Meaningless traditions should stop.

TLDR – be considerate while burning paper offerings if it’s going to affect the people around the area.

I feel that paper offering burning needs to stop. Even though I’m a Chinese. I really don’t see any positive benefits of having it. People, no matter how much you tell them to burn properly, throw the rubbish properly, simply refuses to learn. It’s not even religious, it’s just a stupid practice that has been inherited throughout the generations. Do y’all even know if hell has such concept of currency usage? Don’t care right? Pretty sure billions of dollars have been burnt throughout the years. Inflation down there must be pretty insane right?

I feel that it’s bloody selfish to expect others to deliberately avoid stepping on your burnt shit when the f**king thing is all over the walkway. “dOnT sTeP oN tHe MoNeY, lAtEr ThE gHoSt CoMe HaUnT yOu”. Do y’all even clean up after yourself after all that burning? No, y’all just expect the town council cleaner to do it for you. Privileged f**ks. Then they clean halfway and just so happen to step on the burnt mess? Die ah? Or the ghost will be like…. “okay understandable, have a nice day”? Or y’all just don’t care because you’ve done your “due diligence” and the ghosts are happy now.

Another stupid thing is, y’all be burning shit like houses, smart phones and cars. Like seriously? How tf do you think it would work in hell? The house you buy inside no furniture like wtf? I see some houses got maid inside… Really? You expect the devil to conjure a maid everytime someone decides to burn a house? Y’all burn the car but no engine or parts required for the car to move. Need burn mechanic shop in case car spoil? Burn iPhone but never burn sim card and charger. Need burn one singtel outlet so they can get reception?

Don’t get me wrong, if you burn your own shit in a place where won’t be disturbing anyone, sure by all means.

PS – If you feel that there are some traditions that are meaningless and needs to stop, do mention them in the comments to raise awareness and get people to question the logic of all these meaningless practices.

Failure in Life

Growing up having parents who argue and fights and eventually having my Dad abandoning us altogether.

Due to the lack of Dad’s presence, I always hope to find a man who can be there for me and give me some supports and care.

In my early adult lifes, I have a few relationships but it doesn’t last long.

I did realised that I might have look for love in all the wrong places but I am not to a point of being desperated, just want to fill the emptiness because my Mum began to blame me due to my Dad leaving as I was not born a boy that they hope for.

I end up with all sort of guys: Gangster, drug addict,abuser,cheater. Each time getting myself fill with betrayals and very much hurts.

Till I was in my 30s, I tell myself hey, enough is enough! I began to upgrade myself and took up private course and drifted my mind to something useful. That’s put me off searching for love for a couple of years.

Till I change my working environment after graduating, I start to have a relationship again. It lasts longest,7 years to be actual, till one day, the guy went MIA. It was after another 3 years that I saw him again and he confessed that he was making use of me all these time and after I cannot help him anymore, it’s time he leave. You see, he was not well to do and didn’t have a stable job so I help him whenever possible.

It was so hurtful!

I went on to another company and years later, my colleague ask me to try being with him. I was very reliated because of my previous relationship. I am scare to be make use and wasting time again as I am

not any younger so I just pull it off.

However, after he left the company and return to his country and I also left the company subsequently, he waited for me for 10 years and throughout this period, we stay as good friends. One day, he ask the question again and I was touched because these 10 years, he was a pillar of support, he give care and often checks on me( he is a foreigner posted to another country for work). So I agreed. The first year went by good and we finally meet up again. We spend many good moments and even met his family members in his hometown. Till lately, he starts to give cold shoulders and went unresponsive most of the time. He can be online, read the messages but doesnt reply on a daily basis. Words become lessers and the only conversation we have is good morning and good night. I start to feel disappointed again because why is it always end up like this? Very nice and good at the start but very brittle and hurting as time passed. I am not a lady who wants a house, car, money.. I am totally not a control freak, I allowed friendship with opposite sex, I dont stalk, dont argue, dont demand, dont questions. Basically, I trust and just want real concerns, a person who can listen, talk to and love. It is just so simple but why is it that it seems like no one cherish and no one feels for a person like this? I always wonder what’s wrong with me? And I doing it all wrong or I just simply don’t deserves love in my lifetime. Anyone have similar encounters? Will like to know your experience and thoughts. Thank you for reading

A man shared how he is described as a “manly man” but he watches animal rescue videos when he’s drunk and cries like a baby when his wife isn’t around.

Here is the story

I get drunk, watch animal rescue videos and cry like a baby when my wife isn’t home.
I’m what most people would consider a “manly man”.

On weekends when my wife works overnights I usually get a bottle of whiskey and watch YouTube animal rescue videos. I get so emotional seeing an animal being rescued, I bawl like a little girl. I’m talking full on tears streaming down my face.

Edit: For those mentioning some people put animals purposely in those situations for YouTube videos; with this channel, it is not the case.

The channel is The Dodo. Which mostly shows abused/neglected animals being cared for and rehabilitated in foster homes until they find their forever home.

Drunk me can’t resist the urge to click on those videos and the savvy programmers at YouTube know it…

Netizen’s comments

• I have used alcohol to elicit emotional reactions. It’s cathartic. Keep doing it if you need to.

• Try it without the alcohol see if you get the same results. Let us know.

• It’s good. Although maybe if you feel that strongly about animal rescue you could volunteer to help at one.

Nothing against getting drunk. But those animals need you, man!

• Go help the cause and come home and crack a tall one!

Everyone needs a way to let out emotions built up over time. Doesn’t really matter how often you do this, it helps your mind. This seems healthier than other means of doing so.

I never had a father growing up. My mother was a single parent, and she did her best to raise me, but she was always struggling to make ends meet. We never had a lot of money, and I never felt like I had a strong male role model in my life. This often made me feel insecure and unloved.

When I was in my late teens, I started working in a pub. It was a great way to earn some extra money, and I enjoyed the atmosphere of the place. I was a hard worker, and I quickly gained the respect of the regulars at the bar.

One night, I served a middle-aged man. He was handsome, sophisticated, and very charming. I felt an immediate connection with him, and we started talking. I told him about my fatherless upbringing, and he listened intently. He was kind and understanding, and he told me about his own life and experiences. I was immediately drawn to him.

We started seeing each other regularly, and he soon became my confidante. I felt safe and secure when I was with him, and he had a calming effect on me. He was patient and supportive, and he seemed to understand my feelings. I started to trust him and rely on him for emotional support.

As we grew closer, I started to realize that I had developed strong feelings for him. He was an older man, and I felt like I was looking for a father figure. He was the first man I had ever been close to, and I was scared of getting too attached. I was also conscious of the fact that our age difference made our relationship somewhat taboo.

Despite my fears, I kept seeing him. We would spend hours talking, and I was amazed by how much he seemed to care about me. He was attentive and understanding, and he always made me feel loved and supported. I felt like I had finally found the father figure I had been looking for.

Our relationship eventually became physical, and I felt a deep emotional connection with him. We spent a lot of time together, and I was thankful to have someone who could provide me with the love and security I had been lacking in my life.

Unfortunately, our relationship was not to last. After a few months, he decided to move away. I was devastated, but I knew that I had to let him go. I had to accept that I could not replace the father I had never had.

Although our relationship ended, it left a lasting impression on me. I had learned to trust a man, and I now had the self-confidence to pursue meaningful relationships. I was no longer the insecure girl I had been before, and I was able to move past my daddy issues.

I was grateful for the experience. I had found a loving and supportive partner in an older man, and I was thankful for the time we had spent together. I had grown as a person, and I was now ready to embrace the future with newfound confidence.

He is her boss, and she got promoted at work. So he bought her a Nintendo Switch. He is in his early 30s, she is younger.

I asked if any other colleagues are sharing, he ignored my question. I asked again, then he got annoyed and blurted another name. Obviously lying, or 1, he won’t get annoyed, 2, I don’t have to repeat my question, 3, he would have said right from the start that a colleague and him will be buying the Switch for the girl.

He often treats his team to dinner, buys them snacks and pastries. (Not sure how true is that, or is it just 1 person or the entire team. I usually don’t ask much, until he bought the Switch.)

He always texts his colleagues even late at night every single day. I didn’t check his phone but briefly saw the names when I walk past, and assumed it’s about work stuff. Not sure if it is normal to be THIS close to your colleagues. I usually avoid mine after working hours unless it’s urgent.

At my workplace, we usually just buy lunch or dinner to celebrate the promotion. Told my colleague and she said that he is so nice and generous to his team, nothing to worry about.

Here are what netizens think:

• Out of his own pocket? Unless he’s at some higher level six figure job that’s a major red flag. Hell even if he is the fact he wouldn’t just answer your question is a red flag.

• It really depends on the industry and ofc your salary. In my workplace, gifts to colleagues worth $1000 are uncommon but not unheard of, especially if its middle management or upwards. A director once bought everyone in the office the latest iPhone because his horse won some sort of trophy.

• Yeah my moms an executive and gets Louis Vuitton gifts for Christmas from her employees. I got tickets to my favorite band which was $150. I think a nintendo switch if he’s a higher up isn’t crazy.

We’ve been together for 6 months and my boyfriend is great in every other way but the same problem keeps popping up in our relationship…. Tinder.

I’ve found out he was on Tinder multiple times and afterwards, he apologizes and will delete the app from his phone but for some reason, after a couple of days he ends up redownloading the app again. He tells me he loves me and wants to be with me so this behaviour is very confusing.

Part of me thinks he just wants external validation that he’s wanted by other women besides me while another part wonders if he has a cheating fetish or something. I don’t know what to do in this situation anymore and I can’t understand why he can’t stop himself.

Any insight on his behaviour or advice would be welcome. We love each other and want to be together so I’m trying to figure out why he keeps doing this?

This has been going on for 6 months.

Here are what netizens think:

• Talk is cheap. Your boyfriend’s words and actions are inconsistent (red flag #1). Your boyfriend apologies when he gets caught (#2): It’s clear he’s not actually remorseful, he just feels bad about getting caught. Your boyfriend repeatedly downloads Tinder despite promising not to (#3).

• Three strikes, he’s out! His actions are disrespectful and his words are just meant to stop you from breaking up with him. You deserve way better, dump this dude and take yourself on a nice date.

• 6 months? Babe he doesn’t like you. When it comes to a fundamental problem in relationships, you speak about it once. If it doesn’t change, leave. Because then you’re just nagging him. Leave him now while you have nothing to lose.

• He is active on tinder. Gets caught. He says sorry. You stick around. He downloads tinder again. Gets caught again. Says he’s sorry again. You stick around again. He downloads tinder again. Gets caught again. Says he’s sorry again. You stick around again. Do you see the pattern there? Where’s the consequence for him? He’s doing it because you’re accepting it.

So my birth giver has come to the conclusion that she no longer wants to attend my wedding due to the fact that she has come to discover my tattoos.

She went into the fact saying that due to me not respecting her decisions or caring about her feelings or whatever that she is not going attend.

Heres the thing, idk if the tattoo set her off or the fact that I was not going to be married in a church or what but I mean..to not attend your kids wedding then go and say that I have never put her feelings first is like…WTF?

Yall please tell me if im being wrong or not.

Oh! This past week we went dress shopping and that is how she discovered my tattoo.

I am going to return all the shit she chose because me being who I am, I just let her pick out dresses and jewelry and whatever but now in light of all this BS I am just going to return all the things she chose and go with the black dress that i have wanted to wear to my wedding.

Am i the one that is being unreasonable or is she? Idk help a woman out

Netizens’ comments

• Your life just got simplified. Go with the black dress and accept your moms decision. Now you don’t have to discuss your wedding with her, because she’s not involved. Joy!

• You are 100% right. If she doesn’t respect your autonomy then she can go fly her broomstick elsewhere. Stick to your gut instinct about what you want for your wedding.

Might seem like not a huge deal but, Here’s some context.

I have been with my boyfriend 32y.o, for few months. Unlike him, I come from a well off background and last week I invited him out on an upscale restaurant for a dinner together.

We got there, sat down at our table and chatted for some time. He ordered some orange juice then asked the waitress to bring him 2 more straws besides the one he had with his juice. I was puzzled I asked if he was expecting one of his friends and he laughed and said “ohhh no…not after what they did to me last night” I was like ???? but watched to see what he was doing.

The waitress came back with the 2 straws then took our orders. The minute she walked away my boyfriend put the other 2 straws in his juice and basically started sipping with the 3 straws making an unbelievably absurd and annoying sound. I was floored I asked what he was doing and why. He nonchalantly smug smiled and said so he could drink faster.

I got mad and quite embarrassed cause people were literally side-eyeing me since I’m a regular. I told him to stop but he didn’t. I said that I’d leave if he wouldn’t and he made eye contact and kept sipping. I had it, I said I wasn’t going to continue to be humiliated any longer and grabbed my stuff and made my way out. He shouted for me to wait but I didn’t.

30 minutes later, he started rage texting me about how I overreacted and how I keep ruining good times worrying about what those “snobs” think.

Then talked about how ridiculous I was to walk out like that and repeatedly texted about how I should stop being a pretenious snob just because I hang around them which I found really really offensive. He ecpected me to apologize for “making a scene” and walking out like that over something so stupid and harmless.

A married touchy restaurant manager

I would like to share this encounter that i had with a restaurant manager. I worked there as a part time waitress. He is touchy towards all the girls part timers. My friend who used to work there before got touched and grabbed on her waist every time when she is on her shift. She do not dare to say him because she is afraid to get into unpleasant encouter with him so she quit after about 6 shifts.

The encounters that i had with him is he likes to grab onto my waist in a way that we are like close friends and i moved away after he did that a few times to me. The first two times i thought maybe he just wanted to ask me a question and he will lean forward and then touch my waist so i close one eye and didn shout out. After seeing him also touch the other girl colleague waist and also i foresee he will do it again, I placed my hands behind my back after i realise this actions is really unappropriate.

I felt uncomfortable and spoke to the management about it and they say that they will inform him but i dont think the management tell him because they are good friends and he is still continuing this actions till date. Tell me what should i do?

I dont tink quitting this part time job is a solution. But i think he need to know and apologise for his actions but yet noone or myself dare to tell him upfront.

Here are what netizens think:

• If you don’t dare for yourself then how do you expect anything to change? Be fearless and stop putting up with this behaviour. Speak up and tell him you do not like being touched and set the boundary. All of you need to stand together. All of you need to complain to management. They won’t be happy if everyone threatens to quit at the same time or say you will make a police report. Otherwise when you know he is near, carry some hot water in a glass and if he grabs you, pretend to be shocked and “accidentally” throw the hot water at him as if you are startled. Stop letting him get away with this behaviour.

• It’s 2023. We have invented phones with camera, internet and metoo movement. Just take video and post online lah. You will win 1000% over him.

• It’s the 21st century. Can always shout aloud, “Do NOT touch me!” whenever he do that to embarrass him. He’ll probably stop after that. The problem here is the people who are enabling his actions to continue.

• The best apology is to discontinue his current behaviour. If his words and actions don’t match, then there’s no point in apologising.