Why are the poor so entitled? Every time see comments on Facebook and Instagram poor people complain about their wages and jobs.

Like if ur not happy with life go get yourself upgraded? It’s as if you expect jobs to be a god given right and the government owes you something.

Everything all blame government blame society. Just because ur not intelligent or not hard working and therefore poor, you blame it on others.

You expect the rich to share their wealth with you? If that’s the case then no meritocracy needed in Singapore.

Here are what netizens think:

• Why are the rich so entitled? Every time I see comments on Facebook and Instagram from wealthy individuals boasting about their lavish lifestyles and complaining about having to pay taxes, it’s as if they believe that their wealth is a god-given right and that society owes them something. They seem to think that their success is solely based on their intelligence and hard work, completely ignoring the role that privilege and luck play in their lives. And yet, they have the audacity to criticize the less fortunate for complaining about their low wages and lack of opportunities. They conveniently ignore the systemic barriers that prevent many people from climbing the socioeconomic ladder. It’s time for the rich to take responsibility for their own advantages and recognize the responsibility they have to contribute to society. They should be willing to share their wealth to ensure that everyone has a fair shot at success, rather than hoarding it all for themselves. If they refuse to do so, then what’s the point of a meritocracy in a society that perpetuates inequality?

• Many rich people who were born with a silver spoon in their mouths believe that their wealth is solely due to their hard work leh.

• I don’t understand how so many ppl will automatically attribute poverty to laziness. So many ppl i know work OT, and sometimes burn 1 or both weekends, just to make ends meet. And I’m not even talking about those at the bottom rungs. 80++% of us spend majority of our waking hours working, in exchange of what? Making sure our bills are paid, food is on the table, and hopefully can retire before our time is up. The extremely ambitious among us may work on side hustles or take on additional certifications, just so that our lives don’t have to remain this way forever.

• Poor people need to be happy with what they have, or to learn to massively change their mindset and take control of their own lives.

i find the posts about doctor pay not being high enough to be absurd. as medical practitioners, our role is to help people. compensation comes in many forms. there is monetary compensation and non-monetary compensation (the sense of satisfaction when you see your patients recover and discharged from hospital, or you made a difference in somebody else life)

monetary compensation wise it is not as good as lawyer or banker. but the sense of satisfaction is priceless.

we worked up to a 100 hours a week if we include call hours. yes some patients are stubborn and doesnt do lifestyle changes, but perhaps it is the technique and explanation. once you make them trust you, they will improve their lifestyle.

from money perspective, i never had a single classmate that failed to qualify for the HDB loan eligibility due to insufficient pay. in fact, all of us can afford a good location 5 room bto hdb flat with great ease.

if you want a sense of satisfaction, serve humanity, have the opportunity to work hard and use your skillset, and does not want excessive compensation, medicine is the right career for you.

Here are what netizens think:

• The next time i visit my doctor, i will pay them non-monetary compensation. I make the doctor feel a sense of satisfaction for serving me anyway, priceless.

• Please also remind them that there are other allied health professionals who easily put in the same amount of hrs and expertise to patient care but i rarely see them (nurses) driving Porches or living in district 10

• Not everyone can be high flyers earning big bucks. And you need to be special to chose medicine as yr livehood. At times I heard the air stewardess announced ” is there a doctor on board?’ to attend to an emergency.And it might be a high flyer in distress. À nurse ensures you’re taken care of when hospitalised. Just because their salary dont permit them to go to work in a porshe does it makes them a lesser person in society? It you use dollars and cents as a yardstick the answer is obvious. And thats what happened to the young doctor who’s struggling to fit in with his 3 siblimgs. Its not uncommon. It’s happening all the time.

• It’s not ridiculous to suggest one gets paid fairly for what their work is worth. Just because a job provides satisfaction, doesn’t mean it should be under compensated. There’s no reason why you should be paid less than some of these professions you mentioned there.

I’m wildly attracted to my boss, and I think he’s attracted to me too

I (32F) am incredibly attracted to my boss (54M). He’s not your “typical” good looking, but as I got to know him the attraction grew. We’ve been working together for about a year.

I know that it is lust – it is purely a physical attraction where I honestly just want him to jump me if he ever gets the chance. It’s gotten so bad that I actually get wet when I’m on a zoom call with him, and I get distracted.

Im starting to drop hints and subtly flirt with him to see if there’s any chance. We work remote, so we aren’t “in the office”, but instead we are on zoom calls together every day.

If anything were to happen, it would only be couple of times a year when we travel together for work. Next time we go on a business trip I might have to find a way to get him into my hotel room.

I know it’s a bad idea. I know that lots of people will say I’m a whore or that I absolutely should run the other way. I know the pros and cons, I’m not here for judgement.

Im here for suggestions and input from anyone that has been in a similar situation.

How do I make it clear (without outright saying it) that I’m into him? What are some signs that might indicate to me that he has similar feelings?

Netizens’ comments

1. If yall single, who cares?
2. It almost sounds like a cliche by now because this has been said so many times, but I’ll say it again, never poop where you eat. You don’t want the problems and troubles that come with if the relationship or hook up goes wrong. It’s just nasty, don’t play with fire if you don’t want to get burned.

My boyfriend cheated via text with another girl as a trap to see if I would go through his things to find out

So there have been some trust issues from both sides from day 1 here. He is a very insecure person who has flirted and kissed a person with malice intentions in the past just to hurt me.

He justified this because I kissed my friend (same gender and I’m straight) as a joke in the beginning of our relationship when I didn’t know that wasn’t ok.

When he said he didn’t like it, I stopped immediately and never did it again without his consent. He has a friend (girl) that he has been friends with for many years, yet I never see her in his life.

He only contacts her when we have a bad time in our relationship. I have voiced that I find it fishy that they never meet yet she always comes to his rescue when times are bad between us.

Unfortunately this suspicion made me go and break in to his computer and iPad to see what the deal between them was.

I found some disturbing messages the first time where he obviously had asked her to sleep in his bed and made some kind of intimate advances (her words) that she wasn’t ready for.

When confronted with this knowledge my boyfriend said it was nothing and that he felt so bad I had left our house (because of a fight) that he needed to be held and consoled.

This happened last September. Yesterday we had another fight and he was acting strange again so I got suspicious and got into his iPad and saw some more messages between them.

She tells him she wants to f and wants to know if he can come over.

At first he wonders if she is ok but then continues by asking if she thought of him specifically because she wanted to f.

He tells her he is at work when in reality he is in my apartment and had just slept with me. He then says he got more turned on by her message.

Now, as you can imagine I was quite hysterical when I found these messages from last December and confronted him all in tears and rage.

This is my fiancé and love of my life. His defense is that he took advantage of the girl and the situation to make at trap for me to see if I was trustworthy around his personal things because of childhood issues with a controlling mother, prolonged bad times between us and his own paranoia.

He is sticking to this explanation and says he feels horrible he did this but it was to see it he could trust me which he obviously can’t.

Now that I actually might call of our engagement he tells me this is the worst thing he has ever done and will ever do to me.

What the hell should I do? Do I believe his explanation and forgive him? Or am I right in accusing him for cheating on me via text (what ever the reason) and leaving him?

A few weeks into my new job, my new boss finally offered to throw me a welcome lunch. He apologised for being so busy earlier on and invited the whole team to join so he can introduce me to the team officially.

When I felt a bit paiseh about him having to spend so much money, he told me not to worry as more people eat together then shiok.

He also said that it’s been some time since we had a proper team lunch also so he wanted us to gather and catch up.

I was so happy to have landed such a nice boss and so excited for the lunch until he brought us to the caipng stall next to office to eat.

When he told everyone to order whatever dishes they want to eat to share, can totally see everyone’s face sian diao.

We thought that he would at least pay for our drinks too but when the auntie came to collect money, he just stared blankly at us and never make any move to take out his wallet.

It was so awkward and could tell that the auntie was getting impatient so my colleague faster paid the auntie.

My team has less than 10 people so I don’t even think this whole lunch exceeded $100, which is peanuts compared to my boss’ pay lah so why is he so stingy?

Might as well don’t treat us, at least we can go somewhere and eat comfortably without having him around…

Netizens’ comments

1. Got treat better than no treat. Some bosses don’t even bother to have welcome makan at all. If a lunch gathering is to welcome you n have everyone know each other, why bother if the cost is cheap or expensive.
2. If I were your boss, all of you would be fired straight away. f-ing unappreciative a-holes.

I am stuck in my boyfriends family bathroom

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months and today was the day he decided to introduce me to his family. We spend the afternoon with his family and they cooked a meal and made tiramisu for dessert

Usually I have no issues with desserts but for some reason today it has really done a number on my digestive system. I started feeling a bit gassy and excused myself to release the beast and a beast definitely got released

The problem now is I’m stuck in the bathroom because their bathroom has low water pressure and won’t flush the mammoth of a poo I just did.

Help.

Update: So … I had to tell my boyfriend the situation. He came to the bathroom and proceeded to laugh for 2 minutes straight … after he composed himself he proceeds to tell me “oh yeah I forgot to tell you not to use that bathroom” and then he left and he got a bowl to help me waterboard my poop to flush.

And of course at this point I had been gone to the toilet so long so his parents asked what we were doing in the toilet with a bowl and he told them verbatim “she did a huge poop that wouldn’t flush” – amazing first impression 🙁

Netizens’ comments

1. Fill something with water and pour it in fast . Like a bin or something .
2. Better in the toilet than the sheets
3. The first time I hung out with my then boyfriend at his house, his toilet was directly across from the sink. The bathroom was so small your knees would touch the sink cabinet when you’re sitting on the toilet. I was on the toilet and puked into the sink, it was very clumpy and clogged the sink.
   I tried so hard to deal with it but it wasn’t clearing or going down. Eventually I had to tell him and he had to come in and reach his arm in and try to dig out the stuff in the sink at the drain..
   We’ve been together for 7 years and next month will be our first year wedding anniversary!
4. This might be one of my favorite posts that I’ve read. What the others said. Lots of water. It’ll go.
5. this is gonna end up being one of those super sweet funny memories you guys all remember for the rest of the relationship. take it on the chin, it’s funny and endearing. laugh about it.

Does your boss stalk you on social media?

I am an extrovert who holds a day job and side gigs as a performing artist and I often post about stuff that I do outside of work.

My ‘boss’ appeared to be cool about it initially and said he wasn’t going to control or comment about what I do outside of work.

We watch each other stories and never had issues with each other. One day, we had an argument at work and I started to feel awkward about our friendly r/s ( we are the same age hence we spoke like friends ).

Hence, I blocked him from my stories and he was clearly aware and he continued to stalk me ( my posts are public ), and he went to investigate what I do outside of work.

His arguments were that my lifestyle would affect my performance at work. Yet he constantly gaslight me and wasn’t capable of being a good leader.

I didn’t think much and have always devoted my day work and personal work equally. One fine day, he called for a meeting and told me he was letting me go and I wasn’t allowed to serve notice.

He brought up a lot of reasons and excuses but I later realise it wasn’t about those things he mentioned. It was the life I had outside of work.

He wanted some form of control over me and didn’t like that I have a life outside of work.

Guys, do you have you bosses on social media? Do they judge what you do? Does your posts affect how you are perceived by your bosses and colleagues at work?

Netizens’ comments

1. Don’t ever let anyone in your workplace know what you’re doing outside of work. Keep ur personal (private) and professional social media accounts separate. Coworkers and bosses can use ur personal things against u.
   Trust me, coworkers and bosses are NEVER your friends. Friend had a gossipy and nosey coworker who constantly asked her abt her personal life. Friend was smart and lied to her/gave her one word answers to show her disinterest
   And don’t date coworkers, cause once you break up with them it’s gonna be damn awkward and they can spread lies abt u
2. (OP) I learnt my lesson. I just wanted to be honest and a good employee but clearly it didn’t work out. My previous bosses didn’t mind at all.
   Also, even if I don’t tell them and they search my name / do a background check, they will find me easily because I have been an artist for more than 10 years and I have a lot of new articles online. Is it worth it to change my Ic name? I would feel really sad if I had to change my Ic name just to secure a day job.

Girlfriend wants a break

Yesterday my girlfriend randomly told me “I saw a good looking guy at this cafe” I got a bit frustrated because it feels like she wants to say something with it.

Earlier this month she photographed a guy she found good looking. I don’t appreciate it and yesterday she got mad because she felt I raised my voice because she did this.

She then said that “This isn’t working we need a pause or something” and then when I asked her again if she wants a pause she said “I don’t know”.

I told her on iMessage that I “want this to work and but if she doesn’t think we can work it out we might need a break”

Pretty sad over this. We have had some problems previously

Don’t get why she says “I don’t know” when I ask her now if she wants a break. She haven’t replied since yesterday.

Netizens’ comments

1. It’s over bro. Work on yourself. You’ll find someone better.
2. I looked at your previous posts and wow. It seems neither one of you is happy in your relationship. I’m pretty sure she doesn’t want to be with you, but for some me reason she doesn’t want to be the one to be the one to end things. Do yourself a favor and leave her. You deserve so much better.
3. Break up completely. She is pretty much telling you she wants to be with other men also. The break is so that she can because you won’t accept it.
4. Don’t ever go on a break. They’re useless. Just split
5. Yeah, she’s looking for an excuse to bang other dudes without technically cheating. The relationship has run its course, let her go and find someone who respects you.
6. Brother. Fight fire with fire. Take the break, explore your options. Maybe you photograph some beautiful women. Then tell her about it and watch for her reaction. If she explodes at you, walk. If she says it upsets her, walk. Respect yourself enough to not let anyone take the piss

TLDR: me getting emotional and frustrated at myself for not being a perfect driver on my second day of driving after getting my license and asking y’all for advice/opinion.

I passed my driving test a month ago and just started driving on roads yesterday. I’m the only driver in my family and I’m also the first one amongst my friends to get a license.

I am aware that the best way to understand politics of the road is to drive as much as I can to build my intuition. Without anyone to logically guide me when I face new challenges on the road it has been difficult adjusting. More specifically I have little to no spatial awareness yet and as such have a difficult time when changing lanes.

In driving school we’re not allowed to drive above 50 km/h so now that I’m able to drive in expressways and tunnels where max sped is 80-90 km/h (with many drivers even exceeding this limit) I’m unable to judge when it is safe to change lanes because we’re all going so fast. I’m stuck driving on the left lanes because I cannot cope with the aggressive lane changing that experienced drivers perform at high speed. (How do people turn into the right lane and then immediately filter to the left lane to turn left?)

Just today I was honked at twice due to dangerous lane change on expressway and while I admit it was completely my fault for not checking properly, I couldn’t help but feel ashamed and intimidated. I wanted to stop and cry but I couldn’t even do that because there’s no stopping allowed.

My parents are super supportive even when I make some mistakes during driving, but I wish I had someone in my life who has a driving license so that I can ask them for some kind of guidance or just someone to relate to.

I know that I have a lot to learn with regards to driving on the roads however I can’t help but wish that experienced drivers could be a bit more lenient towards probationary drivers who are changing lanes or going slow (sometimes it feels like a crime to driver below the speed limit). I mean we display the probationary plate for a reason right? I try my best to keep up with the flow of traffic but it all gets a bit overwhelming when I’m trying to look at the gps, find the correct exit, filter into the correct lane, all while trying not to create a dangerous situation for those around me, and sometimes going slower is the only way I can handle the stress.

I’m not saying that everyone should just excuse dangerous driving when the driver is on probation, but if other, more experienced drivers could just take a moment to see if any probationary drivers are struggling on the road and act a bit more patiently, I’m sure that we’ll remember this act of kindness and this will make us less stressed. More importantly, it will help us build awareness so that in future we do not have incidents of dangerous driving.

Tbh you don’t need to agree with my views. But im sure you were a p-plate driver once.

What do you think?

I’m so sick of being guilt tripped by married women

It’s only happened 3 times. But still… Why am I the bad guy for saying “I’m sorry, I can’t date you if you’re married”??? What the actual f? Why can’t I just want to be in a happy monogamous relationship with someone who loves me? Am I so messed up for not wanting the woman I’m with to go home to another guy?

First girl didn’t mention anything in her tinder bio. She got upset that I didn’t want to be her secret affair. Oh well, we only went on a date and a half. It was super awkward in the restaurant when she said “I’m here to cheat”, after I went on a tirade about how awful cheaters are. She clearly was hoping for a different answer to “what do you think about cheaters?”.

Second girl was one of my best friends. She was “in the process” of divorcing her husband forever. She’d cry about how much she loved him, then get mad I wouldn’t f her. He mistreats her, but she won’t leave him … But to her it’s my fault we aren’t dating?

Then, finally, this week an old flame texted me out of the blue. We were a little flirty until she told me about her husband and kid. We kept talking, mostly just about life. Very dry acquaintance type talk. Until she said she loves her husband, but as a friend. She wants me to be her boyfriend, but she won’t leave her family. Now she’s mad that “I don’t want her”. Of course I don’t! I’m not going to take you on a date and then go home sad/lonely while you sleep with your husband.

Why do I feel like such a shitty person for saying no? If you’re poly, that’s cool. As long as everyone is on the same page, you do you. But I’m not on that page. I’m not poly. I’ve been cheated on. I’ll never cheat or help someone cheat. God, I’m so tired of being yelled at for that.

Netizens’ comments

1. If they can cheat with you, they can cheat on you.
2. Don’t hop in the passenger’s seat of that guilt trip. It’s a one way. You deserve a better, healthier relationship road.
3. So back in 2019 I became single again. First time since 2017.
   I matched with a girl on there whose husband is disabled and a wheelchair. She’s looking for fun. I get that and I sympathise, but I matched with her both in 2017 and 2019 and I asked her the same question.
   ‘Does your husband know that you’re on here and looking for partners? Is he okay with it?’
   Both times she went off on me about how her husband is in a wheelchair, can’t please her in bed and she has needs.
   I reminded her that that wasn’t my question. I’d only asked if he knew she was doing this. He did not. I politely reminded her of her vows (in sickness and in health, until death do us part’ and calmly just walked away. I expect she is still on there.
4. They can try and take you on the guilt trip, but you don’t have to go along. If I had a penny for every married man who hit on or harassed me because I didn’t want to be a side piece, I’d be able to buy a decently sized flat. The only people who should feel bad here are the people stepping out.