You think Bill gates or Elon got wear amulet anot, many people quick get rich 4D scheme. But end up more poor

I remember when I was a kid, I had an amulet that my grandmother gave me. She said it would protect me from all sorts of bad luck and evil spirits. I thought it was cool and wore it all the time. Little did I know that this amulet was nothing more than a piece of rock with a few symbols carved into it. It had no real power, it was just a superstition.

As I grew older, I started to realize that relying on bogus amulets and “magic” superstition was pretty silly. I mean, how can something like that really protect you from anything? It doesn’t make any sense.

Nowadays, I see more and more people relying on bogus amulets and superstition to make their lives better. They think that if they just wear the amulet or perform a certain ritual, everything will be okay. But of course, that’s not the case.

I believe that people who rely on bogus amulets and superstition are “low in IQ”. They lack the wisdom to understand that these things are nothing more than superstitions. They don’t understand the power of knowledge and science. They think that just because something sounds good, it must be true.

In my opinion, people who rely on bogus amulets and superstition are not only “low in IQ”, but they’re also easily taken advantage of. There are people out there who prey on these people and try to make money off of them. They’ll promise them all sorts of things that will never come true, just so they can make a quick buck.

The only way to really protect yourself from bogus amulets and superstition is to educate yourself. Read up on the science behind the superstitions and understand what’s real and what’s not. Don’t fall for the claims of people who are trying to make money off of you.

Don’t rely on bogus amulets and superstition. Instead, rely on your own knowledge and common sense. People who rely on bogus amulets and superstition are only fooling themselves. They may think they’re getting some sort of magical protection, but in reality, they’re just making themselves vulnerable to exploitation. Be wise and don’t fall for it.

Family are nuts and dirty

Home is hell and I hate to stay at home. People in my family are nuts, I have no one to talk about this to. Currently left 1 year of study.

People in my family are nuts. (Personal matter) mother doesnt listen and always repeat the same stuff to me although I tell her is not possible. Brother has some sort of personality disorder or sth else and doesn’t want to seek help. Father is stubborn and has old minded thinking.

I live with father and brother, they are f**king dirty and unhygienic plus father treats me like a maid, making a mess.

How far do I have to tolerate until I cannot take it? How much is too much until I have to move out?

Here are what netizens think:

• Try to give tuition and use the funds to move out completely without turning back. Your studies are important, so is your sanity. It’s also an opportunity to manage your time with studies and work combined to prepare for the working world too. Jia you!

• You need to be financially independent from your parents first before you can even think of moving out and staying on your own. Until you gain independence, try to work your life around your home situation. You may find it intolerable now, but trust me, when you have been through rock bottom at home, you’ll gain a lot of life experience and can use the lessons learnt to tackle working life too.

• I know of a person who have quite a worse family situation. The person situation same as u but was quite worse and more complications. Maybe you can talk to your parents or consider renting. Sometimes we have to endure and tolerate situation that we hate.

• I went through this, once I had a job secured and was in my last semester at uni, I rented a room at a friend’s house and moved out, then I never talked to them again. The mistake I made was not moving out sooner. Move out when you can and get counselling after you’re gone.

• Where does Heaven and Hell comes from? From your own mind. What we like, we call it Heaven. What we hate, we call it Hell. All such discrimination arises only from very own perception shaped by our own upbringing, education, social conditioning. That’s means if you grow up in a different country in a different family, you will become a completely different person from who you are today.

Sorry, but I gotta rant a bit.

Firstly, let me say that I have no problem meeting new people, as friends or potential love interests or just socializing or whatever.

But lately there are guys who write me out of the blue (on social media, for example) and I don’t have any social references of them (aka people I know).

I suggest them to meet in normal places, like bars, and they decline. Instead, they suggest me to either meet “in nature” or at night in some random corner of the city which I don’t know well and where there normally aren’t many people around. When I say that I don’t want to meet there, they get weird about it, saying that I don’t trust them or that I must think they’re dangerous or whatever.

I understand that maybe they’re chill people, who knows. But there are men outside who don’t mean well with women. So me not wanting to meet someone I don’t know without anyone else present is just a general safety measure. And it would be nice if men would support this and not get sad or nasty about it. I’m tired of this happening…

Has it happened to you? What’s your opinion on such situations?

Here are what netizens think:

• My husband wanted our first date to be canoeing. I told him I would love to do things like that but I didn’t know him well enough yet and it wasn’t a safe thing for me to do. He was not only understanding but embarrassed he hadn’t considered that. Guys that get offended by you prioritizing your safety are red flags.

• I was explaining to my boyfriend when we started dating how I’m scared to camp solo. His immediate response was about how I’d be safe because there are no big predatory animals around here. I explained that men are the predators I’m afraid of and he felt really upset for me that it’s an issue I need to worry about in my life.

• My husband invited me to sushi on our first date. He offered to pick me up but I declined and said I would drive myself. He later explained he thought it was odd (his family is big on carpooling) but didn’t say anything and then forgot about it.

I once had a neighbour who would scream vulgarities at odd hours in the night. I once heard her from the carpark even though she lived on the 20th floor.

Her neighbour downstairs yelled at her…and in return she yanked out her hair and threw them out of the window…there were bloody pieces of her scalp attached…zzz. If you encountered her in the lift, she would keep spitting at your feet. I had a neighbor who I encountered in my apartment building who I will never forget. She was a woman in her late thirties who lived on the 20th floor and I lived on the 8th.

She was a strange woman who had a reputation for being loud and unruly. She was known to scream vulgarities at odd hours of the night and it was not uncommon for her to be heard from the carpark even though she lived so far away.

I never had a conversation with her, but I did encounter her in the lift one day. She was standing there with a glazed look in her eyes and she kept spitting at my feet. I was taken aback and tried to be friendly by saying hello, but she just glared at me and kept spitting. I quickly got out of the lift and vowed to stay away from her.

Little did I know that this neighbour was about to do something that would shock me and my fellow neighbours. Late one night, a loud argument erupted from her floor and I heard her downstairs neighbour yell something at her. That’s when things got out of control. She went berserk, yanked out her hair and threw them out of the window. We could see the bloody pieces of her scalp attached to the hair. It was a horrifying sight.

The police were quickly called and the woman was taken away. We never heard from her again and it seemed like the nightmare was over. But the memory of what had happened that night still haunts me and it’s something that I will never forget.

The incident made me realise how important it is to be aware of our neighbours and to look out for any signs of danger. It’s also important to take action if something doesn’t seem right. We may never have to face something as extreme as what happened with this woman, but it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Living in an apartment building can be a great experience, but it’s also important to remember that there are some people who might not be so pleasant. It’s important to be aware and to take necessary precautions to ensure our safety.

Interesting to see the usual boomers justifying an outdated tradition and choose to do selective reading. Also comparing what you earn back ‘then’ 10,20,30,40 years ago, try comparing with today’s inflation since you think the amount is insignificant.

I pity your children if any, having to carry on this ‘allowance’ tradition.

And to those that commented how is $400 15%, clearly can’t math. Also, just wanted to say the reason why I don’t feel happy in giving its because my parents was hardly present for me growing up, and even today when I’ve forgived them for the wrongs they did in the past, they nitpick on everything, including the current amount I give and always comparing with other children that are able to give more.

Typical boomers always comparing and comparing but if we compare them with other parents they kp. And to the losers that say I’m still dependent on them, yes for lodging only, but not for money or anything else.

I’ve been working part time since a teen, and never asked them for money, and even paying my own school fees, mobile bills etc. Don’t be quick to judge lol. Also may I add the thought of asking for them to even ‘pay’ for any of my adult expenses like housing, wedding, insurance etc never crossed my mind because I and my partner are financially independent to do so.

And lastly to the guy whom commented to unalive myself if I didn’t ask to be born, people like you are the very reason why tragedy happens. Before you casually comment such crude remarks, think with your brain if you have any. Be kind.

Here are netizens think:

• See no evil, hear no evil and talk no evil. You are who you are and what you do you are responsible for it. Live in a tough life? Do something about it stop whining. If every generation do like you do, every generation will be in deep trouble.

• Boomers? Isn’t that an American concept? Was there a baby boom in Singapore between 1946 and 1964?

• Just stand by your monthly allowance that you are committed to giving comfortably. Subtly tell them that times had changed and that now ppl are planning for their own. retirement and less dependent on their children. When they say dun compare to current situation / arrangement, tell them that it is the reality and they should acknowledge the reality. But of cos, give a decent amt, not too much and not too little

Why am I being blamed for everything that happened to my sister? How long must I makeup for it?

It happened when I was 5 and my mother was heavily pregnant with my 2nd sister.

My request of her to play with me was declined and I threw a tantrum. Can’t remember the details but I fell from the sofa and it ended up with both my mother and me going to the hospital and my sister born premature (7months). She stayed in the ICU for weeks.

From then on, I was being reminded by my parents for my “evilness”. Worst was when my sister contacted flu when she was 3 months old and it affected her brain. Now I was blamed for my sister’s slow development because it’s the premature that caused her to be weaker hence a small fever affected her brain. (She became a slower learner and needs to attend special school)

In my memory, I never have a childhood. My sister can demand anything from me, my toys, clothes and stationeries have to be shared. I usually wear what my cousins passed down while my sisters gets to shop and buy clothes. I get only $5 as pocket money (for recess and lunch) while my sister gets $7. My sisters get to spend their angbao money while I have to give all of them (except yasui angbao) back. Even ny maid is allowed to neglect me but she never did, instead she is the only one who cares about me.

When I got to poly, I worked and saved up for my own laptop because I needed one but my sisters were always fighting to play games on the only PC in the house. My father is a programmer and he unlocks my laptop without my consent and let my sisters play games on it. When they broke my laptop, I was expected to pay for the repair. I never did and rather stay back in school or go to a friend house to use their computer.

When I started working, my parents demanded that I give them $300 and another $200 to my sister account who is intellectual challenged “because of me”. I was only making $1600/month then before CPF. I just kept quiet because I was brainwashed into believing I was the one who caused my sister’s misfortune. I have to take care of her for my whole life.

For almost 4 years, I have to share my personal items including my phone with my sisters else I will wake up to find my phone on 15 minutes lock out. I don’t have enough to rent a room and I just endure quietly. I was relieved when my sister’s got their own phones but only to realised that my father wanted their plans bundled with mine for discount. My eldest sister was already 20 then and I expected her to pay her own bills but I still ended up paying for both my sisters’ bills. I am grateful that I only needed to pay a $30 overshot bill twice. (honestly expected more since they’re so spoilt)

I finally broke down last year when I was totally burnt out and sick of everything. I wanted to leave my job after my manager quit as I don’t agree with my new superior way of doing things. But it’s a bad time to switch job. I went on a few interviews but the pay won’t be as high. At the same time, my parents demanded more money from me due to raising cost of living and my elder sister wanted to go overseas for a degree. I don’t know why I should be providing for my sister’s studied when she is already 22 and how much must I repay to makeup for a mistake I made when I was 5! I decided to bite the bullet and moved out with my boyfriend. I don’t like the idea of living together before marriage but it’s my best bet then. I told my parents to take over my sister’s phone lines as I have ported my line out and no longer bundling with them. I still transfer my parents $400 but don’t give my sister anymore.

If you’re wondering about my parents financial abilities. My mother spent her 4K salary on branded bags/High tea with her tai tai friends and my father make 5 digits a month. Flat is already fully paid by my grandfather. I know my family don’t need my measly allowance to survive but I still do my part. My sisters don’t have to work hard for anything, they just demand and will have everything they want, including the latest phones, iPads and branded bags and clothes. My eldest sister who is 23 now haven’t worked for even a day in her life, is still taking money from my parents while she is studying in UK. Her school fees are also paid by my parents. Mt 2nd sister attended special school and have received training to support herself but is lazy af and always MIA from her internship and my parents let her, even asked the school to give her “easier work”.

I really felt better after moving out. I have finally gotten out of the guilt that I “caused” to my sister. I can finally plan for my own future aand have my personal space.

How many rounds of interview and tests do you guys typically go through for a junior role?

As my contract job was ending in March this year, I began applying for various roles and I was quite lucky to receive an invitation from a reputable MNC for a first round of interview in end February. The first interview was conducted in early March. All went well and a second interview was arranged in the end of March which I went for it in the same week. I was quite surprised to clear the second interview and I thought that this should be all and I can start work with them in April after a medical screening but I was wrong.

However, as I thought that I can start work with them soon, I have to complete 3 different questionnaires (consisting of a personality questionnaire, shiftwork tolerance, occupational preferences questionnaire), 1 online ability assessment and a structured interview before I can proceed to the background check and medical screening.

I passed the various questionnaires and an conditional offer was being made to me in early April and if everything goes well, I can start work in mid April. At the same time, this MNC had engaged a company to proceed with the background check for me and I was quite surprised with how detailed they wanted.

Not only they wanted references from my latest employer (I did my traineeship and contract role with them so I spent about 3 years in total with them), they also wanted a reference from my previous company which I had left 3 years ago. Quite surprised by this, I tried to reach out to my ex-supervisor but he just blue-ticked me and an email sent by the background check company to him was ignored. As such, I had to provide a new reference from my latest employer.

All these delay had caused my first day of work to be delayed, from mid April to May, and there was still nothing given to me about my onboarding details. Email messages to HR were ignored and I am quite stuck now.

Is it normal to go through so much for a junior role? I had ~2-3 years of relevant experience in the industry and my previous roles (traineeship, contract roles) doesn’t require me to go through so many hoops and I was quite annoyed and puzzled by so many tests and the extreme detailed background check that I need to go through. To add on, in this new role I am an individual contributor and do not have to take up any supervisory responsibilities.