The other night, my wife met up for drinks with both a current and ex colleague , who are somewhat close guy friends (call them Andrew and Matthew). I didn’t think much of it as this was nothing out of the ordinary. In fact, she even invited to come by towards the end, but I’ve been busy with work etc. so I declined.

Time goes by and I realize it’s been a few hours… OK, she’s catching up with an old coworker, whatever. Finally she calls and tells me she’s coming home. She comes across as a bit loopy and I eventually suggest maybe she’s a bit drunker than she’s letting on.

she comes in and she’s being pretty unreasonable and rude; I try to make it better but to no avail. Eventually, we’re just lying in bed and she’s clearly texting nonstop (to who, I have no idea, yet). She falls asleep and I get to thinking… why is she so, well, bitchy, to me, and apparently the rest of the world is so interesting? She likes her social media, but it was abnormal to see her fingers fly all over the place versus scrolling and occasionally liking/responding/sharing/whatever.

To preface this, we’ve both agreed that we can both look at each other’s phones whenever. We know each other’s passwords and have each other’s fingerprints stored in the other’s phone. Overall her behaviour that night was pretty odd: staying out later than normal, trying to hide her inebriation, being rude when she gets home, and messaging so much. So now my curiosity is piqued, and I grab her phone. You can probably guess that I don’t like what I find. Two chains of texts in particular:

1) Some guy from an even older job talking about how he wished he had a blacklight when he “jizzed on her back”. The conversation seemed to be full of inside jokes and memes, of which I couldn’t quite follow, but mentioned orgasms and such.

Her old-but-more-recent coworker Andrew, about Matt. She deleted it before I/we could look later, but I know for sure I saw the following. Somewhat paraphrasing but this is definitely close:

a) “I would do nasty things to that man if it weren’t for boundaries”

b) “I shouldn’t have a crush like this, I’m a woman who’s almost 30”

c) “Please don’t tell him I love him”

d) “I hope I looked cute enough for him tonight”

The argument got crazy and she finally admit she has been sleeping around with multiple guys for many years. I recorded the conversation secretly. I don’t wanna get any diseases.

Can anyone advise the prices of divorce in Singapore, I already managed to restores the messages and I have collected enough evidence.

My friend has always been overweight. But despite his large size, he has always radiated an aura of confidence and self-assurance that I have never seen in anyone else.

He always looks as though he is sure of himself and his place in this world.

He is an inspiration to me and many of our other friends. He always has a great outlook on life and he never allows himself to be put down or ridiculed for his size. He knows his value and his worth and he is not afraid to show it.

But I always wonder where this confidence comes from. I mean, he is overweight and he people will definitely not find him attractive and he have been the target of ridicule ever seen our school days.

So why does he have so much self-assurance?

My friend always talks about how he looks like the famous Hong Kong actor Andy Lau. He is always citing how he is similar to the actor in terms of his facial features and looks and the way he acts in shows.

But despite this, my friend does not have the same body as the actor. He is much larger and heavier and is definitely no where near Andy Lau.

I guess my friend’s confidence comes from within. He has a strong sense of self-worth and he is not afraid to show it.

Was texting my 17-year-old daughter. She asked me if I wanted anything from the shopping center earlier. She Left school at 1 pm and I said no. She said okay. Two hours later she tells me she’s going back to the store to get slipper.

Why would she suddenly want to rush back just to get slippers when we have a perfect pair there is at home?

I asked why she just didn’t get those earlier and she told me it wasn’t on her mind. I asked her what she went to get earlier then and she told me condoms. (She’s been dating her boyfriend 18M for a year.) Glad she’s being safe. But wow. Very straightforward. Most young adults lie to their parents, I sometimes wish she would do the same to her old man lol

I’m not mad at my daughter. They’re 17 and 18. That’s what late teens do. I was just caught off guard.

Here is what netizens think:

• Honesty between a parent and child is everything. I know it must give op, as well as any good parent anxiety, but it’s really incredible for a child to feel safe enough to be honest. It takes a lot of courage and trust to develop that type of relationship. It will serve you both well. You should be proud of yourself and your daughter, Op. parents everywhere could take a lesson in respect because that’s exactly what love is. You have provided your daughter with a foundation of respect that will carry her through anything. You have gifted her self respect. It’s beautiful.

• Trust me an honest relationship is the best thing to have with a child. I have an honest relationship with my dad and we are very close although I’m nearly 30. I wouldn’t want it any other way.

• Being honest with my parents allowed us to have healthy conversations about alcohol and shit like that. Now at 18, they know what to expect me to do in college, and I will tell them if I’ve been drinking a lot and they’ll give me advice. They know I won’t be really dumb with it because we had those conversations and they shared their own stories.

So my GF smoked cigarettes before we dated and i was a big motivation for
her to end that.

I didn’t bring that up at any time, she decided that herself.

Today i called her to make sure she made it home safe and to say goodnight.

During the call she told me the following:

GF: Hey, i have to confess something to you.

Me: Yes, what is it?

GF: I smoked two cigarettes at my friend’s house.

Me: Okay, I thought you want to quit, you were on an almost 2-month streak?

GF: Yeah, I know. How do you think about that?

Me: I don’t know, you know i don’t like smoking cigarettes but you are free
to do whatever you want. You know that.

GF: Yes i know, are you mad?

Me: Why would i? I’m not particularly happy about it, but I’m not mad. Like i
said, you are free to do whatever you want to do.

GF: Okay, thank you, i love you.

What bothers me is the circumstances of why she did it. She smoked them because
“2 of her friends smoked too.”.

The thing is. I said it would not bother me. It still doesn’t, because i
hold true to my words. But I can’t stop thinking about it. I feel like she did
something bad, but i know she didn’t. Should i tell her my thoughts or let it
rest for good?

What netizens think about it:

• I’ve been on the smoking side of this in a relationship. You have to be ready to quit, not just quitting because of someone else. If you’re not, it’s a losing battle. You can either accept them, smoking and all until they figure it out, or you won’t. I tried to quit for someone because they didn’t like it, and it was doomed to fail and then I had anxiety about letting them down, and they were upset because I broke a promise when it’s literally as addicting for me as caffeine was for them. If anything, support them for whatever they choose, but if you really can’t stand it, don’t lead them onto thinking you can hold out until they quit, because it’ll just foster resentment that neither side can control.
  
• Yeah as a former smoker- your girlfriend is in the grips of a powerful addiction. Don’t underestimate what a hard fight she’s fighting against it. Quitting is not a linear path, and to be honest you can only quit when you REALLY want to with your whole heart. You behaved correctly in this interaction btw. Very admirable. I will recommend Alan Carr’s “The Easy way to quit smoking,” it’s an excellent book. But just recommending or giving it to her has is no guarantee she’ll read it or quit. That outcome deep in her heart.

I got really drunk last night and ended up blowing a bunch of money on Macdonald. I spent 44 dollars possibly just on the food. It was at least 44 dollars total.

I first was just gonna get the 2 apple pies then I thought maybe I would get 2 of those and this and that. Then I noticed the nuggets 20 pack. I ate all of them with several burgers.

It’s bad because they did not modify my order when I requested (and paid extra) for special oprder.. no cheese being one. I got extra mayo and all sorts of things but I don’t think I got it.

I am also lactose intolerant and still ate almost everything anyways. It is now early in the morning and my stomach feels bloated and not very good. I thought I was gonna puke earlier but I think I am OK.

I haven’t done this in a long time but I pull a stunt like this every now and then.

I am a bit disappointed in myself too because my original plan was to make chicken and vegetable fried rice. I had just worked 13 days in a row though and was feeling lazy anyways.

Oh well. Life goes on. I guess it’s OK to blow money every now and then and eat unhealthily – it’s not gonna kill me. I just don’t feel great about it. Oh well.

Here are what netizens think:

• I’m really sorry, but I couldn’t help but laugh while reading this. This is such an iconic stoned story, and I’m sure down the road you’ll look back at this and die of laughter

• I mean you could consider it a reward after working for 2 weeks straight. It sounds like a lot of fun tbh

• Damn spending $44 at mac is actually kinda impressive

• I have this issue too. I can’t stop myself from binge eating if I get too drunk