has the audacity to say that you are not sensitive to HER insecurities? This is not your problem. You have been trying to ease her mind but she gets worse. Either she sorts out this problem or you don’t need the crap and walk out. Maybe counselling is a good idea for her to find the route of this cause.
5. Why tf would you apologize for her dreams? That is a seriously unhealthy dynamic the two of you have got going on. If she threatens to breakup over something like this, she is either not mature enough or not mentally stable enough to be in a relationship. Let her go.
6. She’s HELLA insecure. Imagine being mad over a false reality in your head. Sounds kinda psychotic really… Not that I think she’s crazy, just very misguided.
7. Nope. Do not apologize for something you had NOTHING to do with. I’ve had those types of dreams and woken up angry. But I also realized that my husband didn’t do anything and that my imaginary anger was just that – imaginary. She needs to own up to her actions and false accusations or you should reconsider her compatibility with you.