I recently had one of the most absurd experiences I’ve ever had as a job applicant. I applied for a job that only paid a measly $2,800 a month. I was already sceptical about the salary, but I decided to give the company a chance and see what was up.

Little did I know that this would become one of the most ridiculous job interviews of my life. After I applied for the position, the company asked me to come in for an interview. This is not uncommon, so I thought nothing of it.

But then, things got strange. After my first interview, the company asked me to come in for a second interview. I was a bit taken aback but I figured that some companies like to be thorough in their hiring process.

But then, the company asked me to come in for a third interview. At this point, I was starting to get concerned. I had already spent a few hours of my time interviewing and I wondered what more they wanted to ask me.

It turns out, the company wanted me to come in for a third interview in order to “get to know me better”. I was a bit taken aback by this request. I mean, what more did they need to know about me? I had already shared a lot of information about myself during the previous two interviews.

At this point, I was feeling frustrated. I had already invested a lot of time in this process and the company was only offering a paltry salary. I was starting to think that this was a waste of my time.

However, I decided to go through with the third interview. It was a long and tedious process and I was starting to feel overwhelmed. After I finished the third interview, I was ready to leave and never look back.

But then, the company asked me to come in for one final interview. This was the last straw. I could not believe that a company was asking me to go through four rounds of interviews for a job that only paid $2,800 a month.

This is a ridiculous request and I am not alone in feeling this way. Many people who have gone through similar experiences have expressed the same sentiment. Companies should not expect applicants to go through multiple rounds of interviews for a job that pays such a low salary.

It is absurd to ask someone to spend so much time interviewing for a job that pays so little. Companies should be more considerate of the time and effort that job applicants put into the process and should offer a salary that is commensurate with the effort.

In the end, I decided to turn down the job. It was just not worth it to me to spend so much time and energy for a job that paid such a low salary. Companies should be more reasonable when it comes to the amount of effort they expect applicants to invest.

Dealing with debt can be a harrowing experience, especially when it involves a close friend who owes you a substantial sum of money. In this article, we will explore a scenario where a friend borrowed $60,000 back in June 2020, and the repayment has been sporadic, causing frustration and strained relationships. The borrower’s recent decision to block communication on WhatsApp has left you pondering your options. Is it time to seek professional assistance to recover your money? We’ll discuss whether hiring a lawyer or opting for a debt collector is the best course of action.

The Borrowing Dilemma

How to recover $60,000 from friend

A close friend borrowed $60k from me back in June 2020 and he has been returning me in small payments like $500 every one two months. I am running out of patience waiting for him to pay me back plus recently he blocked me on whatsapp. That’s the last straw and so I want to engage a professional to collect the debt back. Getting a lawyer will cost me up to $15k as this would be considered a civil case so I want to check if going to a legal debit collector is cheaper? Any good recommendations or experiences which anyone can share with me would be deeply appreciated?

Here are what netizens think:

• $500 every 1-2months continually is actually quite decent tbh. Understand that you want your money back asap but have you asked him how was his financial situation like? I wouldn’t push a friend who is already in financial hardship that hard, and drive him or her up the wall. No wonder he’s blocked you.

• If there is no legal contract, what you need are competent debt collectors, not lawyers. 50/50 split.

• Lol few hundred also hard to get back.. let alone 60k

“Jane” and I have been together about 2 years and we are in our late 20s. She’s in the process of getting her diploma and She works at a hospital in the meantime.

I work in finance and have a pretty steady job that I like. We’ve lived together the past year and split things 50/50, along with having our own separate accounts. During Covid, Jane lost a bunch of shifts and was having a hard time paying for school along with the bills.

Her laptop broke and she couldn’t do school without it. She asked for help and I told her I didn’t like loaning money out, but I knew she needed these things. So I stepped up and paid for a new laptop, a few bill.

She knew this was a loan and she would need to pay it back. I’m very fiscally organized and have little funds set up for things (vacation fund, going-out fund, golfing fund etc). I decided to use my golf fund for this but explained to Jane that I planned on getting new clubs this year and needed to be paid back by the start of golf season.

To establish a timeline, I paid for her things in august and was expecting to be paid by February as that was when golf season starts around here.

It wasn’t an absurd amount of money, less than $1,500.

Well she’s hardly paid anything back. At first she made a couple “payments”. But this would just be her giving me $15 in cash and saying “use this towards my debt”. I started an excel sheet to track anything she gave me so I knew how much she still owed.

She found this to be offensive saying it was like I was “babysitting” her. I said that it wasn’t to be rude but just to track it so there wasn’t any arguments about it. I’ve sat her down multiple times to say that I needed to see some bigger more consistent payments being made because I needed to custom order my clubs and that takes months. And that I couldn’t order my clubs until I knew I had enough in my fund to pay for them.

She kept saying that she understood and that she would make the payments. She made a few larger payments but is still a grand short. What really ticks me off is Jane still goes out to eat all the time, goes shopping, buys things for our house.

But whenever I mention the debt she changes the subject saying “she’s working on it”. I finally snapped last weekend and told Jane I’m putting her on a payment plan. That I would break down the rest of her debt into weekly payments and would request the amount every week till I’m paid back.

And that I would have to use another fund to pay for the clubs as I can’t wait any longer to order them.

Am I wrong?

My wife is going on a girls trip with her friends.

It is a mystery trip so most of the group will not know what resort/island until they arrive at the airport. I’m a little worried the resort may be swimsuit optional(at least topless in designated areas).

My main concern is many of the women are not in great marriages. Some are totally on the rocks. Also, most of the other ladies are quite overweight (obese).  My wife on the other hand is very beautiful and has a nice body. I’m afraid they will want to go topless because their husbands don’t show them any attention and would not care if they did. 

The problem is my wife WILL get attention from men. My wife and I have great nightly “activity” but I have always been the initiator. She doesn’t show much interest.

For me, it is a source of sadness. I’m afraid I will be hurt/jealous if she joins in on the fun as she will be looked at basically not wearing anything on the top by other men and may like it.

I know technically she would not actually cheat on me with another man but I am not eliminating any possibilities. Sometimes it could be going with the flow as the rest of her friends are some would be described as “The seafood seller’s oyster rotten already and giving it out for free”. If you know what I mean.

But I am still very nervous about this possible scenario. If she does goes topless and see/talk to other men, (or maybe see other men).

Does anyone think I have a right to be upset? Would this be considered cheating? 

A girl shared how her friend asked her to pretend to be a gold digger on his Instagram but she rejected him.

here is the story:

My friend Aloy posted this fake story on Instagram:

I drove my Tesla and asked a chiobu if she would get a drink with me with me. She said “Noooooooo, I have a boyfriend.” I said fine, and got in my car. She said “Never mind, I was joking, I’m single! Can I get in? I don’t have plans right now, let’s go!” I said “no way, gold digger” and drove away.

I don’t support posting lies on social media, but whatever. None of my business, right?

Someone said it didn’t really happen, and Aloy said he had video proof. So now he is trying to get me to pretend to be a gold digger to help him act it out. His dad has a Tesla we can use.

All of Aloy’s female friends have been in pictures with him on social media, so apparently I’m his only choice.

But I don’t want to. He’s saying that I’m a terrible friend and should just do it. I said no way in hell. Now he’s mad at me, and is giving me the cold shoulder.

Aloy is more part of my friend group than my friend. He says we’re friends when he needs something. I don’t really hang out with him, but my friends invite him when we hang out as a group.

A netizen shared how he told his sister that it was her fault that her son is being tormented by other kids at his school.

Here is the story:

So my 7-year-old nephew is an awesome boy and I love him to death. He is a pretty smart kid but has a pretty obvious speech impediment.

He talks pretty similarly to his 3-year-old cousin. for example, he says yeyyo instead of yellow, gween instead of green. He sounds pretty child-like compared to other children his age.

If you don’t know my nephew, you’d probably have a harder time understanding. It often frustrates him to repeat himself while we try to understand.

I really want my sister to get him help. I have suggested speech therapy for years. This obviously affects him negatively.

After the holidays, he’s back in school. He’s been getting targeted by an older kid since the first week of school, who calls him a baby.

And I’m certain the speech issue is why. I’ve also heard of an incident happening at school where the kid kept asking “are you sure this kid is older than me?” Over and over.

It breaks my heart and makes me furious at my sister who has never once tried to get him help. She doesn’t even try to correct or coach him at home. His father is out of the picture so it’s really up to her.

My sister was yet again crying about him getting targeted at school. And I told her I’m not sure why she’s upset considering it’s 100% her fault that he is getting bullied.

We’ve known this is an issue since he was 4. Now our mom is involved and angry at me because “if I’m implying that it’s her fault, I’m suggesting that he deserves to be tormented at school”.

It’s such a sensitive issue in our family but nobody seems to want to do ANYTHING to help.

Anything ya’ll can help me with on this current situation that I’m having?

I actually met a guy 2021 November two years ago, and he was really nice, we hit it off pretty quick, and eventually asked for it, but not after I told him we should date first and he should become my boyfriend. He then agreed and we dated and then two months later, did it.

But two weeks after he did it with me, he immediately started distancing me and became uncontactable. He finally was contactable one week after that and he said he was getting a gf. I was stunned. Maybe I didn’t know him well enough. But he broke up with her one year after that and I continued talking to him to know him better. However, six months ago, he eventually got a new gf again without telling me. I found out from a source. I was still remembering six months ago if he was talking or friendly with any girls and he said no. What may I do in this current situation? He lied to my face. And told someone else a different story.

Now this has come to a point that it is affected my functioning because it was actually the first time with a guy, and he took my virginity. Now it’s affecting my functioning abilities and I’m having really bad thoughts and Idk why this is happening to me and always am thinking to self-destructing or negative thoughts in general.

I can’t look past why he did this to me or why this type of people exist in general, though they are all around us and worse of all why did it happen it me? Pls help me on this. Any advice is greatly appreciated.????

Here are what netizens think:

• Not going to make you feel worse but the reality is, these kind of guys are everywhere…. Which is why my advice is never trust words, only actions. The fact that he left you 2 weeks after doing it shows what kind of man he is. Yet you still harbor the hope of making him your bf? Move on and drill my advice into your brain. Nv trust words, only actions. That is going to save you alot of heartaches in the future.

• I am sorry to hear of your experience and pain. In practice it is easy to fall into taking decisions disproportionately risky/ detrimental to oneself when another person paints some vision of a good relationship giving one false hope. It was immoral of your ex to enter into a relationship with you while never intending to put up that level of commitment. It was severely unethical of your ex to use your false hope to procure S with you; he profited incurring a disproportionate mental health cost on you. I hope that you focus on your recovery. Don’t self-harm because it really gets one nowhere. I hope that you have sufficient support from friends and family who value you as you are, for who you are. For future relationships it is best you develop a radar of some sort to detect people who display inclinations to harm you when it’d mean they get to reap a profit. The balance between being giving– putting up commitment to let your relationships thrive, and taking excessive risk, is quite delicate. I hope your next partner will treat you right and work with you towards a genuine vision of a relationship. Take care.

• You got used. Plain and simple. Next time don’t have S relationships so easily if you know you are not able to handle it. The guy was making use of you. You were not his gf. So wake up and move on.

• It is very common dating back to as early as 60s, 70s etc ..these kind of guys exist everywhere. Maybe your parents didn’t counsel you during your growing up stages. I always tell my daughters what to be expected to be happening in a relationship. Don’t be upset by such thing. Most importantly is protect yourself by taking precautions durin the “procedures”. Look for counselling if you really needed.

I found out that my boyfriend of 2 years is married and has kids, I’m showing myself to his family tomorrow at his church.

I’m just so confused right now and need to talk to somebody.

I’ve been seeing this guy “Adam, 32” for 2 years. We don’t live together but he visits me on weekends. I never met his family, friends or been to his house.

3 weeks ago, I found out that he’s actually married and has 2 kids, I was devastated and in a state of disbelief but most of all, I was mad, especially after I confirmed this via his wife’s social media account.

We’re still talking and I haven’t broken up with him yet…I planned and decided to show myself to his family on Sunday at his church and let them know that he used me and took advantage, I plan on ending it right there and then.

I’m doing this tomorrow and no one knows except myself, He’s still texting me lies thinking that I’m stupid or ignorant.

I feel terrible but something’s pushing me to do this. Don’t know if it’s anger or feeling bad for his wife and kids..

I just…I’m not gonna lie I’m worried this might backfire on me but at this point, I have nothing to lose, I just feel like I need to get my respect and dignity back after being lied to and fooled for 2 years.

Can anyone give me any advice or tips on how to pretend and look like I am busy working at the office, since I am sitting right next to my manager.

Working as an office admin for MNC. I send a couple of emails in the morning, maybe some in the afternoon too but I always seem to have excess time on my hands.

Sitting close to the managers who ALWAYS seems so busy on their computers is so stressful cause I feel I need to look busy too.

What sites can I have open on my screen so I look like I’m doing some rando research. Wanna look like I’m super hard at work but not too try-hard. Not amber heard level actress.

Unpopular opinion: I miss the lock downs during peak covid because I the office environment is super stressing me out.

Netizen’s comments

I’ve had this problem before.

I used the free time to pick up Excel skills, because nobody would question you if you had an Excel spreadsheet open on your screen. And even if it’s not work related, you can just say you are learning Excel skills and no one can really fault you for it because extra skills that are potentially useful for work doesn’t hurt.

Try to work on an Excel project that interests and/or benefits you personally, like calculate your monthly expenses, or which credit card rewards system gives you the greatest benefit, which carpark in town is the cheapest to park at, project how many years are needed to save enough cash + CPF for the deposit and fees required for your next dream home, etc.

At more advanced levels you can also pick up VBA and do stuff like HTML web scraping for data, program a sudoku solver, batch rename/move files in bulk, or automate simple tasks like generating a report or mass sending emails from a template.

Before you know it, you’ll get engrossed in it and the time flies by really quickly.

I just got dumped by my boyfriend because I lost a lot of weight, and he explained that it was because he likes big and beautiful women (BBW).

I met my ex-boyfriend when we were both 18 years old, was about to start an internship and he was currently working at a supermarket and we just had a connection. At the time i was overweight at over 100Kg, it was hard to breathe, walk or do any activity without feeling extremely tired and sweating almost instantly. Also i couldn’t lay on my back as my own weight wouldn’t let me breathe.

He still would often tell me how sexy and beautiful i was and that was all i needed back then.

He was also overweight at about 150-175 Kg, and i didn’t care, i just loved his how he made me laugh and made me feel.

Things started changing about 1 year ago when we were 21 and i started to loose weight and looking back i see how the more weight i loose the more he would “avoid me”

I went from over 100 kg to 58 kg,so needed to buy new clothes as mine were now all baggy and my pants would fall off my body. When i happily showed my clothes he started saying how “weird” it was for me to buy and wear clothes that seem to only fit kids. That hurted but took it as a joke.

Some time after i bough a fanny pack and he said it was “gross” that i have to set it in the smallest adjust to feel comfortable wearing it, still took it as a joke.

The last few months we were barely talking or seing eachother, he would blame his work but stopped sending me his schedule as he used to for me to plan time for us…

Finally about one week ago i confronted him and said he just wasn’t attracted to me anymore and that he hadn’t been for some time and that’s when it all made sense.

He has always been attracted to BBW so he wasn’t happy when i lost weight and just lied saying he still loved me and…we even talked of getting married so i guess he lied about that as well.

It’s hard to think that once i shared everything with him and now all that link us is our shared Spotify account…

If you read all of this, thank you for bearing with me. Might not seem much for most but i just feel destroyed now and it will be very difficult for this to heal.