Will I ever see my money again?

I have a close friend whom I loaned >10k five years ago for their startup. The business is open today but apparently making very little profits. I am in no real desperate financial need as I have adequate savings, but I am just wondering about the chances I will ever be repaid.

I also loaned 2k to another friend who got scammed two years ago; they swore to pay me back but yeah, I have yet to see the money too.

Am I just a sucker for not demanding IOUs? How often do you all loan money to others? Did your friend pay you back without asking?

EDIT: Conclusion is that I am a succccccccccker.

Netizens’ comments

1. I’m afraid not. You’re a kind person but a bona fide succccccccccker.
2. my dad was the same way. even partially paid for his girlfriend’s HBD. lent his friends money even though he was struggling with 2 jobs.
   in the end none of them were there for him when things went downhill. sure some came to the funeral but the money gone with him to the grave. generosity is overrated.
3. Well, i am in need of few k.. how do i apply for ur friendship ?
4. For the 10k business that’s still open till today, u probably can ask them to include u as 1 of the owners and then get probably profit sharing till u have recoup ur money. Once recoup, from there, u can either juz leave (since u got back ur 10k) or juz continue being a sleeping shareholder loh.
   For the smaller 2k personal loan, I think it’s as good as gone also.
5. Why don’t you ask them to slowly pay you back $100 – $500 every month. If they can’t even do that count it as your money is gone and they have no intention of ever returning it. Don’t be a sucker in the future.
6. Stop lending people money. As a personal rule I am only willing to lend to immediate family and my best friend. Everyone else, no matter how close, is off the list.
7. One rule especially when you enter working life + for me to learn also:
   NEVER lend money (especially large amounts) to others.
   Have heard of many cases exactly like yours where someone lent like a lot of money to their friend and their friend disappeared/ghosted them and didn’t want to return the money.
   If I were in your situation, I would probably make a police report? I don’t know. What’s the best course of action for this?
   Off topic: The most money I’ve lent to a friend was $1 back in primary school when they forgot to bring money for recess 😂 and when I borrowed from them, I made sure to write down what I owed and pay them back the next day.

Sg landlord’s 3 year old daughter drew on my bedroom wall and they falsely accuse me of doing it

The apartment was full of scribbles on the wall when i moved in the common room to live with my landlords and their 3-year-old kid, so it was a norm for me to find scribbles on any wall.

6 months later, my landlords decided to repaint the walls and they warned their 3 year old daughter not to draw on the living’s room wall.

So surprising not surprising, the kid ended up to go into my room, drawing on my bedroom wall and also destroyed my stuffed toy.

I informed my landlords about the stuffed toy being destroyed (and they denied it, saying their kid is a “good and respectful kid”) but i didnt inform them about the scribbles on the freshly painted wall because again it was a norm to see scribbles on the wall and also i thought they were aware of that.

Fast forward, i moved out today and that is when the mom found out about the drawings on my wall, and she has been going after me forcing me to admit it so i could pay for the repaint.

Also she is trying to force me to admit of causing blood stains on the mattress cover (which were already there when i moved in) so i could also pay for it to be professionally cleaned out. And so far they haven’t returned my deposit. What should i do?

Also when i was oversea for 1.5 month, my landlords wanted to paint my bedroom wall. After they painted the walls they left my bedroom door unlocked and that was when the daughter sneaked in.

I was on vacation oversea for 1.5 month and my landlords wanted to paint my bedroom wall. So i let them paint the wall. And they did not lock it so then their daughter went into my room without them knowing.

This happened around 7pm earlier.

I (18F) was walking on the way home from a shopping centre.

It was going to turn dark + it was raining and I was tired so I wanted to get home quickly.

I noticed there was a man walking behind me and I thought nothing of it.

He continued walking behind me for a while so (me being a paranoid person) I decided to test him and sped walked. When I sped up, I could hear his footsteps speeding up behind me. I kept increasing my speed and his footsteps became quicker too. I started to panic.

I kept turning my head to the sides to watch how close he was using my peripheral vision. I had a very bad gut feeling about him.

Now, I know that people might just be walking in the same direction as me to get to their destinations and I might’ve been overthinking. However, this is the first time where someone (walking behind me) gave me a bad feeling.

Luckily, in front of me, there was this young couple (looked like they were in their late 20s). I happened to be going in the same direction as them also.

When they got further I started walking faster (I was rlly scared ATP) in order not to lose sight of them and “stay close to them” just in case the man behind me tried to harm me or wtv, and I could scream for help (and they’d hear it).

The young couple went to a different direction and I ran with full speed to my block.

When I went into the lift, I quickly pressed the lift buttons and some buttons above the floor I was staying at to be safe.

Was I being stalked or was I just overthinking?

Edit: Forgot to mention that at first, I was walking slowly, and the man didn’t overtake me. He just walked behind me.

The thing that I was worried about was that he sped up when I sped up.

I am not 100% sure if he was indeed stalking me. The only thing that points to him being a stalker is that he sped up when I sped up.

I’ve watched a stalker YouTube video before and they said in such situations, I need to test the stalker more like e.g. walking around some blocks/areas a few times to see if he follows. I didn’t manage to try that method on him as I wanted to get home quickly.

Edit no.2: I wasn’t wearing anything revealing. I was wearing an oversized t-shirt and long shorts that went right above my knees. The typical “xmm” outfit.

My (31M) boyfriend says I’m (31F) too masculine and I don’t let him be a “man.”

I admit, I can have a strong personality and like “masculine” things according to him. Things like playing pool, studying engineering, and listening to comedy are some. I do like to voice my thoughts and don’t mind a debate. I’m a “modern woman”.

Anyways, he’s been ranting often about letting him “be a man” and to stop being so dominant. Small things like buying and carrying a huge bottles of drinks up to our apartment was a power move. Or doing things on my own is showing I don’t need him. It’s a bit much.

There’s something that just doesn’t let me be feminine around him because I feel like if I don’t take action, things either don’t get done or fall apart.

He’s so fixated that he wants to be a “masculine man” in the relationship yet he’s the more emotionally unstable one, can’t support me financially, and irresponsible at times.

If he wants to fulfill that “traditional male” role but doesn’t put the effort then how can I even support his ask?

Netizens’ comments

1. He needs to see a therapist, not blame his insecurities on your hobbies, interests, and abilities. That can become, if isn’t already, straight up toxic.
2. When tf did playing pool and listening to comedy become male only ?!
   Engineering, I know a girl who studied this, only girl in the class, they were all horrible to her.
   She now has a very lucrative job and flies all round the world and loves it. She says even now she finds those a-holes who don’t think she should be in her job.
3. I feel like you’ve presented the problem perfectly. He can’t be a man if he still behaves like a little boy.
   Also, welcome to the 21st century, where women have to assume “both traditional roles” because the average man is as useless in the house as a hundred years ago, and then some.
4. The only men who say entering, playing pool, getting the water you need etc isn’t fine is men who don’t want the option it poses when women are allowed (and clearly can) do these things.
   So now he is trying to guilt you into not doing these things he clearly can’t or won’t do by designating these actions as masculine and you abnormal for successfully completing them

I [23M] shot my shot with a waitress [22F] and got a positive response only to get ghosted later.

Okay so, I was a restaurant eating dinner and noticed a cute waitress. I hesitated a lot at first but then walked up to her when I noticed she was free, introduced myself, and asked if I could get her number. She refused, so I apologized, and turned around to go back to my table.

But then I heard her say something but couldn’t make out what it was, so I turned back and asked her, she said “-Her instagram tag here-, this is my Instagram account.” I was surprised so I asked her “do I DM you there?” And she said yes.

We were stealing glances at each other for the rest of the time I was at the restaurant so I thought I was going good.

Later on that night I give her a follow and tried to DM her, but it turns out she doesn’t allow people she doesn’t follow to send her DMs.

So I give it time thinking she’ll just follow me back and we’ll be able to talk then. She doesn’t, and ends up uploading a new story.

I thought maybe she just didn’t recognize me. I check her story and notice I can actually reply to the story even though I can’t outright DM her so I do that introducing myself and asking her how her day went as a reply to the story.

It’s been two days and she has not replied to me.

I honestly have no idea what to make of the situation; on one hand it seemed like it was really smooth sailing and everything was going well, but then this happens.

Did I mess up somehow? Am I missing something? Should I be doing something about it?

When I met my ex-wife, it was love at first sight. She was the most beautiful and unique girl I’d ever seen. We married shortly after and spent the first few years of our marriage blissfully in love.

But after a while, something changed. My ex-wife started to stick to me like a super duper elephant, Godzilla, gorilla glue. Everywhere I went, she followed. I couldn’t do anything without her being right by my side.

It started to become suffocating. I felt like I was being suffocated by her love, and I began to dread spending time with her. I tried talking to her about it, but she didn’t seem to understand what I was saying. I even asked her to give me some space, but she refused.

The situation became so unbearable that I eventually decided to file for divorce. I knew it was the only way I would be able to get some breathing room.

My ex-wife was devastated by my decision. She refused to accept that it was over and kept trying to convince me to stay. But I knew I had made the right decision and I wasn’t going to back down.

The divorce process was long and painful, but eventually, we were able to move on with our lives. I was relieved to finally be free of her suffocating love, but I also felt a twinge of sadness for the loss of what could have been.

My ex-wife still tries to keep in touch with me, but I politely decline. I know that if I continue to interact with her, she’ll just start to cling to me again.

I understand her pain, but I also know that I need to keep my distance in order to protect myself. I don’t want to be suffocated by her love again.

Divorce isn’t an easy decision, but sometimes it’s the only way to escape a suffocating love. I’ve learned that it’s important to draw boundaries and respect each other’s space. That way, both parties can move on with their lives and find happiness.

It was one of those days when I just felt too lazy to do anything.

I was sitting in my room with my laptop and scrolling through the internet. All of a sudden, I suddenly remember I got a date later that night and I wanted to clear my hair downstairs.

I thought to myself that I should buy a shaver but then I remembered how expensive they are and I just couldn’t bring myself to buy one plus I’m super lazy.

So, I started to brainstorm and I came up with a brilliant idea. I decided to use a lighter to burn my kkb hair. In my head, it sounded like the perfect solution. It would be free, it would be fast, and it would be painless. Or so I thought.

I got a small mirror and a lighter and I started to burn my hair. I was so excited that I was actually doing something to make myself look better. However, I didn’t think about the consequences. It felt like my pubic area was on fire and it took me several minutes for the pain to subside.

When I looked in the mirror, I couldn’t believe my eyes. I had burned off some of my pubic hair, but I had also burned off some of the skin around it.

I was horrified. I had never expected this to happen.

I quickly ran to the bathroom and started to clean the area with cold water. I was in so much pain that I wanted to scream. I applied some ointment to soothe the burn, but it didn’t help much.

I spent the next few days in agony. I couldn’t move my legs or sit down without feeling intense pain. I had to take a lot of medication to relieve the pain, but I was still in agony.

and of course the date was cancelled, also too embaress to see a doctor.

I have learned my lesson the hard way. I should have just gone out and bought a shaver or some other kind of hair removal device. Even though it would have cost money, it would have been a lot less painful than the burning sensation that I had to endure.

I regret not buying a shaver that day and will never forget the pain I felt when I tried to burn my pubic hair. It is a lesson that I will never forget, and I hope that my story will help others make the right decision when it comes to hair removal.