Unbelievable long streak of bad luck since end 2020.

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I’m on a super long streak of bad luck since end 2020. All the way until now. 2 years plus. From 2010 to October 2020, not much bad stuff happened.

But ever since end of 2020, i keep on kena unlucky incidents, almost non stop.

Whether its career, finance, family, relationship with opposite gender, NOTHING has been going right. At first i still thought my health not too bad, so i feel consoled.

But this year. My health also start to kena unlucky stuff…Stomach flu twice in 3 months, flu, stung by bee few months ago, just injured myself when exercising yesterday, and today the ironing board suddenly spoil n collapsed on my toe, n scrapped some skin off my leg, now got 4 patches of skin scrapped off damn painful.

I haven’t kena stomach flu for like at least 7-8 years, didnt have runny nose for almost 2 years plus, never got stung by bee before, didnt have any injury from exercising for past few years…

This 2 years plus, i got knocked by cyclist, last year fell down cuz my dad fell down n i was trying to break his fall, and now my legs kena injury again.

This 2 years suddenly my legs have a lot of new scars. everything happened within a span of 2 years.

How to end bad luck? Got any ways? Pls share. Thanks.

Hopefully the bad luck all come one shot, n once my bad streak end, i will not kena anything unlucky for a long time.

Here are what netizens think

• Dun think too much about it lah. Why magnifying yr problem making you feel worst off. Some of yr issues cld be due to carelessness, no health conscious to take precaution hence fall sick. Why blame luck not yrself?
  
• you kena external bruises only and call it a bad luck? I kena perm illness that has no cure, got to live with it for the rest of my life. Then this one is call what?
  
• everyone runs on a 10 years luck cycle so your scenario is not surprised to me and is common. Every luck cycle can be different impact to you. Most likely your current lucky cycle has a reverse effect compare to the previous 10 years
  
• I abstained from ‘piak piak’ for 7×7 49 days before going gambling, won $100k from the casino… 
  I abstained from ‘piak piak’ for 7×7 49 days before asking my crush out, we managed to piak on the first date…
  ‘piak piak’ drain luck just like women drain money. Abstain from ‘piak piak’ and your luck will slowly regenerate… 

My girlfriend started to tell me that she had to work late most of the time after a few months of working for this new company.

She started to turn me down when I want to fetch her after work

Well all seemed believable, I cannot help but feel suspicious because she would turn me down when I want to come and fetch her after her work ends and most of the time she would tell me that her colleagues want to eat together after work.

I decided to take matters into my own hands. So one day, I drove to her office and waited outside in my car parked discreetly, hoping to catch her red-handed.

Caught her kissing with her colleague

When she showed up, my eyes followed her inside and watched as she entered her office. I heard her talking with someone and peeked around the corner. I couldn’t believe my eyes. She was in an embrace with her colleague, and they were kissing passionately.

At that moment, my heart sank and I felt like I had been punched in the gut. I felt my entire world crumbling around me. How could she do this to me? I had trusted her and yet she had betrayed me. I had given her my all and here she was, cheating on me with someone else.

Tears immediately streamed down my face. I couldn’t believe it. I had been so naïve to trust her. I had let my guard down and I had been foolish to think that she would never do something like this.

I drove home in a daze, my mind racing with all the questions and doubts that had been building up in my head. What did this mean for our relationship? Was it over? I didn’t know what to do.

The next day, I confronted her about what I had seen. She denied it at first, but eventually she admitted that she had been cheating on me with her colleague. I was devastated. I had opened my heart up to her and she had just thrown it away.

I ended our relationship right then and there. I never wanted to see her again.

My heart had been broken into a million pieces and I didn’t know how I was ever going to be able to put it back together.

How to get parents not to ask too much for a betrothal gift?

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So I’m getting married soon.

Quick background, I’m Chinese, my significant other (SO) is a Sikh but my mother especially expects a huge load from my SO.

We have already decided that the 过大礼 (GUO DA LI) will be held as normal a week or two before my wedding, alls good we already seen the expert on this. All ok.

However my mother has asked me to ask my SO to give a large sum for the 聘金 /pin Jin. This is a red packet.

I haven’t asked him yet, but knowing him he’ll put a big amount since we getting the money back anyway, note the money is usually spilt along with the gifts to essentially show that my family(the bride) accept(the grooms family) etc and accept the marriage.

Now the hard part is my mother texted my bf demanding certain conditions for the Si Dian Jin (四点金)

This is the gold jewelry my SO and his family would give me/my family .

My mother asked him to spend a huge amount….

How do I tell her not to bother with these things?

Because the intial plan was that my future Mil will just give me some of her old jewelry, and my mom doesn’t like the idea says it’s inauspicious etc.

My mom has asked for gold necklace ,one gold bangle and one ring and one bracelet. From his mother, and that he should spend Xxxx amount.

How do I stop her? And deal with this situation??

Here are what netizens think

• Tell her now 2023 already and she’s marrying daughter not selling daughter. Tell her you will be worse off if your future husband start the wedding off broke or if you two have constant quarrels over this. This may also sour your relationship with future in laws I.e she is making your life worse! If she loves you she will understand that as long as your husband is good to you.. all these don’t matter. Yes important she one time say finish not keep adding on.
  
  Or Tell her since your husband is from another culture by right he doesnt have to adhere to all these. I don’t know what customs they have for wedding but are you doing it all? If not then have to be fair right?
  
  Worse come to worse you can fund yourself if you can afford it.
  
• I think I will approach my mum and ask her to make clear all her demands. If she want something, she makes one clear ask not keeping adding on because some 三姑六婆 say their kid did what before. In some way some parents think if the guy so stingy now then who is to say won’t be stingy to you in future so it might be a peace of mind thing.
  
  As for whether I will negotiate to ask for less, I will do so if the amount is very imbalanced. Will probably flesh out the amounts and tell her you do not feel comfortable with that large difference. It feels like she is selling her daughter. I will probably also add that the amount is not truly coming from the guy and his family but will be borne by you two as the wedding couple. Will emphasize that she asking more is actually just asking you two to cough up more money instead of saving for home and reno. Maybe she will then be less demanding (but I have seen parents undeterred, thinking this as another form of allowance to them for raising the kid up).

Is wearing a bra compulsory in Singapore? My girlfriend got told off!

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So my girlfriend was visiting from Iceland and she normally doesn’t wear a bra (especially when it’s hot). We were in town having coffee and this lady (who’s name I assume was Karen) came up to us and said to her “wear your bra!” in a very strict tone.

But because of her thick Singaporean accent, we couldn’t really discern what she was saying and we thought she said “where did you get your bra from”…which really confused my girlfriend.

To which my girlfriend replied “I usually get them from….” (I forgot the store name)

The lady got so confused and she started scolding her and telling her that she must must must wear a bra or the police will come.

We both laughed as we found it absurd.

SO MY QUESTION IS: why is wearing a bra so important? I feel like women should be free to wear whatever they want or don’t want. Bras can be really uncomfortable.

Here are what netizens think

• Some people just feel disturbed with nipples. Honestly I don’t care if people want to go braless, their body their choice. And yes wearing bra in this hot and humid weather is very uncomfortable.
  
• as a local female, my friends and I would never go braless.
  
  Besides SG being a conservative country w an aging population, there are SG forums and tele groups where people (usually disgusting men) take pics of women in public places even if they’re just wearing slightly revealing or considered appealing to them. It’s not talked about often but there def is a number which is revolting af. Some women just wear bras to just ‘protect’ ourselves
  
• Just another karen. Same as the Austrian grannies. Every country has these group of people. Possibly it may have been too obvious that she isn’t wearing one? Though the wrong way to go about it.

I work part-time at a particular restaurant in a hotel who provides breakfast, lunch and dinner for guests.

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For context purposes, I am taking a full time degree and it was near the period of my examinations and so I had not intended to work at first but decided to submit my schedule for the morning shift that day because the restaurant was short staffed.

I was on the morning shift that day to serve the breakfast crowd and getting ready to leave when my manager called me aside to have a chat with me. I had a feeling this wasn’t going to be a pleasant conversation.

As soon as I went to have a chat with him, he began scolding me for not submitting my schedule for the lunch shift.

He said that I wasn’t being a team player and that I was not taking my job seriously.

I was shocked by his words and I explained to him that I had been very busy with school work and examinations were coming and that I will not be able to work as much as I would have loved to.

But he was not sympathetic to my explanation and continued to berate me for not taking my job seriously. I argued back, trying to explain that I was a dedicated employee even though I am on a part time role and that I was doing the best that I could.

But he was not having any of it. He said that he expected me to submit my schedule and that he wanted to see it by the end of the week. I told him that I would try my best to submit it, but he was still not satisfied.

At this point, I was feeling frustrated and angry. I had been a loyal employee and had always taken my job seriously. I had never been late for a shift and I always tried to be helpful to my colleagues.

I had put in extra hours when needed and I had never complained.

But here I was, being called out for not being a team player.

I felt like my hard work and dedication was being overlooked and that my manager was only focused on the fact that I had not submitted my schedule for more shifts.