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HUSBAND LOST $80K/YR JOB, WANTS WIFE TO QUIT UNI & START WORKING TO HELP HIM OUT

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My husband lost his 80k a year job, wants me to quit school and I’m 2 semesters away from getting my degree. Should I quit?

So my husband quit his 80k a year job because he said he was over his head and quit without another job lined up.

Now he has turned it around on my that I need to get a job and quit school. I’m studying MIS/data analytics and I have a software engineering internship lined up.

I worked 30 hours a week on top of my demanding school schedule. Luckily work and school are nearby.

He says me being in school has put us in a financial hole. All my school expenses are paid by me. He takes care of living expenses. Luckily his uncle gave us a windfall through inheritance 30k.

10k of that went towards my husbands debts he had to pay right away. That leaves us only 20k. That 20k is not going to last because of living expenses.

He’s acting like I’m majoring in interpretive dance. This is why I went back to school to earn more so we don’t have to worry about finances anymore. He has problem holding a job he either gets fired or quits. I’m tired of the instability. I plan to become a data engineer and I’m 2 semesters away from becoming one.

In the meantime, I don’t see him making any effort looking for another job.

I had to quit my job to work this internship which is the only stream of revenue coming in. But he want me to quit school and work full time. If I quit school, I can’t work this internship. If I don’t finish my degree I can’t get a lucrative full time job.

Catch 22. What would you do if you were in my shoes?

BF ASKS TO BE ALONE DUE TO STRESS, BUT FEMALE FRIEND NEED HELP STRAIGHT AWAY GO TO HER

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My boyfriend is a working adult + part time degree student. Last week, he was in major stress due to assignments and finals.

He asked me not to chat with him for the time being until he finishes all his exams and assignments, which is totally fine for me because I know those are more priority.

However, on the day of his finals, his female colleague (married and pregnant) went for pregnancy check up and complained of stomachache, which caused her to be remained in the hospital for further checkup.

She said she was stressed and crying, so my boyfriend put down his finals and went to accompany her.

I got mad because in my mind, he was putting her as priority above his exams and me. I tried to explain to him why I am mad (her husband is on the way coming to see her, it’s not really his responsibility about whatever happened to the colleague)

but in turn, I was getting mad at and he said he was disappointed in me because I did not support him to be a good person who comforts other people in stressed up condition. I need some help here, as now I don’t know anymore what is right or wrong.

Netizens’ comments

  1. I also don’t know who is right or wrong but I do know if you stay around, you can earn some pretty good bucks as a clown on that kid’s first birthday!  Jk. Lol.
    K la, but honestly, I find it acceptable to comfort his colleague.
  2. I think this needs more context like is this a colleague that is super close to him? Like he views her as a mentor or a manager that has supported him in his career? It does sounds bizarre I will give you that, for a pregnant lady to call a guy colleague for comfort.
    I can’t imagine myself calling any colleagues in this situation, prolly will turn to my good friends or family. Also can’t imagine my colleague will drop his exam and rush down.
    I guess u need to have a honest chat if they are more than just colleagues. Perhap there’s some crushes etc for both to react this way.
  3. Sure, boundaries apply for compassion too, but there are exceptions as well…and essentially the two of you don’t agree on the exceptions. It’s important to clarify the point of contention so it doesn’t blow up into something it’s not…which is now the case since he thinks you don’t ‘allow’ him to show compassion.

SHY GIRL GETS TOO NERVOUS DURING JOB INTERVIEWS UNTIL CANNOT TALK, NEEDS HELP

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I reflected on my past interviews and I feel like I may have found the biggest problems in my interviews:

Nerves. I’m a pretty shy person irl, so especially in professional settings, I might even stutter a bit at times or fiddle with my fingers, etc. Haven’t found a way to workaround this, but someone said to imagine something funny about the interviewer and I might try that my next interview.

Placing an emphasis on my willingness to learn. Previously when I searched for my last job, I placed a huge emphasis that I wished to join a company to learn.

The interviewers I interviewed with then seemed to like that since I got a couple of offers, but didn’t seem to work this time. A friend told me that I should instead place a larger emphasis on what I CAN do, rather than learn, because while companies do teach, they are also not an academy.

I thought about this and felt that it made a lot of sense. Should I, then, place more focus on what I can do when answering the interviewer’s questions, and ask about how they plan on training the candidate during the part of the interview where I get to ask questions?

Anyone has any other interview tips? Would be greatly appreciated, thanks!

Additional information: looking at Key Account/marketing executive roles, graduated from Uni last year. Left first job due to company restructuring, second job due to company culture + job wasn’t what it was in the JD.

Netizens’ comments

If you struggle with nerves during interviews, the best way to improve is through practice. Consider recording yourself answering common interview questions, then reviewing the playback to identify areas where you can improve. This can help you refine your responses and feel more confident during the actual interview.

When it comes to demonstrating your fit for a job, it’s important to do more than just show a willingness to learn. While it’s important to convey that you’re open to new experiences and eager to develop your skills, you also need to show that you have the knowledge, experience, and mindset to succeed in the role. An ideal candidate would show that they are aware of the realities and demands of the job and be able to speak to past experiences that indicate that they are prepared for the position. Then, you show your willingness to learn and adapt your skills to the unique circumstances of the position you are applying to.

To assess your potential for learning and growth within a company, try to interview your potential bosses and colleagues. Ask them thoughtful questions about their approach to the work and how they help team members develop new skills. This can give you a sense of whether the company is a good fit for your goals and learning style.

Remember, training and development are a two-way street. While it’s important to be proactive in identifying your own learning opportunities, it’s also essential to work with colleagues and supervisors who are supportive and can help you grow in your role. Focus on finding a company and team that will offer the support and mentorship you need to thrive.

WOMAN REFUSES TO ACCEPT BF’S PROPOSAL, SAYS WEDDING RING MUST AT LEAST $15K OR REJECT

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WHY ARE WOMEN SO MATERIALISTIC NOWADAYS!?

Girl A: Said she will not accept my marriage proposal if the ring cost below $15k. She told me the unspoken rule for proposal ring is 3 months salary or more…

WTH!? That $15k could have been better spend elsewhere instead of a stupid diamond which is a depreciation assest.

Girl B: Said a cheap wedding band would suffice. She even told me that we should host a simple small scale wedding ceremony so that we can save those monies for future home renovation and furnitures.

My heart was touched when I heard the words of girl B. I couldn’t believe that such lovely girl still exist in today’s society! In the end I chosed to be with girl A, because she has a bigger b- size of C cup.

Netizens’ comments

  1. Maybe girl b understand u.. she knew u would not choose her. That’s why she say cheap wedding band would suffice. She know that u would think with ur head that is below instead of the one above.
  2. Wise choice…. can’t beat cup sizes …. but i would have held out until i could find at least a D …
  3. Jokes on you! The C-cup is also a depreciating asset!
  4. Congrats at least you get to live with your decision for the rest of your life (or at least that’s what they make you vow).
  5. Bro…. u paid 15k for a c cup. B cup cost cheaper la. If i were u i choose a more practical version
  6. Afterall, a blissful marriage is not about marrying a person with looks & figure only. Character is definitely more sustainable.
  7. Well if you see the relationship as transactional you’ll end up alone. Trust me I’m an expert.
  8. Leave her and save your bank account you shouldn’t pay your hard earned money to the gold digger

WOMAN DIED & NONE OF HER BEST FRIENDS SHOWED UP TO THE FUNERAL, WENT PARTY INSTEAD

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My friend 27F died and none of her bestfriends showed up to her funeral

Her whole entire day-one friend group abandoned her. It was mostly her family members and her coworkers present at her funeral. None of her best friends who I met through her bothered to show up.

I ran into her actual best friend at a bar a few weeks later. This was her best friend since young. Her real day one bestie who she always spoke highly of. We had all hung out several times through the years so we are familiar.

I asked if she attended the funeral (pretending like I didn’t attend myself) and she told me she couldn’t get off work that day. And said it in a very dismissive and unconcerning manner, she had spent her night partying with her other friends without a concern or care in the world.

It really put into perspective for me that a lot of connections that we have are not genuine connections. Most people you know are gonna instantly detach from you when you die because they can no longer benefit from you.

I had to face the fact that when she died I was her only real friend, and when I think about it her day one best friends only came around when there was fun to be had.

They weren’t there for her when she needed a baby sitter so she can go to work. It was me.

They weren’t picking up her kids from school when they got sick. It was me. They weren’t listed on her kid’s school pickup list. It was me.

I spent years thinking that I couldn’t compete with her best friends when in reality I was her best friend and she was mine.

Netizens’ comments

  1. They couldn’t compete with you because they’re terrible people. She had a great friend in you. I’m sorry for your loss.
  2. I am so sorry for your loss and I’m a little sorry that you had to learn this lesson at such a young age. I was much older when I learned it anyway, I hope your friends memory will be a blessing to you.
  3. I’m sorry for your loss. She was lucky to have a friend like you. One true friend is more worth than a million fake ones.
  4. Sorry for your loss, BUT…funerals are for the living, not the dead (imo). I’ve been to too many funerals and really avoid them if I can bc i had so many. It doesn’t mean I don’t care. It means it’s too painful.

PRANKSTER DRESSED AS POCONG, BEATEN UP & DRAGGED TO POLICE STATION BY ANGRY RESIDENTS

A prankster who was pretending to be a pocong and standing on the side of the road, was beaten up by angry residents before being dragged by them to the police station.

The incident happened on 2 April at about 2.30am, in Demak, Central Java, Indonesia, according to Indonesian news outlet Kompas.

A video of the “ghostly sighting” was shared online, with a man seen in the video confronting the “pocong” and kicking the guy to the ground.

A few other people soon joined in and surrounded the prankster, beating him up and scolding him, with the person who was recording the incident suggesting making a police report.

One of the residents then said that they will bring the “pocong” to the police station, and the video then ended with the prankster being dragged away.

The “pocong” was then brought to the Bonang police station in Demak, with Demak Police Chief AKBP Adhy Buwono confirming that they had arrested the guy.

The prankster’s friend, who was also at the scene at the time, was also arrested.

The two pranksters were eventually returned to their families as they were minors, and asked to write a statement promising not to repeat their actions again.

The police chief added that they had called the boys’ parents, the head of the neighbourhood association, the village head and the head of the citizen association to help monitor the two pranksters.

He said that he hopes people don’t do the same things as the pranksters because it endangers themselves and the public.

What is a pocong

Pocong is a ghost in folklore that is often associated with death and burial rituals. The pocong is said to be the soul of a person who has recently passed away, trapped inside a shroud or burial cloth and unable to move on to the afterlife.

According to legend, when a person dies, their body is wrapped in a white cloth. The cloth is tied at the head and feet, and the body is buried in the ground. However, if the tie is not properly undone, the pocong can become trapped in the cloth and rise from the grave to haunt the living.

The pocong is depicted as a pale figure wrapped tightly in a shroud, with the arms and legs bound together. It hops around, as it is unable to walk due to being wrapped up, and the hopping movement is said to represent the soul’s struggle to break free from the shroud.

There are many superstitions and rituals surrounding the pocong. For example, it is believed that if someone sees a pocong, they will die soon after, so people are advised to avoid cemeteries at night. There are also rituals that can be performed to prevent the pocong from rising, such as leaving a small gap in the shroud when burying a body, or tying the knot on the shroud in a specific way.

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MORE INFO ABOUT CONDO RESIDENT WHO INSULTED SECURITY FOR CLAMPING HIS BMW

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Following the viral incident where a resident of Thomson Grand condominium insulted a security guard for clamping his BMW and mocking him for being “poor”, the Union of Security Employees (USE) issued an update on the situation revealing more information on the incident.

Union of Security Employees’ (USE) statement

USE President Brother Ardi, General Secretary Brother Raymond and Mediation Services Officer Brother Irwin, visited the officer, Senior Security Supervisor Lydia and her Ops Manager Derrick Foo at their worksite at Thomson Grand, a condominium project at Sin Ming Walk this afternoon.

As reported in the media, the man had parked his vehicle at the residents’ parking area. On 3rd April 2023 at 0104hrs, the duty security officer, SO Sheelan, noticed the illegally parked vehicle. He attempted to contact the man to move the vehicle but failed after 5 attempts. Following procedures, he proceeded to place a written notice on the vehicle.

At 0700hrs on the same day, the man confronted SO Sheelan about the notice, claiming that he owned a few units at Thomson Grand and could park there even if he did not have a decal. He then left.

At 0810hrs, the man returned and parked his vehicle at the same location. SO Sheelan reported the matter to SSS Lydia, who then proceeded to issue another written notice at 0920hrs. She attempted again to contact the man but failed after 8 times. She then proceeded to clamp the vehicle at about 0940hrs, as required by the condo’s by-laws.

At about 1320hrs, the man confronted SSS Lydia and recorded the confrontation. One of the condo’s residents reportedly shared this video with local media. USE was shown the bodycam footage and it clearly showed the man banging the glass panel of the guardhouse, and also hurling insults at the officers, including of them being poor.

USE will assist SSS Lydia and OM Derrick to report this matter to the Police. We reiterate that USE strongly condemns this act of man. SSS Lydia and OM Derrick were merely executing their tasks, which included enforcing the by-laws with respect to illegal parking. What the man did was unwarranted, and the personal insults were hurtful and shocking.

The Private Security Industry Act was enhanced last year to offer security officers better protection against man like these. USE hopes that this incident will be probed further and just punishment be served.

At the same time, USE would like to share that there has been yet another case reported. We will update with more details in a later post.

Source: Union of Security Employees (USE)

BUS CAPTAIN KILLED AFTER HITTING TREE @ HOUGANG, DEATH RULED A “MISADVENTURE”

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A 55-year-old SBS Transit bus captain was killed in a fatal bus accident after losing control of his bus and crashing into a tree on 9 October last year.

State Coroner Adam Nakhoda delivered his findings during a coroner’s inquiry hearing on Monday (10 April), finding no evidence of foul play but also not being able to determine why the driver had lost control of his bus.

The bus driver, 55-year-old Singaporean Liu Shan Liung, was driving his empty bus towards Hougang Bus Depot at the time of the accident, driving along Defu Avenue 1 and heading towards Hougang Avenue 3 at about 2.47am in the morning.

He then crashed his bus into a tree outside the entrance of the bus depot.

The bus was seen in the bus depot’s CCTV footage turning into the depot but missing the entrance and driving onto a grass patch along the perimeter fence of the bus depot instead, before hitting a road sign and traffic light but continuing to drive forward for about 100 metres before ultimately crashing into a tree.

A security guard at the bus depot had seen the bus driving past him at the time before hearing a loud bang shortly after, and he then immediately called for an ambulance before checking on the driver and finding him trapped in the driver’s seat.

Rescuers and paramedics from the Singapore Civil Defence Force were then deployed to extricate the trapped driver and they took about an hour to pull him out of the wreckage, but by the time they freed the driver, he already had no signs of life and was pronounced dead at the scene.

Liu’s autopsy showed that he had died from multiple injuries sustained from the traffic accident, and nothing out of the ordinary was found in his urine, blood and stomach; he was however found with occluded arteries, although there was no evidence to suggest that he had a medical emergency before the fatal crash.

The bus was also sent to an investigator to see if there were any mechanical faults and all was normal, with the investigator finding that the engine and tyres of the bus were in serviceable condition – however, steering and brake tests were not able to be performed.

The braking and steering parts were determined to be in good condition though, according to visual inspections, and there was also no evidence of any mechanical faults that might have caused the accident.

The deceased’s wife was also interviewed by police investigators and he was determined to have not had any disputes with anyone and was mentally well.

His wife also revealed that Liu suffered from high blood pressure but it was managed with medication, and he also had a clean traffic record, with the police determining that there was no foul play suspected.

State Coroner Nakhoda ruled his death as a traffic misadventure and offered his condolences to his family and three children, who are still studying.

Recap

A SBS Transit bus driver was killed in a traffic accident on 9 October 2022 at about 2.47am, along Defu Avenue 1 heading towards Hougang Avenue 3.

He had crashed the empty employees’ bus into a tree outside the Hougang bus depot.

The Singapore Civil Defence Force said that the driver was trapped in the seat and extricated by SCDF personnel, before being pronounced dead at the scene by a paramedic.

Photos and videos of the accident emerged online showing the bus with the windshield destroyed in the aftermath of the tragic accident.

SBS Transit said that the driver was driving the bus to the Hougang Depot at about 2.40am when it crashed into a tree outside the depot after losing control.

The vice president for customer experience and communications for SBS Transit, Grace Wu, said that they are deeply saddened by the driver’s passing and have extended their heartfelt condolences to his family.

She added that they are in close contact with them and will render all the support they need.

2 S’PORE HIKERS MISSING IN MACRITCHIE FOREST, GURKHA & POLICE ACTIVATED TO FIND THEM

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Two hikers, a 67-year-old man and another 51-year-old man went missing on 10 April in the forests of MacRitchie Nature Trail and Reservoir Park, resulting in the Singapore Police Force, the Gurkha Contingent and the Aerial Response Team being activated to look for them.

Officers from National Parks Board (NParks) and the Public Utilities Board (PUB) also assisted with the search, and the two men were later found and rescued within 3 hours.

The police were alerted to the missing hikers on 10 April at about 5.56pm, and the missing hikers were found at about 7.02pm, both unhurt.

Singapore Police’s statement

[𝗠𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗶𝗸𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻 𝟯 𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀]

On 10 April 2023 at 4.56pm, the Police were informed that a man was lost in the forested area within the MacRitchie Nature Trail & Reservoir Park.

Police resources including officers from Tanglin Division, Gurkha Contingent and the Aerial Response Team were swiftly deployed to locate the missing man. Officers from NParks and PUB, Singapore’s National Water Agency, also assisted in the search.

The missing man was subsequently located at 7.02pm. He was found together with a fellow male hiker. Both men, aged 67 and 51, were unhurt.

NParks would also like to advise the public to stay on the designated trails while trekking, and observe the opening hours of our nature reserves and nature parks, which are 7am to 7pm. For urgent matters, they can call the NParks helpline at 1800-471 7300.

Public advised to stay on the trail(s)

To prevent hikers from getting lost while hiking, NParks advised the public to try and stay on the designated trail because stepping off the trails could result in them getting lost, as well as disturbing the natural habitat by stepping on the flora and fauna in the area.

NParks also advised hikers to observe the operating hours of 7am to 7pm for the nature reserves and parks to ensure their safety, as it lets the wildlife rest, as well as not to disturb the nocturnal animals.

BABY IN S’PORE SUFFOCATED TO DEATH AFTER FALLING INTO GAP BETWEEN BED & WALL

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A 4-month-old baby in Singapore was previously reported to have suffocated to death back in 2021 after falling into a gap between the bed and the wall, and her death had been ruled a misadventure by the state coroner Adam Nahkoda in his findings released earlier this week, according to Channel NewsAsia.

What happened?

At the time of the tragedy, the baby was just learning how to flip, with her parents saying that previously, she couldn’t hold up her head or continuously flip herself.

The baby usually slept on a mattress that was laid on her parent’s bed in the corner of the room beside the wall, and there was a gap that measured about 22cm wide and 25 cm deep between the bed and the wall.

The baby slept on the mattress beside the gap until she was 2 months old, and her mother then shifted it to prevent the child from falling into it, as well as placing a pillow on the floor in case the baby fell down.

From 19 December 2021 to 20 December 2021, in the evening, the mother was video calling the baby’s father while he was working.

She then fell asleep with her baby with the video call still ongoing. Then at about 2 am or 3 am, the baby’s father checked on the video feed and saw that the baby was still on the mattress facing upwards before he then fell asleep at his workplace at about 4 am.

The baby then cried at about 5 am and it woke the mother up, and she then went to make a bottle of milk for the baby before going back to sleep and leaving the baby to drink from the milk bottle herself.

She later woke up about an hour later at about 6 am and realised the baby was no longer on the mattress, and saw the baby’s legs pointing upwards from the gap.

She then looked into the gap and saw her baby facing downwards towards the bed, and pulled her out, with the baby being non-responsive after being pulled out.

The baby’s eyes were also closed and she had dried milk coming out of her nose, and the mother then cried for help and a tenant who lived with them rushed over to see what happened.

The tenant noticed that the baby was cold, and wanted to make sure that she was not choking on anything by hitting her on the back.

When it didn’t work, he performed CPR on the child before paramedics arrived at the scene at about 6.30 am and conveyed the baby to Ng Teng Fong Hospital, but it was too late and she was pronounced dead at 7.44 am, with the cause of death later determined to be positional asphyxia, which is when a person cannot breathe because of their airways being blocked due to their body positioning.