Admin pls assist me to post this! Seeking genuine advice.

My bf and I have been tgt for 2 years. He is currently a regular in the army and he frequently goes overseas for 1-2 mths for operations.

Last year end, I discovered his insta account password and logged in into it.

Everyday, I would enter to see the accounts he has searched, his DMs on his account and also view his friends’ profile.

Sometimes, I see that he searched for accounts of girls (influencers) on his insta, usually those girls who are wearing very revealing.

I do feel a bit uncomfortable about this, but understand that guys like to see these stuff.

Also, he is treating me well, always updating me on his whereabouts and making time to text me although he is overseas.

Recently, he changed his password and I have been logged out of his account and cannot enter it again.

I am now feeling insecure, because I cannot track his activities on insta while he is currently overseas on another operation.

I have crazy thoughts that what if he hooks up with other girls while he is overseas, text other girls online etc.

I feel irritated with myself for being insecure just because I cannot trace his social media activity now. Seeking for help thanks ????

Netizens’ comments

• This is sick.
  Nothing wrong with your bf.
  It’s you. Get a life. There must be some mystery in the relationship. Don’t ever try to know every minor details of him, coz someday that’ll only make you bored of him. Don’t end it before the ends.
• You wouldn’t have any healthy relationship with anyone when you have trust issue
• See a therapist and seek professional help

Dear Getgo/BlueSG P-plate drivers – if you can’t afford a car, don’t drive.

Many of my friends and myself have had numerous close shaves with your reckless driving with sudden abrupt lane changes without signalling, drifting from lane and poor driving in general.

Take some responsibility for your actions please – dont use those cars for “learning and practicing”.

One of the most facepalm moments I had was this girl who tried to park for 10 minutes in the lot (not parallel), then after she left the car looking all contented of her parking, failed to realise she parked too close to the car on the left until it can’t open….

I’ve learnt to keep a very safe driving distance from these rental P-plate drivers, their road antics are scary af.

Netizens’ comments

• To be fair, “sudden abrupt lane changes without signalling, drifting from lane and poor driving in general” are not limited to newbie, car-sharing or occasional drivers.
• More amused that this has anything to do with people who use rental cars. So if buy own car with P-plate, can reckless drive? 
• Gee, I wonder how many reported traffic accidents involve P-plate drivers.
  Ever tried looking at the accident photos and see a P-plate?
• When people try to correlate 2 different thingS

I’ve been dating my gf for a year. Before we got together, she gave me the impression she was a person who loves to exercise, eat well, and take great care of herself. She doesn’t drink or smoke.

Doesn’t eat junk or processed food too. She moved into my place 4 months ago and I find she doesn’t seem to be what she says she is.

She fills the kitchen with chips and chocolates. She orders Korean alcoholic drinks in cartons and has more than a can every night.

The freezer is full of frozen fried food, sweet drinks, snacks and ice cream. She tells me when it’s that time of the month she will have craving for these kinds of food. I can accept it but that time of the month can’t possibly be every day? She’s snacking and drinking every day while watching k drama. Then she will have a craving to have Korean instant noodles as supper at the same time.

She used to be dressier in the beginning and would deck out in colours that suited her, but now she wears full-on black every day and it really doesn’t sit well in my eyes.

It’s like she’s ready to go to a funeral anytime. I’m a visual person and I also make effort to look good for her. I still go for regular haircuts and I still cycle and lift weights. I brush my teeth before I kiss her but she doesn’t. She doesn’t bother about her appearance anymore and I’ve not seen her exercise for months. I find myself getting increasingly frustrated at home while I’m with her.

I still love her but I find that she’s very different from when we started to date.

Is this what it’s like living together? I haven’t even talked about chores. There are some chores that she refuses to do and she said it’s my place after all, so I’ll have to be the one to do it. I think I’m covering 80% chores while she’s only keen in doing 20%.

She has the habit of leaving washed underwear in the toilet and I would have to be the one to take it out to hang because she would forget and ask me to do it instead. There are many other instances that she would forget to do something and I would be the one finishing the chore. I cannot imagine doing this long-term.

When I try to talk about it she would get upset and binge snack and drink. I’m not even arguing with her. It’s just talking in a calm tone.

Is that time of the month that bad that it becomes close to almost every day? Or she’s not what I think she is? How can I improve the situation?

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s your place anyway…as she said, then kick her out of your place. I would reconsider whether this is the kind of person to fall in love and be with. Seem the compatibility is very low now. If one has to change from what she said, it should be for better not worse. I’m not you, but I can’t tolerate with this kind of behavior and I don’t think she would be a good mother for my kids at the end.

• You two are a big mismatch! It’s sad to see she doesn’t love herself much, and not taking care of her fitness. Likely this is true herself, which you can’t change much. Just leave her. Breaking up this toxic relationship is beneficial for both you and her. She’ll find someone who’s as messy as her.

• LOL after dating for only a year and she’s completely let herself go already. DUMP HER

I’ve been together with my boyfriend for 3 years. Last year he graduated and found a job that pays him $3.5k a month. To be honest I was shocked that his salary is quite low. Because some of my friends and cousins are earning much higher than him. I often encouraged him to find a better job. I also asked him to take up some courses to improve his chances. He already took up a few courses but he still couldn’t find a better job.

Recently, I was bored and downloaded a dating app for fun. Surprisingly, I matched with a lot of guys who seem quite eligible. I even matched with a lawyer and an investment associate. I have been chatting with the investment associate for two weeks now. He would text me only a few times a day because he’s a very busy guy. Yesterday was his birthday so he told me he celebrated his birthday with his family at home.

After his birthday celebration, he suddenly said he wants to see me. At around 3am, he snuck out of his house and drove to my house to see me. I went down to the carpark to meet him and was quite surprised to see that he drives a luxury car and he looks even better in real life. We chatted for 2 hours in his car. He then walked me to the lift and even kissed me on my cheek. Although we barely know each other, I actually feel quite happy that he kissed me. When he reached home, he texted me to say that he enjoyed talking to me and he would like to see me again.

He seems like a really nice guy. I know I shouldn’t compare but my bf isn’t even that nice. And my bf is unable to find a decent job so I’m worried about my future when we get married. But my bf and I have been together for 3 years so our relationship is very stable. I feel like if I break up with him now, 3 years of my life would be wasted. What should I do? Should I just stick to my bf because he is obviously a safer choice? Or should I continue to go out with the investment guy and then break up with my bf when the investment guy confess to me?

Editor’s note: You should break up with your boyfriend, definitely – because he deserves much better than you.

My dad was a confirmed C+ case in Oct 2021, we managed to stop the spread at home. July 2022, my sis got it and we also managed to stop the spread at home. The sunday just passed, my mom was confirmed C+. So far, the rest of the family members are okay. I’ve been testing negative all these while so thankfully I’m the only one that hasn’t been infected.

My dad and sis have been obedient to stay isolated for the whole duration. My dad was 10 days since he was contracted when they first annouced recovery at home. Sis stayed throughout 7 days in her own room. Both were vigilant and informed us if they need to leave room to use common bathroom. Only the master bedroom has attached bathroom but no shower head. So when it comes to showering, it’s a common bathroom.

We did all the research that the infected must sanitize, air for 30 minutes before the next user. And all the routine santizing and isolating to keep the remaining household members safe for my dad and sis.

Come to my mom, she was tested positive on Sunday, 7pm at the clinic. Please correct me if I’m wrong, that your hour 1 starts when you are tested positive at the clinic or when MOH sends you the SMS. She is then isolated in the master bedroom with an attached toilet, no showerhead so we need to do the same routine as my dad. Don’t ask me why there’s no showerhead.

Since the time she has been in isolation, she has been finding excuses to leave the room – water her plants/ wash clothes/ wash utensils/ take hot water. All of which we can do for her willingly. We even cooked meals (cos grabfood is too expensive to do it frequently) and washed the clothes. So we tell her, you follow MOH’s law, isolation for 72 hours etc… she said I accuse her of breaking the law. She made a ruckus yesterday night and I was scolded by my dad because I said that’s MOH law, ok fine.

Come today, every hour she has been accusing me of being so sensitive and that I’ll get covid one day. My point is that I’m not saying I won’t get coivd, but if I can stop the spread at home, why should I risk it. I cannot put my dad at risk of reinfection since he’s already 60+.

She insists that today is day 3, but if I were to follow MOH’s message, she is only at her 40th hour.

Am I being too sensitive or should I just leave it? I’m really at my wits ends cos she has been calling relatives and friends to say I’m sensitive, I’ll get it one day, I treat her like prisoner.

To those who read it till the end, I really appreciate. I need a space to voice out all these because I just walked past her room and she’s complaining to her relatives about me AGAIN.