Is it really too much to refuse to date guys who still live at home with their parents?
I get that it’s normal here for people to live at home well into their adult life, but it’s just not for me.
I get so many excuses like:
“Housing is expensive and no one can afford to buy a home / waiting to BTO” Okay? People can rent. I rent. Nearly all of my friends rent. It’s doable. I’m not saying people have to buy a house.
“It’s normal for guys to live at home so you just have to accept it” Why do I need to accept it? I don’t. I can just do what I’m doing now and refuse to date guys who still live at home.
“Why don’t you just go to a hotel room then?” Because I don’t want to feel like a call girl or that I’m sneaking around behind their parent’s back.
“My parents are fine with me bringing girls over” Good for them, but I’m not going to do anything when their parents are RIGHT THERE IN THE SAME HOUSE. It’s wildly uncomfortable.
The worst are the people who call me a gold digger, because to them the only people who can move out are the super rich (not true) and the people who somehow twisted this into a race thing. In their mind the vast majority of guys who don’t live at home are foreigners, so my standard means I’m a self-hating racist because it means I’ll be rejecting all the local guys and mostly dating foreign guys.
To me it’s got nothing to do with money, and nothing to do with race. It’s a sign of independence. My experiences of dating guys who still live at home isn’t good. I’ve had guys try to sneak me into a completely dark house because it’s 2am and of course their parents are asleep. Guys who had to update their parents on their whereabouts, report when they leave, if they’re going to get back late. Guys who still let their parents/maid feed them, do their laundry, do their dishes, do all the house chores. Guys who tried to change a date location because their parents didn’t think it was a good idea. Ever since I’ve started only dating guys who’ve moved out, I don’t run into issues like hthat anymore.
There’s not quite any replacement for living alone. I want to date a guy that’s used to living alone and handling all the things that come with it. Someone who’s completely cut the apron strings.
I don’t think that’s a high standard at all, so I’m tired of getting so much shit for it
0700 – 0830 exercise class or jog. Either 10k step or 30 min mvpa must be done by this time. Sync 365 app earn points.
0830 – 0930 grocery shopping or lim kopi with gfs. Scan 365 app for more points.
0930 – 1100 settle other errands, reach home do chores, prep meal. Shower.
1100 – 1130 quickie with hub if he’s around so I have peace at night. Shower again.
1200 lunch. Chill till 2pm
1400 prep kids lunch
1500 – 1700 go through homework with kids
1700 – 1800 chill time while kids have game time.
1800 – prep dinner
1900 – serve dinner
2000 – check count my calorie intake if I have to eat more food before I start fasting.
2100 – kids off to bed. I spend time on my hobby like crafting or reading if hubby has to study or we will watch a show together.
2250 – planking or strength/stretch exercise
2300 – zzzzzz
I am on an intermittent fasting plan to improve my lifestyle. I’m also underweight so I try to eat more within the 8 hour window.
I take $1500 monthly from my husband. I spend mostly on organic food. I try not to exceed $1k on my own personal shopping like clothes and makeup.
I envy people who are in the work force but I also don’t want to miss out watching my children grow up so I chose to give up my career. I had a small business a few years ago but it was starting to take up too much of my time and I cannot expand when my kids still need me so I gave it up again.
I’m a housewife but I wouldn’t want my kids to be one when they grow up. I’m a firm believer that we should work no matter how much our partner earns.
A woman discovered more than 20 dead pigeons located between two residential blocks in Yishun on 22 May
The woman noticed numerous dead birds and several others on the brink of death in the vicinity. When she inquired about the situation, a cleaner informed her that the pigeons had been given “medicine”.
Nee Soon Town Council, in response to the incident, expressed its commitment to exploring sustainable approaches for managing the pigeon population within the town.
Called ACRES for help
The individual who discovered the pigeons, identified as Ms Aishah by The Straits Times (ST), found them in grassy areas and common spaces between Block 436 and Block 438 on Yishun Avenue 11. Concerned about the situation, she reached out to the Animal Concerns Research and Education Society (Singapore) (ACRES) for assistance. ACRES promptly arrived at the scene within an hour, as reported by ST.
Ms Aishah expressed her sadness and concern over the sight of approximately 20 pigeons lying lifeless in close proximity to residents and their pets. She mentioned that young children, possibly under the age of four, were playing in the area where the birds were found.
Town Council says pigeons transmit diseases
In response to media inquiries, the Nee Soon Town Council (NSTC) acknowledged the incident and communicated with the resident via email to address her concerns. NSTC emphasized its ongoing efforts to enhance services and cater to various resident concerns. It highlighted the health risks associated with pigeons, as they can transmit a wide range of diseases through their droppings, particularly to individuals with weakened immune systems.
NSTC employs a balanced and proactive approach to managing the pigeon population in the town, including the installation of spikes to prevent nesting and roosting, as well as public education campaigns to discourage pigeon feeding and promote proper disposal of food waste. However, despite these efforts, there remains an excess of pigeons in the town.
“Bird nuisance”
Citing an independent survey conducted by the Municipal Services Office in Q4 2022, NSTC stated that Nee Soon GRC had a resident satisfaction rate of 52% concerning bird nuisance, which is below the national average of 60%. Despite the town council’s endeavours to control the pigeon population, residents expressed dissatisfaction.
NSTC assured that its workers possess the necessary skills and methods to handle and remove pigeons during treatment operations while maintaining cleanliness afterwards. It urged residents to report any affected pigeons to the town council.
NSTC also mentioned its collaboration with ACRES to develop a comprehensive solution for addressing the pigeon overpopulation issue in Nee Soon, although specific measures were not disclosed.
Stop using toxins
ACRES co-chief executive, Anbarasi Boopal, revealed that 20 pigeons were found dead and another seven were rescued and treated. The ACRES team suspected that the birds had been exposed to the drug alpha-chloralose (AC) due to their symptoms. Despite Senior Minister of State for National Development Sim Ann’s statement in Parliament that NParks had been working with town councils to move away from using toxins, ACRES has rescued over 1,000 poisoned birds since 2021.
Ms Anbarasi expressed hope that the National Environment Agency (NEA) would implement additional measures such as reducing the pigeons’ food sources and preventing residents from feeding them. She emphasized that culling without addressing the food supply would lead to population growth, as more food would be available for fewer pigeons to breed successfully.
I am 30 years old male, married with 1 kid and already moved into our new BTO.
Wife and I met 8 years ago, got married 2 years ago and have a kid 1 year ago.
Starting of the relationship was ok, she is ok for me to smoke and portray herself as those very nice and understanding woman. Slowly 1 year into the relationship, her true colour slowly review itself. She say I smell so bad after smoking and refuse to kiss me. I respect that as non smokers usually dislike the smell. So everytime when I’m out with her, I would leave my cigarettes in the car. I have to pay for every single thing and dinner at coffee shop seems unbearable for her.
Moving forward a bit, we had a huge quarrel with her about 4 years into the relationship as she found out that I owe my credit card debt for about 14k. FYI, I don’t buy stuff for myself, I don’t drink, don’t party and don’t game. All my money were basically spent on her and us. She love to compare me and her life with those influencer’s and their boyfriend. Her attitude towards me is like towards a dog and she constantly scolds me with vulgar everytime she has mood swing. Her mood swing can be a weekly thing which traumatised me a lot. And she chose to dump me knowing that I am on debt. Felt really hurt inside as I chose to put myself in debt just so I can spend on her and let her lead the kind of life she wants to, but it’s still not enough to satisfy her. I chose to accept and left. And it was just that day itself when I got dumped, a very good female friend of mine since poly days contacted me and asked me out to chill, so since I’m down, I said ok and met up with her. Told her exactly what happened and she told me if she has a boyfriend like me, she would cherish so much and never let go (she knows how I treated all my exs and we were there for each other everytime we have BGR issue).
So I joking said, “when is our turn to be together?” , and she say actually she likes me too and if I have the same feeling towards her too, we can get together. I’ve read stuff online saying that best friend who got married usually last forever. We know exactly how our past were like, as such we will not quarrel over a lot of stuff new couples might face. I told her that I’m in debt and not able to buy her stuff and bring her for holidays, and she say she is ok to be the one paying and ok to eat bread with me until I clear off my debts. I’m so touched inside and I admit I had a crush on her before, and we got together.
Few weeks went by, my ex that I mentioned above came calling me, texting me and even came to my house begging me to come back and giving all the reasons that she could think of and how remorseful she were. I rejected her and said nasty things to her but she was very determined to get me back. Ultimately, still not moved on yet from her, I chose to let down my best friend and got back to her and indeed she was a changed person. But it was the worst decision I have ever made in my life. Shortly after we reconcile, probably 1 year later, her pattern came back and it got even worse. Nearing to our bto completion, I have to follow the flow and proposed to her, got married and move in our new house.
We had a child and I did everything I can to help. From feeding, to bathing to washing and cleaning, from doing ALL household chores and wash clothes mop floor hang clothes keep clothes wash milk bottle sterilised bottle, I paid for house renovation loan, wifi, utility bills, milk powder and every single meal including breakfast to dinner. She was not satisfied. She still compare her life with me with influencers. She said what I did was what I should as a husband and daddy and that I never do anything for her but only for our child. She complains how I never bring her to holiday after giving birth a child for me and says I never buy branded bags for her anymore. Honestly, I’m in debt again and I can’t tell her. She is the type that I can’t share any of my unhappiness or difficulties to her because she will have an even bigger reaction.
When baby is sick, we all can’t sleep and she will start go crazy shouting at our infant baby and telling me how I didn’t help her and even say she has market value still and don’t dare her to go look for another older richer man. She has been scolding vulgar to me and threatening to divorce me. I really don’t understand what have I done wrong or what have I not done enough. When I’m tired from work, she says don’t bring work back home ad affect the family, but she does that herself every single day. If it wasn’t for my child, I would have fought back and agree to a divorce. I’m so lost now.
On Sunday evening, May 28, a BlueSG rental car lost control and collided with a central divider railing on Punggol Road in Sengkang and crashed into a traffic light.
Following the incident, a 27-year-old man was apprehended on suspicion of driving under the influence.
The accident took place near Rivervale Plaza, prompting the prompt response of Traffic Police officers and a tow truck.
The BlueSG car sustained visible damage, with a cracked windscreen and a fender lying on the road. Additionally, the collision caused a traffic light to collapse and inflicted harm upon the road divider.
At the time the tow truck arrived, the BlueSG car was situated on top of the traffic light and the railing.
Authorities were informed of the incident at 10:22 PM. Preliminary investigations by the police indicate that the car skidded on its own while travelling along Punggol Road, specifically at the junction of Compassvale Drive.
Confirming the details, a police spokesperson stated that a 27-year-old male driver was subsequently taken into custody under suspicion of drink driving. The police are currently conducting further investigations into the matter.
By Tuesday, May 30, the damaged traffic light and road divider had been repaired.
Other BlueSG/GetGo accidents
Just last month, the Singapore Police Force said that they have arrested a 27-year-old man for suspected drink driving offences following an accident in Bayfront Avenue.
A GetGo rental car that the man was believed to have been driving was seen speeding on the road before crashing into a stationary van.
Facebook page SG Road Vigilante posted a video of the accident showing the GetGo rental car speeding and going off the course at the road junction of Bayfront Avenue and Marina Boulevard.
It then crashed into the van that was waiting at a red light at the traffic junction, narrowly missing a motorcyclist who was right beside the van at the time.
The month before that, a BlueSG car was seen beating a red light at a traffic junction and crashing into another car at Pasir Ris.
In the video that was shared on the SG Road Vigilante Facebook page,a BlueSG car could be seen beating a red light at the junction.
Another car was driving through the junction at the same time, and the BlueSG car then crashed into the side of the other car.
The BlueSG car then skidded across the junction, with its headlights immediately going out after crashing into the other car.
The video also included the POV from the dashcam of the other car, as it drove across the traffic junction when the traffic light was yellow.
That same month, a GetGo driver was speeding inside a multi storey carpark and crashed into 3 other cars parked there.
One of the owners of the cars that was hit by the GetGo car, shared the videos on TikTok on 18 April and lamented about how it happened so close to the Hari Raya Puasa weekend.
In the first video shared by the OP, a red coloured car was seen knocked out of its parking spot by the the GetGo car, and its front bumper was also destroyed and fell off.
Because of the impact, the red car then hit another silver car beside it, along with another silver van that was also damaged in the accident.
Following the crash, the netizen’s car was then towed away from the scene, as seen in the second video, at about 4.50 am.
The netizen replied in the comments that the ancient took place at Block 175 Punggol Field, and said that the driver of the GetGo car was a 23-year-old “boy”.
He claimed that the GetGo driver had allegedly been driving at a speed of 50km/h inside the multi storey carpark, which usually has a speed limit of about 15km/h.
I’m not ready to get married and my boyfriend is losing his patience with me.
We have been dating for 3 years. He proposed to me a year ago. I’m so in love with him so I agreed. Actually I wasn’t ready but I don’t think we would need to make any arrangements due to all the restrictions but after everything is lifted he started to browse around for apartments and asked me to join him. I’ve been making excuses not to join him so far.
Eventually he found out how I feel and I’m also not willing to get a place together yet so we had a huge fight. Reason is he wants to start a family as he is much older than me. While I feel that I have not worked long enough to build up my portfolio or career. I feel getting married now may affect my job as I do not wish the company to skip me when there’s a promotion, thinking I’m newly married and assuming I will be starting a family in the near future.
I do love him. He has a great paying job that he loves. He takes great care of his parents. He does chores and he even cooks. I’ve stayed over at his place during the weekends and I know he would make a great partner.
He understands that I’m not ready to be a mother but he cannot comprehend why I do not wish to get married yet.
Would it be selfish of me to make him wait longer? I’m afraid he may give up on me. Would you get married when you’re not ready? I understand the chances of getting pregnant will drop as you get older but I’m in my early 20s and I really cannot imagine getting married now and becoming a mother.
A man from Singapore drove his brother’s red Mercedes home after they had both consumed alcoholic beverages at his workplace.
While attempting to negotiate a turn at a high speed, he lost control of the vehicle, resulting in a collision with multiple cars and the unfortunate death of a 59-year-old Gojek driver.
Jeremiah Ng En You, aged 35, appeared before the court and pleaded guilty on May 30, 2023, for charges of drink driving and dangerous driving, which led to the fatality of the driver.
Drove up to 169km/hr on a road with a speed limit of 60km/hr
The incident took place on December 23, 2021, along Tampines Avenue 1, according to legal documents.
Ng was behind the wheel of the red Mercedes, with his brother accompanying him as the front passenger.
He was driving at speeds ranging from 157km/h to 169km/h, surpassing the speed limit of 60km/h along Tampines Avenue 1.
As he approached the junction, he gradually reduced his speed to approximately 146km/h to 156km/h and further down to 122km/h to 130km/h.
Ng’s attempt to turn left from Tampines Avenue 1 onto Tampines Avenue 10 proved unsuccessful as he lost control of the Mercedes, which was traveling between 92km/h and 108km/h.
The Mercedes collided with a stationary white car on the driver’s side after crashing through the center divider along Tampines Ave 10.
Gojek driver killed
At the time of the collision, a 59-year-old Gojek driver named Kenn Wong Mun Soon was transporting two passengers in the white car.
The impact of the collision caused the white car to collide with other vehicles, resulting in injuries to multiple individuals.
A 25-year-old motorcyclist, who was situated between the white car and another vehicle, became trapped between both cars.
The Gojek driver and four others, aged 22 to 38, were immediately taken to Changi General Hospital for treatment.
A 42-year-old male taxi driver sought medical assistance at a private clinic.
Regrettably, Wong, who was found unconscious and in critical condition, succumbed to his injuries on December 24, 2021, and was pronounced dead.
The other victims sustained injuries of varying severity, ranging from abrasions and lacerations to fractures and traumatic brain injury.
Failed breathalyser tests twice
According to court documents, the incident occurred on December 23, 2021, during heavy traffic flow, with dry road conditions and clear weather.
Traffic police officers who attended the scene reported a strong smell of alcohol emanating from Ng, as stated in the court documents.
Ng admitted to consuming four cans of beer while having dinner and drinks with his brother and friends at his workplace.
He intended to drive himself and his brother to their residence, located approximately 10km away from their office when the incident took place.
Following a failed breathalyzer test conducted at the scene, Ng was arrested and transported to the Traffic Police Headquarters (TPHQ).
At the TPHQ, a breath evidential analyzer test conducted at 1:32 am on December 24, 2021, revealed that Ng had 42 microgrammes of alcohol per 100ml of breath, surpassing the legal limit of 35 microgrammes of alcohol per 100ml of breath.
Victims’ family also suing him
Ng pleaded guilty to charges of drink driving and dangerous driving causing the death of Wong. Additionally, he agreed to have three other charges of dangerous driving considered during sentencing.
The court documents state that Ng faced five charges in total, including one for drink driving and four for dangerous driving. These charges include causing the death of Wong, causing grievous hurt to one person, causing hurt to four others, and resulting in a collision with another car.
Apart from the legal consequences, Ng is also facing three lawsuits. Wong’s sister, as well as two other victims, Ng Zi Yuan Darren (now 25), a passenger in Wong’s car, and Muhammad Fariz Sa’adon (now 42), who was in one of the affected vehicles, are suing Ng for their respective damages.
Ng was released on bail in the amount of S$15,000, and his sentencing is scheduled for July 7, 2023.
Potential penalties
If convicted of drunk driving, first-time offenders can face imprisonment of up to 12 months, fines ranging from S$2,000 to S$10,000, or both. Additionally, they may be prohibited from driving for a minimum of two years.
Repeat offenders can face imprisonment of up to two years, fines ranging from S$5,000 to S$20,000, and a driving ban of at least five years.
In the case of dangerous driving causing death, first-time offenders may be sentenced to imprisonment for a period between two and eight years and disqualified from driving for a minimum of ten years.
Apart from the legal consequences, Ng is also facing three lawsuits. Wong’s sister, as well as two other victims, Ng Zi Yuan Darren (now 25), a passenger in Wong’s car, and Muhammad Fariz Sa’adon (now 42), who was in one of the affected vehicles, are suing Ng for their respective damages.
Ng was released on bail in the amount of S$15,000, and his sentencing is scheduled for July 7, 2023.
We are together for about 4 years. In the beginning of the relationship, he was still in NS, so i didnt thought much of it when i pay for our dates, sometimes giving him allowance for his own meals. I am wondering if this has become a habit for him. Even though the topic has come up a lot of times, i admit that i havent been the most patient gf to him on this. He has gym memberships paid by me, physio costs was borrowed from me as well.
He has try, in his words, to accommodate to me and we no longer eat at expensive restaurants. Nowadays when we eat out, he will even pay for my meals. We also have a joint account together, but since he have been taking a lot from there, i try not to keep any amount in there. He has also stopping taking money from the account. However, his dad’s insurance money is deducting from our joint account, so there at least have to be an amount set aside every month. He is contributing most of that amount.
We have applied for a bto, and renovations pressurising me to save a lot more now, to cater for the pricing. Since i earned more, and his pay just nice covers his monthly bills, i am saving up solely for the renovations. It is a bit taxing on me, but no choice if i want to be able to renovate the house.
Recently we are planning something for our anniversary, so he booked something online, and told me to share the price. Was due to return me an amount this month, but i get the feeling that he has forgotten about it. So i let him know about that. Before him booking online we discussed about the item, but i did not agree to it. My credit card has monthly installments auto implemented, so, we couldve delayed the payment. But he told me that im being v unappreciative of his efforts, and that he didnt do anything, but am rudely shocked awake by me telling him that he still owes me money.
There are previous times where he slept happily, thinking about the plans he made, but got scolded by me the minute he wakes up. Am i being a v bad gf? I am really stressed about the money issues..
A video circulating on various social media platforms showed a group of police officers engaging in a conversation with an individual dressed in a Wok Hey uniform, with his hands handcuffed behind his back,
The video, which was shared on the Singapore Incidents Facebook group, included a caption claiming that the individual in question was an employee who had allegedly taken S$150 in cash from the cash register. The incident supposedly took place at the Compass One branch of Wok Hey.
Due to the poor audio quality of the video, it was difficult to discern the content of the conversation between the police officers and the individual. However, the footage clearly showed the individual sitting down with his hands restrained behind his back as he remained seated, being interrogated by the police officers.
The man was subsequently escorted away from the scene by the two police officers.
The circumstances leading up to the filming of the video and the revelation of the individual’s alleged wrongdoing remain unclear.
The police confirmed that they received a call for assistance at the Compass One location, situated at 1 Sengkang Square, on May 30th at 8:45 p.m.
Consequently, a 27-year-old man was apprehended on charges of criminal breach of trust. The police’s investigation into the matter is ongoing.
Other cases of staff stealing from their workplaces
In a recent incident at an Ang Mo Kio minimart, the owner resorted to social media to expose two employees involved in cash register theft. Angel Supermart made two separate posts on its Facebook page on May 28, disclosing the identities of the two female employees who were apprehended for allegedly stealing money from the cash register.
Daniel Tan, the employer, came across these alleged offences during a routine examination of the shop’s CCTV footage. The specific branch of the minimart chain is situated at Block 631, Ang Mo Kio Avenue 8.
Tan spoke to Shin Min Daily News, stating that the first individual arrested, a 53-year-old part-time cashier, accepted approximately $80 from a customer without scanning the purchased items. Subsequently, he discovered that another cashier, a 46-year-old senior employee, was also “involved in the same offence.”
Upon confronting the 46-year-old employee with the video evidence, she confessed to stealing from the register on a daily basis over the past month. The employee had been with the company since 2017, working six days a week.
I come from a well-to-do family but make 3.5k a month. My bf comes from a super poor family but makes 21k a month.
Of course I don’t know for sure but roughly maybe my parents net worth 100million and his parents net worth 50k. I usually manage to save almost all of the 3.5k a month I make in a savings account because I have a supplementary credit card which my parents gave me.
For big ticket items like marriage, car and house, I get the feeling that he will want us to split 50-50. Personally I don’t think it’s fair because he makes more than 6 times my salary. My parents’ money is their business right and I feel we should split 1:7 ratio. I jokingly brought it up before but I could feel his disapproval.
I can’t get over how cheap he is. In a way I feel like I am being bullied.
Sounds terrible to say out but really people who grow up poor tend to be bitter at the world and quite stingy. Even if they become successful it’s like they can’t let their past go. My friends who grew up in ok families like mine tend to be very generous and I think such positivity makes for better vibes.
