I’ve been that coworker with the seniority/experience and helping train those who are new. I answer their questions or tell them what they did wrong with kindness and understanding. I understand how it is to be new and not fully know everything.

why must there be those coworkers who act like you’re an idiot or give attitude if you don’t know how to do every single thing? I never thought once to be condescending towards someone who is still learning.

For example, instead of my coworker telling me something and explaining why it was wrong, they asked me a question and waited for me to answer then explained it. it was the SIMPLEST, stupidest mistake. sure, I gained some knowledge and will be using that from now on, but I’m not a child. be direct.

While I’m still okay with that attitude but some of them even scream at me for the most minor things. Just imagine the volume is one bus stop away also can hear one.

I’m not sensitive and love to take advice or others’ knowledge from them, but not when it’s said in a demeaning way.

Respect

I tried talking to my boss about it but he just brush me off and said that they are old and we should just leave it and respect them.

In my heart, I was thinking “yes, everyone is different and that’s why the word respect exists”. For me I think respect is something earned and not demanded, I’m not demanding respect from the older workers but I think that everyone deserves a bit of basic respect and not speak to another demanding person like he or here is a child.

To be honest, I’m not that young either and I will never treat others like this. People like that make us want to quit the job I worked hard for.

So my fiancé has been raving about a birthday gift he’s planned on giving to me, he said it was sentimental because I told him I wanted more items of my own since I don’t have much money.

He said this gift was going to be $450 and I’m not materialistic but I was so happy he was getting a really thought-out gift and wanted to spend that much. Even though I told him multiple times he really doesn’t have to spend that much.

Anyways, today he tells me my gift is that he plans on giving me the Xbox I bought him for HIS birthday last year and spending money on a PlayStation for himself to replace it.

I said, “so basically you’re giving me something I’ve already paid for and getting yourself a new PlayStation..?” And he said “ugh if you’re gonna react and put it like that… never mind now I feel like Im having the worse day of my life and I don’t want to talk about it” so now it’s this whole ordeal.

I don’t if I’m for responding in a correct way to him.

Here are what netizen thinks:

• Wow, your boyfriend sounds like a moron to me! First, he tells you the value of this gift, which is weird and like he’s boasting about it. Then the fact it’s just his old X-Box that you gave to him? Then HE gets mad at YOU?

• He sounds like an extremely immature boy to me. He needs to do some growing up fast! Maybe this is a sign of too much gaming instead of getting out into the real world and finding out what life is REALLY like and how society actually works.

• All he’s trying to do is save himself the hassle of selling it on Carousell/Ebay. What an utter moron.
• He made out like it was a gift for you, when it was 100% a gift for him. He must know on some level that he’s done an awful thing, because of his reaction. 
• Your reaction is accurate & valid.

As others are sharing their accomplishments and professional successes, I find myself harboring concerns about my own career trajectory.

After dedicating several initial years to a corporate firm, I decided to quit when the company had to reduce its workforce due to the pandemic. Fortunately, I wasn’t subjected to a layoff, but the firm demanded exceptionally long working hours.

Driven by my passion for working with children with special needs, I transitioned into the special education field. The school welcomed me with open arms.

Nevertheless, my experience was not entirely as expected, as special education teachers like myself do not receive the level of support and protection we deserve from the school.

To clarify, this means that in situations where special needs students exhibit aggressive behavior, there is no appropriate recourse.

It deeply unsettled me to think that teachers like us do not have even a basic form of safeguard provided by the institution. Unfortunately, this remains the reality, and there is no sign of change on the horizon.

After leaving the SN industry, it was tough returning to the finance industry as I had been away for a few years. I managed to finally get a job after 6 months of searching.

Things didnt turn out as planned and I left after 5 months.

Once again the job search begins.

Sometimes, I look back and wonder if I made a mistake anywhere and would have changed something if I had the chance to. But back then when I was applying for the job, i wouldnt know how the company and job would truly be like until I’ve actually started it. There wasn’t much I could do or change actually.

I’m just really disappointed that my career has turned out like that. It has been around 8 years since I’ve graduated and my peers are earning much more with better prospects too. But thinking about it I don’t think I’m very much far off from them in terms of aptitude and attitude. I was willing to work and give my best always.

I cant help but feel that you really need the element of luck in building a career and finding the right job. I must admit I totally did not see myself having a career path like this.

Anyone else’s career did not turn out as planned or you know of people’s who didn’t? Is that common among most graduates?

Help me with my finances, I can’t seem to save money at all.

At times I find myself in need of guidance and seeking opinions.

I am a 30-year-old man with several years of work experience. Presently, my monthly income stands at approximately $17,000.

On many occasions, I experience a genuine sense of financial challenge, as I struggle to accumulate sufficient savings and investments. Trying to achieve a savings rate of 50% proves to be quite tough, and I believe that in order to retire sooner, I must aim to save and invest at least $10,000. However, even with this target in mind, it seems insufficient.

When talking with friends and family they don’t seem to understand as I do not come from wealth and everyone thinks that I’m entitled.

Frankly, I feel that I should be asking for a raise of perhaps around 25% more (not joking) and work isn’t easy as well to begin with.

How would you guys allocate your money? Do u think I’m saving too much? Maybe I should spend more? How much do y’all save that is hitting your retirement goal?

Am I earning too little? Like honestly, I don’t smoke, drink or have a car but still feel like I’m struggling sometimes trying to spend within 5k monthly for myself…

A bit at a lost here…

Netizens’ comments

• 17k, but cannot save 5k. I think you failed badly. Moreover 30 yo. Means not mature enough to handle money, don’t know what is priority in life..
• I think barring the fact of your income, if you’re in your 30s and having not much liabilities/debts, 5K/m should be more than enough to survive. If you’re spending too much you prob have to calculate where your expenses go.
  Also, are your peers around you earning waay more than you? Is that why you might be stressed on it?
  A surplus of ~12K/m, about 144K a year is really a good savings record. You should be happy about that!!

Married w/ 3 Adult kids. All employed and moved out. Six months ago, 24-year-old single Daughter asked to move back home for a year to help save for an apartment. We agreed and charged her only a small rent (that I planned to give back if she met her savings goals).

My wife and I went on a staycation. My daughter, without our knowledge, held a party at the house. Upon return, we noted items in the house damaged or missing. My daughter admitted to what happened and committed to paying for damaged/stolen items.

I was upset and felt the privacy and sanctity of ‘my castle’ was violated. It made me sick to my stomach that strangers I didn’t know were in my house and pilfered through my stuff. I got over it and we moved on. However, I made it very clear to my daughter that NO VISITORS were allowed in our house in the future unless we were present and/or approved in advance.

Fast Forward to the Holidays. After Christmas, my wife and I went on another 3-day staycation.

Prior to leaving, I installed a wireless ‘nanny-cam’ device in the living room that is hooked up to the internet. I did it on my own without advising my wife and daughter – Kind of like a ‘Trust-but-Verify’ situation.

After a day, I logged into the camera about 9:00 PM and although there wasn’t a party going on, my daughter had a guy in the house engaging in an activity I can’t unsee. I quickly turned the computer off and told my wife…..

She accused me of violating my daughter’s trust and dignity. She immediately called my daughter and advised that I was ‘spying’ on her – and our mini-getaway devolved into a series of mean-spirited comments and silent treatment. Upon our return home, my daughter was in the process of moving out, and without getting into specifics, I’m apparently the equivalent of poop.

In my defense, what I saw for all of 5 seconds was not expected on my part. Our daughter wasn’t in a relationship or even dating. Further, she violated my explicit rule of not having guests over….and there was only a single camera that covered the living room – not an area where there is normally an expectation of privacy.

Although it’s embarrassing all around, I don’t think I am wrong. I believe I was within my rights to protect and surveillance my house in the manner that I did. Wife’s position is that I had no right to put a camera in the living room without her knowledge, and daughter’s position is that if she knew about the camera, she wouldn’t have invited anyone over, but nevertheless believes she did nothing wrong, as she was a rent-paying adult, and was entitled to have a single person over, and what I did was a gross invasion of her privacy.

For the record…I didn’t pass judgment. Daughter is a mature adult and could have engaged in whatever legal activity she chose – Just not in my house involving another person.

So here I am just over a week later, looking for the opinion of strangers on the internet? Am I wrong?

Discovering that my friends introduced me to my girlfriend as a joke was a profound shock, compounded by the revelation that they had all slept with her in the past. I find myself in a state of disbelief, uncertain about the appropriate course of action.

I am currently 22 years old and have been in a relationship with my girlfriend, also 22, for a duration of four years. These years have undoubtedly constituted the most meaningful and cherished period of my life. She possesses a unique charm.

Her sense of humor is nothing short of remarkable, frequently spreading laughter to those around her. As an artist, she showcases an immense creative talent that never fails to astound me.

One of the most remarkable aspects of her personality is her unceasingly happy outlook. She radiates positivity, and her outgoing nature ensures that she is the life of every gathering.

But wow, it’s been so amazing being with her. My friends introduced me to her when we all graduated from school, and we immediately bonded.

We’re both into comics, anime, marvel/DC, dungeons and dragons – we had so much in common, we just because super close very quickly.

The fact we had so much in common made it easy for us to spend time together, going to conventions, anime events, game tournaments, superhero films – this all of course led to us officially becoming a couple, and the rest is history.

My parents also are in love with her, which is honestly the cherry on top. It’s nice to see my be so welcoming towards my girlfriend, although they’ve gotten a little protective towards her like parents lol.

I plan to propose to my girlfriend later this year, as we always joke about getting married, having a weird geeky wedding & starting a family – and I really want that so much, so proposing to her is my main goal of 2022. Fingers crossed she says yes! I really hope so.

Now this is where my friends come in. I have 3 close friends of mine, friends I grew up with. We all split up a few months after school, they left to further their studies so right now we all either just talk through zoom chat or I go visit them once in a while. I decided to be close to family and my girlfriend. Well I told my friends that I plan to propose to ashley, that I’m believe I’m 100% ready to start a family with her & how excited I am to see how it goes. They kept asking if was serious, even calling me a dumbass. They really were going at it with me, quite roughly. I just figured they hated the idea of marriage, so I ignored their comments. That’s when they told me the truth, and holy crap the proof they had made it even worse.

They all said they met my girlfriend 8 years ago at midnight bowling, they met her through a friend of theirs that invited her that night.

I don’t know this other friend at all, so I can’t say who it is. That’s how they all met, they thought she was hot and cool so they stayed in contact with her.

After that my friends still continued hanging out with my girlfriend, playing video games, anime – and of course, bedroom activities. They told me they’ll “pass her around the group” for fun, and that’s practically why they were friends with her.

They kept using the word cheap, which crawled into my skin in such a negative way. So pretty much they just kept my girlfriend around for intercourse, all 3 of my close friends have slept her plenty of times.

This lasted a good portion of school, but of course I didn’t know my girlfriend at this time cause she attended another school.

They decided they’ll introduce her to me because they wanted to see if I can also “get lucky”, that it was all a joke to see if I can also end up sleeping with her.

I didn’t believe any of it, but my heart completely shattered when they showed proof from instgram messages. It was nothing inappropriate like pics or anything, they just showed me that they all indeed keep in contact with her in the past.

And you know what they did? They made me the “dumb guy” and made all this a joke. They said I’m a dumbass for dating her, that I should’ve known better.

They didn’t expect me to date her at all, that my girlfriend was going to act “slutty” towards but they were surprised she didn’t. How the hell am I suppose to have known better? Friends introducing friends to a boy/girl is a normal thing, that’s how i interpreted all of this.

Also I had no idea about their history with my girlfriend, so them saying “I should’ve known better” is ridiculous. I didn’t see my girlfriend as an object like them, I saw her a friend that I ended up falling in love with.

She treated me very kindly, comforted me whenever I was sad, told me how much she loved me – we fell for each other, It wasn’t just intercourse.

The only reason my friends told me this was because they think me getting married to her is “too far”, so they expected me knowing the truth would lead to me dumping her. “She’s too cheap man, just let her go” one of my friends said.

I just got off the chat, and they’ve been sending me non-stop texts ever since. I haven’t replied, I don’t feel like talking to my friends at the moment.

I approached my girlfriend about this, and I instantly regretted it. She broke down completely, which I’ll admit kinda teared me up. I’ve never seen her panic so much, she was freaking out as if someone died.

She kept apologizing, telling me she’s never slept with anyone else while with me & saying she didn’t know about the joke my friends were doing. She told me my friends simply invited her to hang out, and during the hang out they introduced her to me. That’s how it all went, she says she wasn’t aware of a “plan” or anything.

“You probably think I’m cheap, right?” Is what she kept saying, which just hurt me to hear. She told me she loved me, that to please just ignore my “friends” to to not break up with her. I just told her I loved her as well, and that what I know doesn’t change my feelings towards her.

She still thinks I’m going to break up with her, which I won’t ever do. I just kept her in my arms, that’s all I could do. I didn’t want her panicking, so I just comforted her.

I’ve been with this incredible girl for 4 years, created beautiful memories with her & I’m not going to let what my friends have said to me ruin what I have with her.

I’m not mad at my girlfriend, why should I be mad? She didn’t do anything wrong, her past is her past & it’s not of my business.

Who she sleeps with is none of my concern, my feelings towards her haven’t changed – I love her with all my heart, i always will. I’m mad at my so-called friends, because one being they’re taking all of this as a joke, speaking of my girlfriend awfully – and the other being that this all started as a little joke between them.

They didn’t have good intentions when they introduced me to ashely, they simply “passed her to me” thinking I was going to treat her like a toy or a piece of meat.

I’m just shocked, that’s what I am. This whole thing has been mentally stressing me out, and I wish I didn’t know about it.

I love my girlfriend, but I’ll admit the thought of her with my friends hurts me. I’ve cut all contact with my “friends” these past couple of days, I’ve been ignoring their calls and texts – and there’s a ton of them. I just don’t know what to do, I really don’t.

Also the thought of my girlfriend immediately sleeping with my friends kinda bugs me, because me and her took it slow. Maybe she did care about me compared to my friends, and didn’t want to hop straight into bed.

I also think this because even my friends said she didn’t act “slutty” towards me, that she actually cared about me. You see, these are the stupid thoughts I’m getting in my head & I hate it.

I’m personally still going to propose to my girlfriend, I’m not leaving her. I plan to cut contact with my friends and simply focus on my future. If any of you have any advice to share, I’ll greatly appreciate it. I definitely need to relax my mind, that’s for sure.

I hate being a woman. I don’t hate having the external physical appearance, but having a uterus feels like such a fucking burden. I’m only 19, I know, but intimacy with men never feels safe.

I never feel like I fully own my body, I have to sacrifice my autonomy to chance (even tho I’m on birth control that 1% still terrifies me).

I want to remove this burden from my body. I want to own myself. I feel bad for hating kids, especially when there are people in my life who love them, I feel bad for hating everything about pregnancy.

I had a nightmare where I was looking into the mirror and I was suddenly pregnant and looking at my pregnant belly. I don’t think it’s normal to hate having a uterus this much.

I got my period when I was 12! I WAS A CHILD WHEN I COULD START HAVING KIDS. My body doesn’t fucking care, it’s betraying me.

I get so distressed about this I feel like I can’t breathe.

I was feeling really low and out of control of my body when I wrote this. I wanted to say that I don’t actually hate children, they simply remind me of my own anxieties around pregnancy and hatred of my body—which of course is not their fault!

Also I wanted to say that you don’t have to be a woman to have these feelings. anyone of any gender can feel this way about their uterus. I really appreciate all of y’all and relate to many of you deeply.

My sister’s financial situation is incredibly challenging, beyond any reasonable understanding.

To be honest, my sister’s life is quite chaotic. I can’t think of a single family member who likes her husband, and she became pregnant with him at the age of 18, which led her to drop out of school.

However, I’ve always believed in the principle of not meddling in someone else’s affairs if it doesn’t directly concern me. That was my mindset until our parents guilt-tripped me into assisting her with managing her finances, mainly because I work in the field of financial technology, and they are clueless about what it truly involves.

Over the past two weeks, I’ve been dedicating my time to helping my sister and her husband navigate their challenging financial circumstances. She is currently working part-time, putting in just 8 hours a week, while her husband earns a modest income of around $1,800 as a cleaner.

They are under a mortgage for a home they cannot afford, have 2 kinds with a third on the way, and neither of them seems to have any motivation to try and find better jobs to pay off their loans despite this being a worker’s economy at the moment.

Despite all this though, until 2 days ago I thought they could at least pull their heads above water. The only debts that they told me they had were the mortgage and a single credit card.

I helped them a few hours over the weekends but noticed that something was not adding up at all. They refused to show me raw bank statements, giving me rough estimates for outgoing charges or edited statements to “help me understand their account better.”

I knew they were both lying to me and I told them last Saturday I’m done helping them unless they’re honest with me. Sister finally fessed up and told me they were hiding debts and loans from me because “she was embarrassed” and “didn’t want mom and dad to know how bad it was.”

I was annoyed but told her to give me EVERYTHING and let me look over it this week alone to come in this weekend with an actual strategy to help out.

Folks, dumb and dumber are roughly 115 thousand dollars in debt between them. This does not include their mortgage and loans after loans.

Some of the highlights include:

• 6 maxed-out credit cards
• a handful of debts I cannot figure out where they got them from
• a car loan that they can’t afford
• other miscellaneous loans

I don’t know how in gods good name these two have survived this long. They bleed over a thousand dollars a month just paying the minimums on all this and have been living off credit cards for probably a long time.

My brother-in-law asked me if I had taken a look at what they sent me last night. He said he was excited to hear my “silver bullet strategy” while I downed shot after shot of whisky reading this nightmare they’ve involved me in.

There is no silver bullet, these two are doomed. I’m not going over Saturday. I’m gonna tell them to find a bankruptcy lawyer and hope they survive whatever process comes from that.

Not my monkey, not my circus.

I grew up in a very strict family never had any interaction with other females in school or outside, and I dealt with my sadness by overeating.

Eventually I made it into unvicersity but I became fat and ugly, and I felt hopeless about my virginity so I just decided to lose it to a prostitute.

It felt really good and I wanted more, because I saw no need to improve myself and pay for dates only to get ghosted, I can just hire a prostitute and cut out all the unnecessary bullsht and get laid straight away.

It was how my addition began.

6 years later and I’ve slept with at least 250 women, at one point I was seeing at least 2 or 3 a week, one at a nearby massage parlor and then whoever was available.

Of those 250ish I’d say at least half were without a condom (hated the feel of them and the normal ones were a bit too tight) and I always finished inside. I’d get tested every 3 months and it still amazes me that I never caught anything.

After about 6 years I had a regular that I’d usually see once a week, we’d always over-run our time and chat away afterwards.

She’d describe the house and business she was building back home, how she sends most of her money back to her family and that her plan was to only do this work for another year or so before going back home permanently.

She’d always ask why a nice guy like me didn’t have a girlfriend, I’d point to my belly and we’d laugh. Perhaps it was out of pity, but we began to hang out and she’d never ask for payment. We’d go back to her home and just hang, play games and have a drink.

I began to develop feelings perhaps, or realized that what I wanted wasn’t intercourse necessarily but a relationship. We talked about it and I decided to stop seeing her, I cancelled all my accounts and decided to work on myself.

8 years later and I’ve lost all the weight, become somewhat attractive and got married to a woman I met at a bookshop. We talked about past relationships and I told her I’d only ever been with 2 women. I’ve opened my heart to her and she knows all my secrets, but this is something I’ll take to my grave.

I always did the full-screen tests and before we started dating we both got tested for her peace of mind, nothing has ever appeared. I always used a fake name, a burner phone and I look significantly different now.

What prompted me to make this post is that I decided to look up the regular girl I used to see, not out of a need to cheat but curiosity. She’s still working sadly and I decided not to reach out. With this though, at least my secret is out.