My sister got engaged two years ago but they are saving (very unsuccessfully) for a bigger wedding. They wanted to get married this year but couldn’t pull it off, it’s they delayed it for another year (same as last year.)

My boyfriend proposed a few months ago, and we want a small backyard wedding. We set the date for July 15.

My sister asked me to delay our wedding until after hers. I asked her if she can’t pull off her dream wedding next year, would she at us to delay ours more.

I can’t believe I’m typing this – she said yes. That was enough for me to throw out her ridiculous request and set the date for July 15 this year.

She is furious. Family members are being dragged in and everyone is on her side. She and her boyfriend have decided to elope in June and this is apparently my fault.

She’s apparently devastated that she’s being “forced” to give up her dream wedding and scale down so she can get married first and not have her thunder stolen. My family is on her side because she struggling financially and is more fragile than me and wants me to just cater to her wishes instead of “causing a big family drama.”

Netizens’ comments

1. It’s so weird when people get weird over things like this. It’s not a race.
2. Nobody gets to set rules on when you can get married. That’s just ridiculous. I have zero idea why anyone would think otherwise. And if she wants to elope why does anyone care? If they don’t get a say in her eloping or not why do they think they get a say in your wedding? I’d just not invite anyone who wasn’t being supportive. I don’t care who they are.
3. Your family sounds like the type of people to ask you to set yourself on fire to keep your sister warm. These “But faaaaaaamily” types really tick me off.
   Let her be furious. If your family calls you to pester you about it, say “Our decision is final” and hang up the phone. If they confront you in person, say “I’m not going to discuss this again” and walk away. Lather, rinse and repeat until they get the message.
4. Your life and timeline shouldn’t be changed because she has some weird need to be married first. Making big life decisions as a competition is never a good thing. It sounds like if she wanted to be first bad enough she could have opted for a smaller wedding. Just ignore her and enjoy your day!

How do I stop being jealous over people who make more money than me?

Lately I’ve been getting super jealous when I find out that someone is making more money than me be it a family member or a friend.

I don’t tell them about this and I try to keep it to myself. But it always angers me how I’m so poor and barely getting by and it seems like everyone else is just doing so much better than me.

I know I should be happy for them but I just feel so inferior and like I’m a failure and I’ll never be as good as they are.

I feel like an awful person for even thinking this way but I can’t help myself. This has really been bothering me I am constantly comparing my financial situation to others and I just feel so small in comparison to everyone else.

Netizens’ comments

1. You are not alone, My cousins, my brother, and the family I married into are all millionaires. They are all making 200k-600k per year. Me, I am disabled.
   One of the things I do is make a gratitude list each night of the things I am thankful for. A list of 10 items. Some nights my list maybe as simple as “I have air to breathe” and I have all my fingers.
2. I understand. I remember years of starving while watching my roommates go out and party with their spare cash. Years of riding my bike while watching my friends drive new cars. I struggled so hard. I had to turn to some really awful things at times just to make sure I had my bills paid. No one can understand unless they go through it, especially as a young woman just starting out alone.
   I look at people who are so coddled and I just think, I am strong. My struggle has made me tough and also has taught me great boundaries, independence, and to never give up, because if I got through it once, I sure as shit can do it again.
   So instead of being jealous, I regard myself with more confidence now. That I am strong. Do I wish I could be weak at times?? Oh yes. But I am very proud of myself.

This might sound awful, but I think my bf is a major loser. I’m 23 and he’s 27. We’ve been together for 4 years,

I graduated and landed a full-time well paying job right after graduation. My boyfriend on the other hand is still finishing his degree, he never takes me out on dates and he still asks his mom for money because he can’t even afford a haircut yet he somehow he can still afford to buy games and fast food every day.

He refuses to work due to his program being “extremely challenging.” I’m growing tired of it and his parents have expressed to me that they’re fed up with him as well and will be cutting him off financially.

Whenever I scold him about his finances he begins his woe is me tirade, accusing me of being “a dictator just like his parents.”

At the beginning of the year, I started hounding him to start applying for jobs because he will be done with school soon and he should want to land a full-time job out of school as I did.

whenever I would bring up applying for jobs he would shoo me off explaining that “nepotism” will work for him due to his mom knowing a lot of people in the industry he’s going into.

We have plans to move out together and I’ve been saving 1k per month to help with every expense, my boyfriend, on the other hand, has saved nothing (due to the fact he doesn’t have a job).

it’s just very hard to see guys his age and younger doing more with their lives like having good jobs meanwhile my boyfriend is still asking for money from his parents.

I’m not ready to date other people because it sounds exhausting to have to create a whole new life with someone else and he is the only person I would feel comfortable living with. I just feel so stuck.

Asking my brother to pay $30,000 for my engagement ring?

I hosted a family dinner over the weekend. My brother brought my nephews (4 and 8) over as well.

I used to wear my engagement ring all the time, but lately I keep it in my walk in closet and mainly wear it for special occasions. While I was cleaning up the dinner table, my nephews went to go play while the adults were still in the kitchen area. My brother was not supervising his kids.

During this time, my nephews went into the master bedroom without anyone knowing and started playing with everything. Including my engagement ring. When we came to look for them, they panicked because they know they aren’t supposed to be there, ran into the toilet and flushed my ring.

We called a plumber in case it was somehow in the u trap of the toilet and not actually gone. But nope. Unfortunately it was gone for good.

We still had the original receipt, so I called my brother. I emailed him a scanned copy as proof of the cost and asked him to reimburse me for the ring my nephew flushed. Immediately he started calling me names because we were family and his kid was just a child. He has refused to repay the cost of my ring.

I told him I will be taking him to court for this and now my entire family is blowing up my phone saying family shouldn’t sue each other and just let it go.

My brother says he does not have the money to repay even $100 per month and has refused any kind of repayment plan. He said I live in a nice enough house and if I want a replacement, I should just sell my car.

My brother, to this day, has not truly apologized. He said kids will do what is normal for kids, and they shouldn’t be held responsible for a ring. They were supposed to supervise their kids with the rest of the family while I was busy cleaning up.

My (27m) girlfriend(26F) has a weird relationship with her boss(40m).

It started a like 8-9 months ago, for context, her boss is a really nice guy all around. But he treats my girl differently, like she called in sick, so he drove a long way to get her favourite ice cream.

When he is in some work party, he texts her ” you are being missed here”. I was clear about it being very weird for me, and we talked. And she agreed with me because she found it weird as well.

On his birthday, both of them went out for a few drinks, but my gf told me that it was a office party and everybody was there, then she told me she reached home but i caught her in her lie.

We had a huge fight about it, she told me it was harmless. Things got well, we both forgot about it, i thought she enforced some boundaries.

A month ago it was my girl’s bday, she was in office all day as i was told. We celebrated at night, the next morning i was going for my usual run, and i found a recipt for a fine dining place.

She didnt tell me about it, but i faced her and she started crying telling me it was harmless and she knew i would flip if she told me.

I have been broken af about it, but she insists its just friendly and they have a dynamic. I want to believe her but i somehow have a gut feeling that something is wrong also. Kindly help.

Netizens’ comments

1. Your gf never found his behavior weird, she used that as an excuse to throw you off. She lied twice & you caught her both times. An Emotional affair leading its way to a physical or already has.
2. What I don’t understand is you’re painting this scenario, knowing full well what it looks like, and when people are going above and beyond telling you exactly what they think– you make excuses for her, you downplay it, you reinforce your trust for her.
   Only you can help yourself dude. We can try to tell the writing is on the wall, but it’s useless if you are trying your best not to open your eyes and see it yourself. Why make a post at all if you’re going to defend your girls actions while being upset by those actions? You got this girl on a pedestal, my dude… And if everything you’ve said is true she really shouldn’t be.

I am genuinely jealous and envious of those who were born as female that I often wish I was born of the opposite gender.

Not to confuse you or anything, this is not a confession where I confess I treat women like shit because I’m jealous. In fact, quite the opposite. I love women and I am completely envious of the fact they are so pretty and a lot of people want to be around them and how they treat each other.

The phrase “women sleep with who they want and men sleep with who they can” is rather true for a lot of people I feel like. I even know guys that some girls would consider “hot” couldn’t get within a mile of a really hot girl.

I know there’s a LOT more to being a woman, but the sense of being mildly attractive to really really attractive, you can just make an OnlyFans and your life will literally change.

With society moving more towards acceptance of this kind of stuff it’s benefiting women even more. And men just do not get the same love.

I often think about this and yes it’s unfair and a lot of the time I’m envious and wish I was born a woman. Not exclusively for the money of course, but I know there’s things women have to deal with and I think with how my brain works, I would definitely be able to deal with it.

I also know that there are struggles of men that no one seems to want to talk about and I don’t want to dive into them here but a lot of women just shrug them off like we aren’t allowed to feel sad or anything.

I genuinely hate when people are made fun of for something they can’t control. Mostly because it’s happened to me my entire life and there’s nothing I can really do about it but just sit back and let it happen.

I’m not going to ruin my life or go to jail over literal soundwaves. Idk, this is just something I wanted to get off my chest and no one in my life would ever really understand if I brought it up.