38 year old PMET here. Did ok in life. Worked a corporate job but have not much to tie me down here besides family.

All the euphoria about the rising property prices in Singapore has to be a top signal. Property prices are falling and mortgage rates are rising globally and somehow, we believe that SG is this invincible bubble?

Something I don’t have the balls and bandwidth to do (yet):

1. Find citizenship elsewhere.

2. Withdraw my CPF.

3. Short the Singapore stock market with the proceeds.

There is no future for me here. This is a country for those born with a golden (silver aint enough) spoon in their mouths.

Looking at our birth rates and unfavourable costs of raising children, we won’t even have the young populace to support the tax burden of maintaining all our healthcare needs in the long run. Our shiny MRTs and other public amenities aren’t cheap to maintain either.

There’s plenty that needs changing before I can believe this is a country which looks out for the future of its younger adults as opposed to maintaining the net worth of the rent-seeking older ones.

This country behaves like there is a perpetual motion machine to prop all this up. I am not that optimistic.

Here are what netizens think:

• Thanks for donating all your money to Singapore economy

• I think because of the crazy inflation affecting cost of living, there is a fear we can’t afford our own country anymore. I as an older person am also anxious that my nest egg seemed to have strunk. Dun feel so secure as before. But where do you suggest to go? It’s seems like due to the more fluid immigration flow, alot of more eligible countries have tightened their immigration laws. Still, this may just be a rough period, we need to ride it out. Inflation affects everywhere.

• Okay, so what are you going to do about it? Being a keyboard warrior won’t change things. They are not going to change. The problem isn’t just them.

Male waiter refused to give me the food I ordered because he “wanted to protect my slim figure”.

I love chicken, I think it is delicious. But it is NOT what I ordered. I ordered knuckles at this restaurant. When the food came out I realized that it was CHICKEN, not pork.

I flagged down my male waiter and pointed out the mistake. His response was winking at me and telling me he gave me the chicken instead because he wanted to help protect my slim figure.

From his expression you could tell he expected me to thank him for being considerate.

Instead I asked for the manager, who thankfully was a woman, and got me the pork taco salad instead.

Netizens’ comments

• As a firmer server, the only times I didn’t get someone what they wanted were 1) When we were out and 2) When they were ordering alcohol and I was cutting them off.

F that dude.Hope he got fired.

• This takes the pink tax to a whole new low!

If I pay $300 for some bougie expensive meal and they give me smaller portions just because I wear my ovaries on the inside, my fists are flying.

It was just a one night stand, but it happened last night.

We’ve had three months of insane fun, love, and security. That all ended tonight. She called me after I got off and told me what happened. That she couldn’t stop herself. That she wanted to but she couldn’t say stop. The man who did it initiated the sex and she didn’t stop him.

I’ve initiated a three-day no contact period as I told her to do whatever with whomever as I gather my thoughts, and pray. This has happened so many times before, and I’m spent emotionally and I’m just numb. If she comes back, I don’t know what to do. To say.

Should I cut the cord on Friday and end it? Should I do it now? Should I just wait and gather myself and let her come back Friday? Should I start over?

Someone, please help.

Here are what netizens think:

• Cut the cord now. You said this has happened multiple times? It’s over.

• she’s cheating 3 months into the relationship. thats so early it’s ridiculous. if she can’t even be loyal in this short term of a period, she won’t be loyal for the rest of it

• You’ve had three months of getting to know each other and enjoying the new relationship high, basically. What you found out during that time is that while she’s fun to be around, she is neither loyal nor that into you. So now you decide whether that’s the kind of partner you are after. If so, by all means continue, but be fully aware of whom you’re choosing to commit to. Praying and not texting her for three days is obviously not going to change who she is and what she has to offer.

• it’s only been 3 months, staying with someone who cheated on you after 3 months is not worth it and you’re barely 21. her excuses are whole bunch of bs as well. she couldn’t stop herself? really?!??? just dump the girl.

I like to pretend to be a boy

It’s pretty weird but I like to pretend I’m a boy sometimes (I’m a girl). I’m not referring to trans people as they aren’t pretending.

But like sometimes I’ll randomly be all ‘how cool would it be I was a dude’ or try to dress in a way that’s more masculine just for the heck of it.

I honestly pretend I’m alot of things, cat, princess, elf, prince whatever I’m in the mood for.

I’ve never told anyone (I’m 16 and so too old to play pretend) but Idk just wanted to tell someone

Netizens’ comments

• You’ll be playing pretend more often in your life then you realize, you have to do it as an adult all the time.

• Consider getting into drag spaces! There aren’t only drag queens but also drag kings too. You don’t have to be Trans to participate in those spaces and if it’s a type of self expression you like then you can have a lot of fun with like minded people!

• tbh i used to that and turned out trans lmao

• Do whatever you want and enjoy being yourself 👍

• “Too old to play pretend” pffft. Have you seen cosplayers? You’re never too old!

How did your neighborhood Ah Beng in the early 2000s afford car, gold chains, ciggies?

As someone who just hit 30 with a degree and is currently working, it boggles my mind how the adults in early 2000s seemed to be able to afford all the cool hobbies like car, cigarettes etc.

Nowadays I find finance to be quite tight and only spend occasionally on travels. Some of my friends only have hobbies like online gaming and still feel tight financially without girlfriends.

For those who lived the life, Was life as fun as it looks back then?

Netizens’ comments

1. Cars and cigarettes were pretty cheap then. For context, you could purchase a packet of cigs for $2.50 (Benson & Hedges) back then. This was why a lot of secondary school kids tried smoking for fun (and eventually got addicted) because they could simply chip in to share a packet. Now, a packet of cigs minimally cost an upwards of $13?
   As for gold chains, it’s not like they buy a new one every other week. Some could be gifts from parents/grand-parents and some gold chains aren’t very expensive.
   Lastly, some of these ah bengs did illegal businesses probably.
2. You’d be surprised by how much tacky shit you can buy if you have no concept of saving for a rainy day.
   In other news, today’s headline: The 2020s will see an increasing number of washed up bengs who cannot afford kidney dialysis.
   God I wonder why.
3. There were many illegal activities in early 2000s. Not as available now after years of getting raid, a lot of vice activities got clamped down. It can be as simple as modding game consoles and sell copy game discs, or illegal dens and KTVs.
   In reality, they spend a lot. Never save money one. You can be flashy if you want.

Why do I feel that NSFs and Regulars are not being appreciated in SG compared to other countries?

So speaking from my Ns experience, I know that in other countries like US, people will say thanks for your service and show their appreciation when you are wearing a uniform in public.

They will offer you seat in subways or sometimes put the bill on the house when you went out to eat and didn’t bring enough money. Like u feel sort of appreciated and respected for the service to the country even though its small gesture.

But in SG, when you book out after a long training and sit on mrt and bus some people especially boomers expect you to stand all the way because you are a soldier and when you talk to people about signing on they will tend to say most people sign on because they can’t find good jobs outside or something like that.

This sort of reduce the morals. And in camps, some people will change into civilian clothes when booking out instead of wearing the uniform proudly because they don’t want to wear an army uniform or something like that. I feel that this is sort of wrong as you are serving your country and you should be appreciated.

Any thoughts?

Netizens’ comments

1. Because sinkies have never experienced war. The day they get saved by them is when they will start respecting them.
2. Got difference between conscripts who never fought in combat Vs soldiers who actually risked their lives.
3. In China, there are dedicated lanes in airports & high speed rail stations for soldiers to use (e.g. to travel home or travel to camp for training). There are also discounts at tourist attractions for soldiers and their family members.
4. Because many of us do NS also. What’s there to thank you merely for doing your duty? Other country, its voluntary so people are grateful.
5. Respect? You serve NS, other people also serve NS…
6. Why not you start first. Initiate the trend by saluting and greeting out loud towards any uniformed personnel, make sure to also verbally thank them for their service.
7. Next time you take MRT, just shout MRT DIAM! then ask the NSF for permission to carry on lor.

Im a 27 years old with only Olevel cert trying to start over

Im a 27 years old single and nothing to show for it. After graduating with o level, i did get myself into a diploma course in Poly.

Turned out it was not the course that i wanted and i naively dropped out from it.. At that time my mental health took for the worst.

At that time too, i know i do not have any mental capacity to continue study so i start working in retail.. i jumped from retail to retail shop for years.

After tht i have to stop working to be the caretaker for my grandparents who were bedbound and navigating my father who is also recently half blind.

Skiped to 2 years. Since i stop being the caretaker. I want to start anew. I want to start thinking for myself and my future.

My plan is to start going back to the workforce to earn money for myself. Also i know i have a lack of education and there is small scope of job that i can get into.

My plan is to work and enroll myself to a part time diploma in poly if i am eligible(i regret not starting earlier).

Is there any advice or a way that i can continue studying and still earning income? Any advice for me when starting over? I really do need to start over.

Netizens’ comments

1. You can sign up for a free 1 to 1 consultation with SkillsFuture – they will advise you on upskilling, what courses you’re suitable for and the available grants and subsidies etc.
   You already have experience in retail and home caregiving for the elderly, so those are things you can offer in addition to your O level cert. If you don’t mind a career related to either of those areas, enrol in a certificate or diploma to layer more up-to-date knowledge and skills on top of your existing experience. The elder care industry will only be expanding in coming years, given our aging population.
2. You have something to show for it. You showed that you are able to have the patience, strength (physical) and likability to have 2 very old people and 1 disabled person trust you to let you take care of them. You obviously don’t shy away from bodily fluids or showering them.
   It looks like retail is not for you if you are hopping from place to place. I wouldn’t suggest sales either because of your mental health. income is great if you can take serious pressure and not crack.
   Why not consider palliative care or Senior care industries (not just in nursing). These people are usually highly sought after and paid quite well, not just in Singapore but anywhere in the world. These companies sometimes offer further education to you so you don’t pay anything.
3. friend. you have working experience now and you can directly enroll yourself into a part time diploma with kaplan, which will allow you direct entry into their affiliated universities degree programs(which you can also do part time)
   without any financial support from anyone, its quite important that you got a day job to finance your tuition bank loan, which is why doing both your diploma and then degree part time is a good solution
   what do you like to do? finance? HR? business management?cybersecurity?

Colleagues who are not pulling their weight

Just a rant…I have colleagues who are frequently on sick leave or excused from meetings because their family members (it can be anyone from children to adults) suddenly fell sick and they needed to rush home to take care of them.

Granted we want to take care of the staff welfare so they are always allowed to take the leave (to the extent the management will proudly exclaim that they will let them take the leave without any question asked) but lately it has become obvious that some are taking advantage of the situation.

Also, this is definitely not showing welfare to those who take their work seriously and show up every day because they are expected to pick up the slack and take over the workload. This is basically just punishing people who are earnest and responsible.

Does this issue happen at your workplace? How does the management at your workplace handle this issue?

But what I have noticed is once you are branded as the hardworking ones and you try to take such leave, people will mark you down more compared to those who skived blatantly.

Yet another time responsible people are being penalised over those who don’t even have integrity and do their work properly

Netizens’ comments

1. Eh come on man.. have some sympathy… put yourself in their shoes ok??
   How would YOU feel if your grandma’s uncle’s big brother passed away for the 3rd time this year already????
2. Either suck it up or change company.
   Culture doesn’t change overnight and culture starts at the top. You are powerless at your level to change a company’s culture.
3. This is something u voice out to ur manager, if the dead weight impacts u. For manager to tell u that they are aware and ensuring u are equitably treated, give u more bonus or hire more ppl etc

Size of a woman doesn’t matter

I (26 m) have always been attracted to a nice, fit body, and only slept with two different women before (both were “fit” and skinny).

Last night, a friend (23f) of mine since high school asked if we couldn’t hang at night.

Mind you, she’s a bigger woman and I’ve always wanted to date her but things wouldn’t work out with our situations and other commitments. Anyways, she comes over and things led to another and we ended up in my room watching a horror movie.

We ended up cuddling, which lead to kissing, which lead to a 3 hour, stop-start fest in my room. And I can honestly say it was the best experience ever!

I was turned on not by her body, but by the way she made me feel. Confident. I’m not the best looking person, and I’m not big down there either, but she made me feel like any woman should make a man feel.

Mind you, there was a few times things got awkward but we laughed it off and checked on each other. I never thought I would have fun with her the way I did. I would do it all over again 🙂

It was experience I will never forget. <3

Netizens’ comments

1. Sounds like you like her and the feeling is mutual.
2. You caught the sickness for the thickness.
3. Thick thighs save lives.
4. Glad you realized that there are many characteristics to a woman and size is just one.
5. Everyone is saying this is so wholesome but it’s not. He’s not even attracted to her. He just likes how she made him feel. Replace her with any woman and he would feel the same. It’s really not a compliment to this woman.
6. I would like to know what you consider big please.
7. It’s crazy how so many men get so caught up in appearances while looking like a toad.
8. Sounds like you need to take her out on some proper dates and look into wifing her up.

Know anyone who has won toto or 4d big prize?

Hey guys so was reading about the recent 13m toto win. I’m very curious to hear from people who have actually won or directly know someone who won.

In the 30 years I’ve play most I have ever won is $200. So really curious if there are actual winners walking in our midst.

The other part is how did this money change their life (hopefully for the better).

Netizens’ comments

1. One family member won 500k, gambled it back in a year. Only change to life was the new fridge his wife made him buy. At least now got ice maker
2. One of my uncles, won 2m+. Has always been a super frugal guy and still is. Dint succumb to lifestyle creep, still works his normal job cause he says retire so early also nothing to do lol. Apart from the normal monthly dinners which he now always pays for, nothing much has changed. You wouldn’t know he is a millionaire from the way he dresses and the car he drives.
3. I bought a ticket from an auntie selling tickets at a hawker.
   I won 1000 dollars. Paid for my trip to Thailand.
   I never saw auntie again after that I would have bought her something nice. I like to think that she won millions that day and is now relaxing somewhere.
4. My grandfather passed away when my father was 18. Shortly after, my father won 4D, first prize. The prize money paid for the funeral, tomb stone, and help them tide through the difficult period because my grandmother was a housewife and he has younger siblings still in school.
   Fast forward 50 years, he still talks about how 4D saved his live.
5. My friend’s dad won 700k from 4D iirc, but he gave away a lot to family/relatives etc so not much was left after. We were only in secondary school/poly that time and my friend received I think around 10-15k from her dad from that windfall?
   Also worth noting that he usually spends a lot on the bets so the 700k win compared to the amount he spent accumulated over the years might not be a lot….
   I also had relatives who won 4d one of the top 3 prizes here and there, not life-altering amounts but enough for them to treat the entire extended fam (at least 50 pax) to a meal at a restaurant.
6. One of my men won 200-300k on 4D during NS.
   Just enabled him to finance his conviction to keep buying after that. He would buy like 200 big 200 small for every draw.
   Never hear of him winning anything for the rest of NS. Figured he must have returned his winnings to Singapore Pools by now.
7. Family member won 200k and lost it all on penny stocks :/
8. My dad won 4D first prize over 30 years ago. It was quite memorable. He always buys the same number (our old family car). On the day, my relatives came over for our regular family dinner and everyone wanted to check 4D before dining. We switched on the old teletext (??) and found out that my dad had struck first prize. At this point, he wasn’t home from work yet. So everyone hatched a plan to act blur.
   We kids were excited and we were warned not to spoil the surprise. Dad came home and my mum casually mentioned that everyone should check 4D before having dinner. Everyone played their roles and took out their tickets. But we were ALL just watching him and smiling at one another.
   He looked at the ticket, looked at the screen, looked at the ticket, walked up to the TV, and looked at his ticket one last time. I think he yelped. That sheer joy. Everyone laughed, clapped and teased him. He was deliriously happy. What’s that saying? Shared joy is twice the joy?