New job concern

Hi all,

I recently got hired after 10 months of job hunting. The company wanted me within days after the interview but their passive boarding process really makes me feel as though they don’t take it seriously.

I practically need to ask or remind the personnel several times what to do before they actually does it. Although I do understand they are a small company so things tend to be slow due to the limited manpower.

So I managed to complete the admin works and needed to find out whom to report to on my first day a week from now. They say the one I’m reporting to may not be in and they need to find out who will be around again.

I am like is this company eager to hire or am I over reacting, should I really take a leap of faith and have a go orback out as I only agree to the job offer verbally?

Do advise as I am really worried this maybe like a job scam kind of shorts but the thought of continuous being jobless is also putting a mental stress on me.

Here are what netizens think:

• If you don’t have anything else then why not just stick around and see what happens but continue to apply for other jobs….as long as you are not tied to some unreasonable contract you can’t get quickly out of.

• Company may be small, but are they reputable? What can you gather about the company from Google, their website (if available) and other platforms such as LinkedIn and Glassdoor? I will probably give it a go if I were in your shoe if they seem legit enough. I received an offer from a MNC few years ago. A very well-known consumer brand. The HR personnel was able to share the staff benefits that they had pretty readily (probably because these are standard) but the salary that they would like to offer… I probably waited a month before they finalized it. And I had accepted another offer by then. Another time with another not-small firm, my commencement date was delayed… Could not recall why exactly by now, but it was also an administrative issue. Maybe they could not complete my Letter of Appointment in time as signatory was not around. So, yeah… Now you know.

The Seventh Lunar Month

In Chinese culture, the seventh lunar month, often referred to as the “Hungry Ghost Festival,” is a time when the gates of the afterlife are believed to open. Spirits and ghosts are said to roam the earthly realm during this period, making it a time of heightened supernatural activity.

The witness:

The last day of 7th month – The Girl

I was walking along the back of Tampines Mcd(the one opposite bus interchange) to get my dinner. I heard a girl(white top & black bottom) sobbing away when I walked past. I stopped for a moment and decided to hand her my one and only packet of tissue paper. When I am done with dinner, I decided to head back to the same place to see if she is still around. To my amaze, the place now stand an incense paper burner..

To the girl(if not ghost):

I hope that packet of tissue wipe away all your sorrows. The call you tried to get through, that person isnt worth your tears.

Everything will be fine in time.

&

You scare me the whole night!!!!

Here are what netizens think:

• She will fly through your window tonight to get more tissue… You better stock up.
• May it be ghost or human, u done well giving her some comfort.
• Maybe she appears in ur dream….
• A Stephen King wannabe. LoL
• No need to be scared if u have done nothing wrong

Girlfriend of 7 months wants me to pay every time we go on a date and it’s getting incredibly expensive

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and while most things are quite good, she’s a good girl and all, she wants me to pay every time we go on a date and also wants to see each other many times per week.

She has a better paying job than I do, but still never offers to pay for meals or anything and it’s getting a little straining on the finances.

She told me she’s been called high maintenance before, but I don’t really see that being the case with most things other than wanting me to foot the bill for everything.

How do I approach this situation?

Netizens’ comments

• “Hey, I can’t afford to pay every time we go out. Would you be willing to start splitting since we both earn a good amount of money?”
  You should get the finances conversation out of the way early on in the relationship to see where you both land on it.
• Sir she doesn’t even offer to go half? Does she make it up doing other things? How often do you go out? It sounds like she’s getting a free ride off you at your expense. If she’s straining your finances now it’s only going to get worse
• When she asks to do something say “if it’s your treat than sure! I’m little stretched from doing X last week” or offer something different “I’ve been Spending too much on going out lately let’s just stay in and watch movies.”

I found out my girlfriend is married.

I found out when I called her cell and a man answered. I was super confused and double-checked the number and asked who it was and he said it was her husband his name and she was busy.

I accidentally yelled out loud and sighed then told him we’d been seeing each other and not once did she mention she had a husband and she never had a ring on.

I apologized profusely and told him that I had no idea and we would not be seeing each other anymore.

The poor guy was obviously crushed and angry at first but he understood and believed I didn’t know.

I told him again how sorry I was especially that he found out like this and told him to feel free to tell her she and I are done when they talk and we cut the conversation short.

Later she started blowing up my phone with calls and I didn’t answer. She texted me and was legitimately angry I told her husband.

I texted her back and told her she and I were done and what she did is scummy and blocked her number.

I know I did the right thing and that because I didn’t know none of this is my fault but I still feel like shit.

We’d only been dating for about a month but it still sucks. I just met her at a bar and we’ve hooked up at my place exclusively because her “roommate works early and needs sleep”

she also never stayed the night because she needed her “sleep apnea mask at home” God I’m such a moron.

Netizens’ comments

1. You’re not a moron, and you did the right thing.
2. I understand it sucks heavily. But you not only did the right thing, you saved yourself from unreliable cheating partner. Hurting is temporarily, you’ll feel better, stay strong.
3. The audacity of her getting upset with you when she should be embarrassed the jig is up! Sheesh.
4. Well, at least you had the balls to tell the poor guy.

Mismatch in work culture, what should I do?

Hi all, seeking some advice on work. Im a 23F who has just landed my first job in a consulting firm. I have interned in other consulting firms before and have friends and family working in this field so I am generally aware of the normal culture of consulting aka working till late occasionally and possibly networking with clients and prospective clients etc.

My current job, it doesn’t require me to stay till late to finish up with work so far. Which is great. But my bosses expects us to stay and drink/play games, usually till 12am and sometimes up to 3-4am.

They say it’s important that we learn to bond with colleagues after work hours. Whenever I had to leave the office at 9pm or if i decline drinking alcohol, they would make side comments on why I had to leave early and why cant I drink just a little.

I’m just 3 months in this job and I am feeling so exhausted from my work interactions.

I feel that I’m not as close with my other colleagues as everyone always stays up in the office to play and drink with one another while I’m leaving early, their conversation would continue on the next day and no one would bother to fill me in on the details.

Hoping to stay at least a year in this job but not sure how to navigate my life around the office now. Send help

No, I don’t want to go to a bar/restaurant, or any other activity in the evenings. My commute eats up enough of my time.

I’ve already made up my mind to say “no, I have other plans” if this rears its ugly head again, and if my boss pushes it and tries to make it even semi-mandatory, I’m going to request time and a half pay, since I’m non-exempt and a work activity has taken me away from my home. That should end the discussion.

I am an escort and have been for nearly three years , I was thinking about retirement but after my last client , I’m not so sure anymore

Hey guys , I’m F22 , this is my first post here so excuse any mistakes lol .

The other day I met with this client in the hotel and he told me he’s a virgin . I can tell he’s the shy type of guy and he was so sweet , even brought me some flowers!

We got on the bed and started kissing and undressing each other .

And afterwards We then got dressed and cuddled together , and as he rested on my chest and I was rubbing and playing with his hair , he just cried .

I asked him what’s wrong and he said he feel really good loved and cared for with me (I always make sure I make my clients feel satisfied) and also told me that no one has made him this way before and it’s honestly sad to hear.

You’d be surprised by how many guys hire me just to cuddle and be affectionate with them , they don’t recieve much love and are so happy when they do and same with compliments , so I always make sure to compliment them . I wish I can give every guy a hug now lol .

Anyways , I reassured him and told him everything’s going to be ok until he slept on me lol .

So now I am at a crossroad , I want to quit and find true love (even tho that would be hard considering my past/present) but at the same time , I get to make so many guys feel happy about themselves , and I want to keep doing that . So idk what to do tbh , any opinions?

And thanks for reading