At first, when I saw my girlfriend’s hair down there, I didn’t know how to react.

It seemed like she hadn’t trimmed or shaved it since she was a teenager. I honestly didn’t know what to do or say. I was taken aback and didn’t want to offend her. But the longer I stayed with her, the more I noticed that it was really bothering me.

Bearded man living down there

I didn’t want to say anything because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings. I was afraid she might be embarrassed or angry if I brought it up. But I couldn’t keep silent any longer, it was making things really awkward between us. So I decided to talk to her about it.

I started by telling her that I was concerned about her body hair. I told her that I know it’s a sensitive subject, but I wanted to talk to her about it. I told her that I wasn’t trying to make her feel bad about her body, but that I just wanted to make sure she was comfortable with how she looks.

I was a bit nervous when I started the conversation, but she was surprisingly understanding. She said that she had never really thought about it before, but that she understood why it might bother me. She said she was willing to talk about it and that she was open to trimming or shaving down there.

We talked about the different options available and she said she was open to trying something new. We talked about what was comfortable for her and what she was willing to do. We discussed the pros and cons of trimming versus shaving and she decided that she wanted to try trimming first.

She was very hesitant at first, but I reassured her that I would be there to help. I showed her how to use the trimmer correctly and even showed her a few different techniques. She was able to get the hang of it quickly and soon she was trimming her pubic hair with confidence.

It was really nice to be able to talk to her about this and it made me feel much better.

My girlfriend was very grateful that I had talked to her about it and she said it made her feel more confident about her body. I’m glad that I was able to help her feel better and I’m so glad that we were able to talk about it. I’m sure that it will make our relationship even stronger.

I’ve been working in the same company for the past seven years and in that time I’ve had to work with a few different bosses.

Most of them have been great to work with, but there was one in particular who made it particularly difficult.

The new manager

My micro managing boss was the most difficult boss I’ve ever had. He was a stickler for details and was always questioning everything we did. He was constantly watching our every move, from the time we arrived at work to the time we left. He was always asking for updates on our progress and would often take credit for our work.

But the worst part about this particular boss was how he managed our breaks. He would time us if we took too long in the restroom, and he would monitor our conversations during breaks. He was so strict that he would even count how many seconds we were in the restroom and make sure we didn’t take too long.

I remember one time in particular when I was in the restroom and he came in to check on me. He actually counted to see how many seconds I was in there and then made me come out even though I wasn’t finished. It was really embarrassing and I felt so violated.

This kind of behavior was common with this boss. He was always watching us and was never satisfied with our work. He was constantly nitpicking and would often criticize us for things we had done correctly. It was really demoralizing and made us all feel like we weren’t doing a good job.

I eventually had enough and decided to leave the company. It was a difficult decision, but I knew that I couldn’t stay in an environment where I felt so uncomfortable and unappreciated. I’m now in a much better job and I’m really happy with my new boss.

My micro managing boss was a nightmare to work with and I’m glad I don’t have to deal with him anymore. He was so controlling and oppressive that it made it really difficult to do our jobs. I’m thankful that I was able to get out of there before it affected me too much.

I recently had an interview for a personal assistant position at a wealthy company.

I had been job searching for a while and was excited to finally have an opportunity to work in a high-end job. I was even more excited when I got the call that I had been hired!

I become maid

Little did I know that the job I had been hired for was something entirely different than what I had expected. Upon my first day, I was immediately put to work cleaning up the house and preparing meals for the family. I was also expected to take care of the children and help them with their school work. I was taken aback by the fact that I was basically a maid, childcare, cleaner and cook all rolled into one.

I was shocked and angry at the same time. I had applied for a personal assistant position and now I felt like I had been taken advantage of. I thought that I was worth more than just being someone’s maid, childcare, cleaner and cook. Yet, I also knew that this job would provide me with an income that I desperately needed so I decided to stay.

The job was challenging and it took me some time to adjust to it. I had to learn how to multitask and be efficient in order to get the job done. I also had to learn how to deal with the children’s moods and tantrums. It was a stressful job and I often felt overwhelmed by it all.

I suck it up and continue working cause the pay is high

The job has now been with me for over a year and I am still learning and growing. I’m thankful for the opportunity to be able to help provide for my family and to be able to make a difference in the lives of those I work for.

I now understand that there is more to the job than just being a maid, childcare, cleaner and cook. It requires hard work, dedication, and a strong sense of commitment.

I still have moments of doubt and frustration, but I’m glad that I decided to stay and make the most of this job. It has taught me a lot about myself and has helped me to become a better person. I’m thankful for the opportunity and I will continue to grow and learn in this job.

It was a funny moment. I was scrolling through my Facebook feed and I came across an insurance-related post from a friend. It was an photo of them, smiling and posing with a gigantic cheque they had evidently just received from their insurer.

What made me chuckle was the comment another friend had written on the photo – “Thank mother and father, thank God, no one cares la”.

It’s annoying and I laughed out loud.

They’ve obviously put in the hard work and dedication required to make it in the insurance business. But it’s still hard to see them post about their success and know that I’m not keeping up.

I recently had a conversation with one of my insurance friends about their Facebook posts. They told me that they post about their success because they want to make sure that their friends and family know how hard they’re working. They also said that it helps motivate them to keep going.

I can understand that. We all like to be reminded of our accomplishments, and it’s nice to have that recognition from our peers.

But at the same time, I’m sure there are other ways to motivate yourself without publicly bragging about your success. 

I also think that it’s important to be mindful of how your posts might make other people feel. We all have different levels of success, and it’s not fair to make people feel bad about their own accomplishments.

So, while I understand why my insurance friends post about their success on Facebook, I still find it annoying. I wish they would find another way to motivate themselves, and be more mindful of how their posts might make others feel.

It’s great that they’re doing so well, but there’s no need to rub it in.

Dating and living together is really different

My boyfriend and I have decided to move in together. We met at work and clicked quickly perhaps because we’re both foreigners. We dated for 1 year now when he proposed to rent an apartment together instead of each renting a room.

Even though that means we’ll be paying more rent, but the freedom and privacy is worth it.

I am earning 3.6k while him about 4.1k a month. The rent is about 1.8k, utility bills excluded.

I thought it would be fun but it turned out quite disastrous. I realized, wow, living together is magic, it can change a person totally till you couldn’t believe it’s the same guy you dated!

I am more a believer of rewarding myself and enjoying life. I believe in saving a portion (1/3) of your salary and the rest can be freely use (divided between expenses and entertainment). But he believes in saving every penny to the point I feel he is damn stingy.

He actually proposed to limit electricity usage, especially TV time. Fair enough. But it turned out he just plays Switch game on the TV while I am to limit my hours of TV. Everytime he finished his hours of gaming, and I switched out to cable TV mode, he would say things like “TV have been used for a long time already” … You keep using lei, not me! I didn’t even watch a single episode of my drama!

I told him about my unhappiness and he just says Ok ok, he will take note and play lesser but it’s always “awhile more” and “almost clear this stage already”. After I kept reminding him, he got angry and snapped at me for being naggy. I got tired also and just watch dramas on my phone.

When our heater was faulty (water gets hot/cold randomly), he expected the landlord to replace it for us but the contract states that we’re to pay for our replacement or repair for those amount less than a certain amount. And a heater won’t be that expensive. He got super reluctant to change. I said I will contact a plumber but he say he will handle. In the end is asking me to bathe in a certain way he believes the water would stay hot. After his “hack” failed, he started blaming me for bathing too long that’s why the heater spoil. In the end, I contacted a plumber to fix it despite him being unhappy about it.

The same thing happened to his iPhone 7. His phone has been giving him lots of problems for quite a while now. I have asked him to change phone but he always say wait for the latest one to be release. Phone where for latest one? Only have next one. He always get very fed up with his phone because it might hang or crash when he is typing messages (sometimes for work). He keeps hinting me that his phone is down. No way I am going to get him one.

I really never expect him to be so stingy lei. Though We always go on dutch as I never believe in guy paying for everything， But He at least still will buy me gifts and treat me once in a while. And he is quite generous with his friends and my friends when we go out.

Now, he is like, must wait till sales/discount then buy things. Can you imagine we have only one roll of toilet paper left and he still wants to wait see if next week got festive promotion.

I think I need someone to tell me if this is the guy I dated or he is just another person in his skin?

I’m a 32M. Having a 50F as a girlfriend is very stressful.

She has this habit of drinking and getting drunk, after which she start talking nonsense about breaking up. She have a son almost my age. And always wanna break up because i do not have time for her.

I’ve been trying to make plans for both of us. And yet, she doesn’t seems to appreciate. I have my family commitments, she has hers too.

Although she doesn’t really have to bother much about her family, that doesn’t mean i can don’t bother about mine.

I do not why she always put break up as a option. Sometimes i really wonder is she even mature enough to think about our r/s?

Most of the time our meet up will only have 1 ending. Which is the happy ending. Either in car or hotel. But sometimes all i wanted is just someone whom i can share my thoughts with.

Tell me what should i do?

Break off or continue?

Netizens’ comments

1. The next level of Friends with benefits (FWB) is Grandmother With benefits (GWB)
2. Rich? Rich then carry on. Not rich but Lao chio with happy ending then ok la. Else find others. Since you only playing around.
3. Bro, it’s obvious that both parties have different expectations. Don’t take the relationship too seriously and just be happy.
4. You already have the answer. She’s 50 and she’s still behaving this way. Is this someone you see as a future spouse?
5. Dont say until you damn noble….you are also looking for fun…She has a kid as old as you…
   Are you seriously considering marrying her? If not then just break up and find someone your own age
6. Isn’t it super clear the red flag is there, 50 years old and single with a son close to your age. Dosent it says alot?

My friend is in a MLM company. She is pushy af. I ever received more than 30 text messages from her AT ONE SHOT just telling me how great her company and brand is and I should consider buying the products. Organic and natural and ethical blah blah blah.

I was so annoyed my phone kept buzzing I had to silent it and avoided opening my WhatsApp the whole day. When I finally replied one day later, I was blunt and said “Wah you flooded my phone” but she just went on and on even more saying she has such good info so she must share it with me.

So what triggered this rant is she kinda pushed me to purchase something from her. I’m too soft goddamnit. I felt bad also lah cos this is her only source of income and she spent time to sell to me (even without me asking) so I gave in and gave her one small order, hoping to shut her up for a while. I don’t even know how much I need to fork out since she never confirmed the price. Siao liao.

She’s a nice person, helpful and easy to chat with, but definitely not the best salesperson around.

Just wanted to rant, and maybe get some advice how to decline her sales talk without offending her.

So for those who work in MLM, how do you feel being the thick-skinned one who keeps bugging your friends to buy from you? I really very curious what goes on in your head to push your sales like that until you push your friends away. Help lah. Very annoying leh.

Netizens’ comments

1. Block her text messages temporary or dont reply. Trust me. If you buy once, she will keep coming to you.
2. Just block her. Walk away from such friends. No need to paiseh. On both your WhatsApp and on your phone. Cos when she know you block her on WhatsApp, she will spam you on phone text msgs and/or calls.
3. A real blunt person would just say no and ask her to stop selling you stuff.. i did with a friend and he has stopped doing so.. draw the line right from the start

Young and healthy people, stop hogging the lifts!

Would just like to share how inconsiderate people are. Last Friday, me and my hubby went to Causeway Point with our 1 year old in a stroller. So obviously we need to take the lift.

But we waited for almost half an hour to take the lift because why? Because of soooo many inconsiderate ppl! Every lift that stopped at the lobby was full of healthy young ppl with no strollers or trolley.

Even the lobby itself was CROWDED with ppl who are not wheelchair bound, having strolley or trolley.

And when there was finally some space in the lift for us to fit in with the stroller, a mother with primary sch children, rushed past us and went in the lift, leaving us gobsmacked.

So we ended up taking the almost empty escalator. We had to fold and carry the heavy stroller and carry our sleeping child.

I don’t get what is so difficult or inconvenient about taking the escalator if you are healthy and not pushing any trolley or stroller. It’s not like you have to climb the stairs. Please lah people, be more considerate.

Netizens’ comments

1. I’m a mum of 4. 1 is special needs.
   I usually have a double pram or 2 small prams and I just push the stroller onto the escalator.
   You cannot judge people who are healthy or unhealthy. I look normal but I have underlying illnesses. People have their reasons for taking the lift.
   Having a child doesn’t give you privileges, same as in the train. It is out of goodwill people give way or give up their seats. Don’t expect it to happen. People are breathing same air, walking on same ground. They didn’t ask you to have kids or be pregnant. It was your choice to go out with your kid, then you’d have to deal with whatever situation presented to you.
   If you really want it, then open your mouth to ask. Don’t assume people are supposed to give way.
2. Next time just call centre management 1hr before you arrive. Say you have a baby stroller and 1yr old, and need to visit. They will roll out the red carpets and block the lifts for you to use.
   If you’re lucky they provide bodyguards to shove ppl away so you can push your stroller between narrow isles in peace.
3. A child doesn’t grant you that entitlement pls. The lift is for public use. If you’re wheelchair bound and people don’t let you on you have the right to complain cuz you probably don’t have the means to use the stairs or escalator. But you’re also healthy and can carry your sleeping child and the stroller up the escalator. To save yourself the trouble, you can also choose to use a child carrier instead of a stroller.

Boyfriend wants to be a grab driver and do odd jobs – should I leave?

My boyfriend and I, both 26 years old have been together for 3 years. We are both currently working in an MNC and SME respectively, taking home a decent amount of 3k per month. We just signed contract for our BTO that will be coming in 4 years’ time.

Recently, he has been bringing up that he wants to quit his current job to be a grab driver and doing odd jobs, because he feels really tired with working in his current company. He has been bringing this up and discussing with me for the past 5 months.

Upon hearing this, I actually feel scared for my future with him, because the fact that him doing odd jobs might not bring in a stable income like he is currently bringing in.

He did say he plan to take on many shifts a day to aim to hit 4k a month, but I feel skeptical about that, because he is the kind who actually just lazed around at home, playing games and watching netflix during the period he was working from home.

I am unsure if he will really make full use of the time to earn money from odd jobs, given that now he has freedom of how he wants to plan his time. I am worried that I would be the sole breadwinner for the family in the future.

I do have my own dreams and goals to achieve. I want to start my own business but if I were to be the sole breadwinner, a lot of my money would go to the house and I would not have enough capital.

Also, knowing that my boyfriend only has a month’s worth of salary in his savings account and the rest in stocks makes me feel even more rocky.

He did discuss his plan openly with me and although I feel skeptical about it, I don’t want to restrict him in his future planning as well.

What should I do? I did start to have thoughts of leaving this relationship because of this potentially rocky future ahead. Any kind soul out there who encountered this or can give some advice? Greatly appreciated.

$$ never enough in Singapore

Recently I lost my job as my company mention they don’t need me anymore. As in Singapore everything is so expensive. I have kept my saving very close to me and kept around $65k. I’m 31 this year. Left with $200 plus till my next job if I can find. As I’m currently in the middle of the process applying for a house and everything involve $$.

Getting married in Singapore is costly and the next step you need to get a ring. Follow by engagement ring > wedding ring > wedding > renovation cost > household appliances. All this adds up would be around $100k or even more.

She is a partner who enjoys eating out and spend $. She comes from a wealthy family and the pressure is on me. As I’m a middle income family and I can’t do anything more. At the meantime I’m trying to do my best and do what I can. Is not the dream girl of my life. But she have been there and she is super sweet but not so understanding at times.

Is it fair for couples to take steps to save and open a banking account to save up for plans and be sure we have enough $$ before we can settle down and pay. Currently I’m studying to be a industry which can make $$ in future. Kindly advice What should I do?

Netizens’ comments

1. You don’t sound like ‘middle income’ person… more like no income.
   You better tell your fiancé your situation and budget yourselves appropriately..
   i fear because you denying the reality of your situation you still spend like you have ‘income’
2. Tell your partner, she only need to suffer for 5 days in a week. Weekend come to Malaysia, you are the King & Queen here, sprinkle your money like Salt bae, every single SGD has x3 critical hit over here.
3. Dont think about marriage first until u feel that u have enough savings. If she dont understand u now, how is she going to understand u in the future